When clients avoid conflict, it can make sustaining relationships difficult. And that includes the therapeutic relationship. But according to Eboni Webb, PsyD, before you address your client’s conflict avoidance head on, you might want to consider their attachment style. In the video below, Eboni walks through her attachment-based approach with clients who avoid conflict or […]
Three Questions to Help Clients Process and Release Regret
When regret takes hold, many clients spiral into self-criticism and self-blame . . . . . . and too often, it becomes a debilitating loop that only deepens their regret. But according to Ron Siegel, PsyD, there are three key questions you might ask to help your client begin to disrupt this cycle and release […]
Pat Ogden, PhD’s Go-To Strategies for Working with Clients who Please & Appease
In the aftermath of trauma, getting to the heart of your client’s pain can be complex – especially when that client is caught in a defense response pattern that trauma researchers often identify as please and appease. For many clients, chronic people-pleasing bleeds into every relationship. . . . . . and when that includes […]
Four Key Components of Confronting a Narcissistic Personality – with Ellyn Bader, PhD
When it comes to confronting a client’s pattern of narcissism or grandiosity, it’s safe to say you might meet with some pushback along the way. So to up your chances of success (and also mitigate the risk of damage to the therapeutic relationship), it can be helpful to pad your treatment plan with a few […]
A Sensorimotor Technique to Guide How and When You Self-Disclose
When it comes to self-disclosure in our clinical work, it can be critical to weigh very carefully just how and when we use it . . . . . . especially in cases where a client relays an experience that bumps up against a painful or overwhelming experience, we may have had ourselves. But according […]