How to Skillfully Apply Compassion in the Treatment of Trauma and Attachment Ruptures
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with Paul Gilbert, PhD;
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with Paul Gilbert, PhD; Kristin Neff, PhD; Deborah Lee, DClinPsy; Dennis Tirch, PhD; Christopher Germer, PhD; Christopher Willard, PsyD; Susan Pollak, MTS, EdD; Laura Silberstein-Tirch, PsyD; Ruth Buczynski, PhD and Ashley Vigil-Otero, PsyD
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Excellent course. I wish I had learned this information years ago. Listening to this course caused me to have so many epiphanies about situations and people I had encountered throughout my life, and see them in a new, helpful perspective. How much better the would could be if this information was common knowledge.
Thank you for freely sharing such wisdom and experience. I have bought several of your courses and learned and adapted so much over the years which has enriched my practice and benefited my clients.
Dear Ruth, This is Patricia Garcia Freire from Argentina. I contacted you sometime ago, about another trauma training. I plan to keep up volunteering after this pandemic is over, because my suffering people needs help with chronic toxic stress and trauma. I am a MSC Teacher in Training, not able to pay almost 200 dollars. Don’t get me wrong, I am lockdown, no working since March 2020. No savings, a huge lost profit. Our country has managed badly the pandemic. Vaccine shortages, and a lot of suffering. I am volunteering using MSC, with another name, because MSC has copyrights. I have Chris Germer email, but, I didn’t want to disturb him. He knows me well. Can you offer me some payment plan to the Gold Package? Installments, or so. Our dollar/ peso exchange rate is huge! Thank you for your help 🙂 Dr Patricia Garcia Freire MD/ PhD
Hi Patricia,
Thanks for reaching out! If you could send any billing inquires to nicabmstaff@gmail.com
Thank you 🙏 I have just resend the emails to the email you gave me.
Thanks for all the pathways to healing from the compassionate minds of all humans here. Appreciate all the varieties of how to help work with compassion from these wounds of childhood.
Grateful thanks for all the highly invaluable sessions this week which I have enjoyed. I have learned a new perspective in dealing with clients who may not give themselves compassion, but instead find it easier to give themselves a hard time! An enlightening experience.
Coming from a 12 step recovery model, the 4th step “fearless and moral inventory of ourselves”, and the following steps involving admissions, and amends, I’ve watched people get hung up on the “moral” inventory without self compassion and struggle with recovery. Indeed, many wonder why recovery doesn’t work for them. It’s hard to get old-timers in the 12 step communities to listen to anything new, but sponsors need to hear about some of this.
Pardon me, “Fearless and thorough moral inventory…”
Thank you so much for an excellent series of important insights!! All very useful!
I am not a therapist but just a someone on “The Path”. As my own awareness has expanded, I have found the videos you offer especially helpful in learning a new way to respond to the world and deal with my own humanity. This one was particularly useful in gaining perspective on challenges with an adult child. Thank you for sharing these so freely.
What I use and wil use more,is to explain more: psycho-educate more.
Help give birth to this “perfect for your needs- nurturing figure” that will complete traumatised people. Give this nurturing care-gevingerd part in them they never had and internalise this.
Fill part of the empty holes in the haert and soul of traumatised cliënts in my practice.
To learn them as well as myself to be aware of the treat — drive loop that van cause excaustion.
The nervus vagus ( Stanley Roosenberg) as in the poly-vagaal model, fits in were it comes to awareness of how activated one is.
So for me puzzle pieces fit in well there.
Thanks for sharing this!
Annemarie .
Thank very much for all the sessions.I found Deborah’s explanations so enlightening and I will use
use the ideas and information in my work as a Play Therapist with teenagers.
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Again some many wisdom learnings from NICABM to use with clients. Please allow us to use Paypal so we can stagger payments. my situation has changed and money is tight, paypal would help me purchase this program now. Sadly today I can’t. Thankyou all for your loving kindness to educate us.
Wonderful session….many helpful tips and suggestions. A great pattern for therapy!
visualising and creating a compassionate other
Hello. I will try to develop perfect nurterer and to psychoeducate about compassiona and bring it into action. Thanks.
Fabulous thanks!
I found Deborah Lee’s Attachment Psychoeducation very helpful, ‘this is not your fault, your human rights have been violated. If the mind of the person hadn’t existed you wouldn’t have been hurt and harmed.’
And her ‘traumatised minds make traumatised patterns and choices.’ I loved Tirch’s ‘depathologise, de-blame, de-shame and inviting client to be sensitive to their own suffering.’ Lees explanation of secure and insecure attachments and ‘fight, flee, appease, freeze’ which causes the rupture and the importance of re-engagement. The perfect nurturer and virtual mind will both be very useful in my practice.
Thank you to everyone. Great series.
I am just a Lay Person….who found your program and did the exercises for self healing. I have had a binging problem for years since i was a child….now 62 years old. I would eat a whole medium pizza and two boxes of cinnamon buns…in one setting! Since I did your program….the binging has completely stopped!! I am on SSI only and did not have the funds to buy your program….I am so grateful for your sharing the tools…for healing! Thank You so much …..as you have saved my life!
Hugs, Brandy Riley
I think befriending the pain and learning how to help others, while showing yourself kindness and self belief is really insightful to enable moving on from trauma. Thanks for a great series.
Thank you for this webinar on compassionate healing and a few techniques. Are you specially valued The science and techniques of Dr. Deborah Lee. I would encourage you and the staff of Nicabm to look into Dr. Stephen Stosny’s HEALS Approach. Dr. Teresa Burke of GrieftoGrace has modified it for compassion. I think you will see it is more comprehensive than anything presented. Jerry Blume MA, LICSW
Thank you very much for the whole series!
I will use the ideas and information in my work with medical students.
Thank you! I was very much considering suicide today! your course has helped a little bit to maybe get me to live another day.
God’s blessings,
Ranger
You must be going through some really tough stuff! Please consider reaching out to a mental health professional. <3
Hi Ranger, I noticed your comment yesterday and it seemed things are looking hopeless to you. I am concerned for you, but I know I can’t help you directly. It may all seem bleak now, but with help your future could look and feel different. Could your doctor, or any counsellors/therapists help point you in the right direction for some low cost / free of charge service/s? It may well be worth asking. You could even google ‘free therapy near me’. With so much being online now, they wouldn’t even have to be local, just in your state/country. I know it takes energy to do this and I really hope you will have the strength to find out.
I am an NP working in community health with 80% of my patients having experienced trauma of various levels of intensity and duration. I particularly liked Deborah Lee’s ideas on Perfect Nurturer. The agency that I work in has a very difficult turn over rate of therapists and care managers. Patients suffer each time somebody leaves. In particular there is a homeless person with high intensity childhood through early adult torture that they were starting to process when their therapist gave notice. This therapist was (if only idealized) the Perfect Nurturer. I have more hope as a result of this webinar.
Excellent series of presentations. It has crystallised why I do what I do with young people in educational psychotherapy and reminded me of what I can do and say with presenting material in sessions. One person in particular stands out for me in my practice who will likely take the next steps to self compassion possibly with his own Dumbledore.
Ruth, thank you and thanks to all your colleagues for this wonderful programme. It shows you are really healed healers of the world.
Deborah Lee’s examples of applying compassion therapy were very interesting. It’s wonderful to hear discussions about the theory behind compassion treatment, but having experienced individuals share how they actually apply it in their work is probably my favourite part of these modules. Thank-you for making these broadcasts available for free.
This webinar was very informative and helpful, thank you. I did have a question. I’m wondering whether compassion-based interventions can be used with children and adolescents as well as adults? I work with youth involved in the child welfare system who have experienced trauma and attachment ruptures and it seems these techniques would be helpful for them as well.
Hi there,
Thank you for that great informative webinar. I work with women who have been trafficked, borderline personality disorder, PTSD, high anxiety, those who have been living on the streets or homeless in some nature. They come to a fulfilment programme. I am working therapeutically with them but hope to bring my dance movement psychotherapy to them at some point. I see that there is a deepening of the mind, of a gathering of what the mind can structure of itself in day to day engagement of the self and other. I see now that the things I have been trying to do have been linked to Psycho education in attempting to develop that part of compassion in the closed groups I run. This is giving me a further understanding of what I need to consider in seeing how I can help to create the group. There is huge dissociation within the group which I find at the moment is the largest challenge.
I also really liked Deborah Lee’s ideas on Perfect Nurturer. I can see that this needs a strong container and should only be used in clear therapy work. I wondered how the nurturer could be accessed through movement using active imagination and accessing the unconscious images through the shaping of the body in different modes lead by the client. Has the compassion focused industry considered the impact of how the body in shape, time, space and effort might access this nurturer. I can see how the Perfect Nurturer could be embodied by the client and I can also see that it would need to take considerable time to get to a point of touching on that possibility especially with critical parent hyper activity, usually similar in voice I have found to that of the trauma inflictor. It was really nice to hear that Deborah used voice too as I have noticed in clients I have worked with the changes in tone that occur at different points as well as their affect changing. This has given me further grounding to consider and review other relational therapies and to not feel I have to be so consumed with Attachment theory to relate to the early past of the person. Thank you for sharing.
I really appreciated this broadcast. I found the speakers interesting and feel like I have a lot of information to spend time researching and digging into. I am a mindfulness practitioner and have experienced the healing of these practices both myself and in my work with clients. It is refreshing to have training in this area be widely available to clinicians (etc). I did find it difficult that there was no way to pause when client issues came up during broadcast, as timeline wasnt posted I was unsure how long to expect the broadcast to be, which also made it difficult to know whether I would be able to participate in the whole presentation. As a social worker, while I would love to purchase the series, this is just not something I can manage. I do appreciate the free offering, but wish that, rather than broadcast times, it might have been up for 24/48 hours — this gives more flexibility for participation since many of us see clients into the evening. I was only able to watch one video because of this.
I am a client not a practitioner and this is the second time I have accessed nicabm webinars. I missed the first 3 of this series but have watched the 4th twice because it was so insightful. I have taken lots of notes and have asked my therapist if she will help me work on a perfect nurturer. I already have a caring committee from watching another video on Youtube. These are tools I am hoping can help add to my talking therapy work. Thank you so much for making these freely available. I find the way they are presented very clear and well explained, even for the lay person ?
I have used the creating you inner caregiver before but I really appreciate the detailed explanation of the “perfect caregiver” and will practice expanding my approach with this.
Both new learning and validation occurred for me during the broadcast. I learned about appeasement as part of the strategy to deal with triggers. Previously, I had not considered this despite it being quite obvious and making sense. The concept of ‘back draft’- not the word I would have used, but the imagery makes sense within the context of what occurs for people. It is helpful to sort out flooding and to remember to slow down at times during the process of recovery from trauma. The session far exceeded my expectations in terms of helpfulness.
I felt very moved by Deborah’s statement that “Traumatized people make traumatized choices”. It is the sadness of the traumatized person to know that they have been robbed from the possibility of living a positive, healthy life. Not even being able to recognize what a positive, healthy life feels like. How to accompany the client on this aspect of the journey and the sense of lost that it brings, is also important as a therapist.
Does this session only have one time? Last week I was informed of the options, but other weeks I haven’t been??
Thank you from all my cells for this deeply rich and thorough introduction to how self-compassion is such a versatile and flexible, effective and powerful approach to trauma. I have also read through the comments, which are throughout deeply grateful and appreciative…..with a few also reacting strongly to the “marketing” interjections. I hope you will review the recordings paying particular attention to the striking difference in voice tone, and intensity of delivery between the moderators and the presenters, who were consistently calm, caring, soft, and reassuring. I was flipped from feeling jarred by the moderators to feeling soothed by the presenters. I found myself doubting the motives of the moderators, primarily because of their presentation style. I sincerely offer this perspective to the moderators’ kind natures and trust they remain open to listening..
Used it just today with a client. Used guided imagery exercise which I have used for most of my career as I like this form of healing. Liked the use of the image regarding the nurturer. Less than a minute the client, through tears, a small smile formed on her previously saddened facial expression. A slight nod along side the smile. Just that word “nurturer” made a mark on the subconscious. So many clients lack this early on in life, including my own mother. Just that word took flight in my mind then used it with a client since it hit a strong chord with me. It worked. She was much lighter after the session due to the connection to that word “nurturer,” the measurement of the emotion, connected to place within the body. She connected easily, put her hand on her chest and noted the feeling was measured and reduced when she brought in her nurturer. She was guided to nurture her own thymus gland, where she felt tension, at the same time. As she took a long exhilation she was calmer, the tragic life visual was off set and she had spontaneous improved hope. Fortunately she now realizes the power of guided imagery. The SSP headsets had helped in the past but the family or origin has caused once again a disconnect. Now she has just another tool to rid herself of multiple traumas. Writing has been her main avenue and breathing but she has taken hypnosis as a helpful addition to our work together. These webinars are so energizing for new ideas and how to energize old tools. I have been in thousand hours of trainings over the year but rarely would get more that one tool despite all the hours at a training. These webinars have been so helpful to add so ripe tools to my work. Would like to practice into my advanced years, to share all this wonderful understanding of the nervous system adjunct to EMDR, motivational interviewing somatic experiencing or even TFCBT. The growth NICABM has provided has given me hope for the future of our profession, to continue with the joy, reaching so many traumatized humans to make this world a better place, improve daily life for all. It has been so gratifying to grow in my work and expand the awareness of the clients in their healing.
I missed these sessions! Could you tell me when you are doing them again please? I am very interested in viewing them
myself & recommending them to clients. Thank you.
Lot’s of nuggets-here are a few that I’ll bring to sessions tomorrow…
Befriending the pain
backdraft
titrating the opening of one’s heart-giving permission to the client (and awareness of this process) for opening and closing-building choice over reactivity
compassionate mind-the just right elements for oneself
and more.
Thank you once again for the learning!
Thank you for the time you have given to share this useful and important therapy. It was very interesting and helpful. I will be using Compassion therapy with my clients.
A little feedback, it would be nice if we could see and pause running time as there where things i didnt catch or have enough time to write before the presenter moved on. Thank you again.
Thanks so much for these four conversations. I am encouraged forward by noticing some natural steps that I have taken with clients that I could see woven through your discussions of process and steps and purposes regarding trauma recovery work with clients. This gave me confidence to “trust my instincts” and my uptake of wisdom and guidance from learning opportunities (like these you have provided), because I am on good pathways as a practitioner. Self compassion and kindness and the work they achieve for the human who is brave enough to seek support…..the rewards are lovely to be witness to, as people open up to themselves and become stronger and more settled. Thanks for the framework of meaning and a bit more shared language for these ways of being with people in my therapeutic practices.
I really like the way the speakers have framed up the distinct stages of dealing with the client with PTSD – having this reference the three phases in treatment will help me journey with my client(s) in a sequential way (even though I experience clients do have memories or experiences that appear to jump around – I can also see from this ‘where’ the client is within the three phases. I found the references to the sensory ‘felt’ – I feel is the languaging that a client would tend to use when they are embodying the new sensate experience of compassion as compared to ‘Yes I see or I know’ which appears to indicate a more cognitive understanding without the shift the ‘felt’ sense indicates. Thank you for this series I appreciate the contributions everyone has made and though I deal with a small client base already this series has transformed wounded lives in a remote part of of my country where I live and practice. Blessings Be.