Trying to forgive myself identifying feelings shame and guilt of being alchoholic. Even though made ammends. Guilt shame unworthiness linger and control actions.
With hand on the chest and silent reminder to myself “I accept myself for who I am.” this made me feel very heavy in my chest and I couldn’t hold the heaviness with one hand. I noticed I was weeping, with the very heavy heart. I shifted from hand on the chest to the butterfly hug and reminded myself “I am here for you. I support myself for who I am.” this just made me feel very lonely. The acceptance that I feel lonely but I am there for my true feelings did bring slight relief.
When I try to express care towards myself the inner self-judge immediately begins the chatter and the fear sets in and as an automatic default I self-isolate. This pattern has been going on for quite sometime in my life but I am happy to have some awareness about it now, so I can name it, acknowledge it and then move it aside to get to the true connection of self to experience more caring and loving of self 🙂
Thankyou ,Tara’s voice is so comforting and her advice is so so useful in understanding myself and in bringing more kindness to myself and allowing the thoughts and feelings not to come overwhelm me🙏🏻💗
The feelings that came up during the gesture of Kindness practice were: warmth, connectivity to the self and the non-self, as well as immense gratitude for being on this path in this moment especially when there is so much suffering in the world.
Engaging in acts of kindness often evokes positive emotions such as empathy, compassion, happiness, and a sense of fulfillment. When I take the “Self” out of the equation and I instantly put myself out there for others, immediately there is a shift of energy and flow for both the recipient and myself.
The idea is to cultivate a more compassionate and empathetic outlook on life.
I will use these ideas by incorporating kindness into my daily life. They can even be small acts of kindness which can create big impact on others and myself. Helping someone in need, offering support, or simply being kind and empathetic in my interactions with others are juts a few ways to bring positive feelings.
Practicing kindness can lead to a more positive and fulfilling life, both for you and those around you.
colleen flanigan, Other, Pacific Grove, CA, USAsays
It relaxed my heart, a trickle of tears, and lightened me up. A little wave of I’m ok again that reliably gratefully arises doing this exercise w you, Tara. Thank you. The embracing of my own suffering gently allows the softness of caring tears of grief, loss, guilt, real pain to be accepted/felt. Making that connection with my loving self rather than trying to escape the situation, judge harshly, or place blame brings back my kindness for self and others. My heart feels warmer, opening like a sigh or smile here rather than gripping tightly or bracing against projections, fears, controlling narratives that block the vulnerable messy feelings truth.
I felt sad that I am so angry, resentful and unhappy most of the time. At the same time a knowing that I need love and acceptance- I guess most especially my own.
Saying words of compassion had more impact when I place hand on my heart, an emotion rising, bringing tears to my eyes. I will use this “hand on heart” following my daily meditations.
more compassion arose. I will share with clients to affirm their difficulties and ensure they are worthy of being self compassionate and to try even in small ways to help themselves.
When I followed Tara’s instructions and placed my hand on my heart in a gesture of care, I began to weep. I felt sorry and ashamed, weak, wounded, sad, and sorrowful. I felt a powerful desire to run away from this self who could do these things. I felt like an imposter, a charlatan. I hated myself.
When I place my hand on my heart I feel like I’m talking to my best friend that’s been hurt and damaged and telling her we are going to heal together with practice and hard work, practice and supplication.
During the gesture of kindness to myself, many thoughts and images came to mind. I was looking for one which encompassed what you’d said and gave me the ‘feeling’of loving kindness to myself. Maybe holding a baby, caring for my dog while she’s been unwell, tending the plants in the garden or helping a neighbor. It’s hard to find the image.
Thank you for your talk-it’s wonderful food for thought.
I felt an opening, a softness towards myself. I felt a sense that things will be OK. That I have tome tools to work with to make this a part of my life. Thank you for your guidance and words of wisdom.
it’s so hard to remember this in the heat of the moment. I hope I will be able to get this to stick. it helps to realise I have been .. /am suffering. and while I can “care” for , I’m not not really really there. because I have left myself out and therefore caring can be a cost . and draining. and I can criticise myself all over again…
and this is indeed suffering . hand on my heart is physical bodily reminder to listen and care for myself and feel the suffering.
Kindness is soft accepting and overrides other negative perception of self.
Along with its not your fault if can give opportunities to open up self acceptance
Touching my chest and staying still helped me to distract from my busy mind and helped me to calm down and get grounded. I will accompany my clients to look for their own gesture of kindness in order to lessen their suffering.
Thank you so much for inspiring videos.
It immediately changes my body, it gets softer, especially on my upperback. Also my face softens, and in my head aswell, feels like a soft warm wind. I also feel a slowing down and intensiving of the now. I do this with clients already, because as an intimacy-coach I work with the body and I’ve the honor to be a witness of what they experience, it’s healing.
Warm regards, Gonneke (www.yourinnerwell.nl) the Netherlands.
It is hard for me now to feel kindness for myself but I don’t find it hard to give it to anyone else I often give to menay others like gifts and thank yous but find it difficult to exspt it from others it’s like I don’t deserve to be thank or appreciated it gust feel like I push it away
my body & organs become more calm, i feel a softening that becomes compassion & safety. I’m able to give myself safety where once all my home life was unsafe & I thought safety came from out there or someone now I am empowered to know I can make me feel safe.💗 Thank you so much Tara for these free opportunities as I’m on a disability pension & trying to heal from a lifetime of traumatic situations slowly. I appreciate your generosity💐
I feel like I’m going through the motions but not really feeling any shift. Am using — i accept myself just as I am in all my messiness but all my strengths too. My problem is that I have problems believing it.
when I tried the gesture of kindness, tears welled up and I felt a lifetime of pain and sadness wash over me. I will keep practicing being kind and accepting of myself.
Inadequacy and being too “needy.” Held myself and celebrated who I am and the love I am. I will practice this with everyone! This is a tremendous form of self-love which everyone deserves to feel.
Trying to forgive myself identifying feelings shame and guilt of being alchoholic. Even though made ammends. Guilt shame unworthiness linger and control actions.
Always wonderful to touch the heart gently- caring for self as we may have always wished to be cared for…
With hand on the chest and silent reminder to myself “I accept myself for who I am.” this made me feel very heavy in my chest and I couldn’t hold the heaviness with one hand. I noticed I was weeping, with the very heavy heart. I shifted from hand on the chest to the butterfly hug and reminded myself “I am here for you. I support myself for who I am.” this just made me feel very lonely. The acceptance that I feel lonely but I am there for my true feelings did bring slight relief.
The advice to ‘name the feeling’ is very helpful.
I noticed a sense of softening towards myself
Confidence and optimism
When I try to express care towards myself the inner self-judge immediately begins the chatter and the fear sets in and as an automatic default I self-isolate. This pattern has been going on for quite sometime in my life but I am happy to have some awareness about it now, so I can name it, acknowledge it and then move it aside to get to the true connection of self to experience more caring and loving of self 🙂
Thankyou ,Tara’s voice is so comforting and her advice is so so useful in understanding myself and in bringing more kindness to myself and allowing the thoughts and feelings not to come overwhelm me🙏🏻💗
The feelings that came up during the gesture of Kindness practice were: warmth, connectivity to the self and the non-self, as well as immense gratitude for being on this path in this moment especially when there is so much suffering in the world.
Engaging in acts of kindness often evokes positive emotions such as empathy, compassion, happiness, and a sense of fulfillment. When I take the “Self” out of the equation and I instantly put myself out there for others, immediately there is a shift of energy and flow for both the recipient and myself.
The idea is to cultivate a more compassionate and empathetic outlook on life.
I will use these ideas by incorporating kindness into my daily life. They can even be small acts of kindness which can create big impact on others and myself. Helping someone in need, offering support, or simply being kind and empathetic in my interactions with others are juts a few ways to bring positive feelings.
Practicing kindness can lead to a more positive and fulfilling life, both for you and those around you.
It relaxed my heart, a trickle of tears, and lightened me up. A little wave of I’m ok again that reliably gratefully arises doing this exercise w you, Tara. Thank you. The embracing of my own suffering gently allows the softness of caring tears of grief, loss, guilt, real pain to be accepted/felt. Making that connection with my loving self rather than trying to escape the situation, judge harshly, or place blame brings back my kindness for self and others. My heart feels warmer, opening like a sigh or smile here rather than gripping tightly or bracing against projections, fears, controlling narratives that block the vulnerable messy feelings truth.
I felt sad that I am so angry, resentful and unhappy most of the time. At the same time a knowing that I need love and acceptance- I guess most especially my own.
Saying words of compassion had more impact when I place hand on my heart, an emotion rising, bringing tears to my eyes. I will use this “hand on heart” following my daily meditations.
more compassion arose. I will share with clients to affirm their difficulties and ensure they are worthy of being self compassionate and to try even in small ways to help themselves.
I felt a sense of relief, a feeling of warmth. More breath and room, ( I’m clergy and counselor)
With my hand on my heart, i could say words of self appreciation. And then emotions popped up and made me weep
Thanks Tara….this was very helpful. I feel so much better and whole….I need more of this…bad habits are hard to break. Thank you!
When I followed Tara’s instructions and placed my hand on my heart in a gesture of care, I began to weep. I felt sorry and ashamed, weak, wounded, sad, and sorrowful. I felt a powerful desire to run away from this self who could do these things. I felt like an imposter, a charlatan. I hated myself.
When I place my hand on my heart I feel like I’m talking to my best friend that’s been hurt and damaged and telling her we are going to heal together with practice and hard work, practice and supplication.
During the gesture of kindness to myself, I felt tears and then my chest hurt. Saying ouch that hurts felt good. Thank you!
I felt a sense of relief, softening towards myself. Thank you!
I immediately felt a softening and tears prick behind my eyes as if it was a relief to have my feelings acknowledged. A surrendering feeling.
Hand on heart always a challenge for me but also very touching
I need to practice this for myself first and then offer to clients
During the gesture of kindness to myself, many thoughts and images came to mind. I was looking for one which encompassed what you’d said and gave me the ‘feeling’of loving kindness to myself. Maybe holding a baby, caring for my dog while she’s been unwell, tending the plants in the garden or helping a neighbor. It’s hard to find the image.
Thank you for your talk-it’s wonderful food for thought.
I felt an opening, a softness towards myself. I felt a sense that things will be OK. That I have tome tools to work with to make this a part of my life. Thank you for your guidance and words of wisdom.
it’s so hard to remember this in the heat of the moment. I hope I will be able to get this to stick. it helps to realise I have been .. /am suffering. and while I can “care” for , I’m not not really really there. because I have left myself out and therefore caring can be a cost . and draining. and I can criticise myself all over again…
and this is indeed suffering . hand on my heart is physical bodily reminder to listen and care for myself and feel the suffering.
Kindness is soft accepting and overrides other negative perception of self.
Along with its not your fault if can give opportunities to open up self acceptance
Touching my chest and staying still helped me to distract from my busy mind and helped me to calm down and get grounded. I will accompany my clients to look for their own gesture of kindness in order to lessen their suffering.
Thank you so much for inspiring videos.
A softening and truth. I model hand on heart to my children, so will continue to do so!
It immediately changes my body, it gets softer, especially on my upperback. Also my face softens, and in my head aswell, feels like a soft warm wind. I also feel a slowing down and intensiving of the now. I do this with clients already, because as an intimacy-coach I work with the body and I’ve the honor to be a witness of what they experience, it’s healing.
Warm regards, Gonneke (www.yourinnerwell.nl) the Netherlands.
It is hard for me now to feel kindness for myself but I don’t find it hard to give it to anyone else I often give to menay others like gifts and thank yous but find it difficult to exspt it from others it’s like I don’t deserve to be thank or appreciated it gust feel like I push it away
my body & organs become more calm, i feel a softening that becomes compassion & safety. I’m able to give myself safety where once all my home life was unsafe & I thought safety came from out there or someone now I am empowered to know I can make me feel safe.💗 Thank you so much Tara for these free opportunities as I’m on a disability pension & trying to heal from a lifetime of traumatic situations slowly. I appreciate your generosity💐
I feel like I’m going through the motions but not really feeling any shift. Am using — i accept myself just as I am in all my messiness but all my strengths too. My problem is that I have problems believing it.
when I tried the gesture of kindness, tears welled up and I felt a lifetime of pain and sadness wash over me. I will keep practicing being kind and accepting of myself.
Inadequacy and being too “needy.” Held myself and celebrated who I am and the love I am. I will practice this with everyone! This is a tremendous form of self-love which everyone deserves to feel.