The gesture was really powerful. And at first made the pain worse realizing how much I’ve been holding onto and How much I’ve been dodging. This is a good simple reminder to do this during difficult moments during the day. Thank you!
I can picture myself standing closely, as an adult, just behind and to one side of 5-year-old me. The gesture is the adult me simply draping a compassionate arm over the youngster’s shoulder and resting a hand on the heart of the 5-year old gently and non-judgementally. As the young one, I can feel that gentle sheltering like the wings of a mother hen shielding and embracing her chick.
The feeling that came up was resistance. It is not easy to offer kindness to a self that has little practice doing so. It’s a difficult feedback loop…to have the one who feels unworthy comfort the one who feels unworthy. I see why it takes a lot of practice to feel some base measure of worthiness.
Thank you for your kind efforts in helping to ease suffering. I felt very supported after placing hand on my heart. Making contact with the part that suffers in me.
This was helpful. Taking pause to ‘self-care’ in a mindful way immediately brought a sense of peace. I think the biggest challenge will be to implement this practice when ‘spiraling’ with self-doubt and fear. Pulling out of that ‘spiral’ feels like being caught in a whirlpool. I guess recognizing that and being able to hit the stop button and practice the meditation of care/loving/acceptance is critical to the path of wellness. Thank you.
It felt as a paus. a friendly gesture to my self.
I will use his wisdom with clients to clarify my method and be even more inspiring I think, sharing from the inspiration I feel when I listen to Tara expressing both new science and vaste experience and knowledge.
Recognizing that my picking on my husband is because I am picking on myself. I dislike the heaviness of my body and feel shame for not having better control of my addiction to eating when I am anxious.
The phrases “I see you”, I hear you”, “I love you” came to mind as I placed my hand on my heart…and I pictured my current self saying these words to my younger self.
Placing my hand on my heart immediately shifts my body sensation from being contracted to feeling relaxing and softening my muscles and a sense of tenderness and openness arises… I feel more calm and present.
This was helpful and informative. During the gesture of kindness, I felt my inner self come from a hiding place to the surface where my hand was and Connecting to the loving words.
Thanks Tara, with the gesture of kindness practice I felt more relaxed, more at home with who I am and what I feel. Good to be reminded how much self judgement affects relationships. I will carry the practice into all my contacts
Thanks again
Placing my hand on my heart allows me to check in and acknowledge how I am feeling at any given moment. Sometimes I am easily able to say “I love you” to myself, other times, not so much and tears may even come if I’m feeling inadequate or unloved. Today I was able to say “I love you.”
CALMING BUT ALSO VERY CHALLENGING. PLEAse email me any of your other free videos or materials as for example meditation mindfulness exercises.
Than you Helen Newman
Thank you Tara, i appreciate your warmth and wisdom. I noticed a softening and and a sense of relief in offering loving kindness to myself, like a deeper sense of connection. namaste
As I placed my palm on my heart I could feel some difference in my body. I let it stay for few minutes. More thoughts from the past kept bubbling out, these thoughts are about some disturbing news that a friend shared with me years ago. I need to just accept and let go.
Thank you for the exercise followed by a wonderful session
At the end of the video when asked to place my hand on my heart I saw that it gave me permission to open into the flower that I am instead of keeping myself hidden and in bud.
I always need to remind myself how self-acceptance is a process and its something I discuss with clients as well. The self-judgement is so insidious that I can get down on myself because the change isn’t happening fast enough. In others words, I start criticizing myself for my self-criticism! Like rows of mirrors it can go on forever if not interrupted. Instead, I try to remind myself, and I suggest to clients, to have patience with process. Notice the improvement and congratulate self on it no matter how small.
When I put my hand on my heart and said I am a good person and worthy of love, my breathing slowed down and I felt calm. I have always thought of myself as a good person but oftentimes when my partner puts me down for being selfish, etc., it brings me down and I feel sad and resentful which leads to anger. This small gesture of kindness to myself is a great way to work through those feelings and realize my truth.
God works in mysterious way! Yesterday I was reading something on acceptance and it had some of the steps you mentioned. And I added beside it compassion…. So today as I was listening to your video, I felt like I was a genius to have thought of that : compassion. Now, it is time to put all that into practice. thank you!
Wehen I do this gesture, I feel relieved, I calm down until my thoughts come back like: what are you doing here? This is esotheric, your selfobsessioned and so on! On the bottom of my heart I don’t believe that its esotheric or egocentric behavior, but I think I can hear my family thinking like this…
So If I was e therapist, I would first confirm to my client, that this is real and its the opportunity of egocentric, because you do a lot better to everybody, if you are in harmony with yourself!
Sorry for my english, its not my motherlanguage🙈
Coming home…
It is my deepest wish to accompany my clients on their journey home… out of the exile of self-judgement and criticism towards their compassionate self-loving essence.
I commit to use these exercices I just learnt by letting my thoughts passing by without making them mine, just acknowledging them and letting them go. I also commit to letting my inner child’s emotions come up and to talk and to comfort her.
thank you… feeling gratitude.. am in the mmtcp training and am about
to teach mindfulness of thoughts today… it will be so lovely to include some
of this other wisdom about how it is all connected..
blessings
jane
I am retired So I will use these ideas with myself, rather than with clients. The feelings that came up for me were feelings of being validated as I identified a lifetime of being critical and feeling not good-enough, which persist today at 80 years old. After a fulfilling life of achievement including recently writing my memoir which is literally blowing my children and grandchildren away. I’m finally beginning to feel that I AM good, but I still need Tara’s help and support to solidify my goodness. Her explanations right down to the brain functionings are extremely helpful. Thank you!
Monica
This is so powerful. I can identify deeply with what Tara is saying about harsh self judgement steering my inner life and directing how I am. Tara’s steps on how to change this malignant way of being are clear and so helpful. I plan to listen to these sessions MANY times and redo the steps – it takes time to relearn old, set brain patterns. Thanks so much for these talks!!
Monica
I tried the practice and the immediate reaction was a feeling of vulnerability and got teary. However, after this first feeling, situations that made me feel judgemental about myself started popping up in my kind- as if the gesture brought more pain than what I felt before I started the exercise . Is this part of the process?
Thank you Tara for sharing your beautiful wisdom❤️ I have practiced and anchored many years by placing my hand on my heart. It truly is an amazing and yet so simple tool in everyday life. To heal and connect to inner acceptantance and love.
The gesture was really powerful. And at first made the pain worse realizing how much I’ve been holding onto and How much I’ve been dodging. This is a good simple reminder to do this during difficult moments during the day. Thank you!
I can picture myself standing closely, as an adult, just behind and to one side of 5-year-old me. The gesture is the adult me simply draping a compassionate arm over the youngster’s shoulder and resting a hand on the heart of the 5-year old gently and non-judgementally. As the young one, I can feel that gentle sheltering like the wings of a mother hen shielding and embracing her chick.
The feeling that came up was resistance. It is not easy to offer kindness to a self that has little practice doing so. It’s a difficult feedback loop…to have the one who feels unworthy comfort the one who feels unworthy. I see why it takes a lot of practice to feel some base measure of worthiness.
Softness and quiet. Thank you 🙏🏻
This is a process I can use to forgive myself and get relief at least temporarily from suffering.
I relaxed and felt more tender
Thank you for your kind efforts in helping to ease suffering. I felt very supported after placing hand on my heart. Making contact with the part that suffers in me.
Feelings of connectedness: warmth, safety and calm. In my bedside nursing, this will surely increase my capacity for empathy.
This was helpful. Taking pause to ‘self-care’ in a mindful way immediately brought a sense of peace. I think the biggest challenge will be to implement this practice when ‘spiraling’ with self-doubt and fear. Pulling out of that ‘spiral’ feels like being caught in a whirlpool. I guess recognizing that and being able to hit the stop button and practice the meditation of care/loving/acceptance is critical to the path of wellness. Thank you.
In this exercise a feeling of calmness is felt and a release of inner tension.
In this exercise a calming feeling comes over me, along with a release of internal tension.
Being kind to myself in particular putting my hand on my heart feels like a relief and makes me smile. It is a great help in times of depression.
Healing exercise!!!
It felt grounding and reassuring
Thank you 🙏🏼
Beautiful practice from a beautiful being of Light 💟
It felt as a paus. a friendly gesture to my self.
I will use his wisdom with clients to clarify my method and be even more inspiring I think, sharing from the inspiration I feel when I listen to Tara expressing both new science and vaste experience and knowledge.
Thank you for your life of dedication to offering help to others.
Sincerely,
Donna
I have two clients I intend to use these three steps with. Thanks, JN
Tara thankyou for Yr generosity of spitits sharing Yr teachings and wisdom
Recognizing that my picking on my husband is because I am picking on myself. I dislike the heaviness of my body and feel shame for not having better control of my addiction to eating when I am anxious.
The phrases “I see you”, I hear you”, “I love you” came to mind as I placed my hand on my heart…and I pictured my current self saying these words to my younger self.
I felt a calmness within myself. That I’m a good person.
Placing my hand on my heart immediately shifts my body sensation from being contracted to feeling relaxing and softening my muscles and a sense of tenderness and openness arises… I feel more calm and present.
This was helpful and informative. During the gesture of kindness, I felt my inner self come from a hiding place to the surface where my hand was and Connecting to the loving words.
Thanks Tara, with the gesture of kindness practice I felt more relaxed, more at home with who I am and what I feel. Good to be reminded how much self judgement affects relationships. I will carry the practice into all my contacts
Thanks again
Placing my hand on my heart allows me to check in and acknowledge how I am feeling at any given moment. Sometimes I am easily able to say “I love you” to myself, other times, not so much and tears may even come if I’m feeling inadequate or unloved. Today I was able to say “I love you.”
CALMING BUT ALSO VERY CHALLENGING. PLEAse email me any of your other free videos or materials as for example meditation mindfulness exercises.
Than you Helen Newman
Thank you Tara, i appreciate your warmth and wisdom. I noticed a softening and and a sense of relief in offering loving kindness to myself, like a deeper sense of connection. namaste
As I placed my palm on my heart I could feel some difference in my body. I let it stay for few minutes. More thoughts from the past kept bubbling out, these thoughts are about some disturbing news that a friend shared with me years ago. I need to just accept and let go.
Thank you for the exercise followed by a wonderful session
Unable to identify the emotion and underlying subconscious messages
I feel more peaceful and confident, more accepting of myself despite my struggles
The feelings that arose were ones of acceptance, safety and belonging. The thought “We’re all on the same team” brought comfort. 💕
At the end of the video when asked to place my hand on my heart I saw that it gave me permission to open into the flower that I am instead of keeping myself hidden and in bud.
This gesture prim I think me to breathe deeper and often I notice a relaxing of my facial muscles, resulting in a half smile!
I always need to remind myself how self-acceptance is a process and its something I discuss with clients as well. The self-judgement is so insidious that I can get down on myself because the change isn’t happening fast enough. In others words, I start criticizing myself for my self-criticism! Like rows of mirrors it can go on forever if not interrupted. Instead, I try to remind myself, and I suggest to clients, to have patience with process. Notice the improvement and congratulate self on it no matter how small.
Thank you for reminding me of the support for change possible through the gesture of kindness practice.
When I put my hand on my heart and said I am a good person and worthy of love, my breathing slowed down and I felt calm. I have always thought of myself as a good person but oftentimes when my partner puts me down for being selfish, etc., it brings me down and I feel sad and resentful which leads to anger. This small gesture of kindness to myself is a great way to work through those feelings and realize my truth.
God works in mysterious way! Yesterday I was reading something on acceptance and it had some of the steps you mentioned. And I added beside it compassion…. So today as I was listening to your video, I felt like I was a genius to have thought of that : compassion. Now, it is time to put all that into practice. thank you!
Wehen I do this gesture, I feel relieved, I calm down until my thoughts come back like: what are you doing here? This is esotheric, your selfobsessioned and so on! On the bottom of my heart I don’t believe that its esotheric or egocentric behavior, but I think I can hear my family thinking like this…
So If I was e therapist, I would first confirm to my client, that this is real and its the opportunity of egocentric, because you do a lot better to everybody, if you are in harmony with yourself!
Sorry for my english, its not my motherlanguage🙈
Coming home…
It is my deepest wish to accompany my clients on their journey home… out of the exile of self-judgement and criticism towards their compassionate self-loving essence.
Gloria Schulz
I commit to use these exercices I just learnt by letting my thoughts passing by without making them mine, just acknowledging them and letting them go. I also commit to letting my inner child’s emotions come up and to talk and to comfort her.
thank you… feeling gratitude.. am in the mmtcp training and am about
to teach mindfulness of thoughts today… it will be so lovely to include some
of this other wisdom about how it is all connected..
blessings
jane
I am retired So I will use these ideas with myself, rather than with clients. The feelings that came up for me were feelings of being validated as I identified a lifetime of being critical and feeling not good-enough, which persist today at 80 years old. After a fulfilling life of achievement including recently writing my memoir which is literally blowing my children and grandchildren away. I’m finally beginning to feel that I AM good, but I still need Tara’s help and support to solidify my goodness. Her explanations right down to the brain functionings are extremely helpful. Thank you!
Monica
Thank you
This is so powerful. I can identify deeply with what Tara is saying about harsh self judgement steering my inner life and directing how I am. Tara’s steps on how to change this malignant way of being are clear and so helpful. I plan to listen to these sessions MANY times and redo the steps – it takes time to relearn old, set brain patterns. Thanks so much for these talks!!
Monica
I tried the practice and the immediate reaction was a feeling of vulnerability and got teary. However, after this first feeling, situations that made me feel judgemental about myself started popping up in my kind- as if the gesture brought more pain than what I felt before I started the exercise . Is this part of the process?
I could definitely feel how, with practice, this can help me.
Thank you for the hope your wisdom shared offers so many, Tara!
During the gesture of kindness I felt a warmth and love toward myself. I have begun a daily mindfulness practice and it has been transformative.
Thank you Tara for sharing your beautiful wisdom❤️ I have practiced and anchored many years by placing my hand on my heart. It truly is an amazing and yet so simple tool in everyday life. To heal and connect to inner acceptantance and love.