Brings the tears that sit close behind my eyes of deep sadness but the strong pull toward really hiding my own self love that slips away too easily but I need those tears which are moving in the direction of the sea x
Gabrielle Wise, Another Field, Jersey City, NJ, USAsays
At first it was a relief to afford myself this compassion and loving acceptance, I’m starved for this self-care and it felt unfamiliar, something I need to keep at. But then a troubling thought came up that was something along the lines of, “Who cares if you accept yourself? You’re not worthy, other people’s acceptance of you is much more important, it counts more than your self-acceptance.” Following the guidance in the video, I just allowed this feeling, this intense shame, to come up without judgement and was able to give myself compassion in the face of it.
Holding my hand to my heart, I am amazed at the strong sense love and compassion I feel for myself. It is so very different to the every day chatter and judgement of my mind and is so easy to access if I just simply stop and take the time to acknowledge my feeling. I actually do truly love and respect the wise woman I have grown into in 55 years. However it will take constant practice to calm the habitual mind chatter that is harsh and critical of a lifetime. I look forward to this journey 😊
The inner shift is a sense of relaxation. It is a release of tension and constriction. It allows for a sort of inner sigh of relief and a rising of hopefulness.
The topic itself, especially Tara’s next topic, feeling guilty about hurting someone, was itself cathartic, as I suffer with this, and approaching this sore hurt part of me with the tenderness and compassion that was being practiced here was helpful, hopeful. I look forward to hearing what Tara has to share. I am especially grateful for these short, free video courses, that offer deep healing ideas. Much appreciated. Blessings. Franklin
Placing my hand on my heart, and feeling compassion for myself actually made me more acutely aware of how many deep layers of pain and suffering are inside me just crying out for that compassion. I can offer that compassion to myself, but somehow it feels lonely and empty, when what I really crave is to receive that love and compassion from truly caring friends, or a loving partner that I don’t have. I am so lonely!
It’s always lovely to hear from you, Tara. Thank you for so much warmth in your teachings. And those three steps, how much they help to accept ourselves radically!
Not so clear….meaning it didn’t stay with the kindness but shifted to the pain I still feel, the void of my lonliness, not being enjoyed, not being enough for me to have fun with myself. Seeing the pattern of how I picked that up from my parent and passed that on to to my son….It started with the gesture of kindness, telling myself I am enough, I am lovable, fun and that I am here for myself, but it shifted to the feelings that aren’t yet resolved.
I’ve been at this for over 40 years. It seems to be getting worse and worse. More and more overwhelming. Have experienced high level teachings and experiences. Should be ‘enlightened’ by now. Oh God!
Why do narratives like this play noise (‘music’) in the background. It’s extremely annoying.
“I am ok” making me feel like I am enough. The world can feel so unkind with angry people. This simple reminder underlines the need for me to be the kindness the world so needs.
You are not the problem. Most people need to work on empathy and compassion with their selves and everyone else.
My adult son has Bipolar disorder and sounds very similar.
Great joker and a pure delight.
Be yourself and love your self 💗
I’m still working that, no easy feat for the masses.
I flashed back to an experience of myself as a younger version of me. At that time, I was a new mother looking out the window, realizing that I was really on my own in a new space. I did not have a lot of support at the time.
Seeing this scene and where I am now at sixty three, gave me a sense of ongoing discovery. Hope in knowing there is always space to learn new things.
Practicing kindness towards myself connects me to the Universe of Love which is always available to me. The more I understand the Harmony of Science and Spirituality, the more I can develop my talents. I can learn and grow.
Placing the hand on the heart, feeling the beating of it caused that actually being busy maybe never really payed attention and cared about. Feelings of warm waves, relaxing and letting go.
Thank you for this wisdom. This will help me when guiding women with addictions. Often they are shut off from their feelings and when to start sobriety they do not know how to handle emotions coming up. This is part of the tools I will teach them and encourage them to practice. Thank you for sharing.
I felt loneliness and sorrow. Reminded me of a time when I felt more connected to my friends and makes me feel the need for a partner I can connect deeply with. It also brought up reflections about ways that I judge potential partners as not good enough.
I will bring this into sessions with my clients who feel lonely and struggle with letting other people in and especially the ones who struggle with partner love.
I tried telling myself ‘I love you’, but I felt uncomfortable with that, and instead said ‘you are loved’ and immediately thought of my family and friends and loved ones, and felt cared for. I have started to do this more and more when I feel overwhelmed with sadness as I go through the emotions of a breakup. It’s the first time I am doing this and it does help to pause the negative self-talk, or over-analysis, and reminds me that I am still loved no matter what. Thank you for this video and a reminder of how powerful mindfulness and self-compassion are to my healing
Ahhhhh….feels calming. I know I deserve self kindness, and sometimes I forget that things that happened in my earlier life were not my fault. it’s a belief so deeply ingrained that I forget.
It is hard to be judgmental and critical when I envision myself as a child or even my little dachshund as a puppy. My heart opens and I can say “ I love you; you are wonderful just the way you are. “ I feel calmer and more open, not tight and critical and wanting to move into action to somehow punish or defeat my “bad” self.
I find that I judge others and saw what that my thoughts go to judging myself and how mean I am towards my thoughts about them. I hate myself for it. 😭😭😢 my tummy hurts
Although, now at 88, and continuing in the work of service, I feel an opening.
I acknowledge being a Feldenkrais practitioner helps. However, your simple 3 steps are so powerful. The simple practice of naming is so helpful.
thank you Tara and Ruth
At 66 years old I continue to search out and listen for those really quiet and negative thoughts. Just when I think I’m making progress, I drop a glass and it shatters and I call myself names, just like my father did. Useless, stupid idiot, etc.
I will continue to listen to you and employ the awareness steps in hopes that I too can not be my thoughts. Because I sure do feel awful when I call myself names. Thanks Tara
Thank you so much Tara… I felt hopeful and happy.
I have been fallowing you for years … and I still find it important to have a refresher every once in a while … Thank you for your teaching 🌹
I felt supported and cared for and loved by Self and Guides, with soothing openings, energy flow, warm healing. I felt grateful for this beautiful, simple, heart-felt practice. I will apply it, share it, remind myself, give myself kindness, give others more kindness. Thank you.
Mary Ellen Copeland, Counseling, Dummerston, VT, USAsays
Thanks so much for this Tara. We healers do need to heal ourselves. When I put my hand on my heart it brought tears to my eyes. I have been living with self judgment and critiquing all my life. I was heavily critiqued in childhood and in several relationships. While never feeling not enough, I have worked hard to convince others of their worthiness, that they are enough, while not truly believing it for myself. I have work to do. Blessings
David Barker, Another Field, Rochester, NY, USAsays
I have had years of self-doubt. I have been practicing mindfulness and as my practice strengthens, so does my connection to my heart. Thank you for these opportunities to deepen my connection to forgiveness.
oh Tara. thank you again.
I felt sadness and compassion almost simultaneously. I am loving myself more and more. What a Joy to finally meet myself. (Mel Robbins) High Five method incorporated into my morning routine, with Loving Compassion Training, I am feeling and being more Authentic.
Namaste
I appreciate this video so much!
Hearing you explain something i have for years tried to use with my clients has helped me feel …. at peace with what for me was an instinct. Yes it does work! ( I find client openess is a factor )
Michael Brown, Marriage/Family Therapy, Lake Alfred , FL, USAsays
Viewing myself as suffering (I never thought of it that way before) allows me to have more compassion for myself. When suffering, I’m harder on myself rather than being more compassionate. Thank you for the video. I’m thinking of a client I can use this with right away.
This video helped me to acknowledge the depths of pain that I am living with as I care for my husband who has a terminal neuro degenerative condition. I need to name the pain and actively show myself kindness and compassion and not be afraid to let others see that a I am suffering. Such a relief to let go and be real.
Hi,
Thank you for the video.
i found this gesture of Kindness practice really Powerfull. The feeling of peace came straight instantly and that i no need to be jujging myself anymore, that ,if i care for myself,something bigger joining me and helping me in that.
Accepting difference.
Brings the tears that sit close behind my eyes of deep sadness but the strong pull toward really hiding my own self love that slips away too easily but I need those tears which are moving in the direction of the sea x
Beautiful, so resonate with this 🌻🙏
At first it was a relief to afford myself this compassion and loving acceptance, I’m starved for this self-care and it felt unfamiliar, something I need to keep at. But then a troubling thought came up that was something along the lines of, “Who cares if you accept yourself? You’re not worthy, other people’s acceptance of you is much more important, it counts more than your self-acceptance.” Following the guidance in the video, I just allowed this feeling, this intense shame, to come up without judgement and was able to give myself compassion in the face of it.
Holding my hand to my heart, I am amazed at the strong sense love and compassion I feel for myself. It is so very different to the every day chatter and judgement of my mind and is so easy to access if I just simply stop and take the time to acknowledge my feeling. I actually do truly love and respect the wise woman I have grown into in 55 years. However it will take constant practice to calm the habitual mind chatter that is harsh and critical of a lifetime. I look forward to this journey 😊
The inner shift is a sense of relaxation. It is a release of tension and constriction. It allows for a sort of inner sigh of relief and a rising of hopefulness.
The topic itself, especially Tara’s next topic, feeling guilty about hurting someone, was itself cathartic, as I suffer with this, and approaching this sore hurt part of me with the tenderness and compassion that was being practiced here was helpful, hopeful. I look forward to hearing what Tara has to share. I am especially grateful for these short, free video courses, that offer deep healing ideas. Much appreciated. Blessings. Franklin
very Interesting. I will share it with my contacts.
amen
Placing my hand on my heart, and feeling compassion for myself actually made me more acutely aware of how many deep layers of pain and suffering are inside me just crying out for that compassion. I can offer that compassion to myself, but somehow it feels lonely and empty, when what I really crave is to receive that love and compassion from truly caring friends, or a loving partner that I don’t have. I am so lonely!
I don’t know why it didn’t post my full name. It is Karen FitzGerald
It’s always lovely to hear from you, Tara. Thank you for so much warmth in your teachings. And those three steps, how much they help to accept ourselves radically!
Not so clear….meaning it didn’t stay with the kindness but shifted to the pain I still feel, the void of my lonliness, not being enjoyed, not being enough for me to have fun with myself. Seeing the pattern of how I picked that up from my parent and passed that on to to my son….It started with the gesture of kindness, telling myself I am enough, I am lovable, fun and that I am here for myself, but it shifted to the feelings that aren’t yet resolved.
I’ve been at this for over 40 years. It seems to be getting worse and worse. More and more overwhelming. Have experienced high level teachings and experiences. Should be ‘enlightened’ by now. Oh God!
Why do narratives like this play noise (‘music’) in the background. It’s extremely annoying.
“I am ok” making me feel like I am enough. The world can feel so unkind with angry people. This simple reminder underlines the need for me to be the kindness the world so needs.
You are not the problem. Most people need to work on empathy and compassion with their selves and everyone else.
My adult son has Bipolar disorder and sounds very similar.
Great joker and a pure delight.
Be yourself and love your self 💗
I’m still working that, no easy feat for the masses.
Is a transcript available for these videos?
Resistance and all the armor built for protection at the time it was needed. Needing lots of practice!
I flashed back to an experience of myself as a younger version of me. At that time, I was a new mother looking out the window, realizing that I was really on my own in a new space. I did not have a lot of support at the time.
Seeing this scene and where I am now at sixty three, gave me a sense of ongoing discovery. Hope in knowing there is always space to learn new things.
Practicing kindness towards myself connects me to the Universe of Love which is always available to me. The more I understand the Harmony of Science and Spirituality, the more I can develop my talents. I can learn and grow.
Placing the hand on the heart, feeling the beating of it caused that actually being busy maybe never really payed attention and cared about. Feelings of warm waves, relaxing and letting go.
Kindness to myself involves being more patient and less demanding of myself as I move into retirement
I smiled at myself and felt a playful joy.
I feel joy and love. I‘m already use it with clients ♥️
I am happy for the lesson and I hope to practice it so I can pay it forward.
I love Tara’s voice.
Thank you for this wisdom. This will help me when guiding women with addictions. Often they are shut off from their feelings and when to start sobriety they do not know how to handle emotions coming up. This is part of the tools I will teach them and encourage them to practice. Thank you for sharing.
Paula Owen
I felt loneliness and sorrow. Reminded me of a time when I felt more connected to my friends and makes me feel the need for a partner I can connect deeply with. It also brought up reflections about ways that I judge potential partners as not good enough.
I will bring this into sessions with my clients who feel lonely and struggle with letting other people in and especially the ones who struggle with partner love.
So much about this webinar helped me understand the challenges of helping clients feel safe.
a feeling of expansion… of calm
A headache. I suspect because the gesture seems forced, artificial. At best, that probably means I need to practice and give it a chance.
I tried telling myself ‘I love you’, but I felt uncomfortable with that, and instead said ‘you are loved’ and immediately thought of my family and friends and loved ones, and felt cared for. I have started to do this more and more when I feel overwhelmed with sadness as I go through the emotions of a breakup. It’s the first time I am doing this and it does help to pause the negative self-talk, or over-analysis, and reminds me that I am still loved no matter what. Thank you for this video and a reminder of how powerful mindfulness and self-compassion are to my healing
Ahhhhh….feels calming. I know I deserve self kindness, and sometimes I forget that things that happened in my earlier life were not my fault. it’s a belief so deeply ingrained that I forget.
I felt relief and support, nourishment, esp. on the heels of an exclusionary situation.
All the anxiety melts…
It is hard to be judgmental and critical when I envision myself as a child or even my little dachshund as a puppy. My heart opens and I can say “ I love you; you are wonderful just the way you are. “ I feel calmer and more open, not tight and critical and wanting to move into action to somehow punish or defeat my “bad” self.
A sense of ease and release
I find that I judge others and saw what that my thoughts go to judging myself and how mean I am towards my thoughts about them. I hate myself for it. 😭😭😢 my tummy hurts
“I am enough “ what is helpful in getting there are Tara’s instructions are how to get there. 💕
I am working on self-forgiveness that is over 50 years old. I am able to express kindness in many ways.
Although, now at 88, and continuing in the work of service, I feel an opening.
I acknowledge being a Feldenkrais practitioner helps. However, your simple 3 steps are so powerful. The simple practice of naming is so helpful.
thank you Tara and Ruth
At 66 years old I continue to search out and listen for those really quiet and negative thoughts. Just when I think I’m making progress, I drop a glass and it shatters and I call myself names, just like my father did. Useless, stupid idiot, etc.
I will continue to listen to you and employ the awareness steps in hopes that I too can not be my thoughts. Because I sure do feel awful when I call myself names. Thanks Tara
Thank you so much Tara… I felt hopeful and happy.
I have been fallowing you for years … and I still find it important to have a refresher every once in a while … Thank you for your teaching 🌹
Stillness to be able to feel. Not in touch with my feelings usually or overwhelmed. Now I feel some compassion to myself.
I felt supported and cared for and loved by Self and Guides, with soothing openings, energy flow, warm healing. I felt grateful for this beautiful, simple, heart-felt practice. I will apply it, share it, remind myself, give myself kindness, give others more kindness. Thank you.
Thanks so much for this Tara. We healers do need to heal ourselves. When I put my hand on my heart it brought tears to my eyes. I have been living with self judgment and critiquing all my life. I was heavily critiqued in childhood and in several relationships. While never feeling not enough, I have worked hard to convince others of their worthiness, that they are enough, while not truly believing it for myself. I have work to do. Blessings
I have had years of self-doubt. I have been practicing mindfulness and as my practice strengthens, so does my connection to my heart. Thank you for these opportunities to deepen my connection to forgiveness.
oh Tara. thank you again.
I felt sadness and compassion almost simultaneously. I am loving myself more and more. What a Joy to finally meet myself. (Mel Robbins) High Five method incorporated into my morning routine, with Loving Compassion Training, I am feeling and being more Authentic.
Namaste
I felt sadness.
I appreciate this video so much!
Hearing you explain something i have for years tried to use with my clients has helped me feel …. at peace with what for me was an instinct. Yes it does work! ( I find client openess is a factor )
Viewing myself as suffering (I never thought of it that way before) allows me to have more compassion for myself. When suffering, I’m harder on myself rather than being more compassionate. Thank you for the video. I’m thinking of a client I can use this with right away.
Doubts. My first response is usually. Doubt. A voice about this being unnecessary. Impatience with my process.
This video helped me to acknowledge the depths of pain that I am living with as I care for my husband who has a terminal neuro degenerative condition. I need to name the pain and actively show myself kindness and compassion and not be afraid to let others see that a I am suffering. Such a relief to let go and be real.
Hi,
Thank you for the video.
i found this gesture of Kindness practice really Powerfull. The feeling of peace came straight instantly and that i no need to be jujging myself anymore, that ,if i care for myself,something bigger joining me and helping me in that.