Very interesting and practical video. I will try it on myself and my adults patients. but I see mostly children and I wonder how to adapt your exercises to them.
Sometimes I’m in touch with the feeling of simply being a human being and I recognize I am not alone, that this is what human beings suffer and that when we understand and forgive “ourselves” we are doing it for “us”
This opened up a deep well and inner outpouring of, “I am so sorry.” The depth of grieving and crying was so powerfully felt, was revealing, clearing, opening. My lower belly and breathing feel integrated in my body. I know that I can now better share my deep sorrow to my beloved for my not having confronted my late mother effectively, though my soulmate did not ask that of me. My mother tried to inflict emotional and psychological damage to my spouse, and harm to our marriage, multiple times through covert and overt actions, behaviors, and words, all with no remorse. Though I still feel sorrow about what my wife and I went through, I am forgiving myself and am experiencing more compassion and acceptance of self. Our union and marriage have remained blessed and strong for 28 years next month. We continue growing side-by-side. Thank you for this powerful practice, which I will share.
These videos have shown me that acknowledging feelings of unworthiness and responding to them with self compassion will lead to the closeness I desire in my relationships.
Calise Taylor, Marriage/Family Therapy, APPLE VALLEY, CA, USAsays
Without forgiving self, the pain one feels continues and is at the core of who we think we are. Since we feel we are not good enough, we are kept from moving forward–and from having the relationships that we really want. Since retirement, I have told myself on a daily basis how inadequate I am. It is like a broken record and has become a continued thought pattern. Even though I have retired, I have thought about continuing some LMFT work. However, I have thought to myself, “How can I work with people again, while feeling so inadequate?”
You are such a good teacher. I am so glad that I found you. I am learning to be a good student in the hope that I can also be a good teacher to a few. Thank you Tara. You are a light of love.
Hope to have the opportunity to love my daughter more. I think she doesn’t need me but that is my insecurity talking. Both my children and grandchildren will benefit from my enlightened consciousness and deepest live.
I try to care with kindness for my aging Mother.She often twists or picks at my words and actions and I lose my patience. This dance creates a wall between us instead of connection. Holding us both in kindness helps.
so true. I have a better relationship with self and I have noticed that my judgement and rage is lessening and my comfort level at being around people is much better.
The noise of judgement was so strong in me that I couldn’t see BEAUTY even when handed to me. All I saw was the perceived flaws.
I understand now that they were self conceptions that I projected.
As I learn self love and acceptance, The World is less intimidating and harsh .
I heard of You, Tara, 20 years ago and I am now able to watch and HEAR you.
Thank you for your Journey
It would leave my clients feeling lighter and less weighted down with heavy feelings. Feeling lighter can allow for more compassion and good feelings and thoughts to flow
Cr Wineburg. LCSW
This short imagination helped me a lot to look at my unpleasant reactions on a deeper relational level, empathizing with both myself and the other person. Which in turn brought about more feelings of connection. Thank you for the impulses.
thank you so much for this awakening, wow this is beautiful and exactly what I have been struggling with finding self love is very hard for me, I am always walking on eggshells, can never find words. thank you so much for the access bro these videos
The concept of identifying suffering and naming it is so helpful; not just pushing thoughts and feelings aside but going with them and realising that they are not my identity, they are just thoughts and emotions which will pass anyway.
helped me understand situations where I have beaten myself up. I can see alternative ways of viewing, that I can look for MY suffering as well as the other persons. start to try and give myself compassion as well as the other person. thanks tara
This has helped me identify the ways I turn blame inwards to become shame. Then shrink with the loss of self worth that brings. Thank you. Your meditation would be wonderful to receive.
I find I can’t do this in all sincerity. I need to keep asking myself to forgive the hurt I caused my daughter. I’m surprised because we talked about this and I thought I had made progress, but the closeness didn’t last… I’m guessing it is because I can’t really forgive myself and want it to come from her. Thanks for the challenge. I think it’s a key.
Thank you for access to these videos I really needed to hear this today having heard of the loss of a life time friend I have lots of emotions spinning inside
This has been a tough thing for me to do. My husband has anger issues and I know there is a lot of self-loathing within him, and always trying to prove himself worthy. I am working on self-compassion within myself but not sure how that is going to help him.
I find my healing is activating the person I referenced for the exercise, and so forgiving myself seems to cause them to hold even tighter onto past ways and beliefs so it’s again challenging and helpful because necessary to address before more damage is done to the relationship but it’s gonna be likely brutal regardless
I feel like practicing self compassion and forgiveness will allow me to do a better job at communicating in a more compassionate and kind way in all my relationships
When I let go of shame and guilt, I feel more loving towards myself and my heart opens. I get in touch with my resiliency and capacity to act adequate and in a new, adult, loving way.
If I could forgive myself for feeling guilty, my relationship would flow more easily because we’d communicate better, more openly, honestly and without fear.
Forgiving myself and staying connected to the feelings with compassion, frees the mind and opens the heart to new and creative possibilities in every moment. Thank you!
this has been very valuable to me. i often struggle with how to be a better wife, daughter, person in this world. it becomes overwhelming. but to know that it can start with being a better person to myself, the idea becomes manageable.
Recognising that I’m not my anger frees me from the sense that I’m a bad person or that there’s something wrong with me. This allows me to identify more with loving awareness, both in relation to myself and others.
Forgiving themselfs and being more kinder with themselfs helped yhem understand others sufference better and be more kind and compassionate with others as well
Healing my own hurts and comprehending my partner and where he is coming from. this meditation and short talk stirred an understanding in me.
-baby k
Very interesting and practical video. I will try it on myself and my adults patients. but I see mostly children and I wonder how to adapt your exercises to them.
Sometimes I’m in touch with the feeling of simply being a human being and I recognize I am not alone, that this is what human beings suffer and that when we understand and forgive “ourselves” we are doing it for “us”
This opened up a deep well and inner outpouring of, “I am so sorry.” The depth of grieving and crying was so powerfully felt, was revealing, clearing, opening. My lower belly and breathing feel integrated in my body. I know that I can now better share my deep sorrow to my beloved for my not having confronted my late mother effectively, though my soulmate did not ask that of me. My mother tried to inflict emotional and psychological damage to my spouse, and harm to our marriage, multiple times through covert and overt actions, behaviors, and words, all with no remorse. Though I still feel sorrow about what my wife and I went through, I am forgiving myself and am experiencing more compassion and acceptance of self. Our union and marriage have remained blessed and strong for 28 years next month. We continue growing side-by-side. Thank you for this powerful practice, which I will share.
These videos have shown me that acknowledging feelings of unworthiness and responding to them with self compassion will lead to the closeness I desire in my relationships.
Without forgiving self, the pain one feels continues and is at the core of who we think we are. Since we feel we are not good enough, we are kept from moving forward–and from having the relationships that we really want. Since retirement, I have told myself on a daily basis how inadequate I am. It is like a broken record and has become a continued thought pattern. Even though I have retired, I have thought about continuing some LMFT work. However, I have thought to myself, “How can I work with people again, while feeling so inadequate?”
I would like the free guided meditation
You are such a good teacher. I am so glad that I found you. I am learning to be a good student in the hope that I can also be a good teacher to a few. Thank you Tara. You are a light of love.
Hope to have the opportunity to love my daughter more. I think she doesn’t need me but that is my insecurity talking. Both my children and grandchildren will benefit from my enlightened consciousness and deepest live.
I try to care with kindness for my aging Mother.She often twists or picks at my words and actions and I lose my patience. This dance creates a wall between us instead of connection. Holding us both in kindness helps.
I innately avoid intimate relationships to prevent feeling vulnerable and being hurt.
so true. I have a better relationship with self and I have noticed that my judgement and rage is lessening and my comfort level at being around people is much better.
The noise of judgement was so strong in me that I couldn’t see BEAUTY even when handed to me. All I saw was the perceived flaws.
I understand now that they were self conceptions that I projected.
As I learn self love and acceptance, The World is less intimidating and harsh .
I heard of You, Tara, 20 years ago and I am now able to watch and HEAR you.
Thank you for your Journey
It would leave my clients feeling lighter and less weighted down with heavy feelings. Feeling lighter can allow for more compassion and good feelings and thoughts to flow
Cr Wineburg. LCSW
Genuine forgiveness would help clients to be less guarded and more open and available to connect with themselves and with others.
Healing the inner child!
This short imagination helped me a lot to look at my unpleasant reactions on a deeper relational level, empathizing with both myself and the other person. Which in turn brought about more feelings of connection. Thank you for the impulses.
When I love myself I can love others
thank you so much for this awakening, wow this is beautiful and exactly what I have been struggling with finding self love is very hard for me, I am always walking on eggshells, can never find words. thank you so much for the access bro these videos
When imagining forgiving myself within a relationship it led to sensing an ease with the other person rather than feeling awkward.
This exercise helped me imagine not hiding away from the person I hurt, but rather re-engaging with them from a loving place.
The concept of identifying suffering and naming it is so helpful; not just pushing thoughts and feelings aside but going with them and realising that they are not my identity, they are just thoughts and emotions which will pass anyway.
helped me understand situations where I have beaten myself up. I can see alternative ways of viewing, that I can look for MY suffering as well as the other persons. start to try and give myself compassion as well as the other person. thanks tara
This has helped me identify the ways I turn blame inwards to become shame. Then shrink with the loss of self worth that brings. Thank you. Your meditation would be wonderful to receive.
I can imagine genuine self-forgiveness will lead to feeling worthy of love, help walls come down, allowing love to flow in…and flow out more freely.
I find I can’t do this in all sincerity. I need to keep asking myself to forgive the hurt I caused my daughter. I’m surprised because we talked about this and I thought I had made progress, but the closeness didn’t last… I’m guessing it is because I can’t really forgive myself and want it to come from her. Thanks for the challenge. I think it’s a key.
Thank you for access to these videos I really needed to hear this today having heard of the loss of a life time friend I have lots of emotions spinning inside
Wonderful approach to come to acceptance by considering what a good friend would advise around a shameful feeling – thank you
This has been a tough thing for me to do. My husband has anger issues and I know there is a lot of self-loathing within him, and always trying to prove himself worthy. I am working on self-compassion within myself but not sure how that is going to help him.
I find my healing is activating the person I referenced for the exercise, and so forgiving myself seems to cause them to hold even tighter onto past ways and beliefs so it’s again challenging and helpful because necessary to address before more damage is done to the relationship but it’s gonna be likely brutal regardless
I will be more open to being loved and appreciated by people in my life
I feel like practicing self compassion and forgiveness will allow me to do a better job at communicating in a more compassionate and kind way in all my relationships
I would be able to be present with the relationship again
I feel being able to forgive myself, would make my relationships healthier, and easier
I would be more honest and open.
less defensive
thanks
Whoa. I’ve realized that I have to start with the relationship I have with myself.
Would give me peace and the love I crave
It would help me live life more fully, relating to others with less judgement and more acceptance.
When I let go of shame and guilt, I feel more loving towards myself and my heart opens. I get in touch with my resiliency and capacity to act adequate and in a new, adult, loving way.
allow them to reach acceptance and move forward
If I could forgive myself for feeling guilty, my relationship would flow more easily because we’d communicate better, more openly, honestly and without fear.
Forgiving myself and staying connected to the feelings with compassion, frees the mind and opens the heart to new and creative possibilities in every moment. Thank you!
this has been very valuable to me. i often struggle with how to be a better wife, daughter, person in this world. it becomes overwhelming. but to know that it can start with being a better person to myself, the idea becomes manageable.
There is no amount of guilt that can change the past and no amount of anxiety that can change the future.
Recognising that I’m not my anger frees me from the sense that I’m a bad person or that there’s something wrong with me. This allows me to identify more with loving awareness, both in relation to myself and others.
Thank you Tara, this is so helpful. The connection and feeling of self-compassion opens new possibilities.
Forgiving themselfs and being more kinder with themselfs helped yhem understand others sufference better and be more kind and compassionate with others as well
Forgiving the self opens the door to connection with others.
Very helpful
these videos are a wonderful resource