Very helpful in looking at how I was treated as a child and how I have passed that on to members of my family. Thank you dear Tara for all of the gifts you bestow on those of us who listen to your videos and guided meditations
loving myself is my biggest challenge
forgiving myself for not always being kind and for hurting those I love the most is hard and instead punish myself with
feelings of shame and not being good enough being trapped here means I can not fully love and I can not to be grateful for who I am as I am …a being of light
This came at a perfect time for me. Just yesterday I was hurt and used words that were hurtful with my best friend. I have felt so awful and have apologized profusely. But my friend isn’t able to talk about it yet. Not only because he may not be ready but because of some commitments in his life. I feel so awful and I’ve been beating myself up – which I hardly ever do anymore. But this has really messed me up. I’m sure it is pointing to a core wound and hopefully healing.
By empowerimg clients to combine self responsibility, self compassion and self forgiveness we can support them to find that place where we recognise the imperfections and mistakes that are common to all of us. Some mistakes are more serious than others but all arise from a feeling of lack or unworthiness or very painful life experiences..
thank you for all your work, Tara
I am a Dramatherapist working with clients that suffer from extreme judgements towards them selves. This often makes suffering and destructive behaviour grow.. so I think that trying to work those profound judgments about the self will have a signifying result on their lives. I realise though by trying the excercice briefly how hard it is to even realise that we are blaming ourselves, it comes often so naturally that we hardly notice. Thank you for bringing this on the surface 🙏🏼
Jennifer Belmonte, Psychotherapy, Grand Rapids, MI, USAsays
Thank you, Tara! I appreciate how through curiosity and compassion, the client was able to offer safety and presence for his 11 year old self! Beautiful work!
Tara, these 3 videos show me I am not alone in this constant struggle to be compassionate and kind to myself and change my self- hatred. I pray that practicing with your videos, will produce the deep healing I need.
Sandra Geary LCSW, MAC, Social Work, Gallup, NM, USAsays
I had a bubbling up of laughter during the meditation, and a deep appreciation for my husband’s ability to defuse tension with compassionate humor. Thank you for the exercise and question.
I’ve experienced similar situation to Sam and struggle with the outbursts and shame and anger that follows, hurting significant other the same way I was hurt. Opposite of how I want to be!! The last exercise gives me some recognition and hope but I don’t know how to maintain ‘the pause’ and the self forgiveness and compassion, other than, in previous video to just keep at it over and over. Any supplemental suggestions greatly appreciated. Thank you for this life changing opportunity. I am also a nurse and can use this in my work.
I appreciate the acknowledgment of vengeance as part of guilt and shame! I look forward to offering self-forgiveness as a method to form stronger trust relationships with oneself and with others. Thank you, Tara!
Brenda Thomas, Another Field, Madison, WI, USAsays
Thank you so much for all your inspired work Tara Brach. I’ve found it very helpful.
I understand that treating our negativity with compassion opens the doors of healing. Maybe you will answer this in the course, but I have a question regarding the origins of the negative reactivities, thoughts. Is it important to identify the origin of negative thoughts/behaviors in order to heal? I have more vague feelings and know the circumstantial situations that make sense in terms of eliciying negative patterns, but I don’t remember (have tried for years) exact moments in my childhood. Are those memories essential for healing?
I chose to consider my relationship with my sister because I thought she might be more understanding about how powerless I feel about abandoning her when she reached out for help. I have never addressed my failure of her and I avoid thinking about it to this day.
Thanks for sharing this powerful exercise
. It helped me to recognize that distance from a friend was not my fault, and it’s okay to move forward while wishing her well.
Very helpful in looking at how I was treated as a child and how I have passed that on to members of my family. Thank you dear Tara for all of the gifts you bestow on those of us who listen to your videos and guided meditations
I recognize the truth in the concept.
Thank you, Tara. Very timely, as you say, and encourages each of us to continue on our path.
For sure my shame did no good to anybody
Thank you for the lovely exercise, much appreciated!
loving myself is my biggest challenge
forgiving myself for not always being kind and for hurting those I love the most is hard and instead punish myself with
feelings of shame and not being good enough being trapped here means I can not fully love and I can not to be grateful for who I am as I am …a being of light
continuing my comment above….I am
a being of light and a human being both
Thank you for everything you do Tara!
Thank you Tara 🙏
I hoping I will stop feeling like a bad parent, I am doing ok and in turn, my adopted child will feel more connected to me.
So much truth in this path through self-acceptance. Thank you for articulating it so clearly.
This came at a perfect time for me. Just yesterday I was hurt and used words that were hurtful with my best friend. I have felt so awful and have apologized profusely. But my friend isn’t able to talk about it yet. Not only because he may not be ready but because of some commitments in his life. I feel so awful and I’ve been beating myself up – which I hardly ever do anymore. But this has really messed me up. I’m sure it is pointing to a core wound and hopefully healing.
Liberating exercise. Thank you!
Thank you Tara.
Thank you
Has my guilt and shame helped me be any more peaceful and confident? Something I’m working on right now.
Realizing that’s the guilt on how I treated others it’s only in my heart, and I need to heal my heart with loving and accepting myself.
By empowerimg clients to combine self responsibility, self compassion and self forgiveness we can support them to find that place where we recognise the imperfections and mistakes that are common to all of us. Some mistakes are more serious than others but all arise from a feeling of lack or unworthiness or very painful life experiences..
thank you for all your work, Tara
Having the sense of another acknowledging you is very powerful. We all want to feel okay about who we are.
thank you for sharing Tara 🩷
I am a Dramatherapist working with clients that suffer from extreme judgements towards them selves. This often makes suffering and destructive behaviour grow.. so I think that trying to work those profound judgments about the self will have a signifying result on their lives. I realise though by trying the excercice briefly how hard it is to even realise that we are blaming ourselves, it comes often so naturally that we hardly notice. Thank you for bringing this on the surface 🙏🏼
Thank you, Tara! I appreciate how through curiosity and compassion, the client was able to offer safety and presence for his 11 year old self! Beautiful work!
By being less angry
Tara, these 3 videos show me I am not alone in this constant struggle to be compassionate and kind to myself and change my self- hatred. I pray that practicing with your videos, will produce the deep healing I need.
Forgiving myself would stop me being so judgmental of others
Beautiful session. Thank you. Self-hatred drives so many unhealthy behaviors. Opening the door to self-forgiveness can move mountains.
It will be long – lasting forgiveness, not fleeting.
I had a bubbling up of laughter during the meditation, and a deep appreciation for my husband’s ability to defuse tension with compassionate humor. Thank you for the exercise and question.
Simple steps to keep in mind when old memories of not being good enough come to the surface in present situations. Thank you Tara for reminding me!
I’ve experienced similar situation to Sam and struggle with the outbursts and shame and anger that follows, hurting significant other the same way I was hurt. Opposite of how I want to be!! The last exercise gives me some recognition and hope but I don’t know how to maintain ‘the pause’ and the self forgiveness and compassion, other than, in previous video to just keep at it over and over. Any supplemental suggestions greatly appreciated. Thank you for this life changing opportunity. I am also a nurse and can use this in my work.
I would like to have the guided meditation and information about your special program. I am a counselor. Thank you.
Thank you.
I appreciate the acknowledgment of vengeance as part of guilt and shame! I look forward to offering self-forgiveness as a method to form stronger trust relationships with oneself and with others. Thank you, Tara!
Strengthens one’s base from which to attempt resolution of conflict in a more hopeful and gentle way.
Thank you for this entire series!
Challenging to practice
Genuine forgiveness frees us from overcompensating for our perceived sins and allows us to love and live more lightly, freely and genuinely.
Interesting
This was a lovely reminder. Thank you.
I would be more able to show compassion for others
Thank you so much for all your inspired work Tara Brach. I’ve found it very helpful.
I understand that treating our negativity with compassion opens the doors of healing. Maybe you will answer this in the course, but I have a question regarding the origins of the negative reactivities, thoughts. Is it important to identify the origin of negative thoughts/behaviors in order to heal? I have more vague feelings and know the circumstantial situations that make sense in terms of eliciying negative patterns, but I don’t remember (have tried for years) exact moments in my childhood. Are those memories essential for healing?
Thank you!
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I chose to consider my relationship with my sister because I thought she might be more understanding about how powerless I feel about abandoning her when she reached out for help. I have never addressed my failure of her and I avoid thinking about it to this day.
It seems like a rom com with the perfect happy ending. Nothing’s perfect This is for doctors and counselors
Thanks for sharing this powerful exercise
. It helped me to recognize that distance from a friend was not my fault, and it’s okay to move forward while wishing her well.
Practicing self compassion opens me up to make genuine connections with others. No barriers, no walls.
Looking forward to the guided meditation with Tara Brach. Really appreciate it
Valuable video with strong and helpful messages!
Michelle