I would not feel as threatened & insecure if I could really feel like I was a good person & that my anger was not my fault; I would let the fear inside me subside some.
Hi Tara I’ve been listening to your podcast for a few months and I love it now I never experienced meditation or the things that you teach I have learned so much about self healing and thank you for this video I can relate in alot of ways with my journey of self healing and recovery from depression Vivian Gotham ❤️🤗
I have had feelings of guilt & remorse about a relationship for over 20 years. I had always hoped that the relationship would solidify itself in a satisfactory way, but issues within it have become larger & more destructive. I’m so ashamed of my role that I’ve never shared what happened with anyone, and therefore, not had any tools to use to repair the relationship or myself. This talk is a great gift.
That it’s OK to acknowledge my feelings even if I can’t like them!! And they are not the whole of me! I can still love and accept myself and it is important to me and those I love that I do so. Thanks for your teaching Tara. I find your explanations and story telling make my learning come to life!! Even after many years of practice and mindfulness work with clients.
Interesting that when I say to myself – it’s not my fault – I tend to then look for where the fault lies and that it could be the other person and I realise that is not the answer! It’s tough…
BRIAN STEPPACHER, Other, South Portland, ME, USAsays
I have felt unworthy and inconsequential, sub-human, at times. More recently I have become a happier, outspoken and confident person expressing my feelings and thoughts which I am reprimanded for now. I feel guilt again. It is like falling and catching myself over and over again. It is a deepening spiral as I attempt to right myself again and again. As I become more self accepting and aware of myself worth, it will become easier to find an equilibrium between myself and others, but that’s life. Take heart.
I’ve enjoyed listening how is possible to accept our self and looking into my mistakes with more sensibility and understanding that can give me totally new point of view when accepting myself and other. Great questions. Thank you!
Im thinking on the comment you shared from Mother Theresa and the loneliness felt when in shame.The self-judgement/criticism that occurs the try to be accepted, to belong again.
I find it very difficult to forgive myself not having reached and built the life which would make me happy. I always think it is my fault. I forget that this world is tough to find a place in where you feel secure.
So its time to forgive and see it isnt my fault and still continue trying to built it
I’m reminded to move from judgement, and trying to protect myself emotionally by distancing, to turning towards what is, looking at it lovingly and with acceptance and allowing myself to feel the connection with oneness again.
I have learned how to forgive myself over the past few years with the help of your book “Radical Compassion, podcasts and my spiritual practices with Iyanla Vanzant.
Holding onto the errors of our ways, mistakes we’ve made, and beating ourselves up with guilt and shame causes us to be stuck in our thoughts. Using Tara’s RAIN method, allows us to change our mindset through recognizing, acknowledging, investigating and nurturing ourselves with the knowledge we gain from noticing our thoughts, acknowledging our thoughts, reflections on where the triggers come from, and the ability to treat ourselves with love and compassion as opposed to being critical of our self.
Thank you Tara for these wonderful podcasts that allow us to be our best self.
Lovely Tara, Thank you so much for the deep and healing re-frame …of helping me move forward, maybe, in one of the most precious relationships of my life. Thank you so much for addressing this and for your beautiful wisdom and heart.
Forgiving myself and practicing self-acceptance lets me feel human and less god-like. I feel an increased connection with reality and so more grounded and able to be in the present. This in turn helps me be less reactive, which is largely been where the behaviour I judge comes from.
I would not feel as threatened & insecure if I could really feel like I was a good person & that my anger was not my fault; I would let the fear inside me subside some.
Hi Tara I’ve been listening to your podcast for a few months and I love it now I never experienced meditation or the things that you teach I have learned so much about self healing and thank you for this video I can relate in alot of ways with my journey of self healing and recovery from depression Vivian Gotham ❤️🤗
I have had feelings of guilt & remorse about a relationship for over 20 years. I had always hoped that the relationship would solidify itself in a satisfactory way, but issues within it have become larger & more destructive. I’m so ashamed of my role that I’ve never shared what happened with anyone, and therefore, not had any tools to use to repair the relationship or myself. This talk is a great gift.
thanks so much Tara
That it’s OK to acknowledge my feelings even if I can’t like them!! And they are not the whole of me! I can still love and accept myself and it is important to me and those I love that I do so. Thanks for your teaching Tara. I find your explanations and story telling make my learning come to life!! Even after many years of practice and mindfulness work with clients.
Interesting that when I say to myself – it’s not my fault – I tend to then look for where the fault lies and that it could be the other person and I realise that is not the answer! It’s tough…
Very helpful both for myself and client work. Thank you Tarah
Looking back, I now know that I am capable of showing compassion to both myself and others. Thank you
It is such a great exercice. It helps me to center.
thank you for sharing! It is an ongoing proces, R.A.I.N is very helpfull, especially the A and N. 🙂
I have felt unworthy and inconsequential, sub-human, at times. More recently I have become a happier, outspoken and confident person expressing my feelings and thoughts which I am reprimanded for now. I feel guilt again. It is like falling and catching myself over and over again. It is a deepening spiral as I attempt to right myself again and again. As I become more self accepting and aware of myself worth, it will become easier to find an equilibrium between myself and others, but that’s life. Take heart.
Very Interesting & Reflective Thank you !!!
This feels a never ending process.
I’ve enjoyed listening how is possible to accept our self and looking into my mistakes with more sensibility and understanding that can give me totally new point of view when accepting myself and other. Great questions. Thank you!
V helpful thank you
Iamgoing to write a letter to a special person that I have neglected since COVID
Im thinking on the comment you shared from Mother Theresa and the loneliness felt when in shame.The self-judgement/criticism that occurs the try to be accepted, to belong again.
I’m finding it difficult to fully understand where self forgiveness enriches my relationships with those dearest to me.
I suppose it would help me to forgive myself and therefore forgive my loved ones.
Forgiving myself helps me to let go of regurgitating the past and see what today and tomorrow will bring with openness and loving kindness.
Thank you very helpfull, for me and my clients🙏🙏
Thank you for this series
Great program. Helpful in my own healing and to share with clients. Thank you.
Hoping this will help a friend.
Thank you so much for sharing, Tara!
I find it very difficult to forgive myself not having reached and built the life which would make me happy. I always think it is my fault. I forget that this world is tough to find a place in where you feel secure.
So its time to forgive and see it isnt my fault and still continue trying to built it
Thank you fir this
Our heart connection is very important to us…
Thank you Tara
I’m reminded to move from judgement, and trying to protect myself emotionally by distancing, to turning towards what is, looking at it lovingly and with acceptance and allowing myself to feel the connection with oneness again.
They are great questions. I can see how they would work. Thank you.
We have to be able to forgive ourselves in order to be able to forgive others.
Its ok to forgive yourself – it does help the future
Not always easy to do but worth keep trying
It’s freeing, leaving space for creating connections with self and others.
I have struggled to image self acceptance, I feel empty
I am realising the importance of forgiving myself for misplaced trust in others, and that this is maybe more important than forgiving anyone else.
I have learned how to forgive myself over the past few years with the help of your book “Radical Compassion, podcasts and my spiritual practices with Iyanla Vanzant.
Holding onto the errors of our ways, mistakes we’ve made, and beating ourselves up with guilt and shame causes us to be stuck in our thoughts. Using Tara’s RAIN method, allows us to change our mindset through recognizing, acknowledging, investigating and nurturing ourselves with the knowledge we gain from noticing our thoughts, acknowledging our thoughts, reflections on where the triggers come from, and the ability to treat ourselves with love and compassion as opposed to being critical of our self.
Thank you Tara for these wonderful podcasts that allow us to be our best self.
I can so relate to this
it has been 8 years since I have been separated due to *my folly*! and am still coming to terms with it
thank u Tara! 🙂
building more forgiveness brings in new level of trust and awareness into our personal space
Thank you Tara,
I love the use of the word yet, it is very powerful!
When forgiving myself: I became softer, bigger in a way, more inner silence and more aware of the other
Very useful
some of the angst seem to leave…leaving a space for hope going forward..N-j0y
Lovely Tara, Thank you so much for the deep and healing re-frame …of helping me move forward, maybe, in one of the most precious relationships of my life. Thank you so much for addressing this and for your beautiful wisdom and heart.
Thank you!
I think that genuinely forgiving self will make me feel free and light and more loving with more energy to to give.
Thank you so much.
I love that it gives you space to allow perspective and compassion for the humanness of yourself and the person you are in relationship with💙
I loved to head about the African proverb. A beautiful addition.
Forgiving myself and practicing self-acceptance lets me feel human and less god-like. I feel an increased connection with reality and so more grounded and able to be in the present. This in turn helps me be less reactive, which is largely been where the behaviour I judge comes from.