Self-blame comes easily for me. It has been difficult to feel anything but self-blame. Evidence of my mistakes was so evident.
I work daily on my releasing this garbage and living myself wholly.
This was hard process for me, to finally accept to forgive and be compassionate with myself. finally I feel peace and my relationship with others and mainly with self
Selfblame gave me a small life,
for years and years,
now its not gone,
it’s not who I am
and
slowly I am able to see what I am doing
and what the results are
I wonder why
Francine Porter, Another Field, Clarkdale, AZ, USAsays
Difficult to focus on myself. To be kind to myself without reason. I keep bringing the other person into the reasoning which brings be to feeling defensive. I need practice
When I ponder that question I feel my body soften and my head clears. I feel a bit of peace and maybe even a bit of trust. I so long for the intimacy I took for granted on my primary relationship …
I had been feeling bad about being jealous of a friend who recently had a success.
It felt comforting to give myself compassion for this feeling of lack and not being good enough, rather than trying to avoid the feeling or rush into sympathetic joy.
This video creates “hope” for self-healing through self-forgiveness and that contrary to what might be expected, this act of kindness to self creates greater responsibility for emotional regulation and responding wisely to others. Thank you very much for this awareness.
Kerry Richardson
It wasn’t easy because I feel like I still hold myself accountable for my actions and can’t let go of feeling like I’m choosing my actions. I know some of it is rooted in unhealthy patterns I’ve had in previous relationships but I can’t help but think that I need to be a more active catalyst in that change. Sometimes mindfulness doesn’t seem active enough – though through your teachings I understand how the subtlety of self-compassion may help heal over time.
Monika Aranha, Stress Management, St. John, VI, USAsays
Thank you! I hope to use this to help my husband who is going through some tough times. I also guide healing yoga sessions that address the emotional body.
I felt that I think by further practice I will gain that self-acceptance I would like to achieve. It’s definitely a hard road to travel and learn but I will try. Namaste!
Breathing deeply as you have coached, I focused on dear old friends, a couple I’ve known for decades, who I am struggling not to judge and be annoyed by. I think, with further practice, this teaching can help me along that way.
Mark Molofsky
Talking to myself as a kind friend allows me to have compassion for myself. It allows me to view myself as a child of God who is doing her best despite her shortcomings.
Natalia Malley, Another Field, Fairfax, VA, USAsays
Offering yourself self-compassion would allow you to move out of anger and soften your heart… which would transform interactions with others into a place of resolution and healing. Thank you, Tara, for all of your guidance. Your work has helped me through the most difficult time of my life… and continues to. As much as I would love to participate in this program, the price makes it in a trainable for me, unfortunately.
I’ve treated others beautifully but I’ve made mistakes that hurt some but hurt me more than anyone. Radical acceptance is so freeing. Absolute surrender. God that feels good to imagine ❤️
I might be able to listen more openly without feeling responsible for the other persons suffering. I also might be able to not personalize their resistance, feeling rejected or not important, or not included.
Thank you, thank you Tara. I can already see and feel in myself small changes towards healing my fractured relationship with my younger sister. For the last 18 months I have wondered how I do this as I don’t want our relationship to deteriorate any further, and kept waiting for the ‘right’ moment, the ‘right’ something!
It seems the ‘right something’ has finally arrived and the work to be done is importantly with myself.
This is a valuable tool to have and I want to share it with family and friends.
I think I’d empower myself, feel more selfsecure and wouldn’t allow things that hurt me. This could improve the relationship by making it more equal. I would ‘t fell any less
I dip in to mindfulness, meditation & time in nature to help my emotional balance, but not regularly or consistently enough. The bits of Tara’s reflections & teachings that I have dipped in to have been really helpful, thanks for providing free access to this course, I look forward to discovering more..
Relationships are definitely an area that we all experience be it with a person, the world, and especially within ourselves and with our beings. Last year I read Tara’s “Radical Compassion” which was referred to our Spiritual Warrior study group from Iyanla Vanzant and my coach Rev. Tami. This book introduced me to self compassion. I’m
a giver and nurturing. What I learned was the most important thing that I hadn’t been practicing. I wasn’t giving the love to myself that I freely gave to others. That caused a lot of strain on me and the way in which my self doubt, and reaction to those that triggered my inner peace and resulted in changing the relationship between my self and others.
Once we learn practices like RAIN the compassion we didn’t give ourselves evolves.
Thank you Tara for sharing the most important aspects of creating and keeping those closest relationships in place. The old saying that is pure truth, is we cannot pour from an empty cup. We are worthy and deserving of Self Love, Self Compassion, and Self Care for ourselves. When realizing that I wasn’t putting me first, and hadn’t for the majority of my life, my heart opened up to giving these things to my self. It taught me how to forgive, love, and show compassion to my self. It taught me the essential and necessary work I had to practice to be more aware of what I learned and apply it consistently to my daily practices. Awareness and mindfulness are the most important practices to cultivating the peace and joy of healing ourselves. Thank you Tara for teaching and reminding us all the good we can cultivate for ourselves and others.
It would change me, because I always feel guilty when there’s an argument between my partner and I. No matter what I feel guilty and Shane, even when I know it’s not entirely my fault. I’m very inconsistent in my feelings of hold on and letting go. Thank you so much.
So many of my clients can benefit from this, including myself! Thanks so much, Tara!
learning to believe it wasn’t my fault might help me let go and focus more attentively on the relationship
Self-blame comes easily for me. It has been difficult to feel anything but self-blame. Evidence of my mistakes was so evident.
I work daily on my releasing this garbage and living myself wholly.
self forgiveness creates more accepting of self and confidence building … more energy….
This was hard process for me, to finally accept to forgive and be compassionate with myself. finally I feel peace and my relationship with others and mainly with self
Selfblame is difficult – especially when I am at fault…Knowing the difference is key!
Selfblame gave me a small life,
for years and years,
now its not gone,
it’s not who I am
and
slowly I am able to see what I am doing
and what the results are
I wonder why
If I could forgive myself
I could be like a hummingbird flying free
Connected to the wondrous world within me
Dancing carefree from flower to flower
Trusting, freeing, using my forgotten power
My feathers would sparkle in the colour of love
My dance would bring back memories of always having been enough.
Remembering myself I can truly be and connect to others and their reality.
this is difficult and I need practice as my defense mechanisms immediately kicked in….
I really wish I could handle my daughter better. In a constant cycle of lying to me, me being angry, me being shamefull and sad
more space, more room
Yes i make mistakes, yes i can recognize them and I can feel i am a human being and i am not perfect. It makes it easier to make amends.
Difficult to focus on myself. To be kind to myself without reason. I keep bringing the other person into the reasoning which brings be to feeling defensive. I need practice
When I ponder that question I feel my body soften and my head clears. I feel a bit of peace and maybe even a bit of trust. I so long for the intimacy I took for granted on my primary relationship …
I had been feeling bad about being jealous of a friend who recently had a success.
It felt comforting to give myself compassion for this feeling of lack and not being good enough, rather than trying to avoid the feeling or rush into sympathetic joy.
Self-forgiveness is powerful
really helpful for my feelings of unworthiness and guilt
I sense in the authenticity of these presentations, glimmers of hope for myself and my fellow travelers on planet earth. Thank you Tara!
This video creates “hope” for self-healing through self-forgiveness and that contrary to what might be expected, this act of kindness to self creates greater responsibility for emotional regulation and responding wisely to others. Thank you very much for this awareness.
Kerry Richardson
I can also apply this by saying to myself “It’s not his or her fault”, in the sense that our upbringing, our genetics affect how we are.
I feel more freedom, I imagine the possibility of more authenticity.
Thanks Tara and Nicabm team!
Maria
Being forgiving of self is forgiving others.
I feel comfortable enough saying to myself, “it’s not your fault” or “I forgive you” and I understand that is the truth. I still feel guilty.
Thank you for the encouragement to forgive myself.
It wasn’t easy because I feel like I still hold myself accountable for my actions and can’t let go of feeling like I’m choosing my actions. I know some of it is rooted in unhealthy patterns I’ve had in previous relationships but I can’t help but think that I need to be a more active catalyst in that change. Sometimes mindfulness doesn’t seem active enough – though through your teachings I understand how the subtlety of self-compassion may help heal over time.
Thank you! I hope to use this to help my husband who is going through some tough times. I also guide healing yoga sessions that address the emotional body.
Self forgiveness is soo much harder than forgiving others ,especially when one struggles with unworthiness
That question is so powerful and I will certainly be using it with myself and clients to create more compassion.
I felt that I think by further practice I will gain that self-acceptance I would like to achieve. It’s definitely a hard road to travel and learn but I will try. Namaste!
self forgiveness will give me the opportunity to pause and ask myself what is going on within instead of being critical of the other person
Breathing deeply as you have coached, I focused on dear old friends, a couple I’ve known for decades, who I am struggling not to judge and be annoyed by. I think, with further practice, this teaching can help me along that way.
Mark Molofsky
That was quite a shift. I have never really offered forgiveness to myself in that way. It felt soothing.
I’m still not sure I actually understand shame.
It was a struggle to allow myself to even internally say I f o r g i v e. Even writing it I can see and feel that struggle, and yet its a beginning.
Thank you,
Alice
I’m eager to continue learning from Dr. Brach.
Talking to myself as a kind friend allows me to have compassion for myself. It allows me to view myself as a child of God who is doing her best despite her shortcomings.
Thank you so much for offering this Terra! I have not finished viewing it planned to tomorrow, when I will have more to say.
Offering yourself self-compassion would allow you to move out of anger and soften your heart… which would transform interactions with others into a place of resolution and healing. Thank you, Tara, for all of your guidance. Your work has helped me through the most difficult time of my life… and continues to. As much as I would love to participate in this program, the price makes it in a trainable for me, unfortunately.
I’ve treated others beautifully but I’ve made mistakes that hurt some but hurt me more than anyone. Radical acceptance is so freeing. Absolute surrender. God that feels good to imagine ❤️
I would love to be able to hold myself rather than abandon self with self criticism when faced with failure in relationships.
I might be able to listen more openly without feeling responsible for the other persons suffering. I also might be able to not personalize their resistance, feeling rejected or not important, or not included.
self love is the key, yet it what im mostly forgetting to practice
Thank you Tara. Your RAIN program helped me a lot. Thank you for all you do.
Thank you, thank you Tara. I can already see and feel in myself small changes towards healing my fractured relationship with my younger sister. For the last 18 months I have wondered how I do this as I don’t want our relationship to deteriorate any further, and kept waiting for the ‘right’ moment, the ‘right’ something!
It seems the ‘right something’ has finally arrived and the work to be done is importantly with myself.
This is a valuable tool to have and I want to share it with family and friends.
More connection, more authentic relationships.
I think I’d empower myself, feel more selfsecure and wouldn’t allow things that hurt me. This could improve the relationship by making it more equal. I would ‘t fell any less
I dip in to mindfulness, meditation & time in nature to help my emotional balance, but not regularly or consistently enough. The bits of Tara’s reflections & teachings that I have dipped in to have been really helpful, thanks for providing free access to this course, I look forward to discovering more..
Forgiving myself will allow me to approach others with an open and full heart, not one protecting itself from hurt and guilt at past events.
This is challenging. It is helpful to hear about actions that could help change these painful experiences.
Relationships are definitely an area that we all experience be it with a person, the world, and especially within ourselves and with our beings. Last year I read Tara’s “Radical Compassion” which was referred to our Spiritual Warrior study group from Iyanla Vanzant and my coach Rev. Tami. This book introduced me to self compassion. I’m
a giver and nurturing. What I learned was the most important thing that I hadn’t been practicing. I wasn’t giving the love to myself that I freely gave to others. That caused a lot of strain on me and the way in which my self doubt, and reaction to those that triggered my inner peace and resulted in changing the relationship between my self and others.
Once we learn practices like RAIN the compassion we didn’t give ourselves evolves.
Thank you Tara for sharing the most important aspects of creating and keeping those closest relationships in place. The old saying that is pure truth, is we cannot pour from an empty cup. We are worthy and deserving of Self Love, Self Compassion, and Self Care for ourselves. When realizing that I wasn’t putting me first, and hadn’t for the majority of my life, my heart opened up to giving these things to my self. It taught me how to forgive, love, and show compassion to my self. It taught me the essential and necessary work I had to practice to be more aware of what I learned and apply it consistently to my daily practices. Awareness and mindfulness are the most important practices to cultivating the peace and joy of healing ourselves. Thank you Tara for teaching and reminding us all the good we can cultivate for ourselves and others.
It would change me, because I always feel guilty when there’s an argument between my partner and I. No matter what I feel guilty and Shane, even when I know it’s not entirely my fault. I’m very inconsistent in my feelings of hold on and letting go. Thank you so much.