I do not feel inferior. Mostly I feel superior which also isolates me or makes me critical of others . I understand only today, after asking me why I might do this,: to grt my fathers love I have to be smarter than my mentally Ill mother. That was not hard to do. So I feel compassionate toward my child self for needing this tactic to get approval.
Thanks for this question.
Tears came but also relief and I felt I could breathe. The grief is, for me, the long absense, yes decades, of my own self care and tenderness towards myself. Thank you.
A feeling of compassion within arose to the surface for how much pain I have lived with for years, how much pain we all carry.
I am aware I am not alone in this suffering and am ready and willing to drop judgement that I had held around it, and instead allow forgiveness to open a tender place in my heart. No more harm, only loving kindness for myself and others.
feelings of relaxing the tension being held , I work with clients who are grieving, the steps introduce will be a self care technique that I will offer so that they can work through the many feelings and emotions with their grief .
Thanks Tara you are a gem, and I tell everyone just that when I mention you and your various offerings.
Really appreciate this short clip, freely offered.
Especially fascinated and excited by your explanation of the current Neuro physiological facts that apply to self compassion.
Kind regards,
With gratitude,
Phil Duke
When I find the emotion of kindness within myself even with uncertainty lying within It gives me the opportunity to believe that I truly have the insight to communicate something even if I find what they say or how they say to become the focus of my attention. Then I say in kindness what I truly want to say as primary and the feeling of also being hurt becomes less prominent in my overall attention upon what is really happening.
Since practicing Meditation with Self-Compassion I feel More vulnerable.
I feel the bodysenses immedeatly with my worries and fear.I feel more alone ,helpless and sad. What to do?
Waiting That this time go by? As the Waves are coming and going?
Love you Tara❤️I felt the flutter of low level anxiety lift. I felt a letting go. A sense of safety hope and The Loving Presence back in the drivers seat 🙏🏼Stephanie
Lately I have not felt 100% and I find I am inclined to think negative thoughts. What I have learnt today and will try to put into practice is to really watch those thoughts as they arise, to try to be kinder to myself, to be grateful and to make time for meditation.
I experienced a pricking of tears and a lessening of self-judgment. If I am to label it, I can call it self-compassion, largely in recognition that I’m actually doing ok navigating the increased uncertainty/anxiety associated not only with the pandemic but a chronic health concern. Just to pause for 10 seconds was such a gift.
Thank you so much for having us do this! I intend to rework my schedule in order to reincorporate such mindful practices into each day. 🌱
This exercise creates an environment of accepting, without shame, that these emotions exist… somehow your words and the music made space for them to be waves, not the whole of me, which in itself quiets the storms – both the self judgment and the emotions trying to be heard.
I watched the video during a period of hesitation how to respond and talk to someone i love but also lost feeling of real connection with her . I managed to visualize and remember moments that i have nearly forgotten and i was able to connect again and that helped me undersand the suffering of both. Thank you !
Ruhi McKinnie, Social Work, Lafayette, CA, USAsays
When I put my hand on my heart I said “just let me hold you” I felt tearful. I repeated it and realized the hurt: as “that’s all I ever wanted”, then, “that’s all anyone wants”. I connected with the unhappiness of everyone. Interesting to meet it in this way because I have believed it, but don’t often let myself feel it, starting with feeling it in myself, Very helpful exercise.
Bert Sheckler-Smith, Marriage/Family Therapy, Petaluma, CA, USAsays
Thank you Tara
As a practitioner of mindfulness I regularly do the first 2 steps, but leave out the gesture of caring. In trying your exercise I experienced that third step as deeply touching. I will include that in my work with my clients; I’m sure that it will be touching and helpful for them as well.
I felt that I was using my self talk as a way to stay in touch with my inner self. Using my thoughts as a way to stay true to my inner feelings. Not feeling so bad about my thoughts. Knowing that my thoughts are just thoughts, nothing more. This is very important as my mind feeds itself untrue thoughts.
Tara, you helped me more than you will ever know during the hardest, loneliest, most devastating time of my life. You were a voice in my darkness at night, and you gave me the strength to find peace just for a few hours. You kept me going to be a strength for my babies.. thank you forever x
I found a moment of peace and and a metaphoric warmth from my hand, I feel good enough, I’ve done enough, I am enough.
Tara, God bless you for sharing this information with me and others. I’m not a therapist and this information is very helpful to me to use on my anger and poor self worth. I’ve learned a lot from the 2 videos that I was able to get to play. Actually I listened to them several times.
Thank you so much!
You are such a beautiful person, inside and out. The gesture of kindness caused me to feel an immediate peace, a sort of acceptance not existing seconds before. Amazing stuff really. Thank you for this video.
Thank you Tara,
A message I never tire of hearing after a lifelong of conditioning.
A message I love to share with friends and family and everyone who suffers quietly. A kind invitation to turn self judgement around.
Gratefully,
Gabriele Roden MD
I had the feeling I wanted to cry, like when I was little and I was sad and q person who loved would hug me and suddenly I felt permission to let everything out.
Very easy instructions to follow–mindfulness and self-love.
Giving self-love to myself produced a deep relaxation and comfort.
Thanks,
Bob
I do not feel inferior. Mostly I feel superior which also isolates me or makes me critical of others . I understand only today, after asking me why I might do this,: to grt my fathers love I have to be smarter than my mentally Ill mother. That was not hard to do. So I feel compassionate toward my child self for needing this tactic to get approval.
Thanks for this question.
I used to think others would take advantage of my kindness …I now realize that is just bad thinking… it is only a thought and is not right or wrong.
Feelings of warmth, care and ease filled my chest and belly. I felt good and in tune with my heart.
There was love. And it felt healing. I also felt safe.
Thank you 🙏
Kindness to myself feels calming, peaceful.
Feelings of acceptance and love as well as a sense of peace.
A warm feeling of acceptance
It was so easy to say “I love you” to myself without judgment.
Tears came but also relief and I felt I could breathe. The grief is, for me, the long absense, yes decades, of my own self care and tenderness towards myself. Thank you.
A feeling of compassion within arose to the surface for how much pain I have lived with for years, how much pain we all carry.
I am aware I am not alone in this suffering and am ready and willing to drop judgement that I had held around it, and instead allow forgiveness to open a tender place in my heart. No more harm, only loving kindness for myself and others.
thank you so much Tara
feelings of relaxing the tension being held , I work with clients who are grieving, the steps introduce will be a self care technique that I will offer so that they can work through the many feelings and emotions with their grief .
Thanks Tara you are a gem, and I tell everyone just that when I mention you and your various offerings.
Really appreciate this short clip, freely offered.
Especially fascinated and excited by your explanation of the current Neuro physiological facts that apply to self compassion.
Kind regards,
With gratitude,
Phil Duke
When I find the emotion of kindness within myself even with uncertainty lying within It gives me the opportunity to believe that I truly have the insight to communicate something even if I find what they say or how they say to become the focus of my attention. Then I say in kindness what I truly want to say as primary and the feeling of also being hurt becomes less prominent in my overall attention upon what is really happening.
The warmth that I feel when I help of assist others.
Nice metaphor
I wanted to rest, restart
I felt a sense of calmness, peace and a “lightness of being”…
I felt I don‘t deserve it.
Since practicing Meditation with Self-Compassion I feel More vulnerable.
I feel the bodysenses immedeatly with my worries and fear.I feel more alone ,helpless and sad. What to do?
Waiting That this time go by? As the Waves are coming and going?
Love you Tara❤️I felt the flutter of low level anxiety lift. I felt a letting go. A sense of safety hope and The Loving Presence back in the drivers seat 🙏🏼Stephanie
Very helpful. I needed reminding how helpful it is
Feelings of caring.
Lately I have not felt 100% and I find I am inclined to think negative thoughts. What I have learnt today and will try to put into practice is to really watch those thoughts as they arise, to try to be kinder to myself, to be grateful and to make time for meditation.
I experienced a pricking of tears and a lessening of self-judgment. If I am to label it, I can call it self-compassion, largely in recognition that I’m actually doing ok navigating the increased uncertainty/anxiety associated not only with the pandemic but a chronic health concern. Just to pause for 10 seconds was such a gift.
Thank you so much for having us do this! I intend to rework my schedule in order to reincorporate such mindful practices into each day. 🌱
I picture myself as a little girl and I want to comfort her. She has a right to be sad or upset. It’s ok
This exercise creates an environment of accepting, without shame, that these emotions exist… somehow your words and the music made space for them to be waves, not the whole of me, which in itself quiets the storms – both the self judgment and the emotions trying to be heard.
I watched the video during a period of hesitation how to respond and talk to someone i love but also lost feeling of real connection with her . I managed to visualize and remember moments that i have nearly forgotten and i was able to connect again and that helped me undersand the suffering of both. Thank you !
Thank you Sara! Your 3 steps are so clear !although I know they Can be difficult to carry out.
Birgitte
I felt a deep Sense of well being.
When I put my hand on my heart I said “just let me hold you” I felt tearful. I repeated it and realized the hurt: as “that’s all I ever wanted”, then, “that’s all anyone wants”. I connected with the unhappiness of everyone. Interesting to meet it in this way because I have believed it, but don’t often let myself feel it, starting with feeling it in myself, Very helpful exercise.
Thank you Tara
As a practitioner of mindfulness I regularly do the first 2 steps, but leave out the gesture of caring. In trying your exercise I experienced that third step as deeply touching. I will include that in my work with my clients; I’m sure that it will be touching and helpful for them as well.
Bert
I felt that I was using my self talk as a way to stay in touch with my inner self. Using my thoughts as a way to stay true to my inner feelings. Not feeling so bad about my thoughts. Knowing that my thoughts are just thoughts, nothing more. This is very important as my mind feeds itself untrue thoughts.
I felt empathy & kindness towards myself.
A sense of calm
Softness and an inner smile. 🙂
I find it helps to breath in love. Feel the breath of love; then exhale. Breathe in ease, feel it; exhale. Breathe in compassion; feel it; exhale.
Information for my client
I understood that l could give myself permission to recognise my pain and to have compassion for myself. Hand on heart I became aware of my breathe.
A little sadness with profound kindness for myself
I felt my little girl soften and realize it wasn’t my fault that mom would get so upset over little things
I was able to smile and soften and appreciate what I had done today 🙂
Tara, you helped me more than you will ever know during the hardest, loneliest, most devastating time of my life. You were a voice in my darkness at night, and you gave me the strength to find peace just for a few hours. You kept me going to be a strength for my babies.. thank you forever x
I found a moment of peace and and a metaphoric warmth from my hand, I feel good enough, I’ve done enough, I am enough.
Tara, God bless you for sharing this information with me and others. I’m not a therapist and this information is very helpful to me to use on my anger and poor self worth. I’ve learned a lot from the 2 videos that I was able to get to play. Actually I listened to them several times.
Thank you so much!
You are such a beautiful person, inside and out. The gesture of kindness caused me to feel an immediate peace, a sort of acceptance not existing seconds before. Amazing stuff really. Thank you for this video.
Thank you Tara,
A message I never tire of hearing after a lifelong of conditioning.
A message I love to share with friends and family and everyone who suffers quietly. A kind invitation to turn self judgement around.
Gratefully,
Gabriele Roden MD
Fatigue and aloneness and deep insecurities
I will use these ideas to volunteer to try to ease the.
suffering of others
I had the feeling I wanted to cry, like when I was little and I was sad and q person who loved would hug me and suddenly I felt permission to let everything out.
A sense of warmth and refief.