All of a sudden…I can feel that I am important, that I matter. The message is that I matter. Which translates into I am valuable. This is a counter message to feeling like I’m not important and the external search for validation.
I am touched and grateful for your teachings. Your offerings are very generous and deeply effective. I want to continue learning from you. The feelings that came up during the kindness practice were a sense of relief, openness, and gratitude. A confirmation that I am ok just as I am and confidence that I can handle my life. I will continue to share your teachings with my students. Thank you from my heart.
Dear Tara,
I will enhance the kindness practice with my students in its milder version. I feel like it is much needed for my students when they come prepare for their exam. Some of them are loosing hope and being to themselves by having false judgements even though they worked hard. I will be asking my students to mindfully taking care of their feelings and move away from harsh judgements to tender care. Trying to focus more on self-care….
Marie Martini, Occupational Therapy, Syracuse, NY, USAsays
When I practiced the gesture of kindness I visualized myself at my current age, 40… talking with myself in 40 years. This version of myself with twice the life experience was giving me the kind gesture. Imagining it this way allowed me to more easily accept the kind words, because I felt the 80 year old me was accepting me for who I am now, without judgement. Knowing I’m doing my best to grow… and knowing who I will continue to evolve into being. This experience felt profound and I understand how it can actually help re-wire the brain over time with dedication. I look forward to sharing this practice with my clients.
My gesture was to say I care about you, Lynne, I care about you Lynne. Which brought up a sense of tears and exhaustion ans they thought I am too hard on myself.
Hi Tara
Thank you again for this video. The feelings that came up for me where more about the need for more of the care and kindness, like a yearning for more space and more self kindness. I just sent care and kindness rather than specific words of comfort. The thoughts then came thick and fast about how this is true and I need to find more space in my life for these kinds of practices.
It’s helpful as is the reminder that ignoring my heart and my needs are old patterns and it will take repeated practice to shift that pattern.
thankyou
I noticed when I identified my fear within and then tended to it, that I felt sleepy. It’s as if the release of fear and anxiety induced complete relaxation. I wonder if I use my fear and anxiety to propel me through the day?
Thank you very much, Tara!
As I do this gesture, I feel my chest relax and a warm wave roles through my body.
As a bodyworker in a german clinic for psychsomatic, I think, I can let use my clients this gesture in connection with the pleasant feelings of an Esalen-Massage.
I’m curious about how it works in combination.
Wow! Such a difference in the energy of how I feel. This is like stepping back and taking a moment and observing my thoughts, like when I’m painting (a canvas) it puts a perspective on my thoughts.
Mindfulness and naming what the emotion behind my thoughts is makes me truely tecognise the emtion.
Jesture of kindness allows me to feel love for myself and reconnects me to my heart. Thank you so much 😊
I’m preparing for a therapy session in 30 minutes and this gesture of kindness moment has calmed my heartbeat, given me grace for myself and trust that just the perfect “things” will come up!
When I offered myself a kindness gesture, I was walking in public so did not put my hand over my heart, I felt it immediately. It felt warm and I felt seen. I also could see that “giving part of myself” as separate from the grieving part of myself. That was odd but felt empowering.
Lastly, I felt loved. That was the biggest and most important feeling and I needed that. To feel loved.
Thank you, Tara. The knowledge that you share continues to add more serenity and compassion in my life.
My first thought was, wow, this is going to take awhile. And then, I heard a voice say, “And you have resilience and heart! You can do this! It’s your heart’s desire.” Sweet.
Leanne Preble, Another Field, Indianola, WA, USAsays
Hi, I’ve often used one if your RAIN meditations and so am used to the self kindness gesture now. I feel that kindness in my body, shifting to the body focus for the body feeling associated with the gesture is helpful for me.
Thank you for your teachings. You always remind me how important it is to come back to how the body feels and connect with the breath. The gesture of kindness seemed awkward at first but then wonderful. 🙏
This the second time I’ve done this. This time I added” . . and I’m proud of you” As the words found their place in me I felt tingling and ‘space’ through my body and down my limbs to my fingers and toes! It felt GOOD xx
When I used the gesture of kindness, I felt a heavy weight lift from my chest, and I believed that it would be worth my trying to persevere in working towards a better me from this time onwards
Thank you, Tara. I’ve followed you and your meditations for years. This is beautiful, plus I have added EFT Tapping [Solution] which does the same thing with the addition of acupressure points to help change brain chemistry. What I love is the compassionate touch, of hand on heart and hugging myself, since I am touch-oriented. Bless you!
Dear Tara, it’s absolutely beautiful what you share with us. I am grateful for this gift.
About the heart exercise:
I felt love in my heart extending to my nephew and niece who, for some and to myself for unknown reasons, stopped communicating with me. Nevertheless, I felt huge love for both of them in my heart.
I feeling of ease
Kindness towards myself becomes more and more easy … and joyful
During the gesture of kindness I felt a stirring of love … I can be my own best friend!
All of a sudden…I can feel that I am important, that I matter. The message is that I matter. Which translates into I am valuable. This is a counter message to feeling like I’m not important and the external search for validation.
Hi Tara,
I am touched and grateful for your teachings. Your offerings are very generous and deeply effective. I want to continue learning from you. The feelings that came up during the kindness practice were a sense of relief, openness, and gratitude. A confirmation that I am ok just as I am and confidence that I can handle my life. I will continue to share your teachings with my students. Thank you from my heart.
Dear Tara,
I will enhance the kindness practice with my students in its milder version. I feel like it is much needed for my students when they come prepare for their exam. Some of them are loosing hope and being to themselves by having false judgements even though they worked hard. I will be asking my students to mindfully taking care of their feelings and move away from harsh judgements to tender care. Trying to focus more on self-care….
When I practiced the gesture of kindness I visualized myself at my current age, 40… talking with myself in 40 years. This version of myself with twice the life experience was giving me the kind gesture. Imagining it this way allowed me to more easily accept the kind words, because I felt the 80 year old me was accepting me for who I am now, without judgement. Knowing I’m doing my best to grow… and knowing who I will continue to evolve into being. This experience felt profound and I understand how it can actually help re-wire the brain over time with dedication. I look forward to sharing this practice with my clients.
My gesture was to say I care about you, Lynne, I care about you Lynne. Which brought up a sense of tears and exhaustion ans they thought I am too hard on myself.
Hi Tara
Thank you again for this video. The feelings that came up for me where more about the need for more of the care and kindness, like a yearning for more space and more self kindness. I just sent care and kindness rather than specific words of comfort. The thoughts then came thick and fast about how this is true and I need to find more space in my life for these kinds of practices.
It’s helpful as is the reminder that ignoring my heart and my needs are old patterns and it will take repeated practice to shift that pattern.
thankyou
I became away of all of my body…reaching down through and into all my limbs and parts.
I noticed when I identified my fear within and then tended to it, that I felt sleepy. It’s as if the release of fear and anxiety induced complete relaxation. I wonder if I use my fear and anxiety to propel me through the day?
I am grateful to be able to share this self care moment with our teen girls group.
😊
Thank you very much, Tara!
As I do this gesture, I feel my chest relax and a warm wave roles through my body.
As a bodyworker in a german clinic for psychsomatic, I think, I can let use my clients this gesture in connection with the pleasant feelings of an Esalen-Massage.
I’m curious about how it works in combination.
Wow! Such a difference in the energy of how I feel. This is like stepping back and taking a moment and observing my thoughts, like when I’m painting (a canvas) it puts a perspective on my thoughts.
Mindfulness and naming what the emotion behind my thoughts is makes me truely tecognise the emtion.
Jesture of kindness allows me to feel love for myself and reconnects me to my heart. Thank you so much 😊
Reassuring to know I’m human. There’s hope.
A feeling of letting go of tension and an opening of the heart ❤️
I’m preparing for a therapy session in 30 minutes and this gesture of kindness moment has calmed my heartbeat, given me grace for myself and trust that just the perfect “things” will come up!
When I offered myself a kindness gesture, I was walking in public so did not put my hand over my heart, I felt it immediately. It felt warm and I felt seen. I also could see that “giving part of myself” as separate from the grieving part of myself. That was odd but felt empowering.
Lastly, I felt loved. That was the biggest and most important feeling and I needed that. To feel loved.
Thank you, Tara. The knowledge that you share continues to add more serenity and compassion in my life.
I felt I was not so alone and connected warmly with myself.
Than you, I felt an opening of my being as I came to the gesture of kindness, at peace, and more connected to something bigger, to “beyond me”
My first thought was, wow, this is going to take awhile. And then, I heard a voice say, “And you have resilience and heart! You can do this! It’s your heart’s desire.” Sweet.
Thank you for the 3 steps toward self transformation from critic to self-acceptance.
Peace. And challenges too. Still helpful
i will find this useful for my own healing and understanding others
Hi, I’ve often used one if your RAIN meditations and so am used to the self kindness gesture now. I feel that kindness in my body, shifting to the body focus for the body feeling associated with the gesture is helpful for me.
sadness for what I’ve missed in my life.
Thank you for your teachings. You always remind me how important it is to come back to how the body feels and connect with the breath. The gesture of kindness seemed awkward at first but then wonderful. 🙏
I was a bit surprised how automatically the appropriate caring words towards myself occurred when I tried the practice of holding my hand to my heart.
I felt feelings of softening for myself even when I noticed that it was, at the same time, challenging.
So helpful, Tara. Many thanks for this self-compassion practice.
Great Presentation. I became aware, I need to practice more Self Compassion.
fear and anger. an image of finding my dog dead, put into an abandoned refrigerator by my brother. Image very strong.
I felt a sense of reassurance and compassion. Some peacefulness relative to the previous anxiousness.
I felt tears and a deep sense of relaxation. I briefly forgave myself for my failings. I “cut myself a break” in that moment of time.
Sense of calm and peace Thankyou Tara your work is a gift to humanity.
Calm and relief
Could I be you!!! You provided the BEST treatment strategies.
Fantastic! Greatly appreciate what you provided! Can I be YOU! 😁
I felt love, appreciation of myself, gentleness, nurturing, forgiveness and sadness for believing my thoughts in my past.
This the second time I’ve done this. This time I added” . . and I’m proud of you” As the words found their place in me I felt tingling and ‘space’ through my body and down my limbs to my fingers and toes! It felt GOOD xx
When I used the gesture of kindness, I felt a heavy weight lift from my chest, and I believed that it would be worth my trying to persevere in working towards a better me from this time onwards
This is an amazing way to live life on all levels. Thank you very much for doing this video. The “ouch” idea is one I will bring to my practice.
When I practice loving kindness towards myself, shame and guilt subside.
I felt a softening and then deep sadness.
I breathed in as I touched my heart and was able to picture a Greater Presence letting me know “It’s okay.” I’m okay. Thank you Tara.
Thank you, Tara. I’ve followed you and your meditations for years. This is beautiful, plus I have added EFT Tapping [Solution] which does the same thing with the addition of acupressure points to help change brain chemistry. What I love is the compassionate touch, of hand on heart and hugging myself, since I am touch-oriented. Bless you!
Like the 3 steps. Simple but powerful
I notice a shift from self judgement to a more peaceful place and wonder why aren’t I practice this daily….
A reminder to return to practice
I think these will be helpful to my clients.
A great release of quiet peace!
Dear Tara, it’s absolutely beautiful what you share with us. I am grateful for this gift.
About the heart exercise:
I felt love in my heart extending to my nephew and niece who, for some and to myself for unknown reasons, stopped communicating with me. Nevertheless, I felt huge love for both of them in my heart.