I took a moment to appreciate how much I’d done right even in spite of all my self doubt and fear. Then I asked- what could you be and what more could you do if you didn’t have these deep insecurities and fears? And how would that feel?
The message to my heart was ‘I am loved’. A really close friend has stepped away from me, basrd on something I said about my past. I feel so hurt and judged as she meant so much to me. Still deeply grieving….
Thank you Tara. I found it so valuable to be reminded that we need to continue the practice of self-affirmation and creating the positive connection with ourselves. I have often fallen into the trap of going through a process myself and not following it up with daily new habits for it to take traction and become the new way of being.
I felt more accepting of myself and then more accepting of the person I felt was taking advantage of me or the situation. I feel more free and accepting of myself.
I feel a warmth inside, and with that a deep sadness at not knowing to offer this to myself, a deep need for it, a sense of being held within it, a calm resting.
The fact that change is at all possible, feels incredible in and of itself. I find that I am never to old or spiritually aware to not feel this to be nothing short of a continued miracle. I do not have to be the person I once was, caught in unconscious ways of reacting, and if even when I don’t do things right, or slip back in to worn out ways of behaving, I can change. Thank you for re-minding me. I recommend you to all my clients, you are a gift. X
Something in me lifted. And I remember a feeling I used to have when I followed your guided meditations more regularly. I am an elementary school teacher finding my way to incorporate new routines during this time of Covid. Realizing that having a healthy relationship with each of my individual students is the most important part of my job at this moment in time, I need to return to my own practice to help instill a love of self into what I do.
That small gesture of putting your hand on your heart caused me to feel a connection to myself. I teared up…just from that small intentional moment.
Why is self punishment the preferred effort verses self love and kindness? A question I’m asking myself at this moment.
Words come spontaneously straight from the heart as the hand gesture helps to feel the connection between words and heart, and also symbolises tapping into a place of inner truth. Thank you Tara for this exercise and for reminding me that practicing over and over again is crucial to rewiring the neuronal pathways and to deepening my self compassion.
Thank you Tara for providing the key to unlock the grip of fear so that it could melt away, thank you God, Spirit, Universal Energy for showering me with love and thank you me for tapping into and being a part of all that!
My tears fell as rain dissolving into the vast embrace of the ocean.
Instinctively I wrote the sounds of response to soothing presence, and the acronym for those is OMA or AOM !
Ooooh.
Mommy. (I wrote Mmmm here – silly synchronous autocorrect!)
Ahhhhh.
A blend of AUM and OM, the two universally known representations of the sound of the universe, blended together as one. No right, no wrong, no separation just divine intention.
Perhaps after experiencing your meditation, and the three steps of processing emotions,, ask clients to share the sounds, sights, sensations of their soothing presence when they feel it. As expressive therapy to strengthen connection to the vast divine loving presence available to them.
Your story is very helpfull !!!
When I put my hand on my hart i feld peace and could breath better.
Thank you very much for this mirracle.
Frendly greetings Elly
Thank you Tara for providing the key to unlock the grip of fear so that it could melt away, thank you God, Spirit, Universal Energy for showering me with love and thank you me for tapping into and being a part of all that!
My tears fell as rain dissolving into the vast embrace of the ocean.
Instinctively I wrote the sounds of response to soothing presence, and the acronym for those is OMA or AOM !
Ooooh.
Mommy. (I wrote Mmmm here – silly synchronous autocorrect!)
Ahhhhh.
A blend of AUM and OM, the two universally known representations of the sound of the universe, blended together as one. No right, no wrong, no separation just divine intention.
A compassionate connection with oneself helps to
relate to others with empathy, understanding and ease, nurtures a willingness to not judge or punish. Instead to gently accept each ones humanity, and be kindly forgiving. Freeing each one of us in the process as we grow to trust, let-go and live anew.
When I put my hand on my heart I experience that the pain and trauma is not only mine, but is so vast and deep that it reveals aeons of impersonal unresolved pain and suffering through generations. Increasingly there is compassion for those I have ‘blamed’, and also for myself. The experience is transformative – and essential.
The force of self-hatred is deeply rooted inside myself. With help of work/tools prior to yours, I can dedect my judgemental, harsh thoughts against myself quickly. However, my heart is thighten and feeling where it hurts seems out of reach. Nevertheless, your “simply”, short exercise had an affect: a glimpse of what it feels like if i opened up and acknowledge what is. It’s a starting point. Thank you for your compassion and for beeing an inspiration
Putting the hand on my heart is like, when i was a child, putting my hand in to the palm of a my mother, when ever she had the shine and nourish to meet my needs.
It took al the trouble away then. I don`t need an external hand now, when i see and hear the voice, of who ever told me that i wasn`t good enough, clever enough or even wanted, being the fourth in the line of siblings. That hand on my heart is the key to my hurt child, it has taken over the internalized voices, that made me believe the stories i keep repeating about my self.
Thank you for sharing.
I have experienced this in my life over a span of almost 12 years, yes it took me 12 years to be giving myself self compassion. This has really worked in my work with my clients and supervise as well as working in groups.
I feel so much sadness….can I heal from this without finding out why I feel so sad ?
I have been feeling sad for about a year and it triggers some self arming behavior and I do not know how to address this anymore.
As we are now 6 months in to some version of sequestering because of Covid, I look forward to some new ideas/ways to re-examine the ways I interact with my husband, family and friends and others I am in close relationships with during this unusual time.
The external stressors of politics, racial and social justice issues and climate issues weigh on us all heavily, often with our relationships suffering… Is it because we feel so responsible to do something helpful and yet feel so constrained? Maybe by paying attention to our relationships that positivity will radiate out in ways yet unknown? a hope, a prayer.
As we are now 6 months in to some version of sequestering because of Covid, I look forward to some new ideas/ways to re-examine the ways I interact with my husband, family and friends and others I am close relationships with during this unusual time.
I find it I am kind and compassionate with others but not as much with myself. The simple act of putting hand over the heart and giving myself words of kindness made me feel really relaxed and taking care of.
I touched my heart and said to myself, half believing, “you are a precious creation” and “you are loved.”
I felt a softening. Tension I have held in my upper back throughout the week released.
I realised I was tensing my back to try to protect myself from feeling, and showing these feelings to others around me, for fear of being too vulnerable or “too negative” and judged.
Or stuck! Which I surely was whilst trying to hide and cover up these “negative” feelings. In doing so, I seem to have created a physical shelter or space for the feeling to stay within me until I could find a “private moment” to safely deal with it.
So, instead of being present; accepting; allowing it to be, I held it stuck; rigidly (fearfully) in place within me until the end of the work week. I hadn’t welcomed it and treated myself the same as I would have done for a hurting friend! Until now, when I finally released it with a kind and compassionate act toward myself with this exercise.
Thank you for making the seemingly intangible, tangible, Tara. Blessings to you and the good work you do!
I think for me the gesture of placing my hand on my heart and feeling kindness just felt calming and brought a sense of softness to my being. I struggle with grief and pain and hating myself sometimes so anything kind and caring I can foster toward myself can only help!!!
Thank you Tara❤️
I took a moment to appreciate how much I’d done right even in spite of all my self doubt and fear. Then I asked- what could you be and what more could you do if you didn’t have these deep insecurities and fears? And how would that feel?
Feelings of self-love, happiness and joy. Every other breath is lighter and the world around me is a safe and trusting place. Thank you
The message to my heart was ‘I am loved’. A really close friend has stepped away from me, basrd on something I said about my past. I feel so hurt and judged as she meant so much to me. Still deeply grieving….
I had a thought that at that moment when I put hand on my chest as a sign of self-kindness I felt caring of myself.
Gratitude for this teaching and community.
Thank you Tara. I found it so valuable to be reminded that we need to continue the practice of self-affirmation and creating the positive connection with ourselves. I have often fallen into the trap of going through a process myself and not following it up with daily new habits for it to take traction and become the new way of being.
I felt more accepting of myself and then more accepting of the person I felt was taking advantage of me or the situation. I feel more free and accepting of myself.
I feel a warmth inside, and with that a deep sadness at not knowing to offer this to myself, a deep need for it, a sense of being held within it, a calm resting.
The fact that change is at all possible, feels incredible in and of itself. I find that I am never to old or spiritually aware to not feel this to be nothing short of a continued miracle. I do not have to be the person I once was, caught in unconscious ways of reacting, and if even when I don’t do things right, or slip back in to worn out ways of behaving, I can change. Thank you for re-minding me. I recommend you to all my clients, you are a gift. X
Gratitude!
Something in me lifted. And I remember a feeling I used to have when I followed your guided meditations more regularly. I am an elementary school teacher finding my way to incorporate new routines during this time of Covid. Realizing that having a healthy relationship with each of my individual students is the most important part of my job at this moment in time, I need to return to my own practice to help instill a love of self into what I do.
Great and peaceful advice!!
It was hard to let myself believe and support the message. I will share that it is hard to believe.
That small gesture of putting your hand on your heart caused me to feel a connection to myself. I teared up…just from that small intentional moment.
Why is self punishment the preferred effort verses self love and kindness? A question I’m asking myself at this moment.
Thank you Tara.
A sense of being a small child being nurtured with love.
A wonderful experience of expansion and self worth. Loved it thanks
Thor went fight into what I am struggling with at the moment
Words come spontaneously straight from the heart as the hand gesture helps to feel the connection between words and heart, and also symbolises tapping into a place of inner truth. Thank you Tara for this exercise and for reminding me that practicing over and over again is crucial to rewiring the neuronal pathways and to deepening my self compassion.
I am scared of feeling, that’s my main problem. I can have a therapist reflect and empathize with my emotion, and I have the need to run away.
During the gesutre of kindness practice, I felt
Acceptance,
an internal radiance
a peacefullness within
Thank you for your time and sharing. I felt gratefulness for giving myself that one minute of attention and love. ❤️❤️❤️
Fear, sadness tears, love, joy, gratitude.
Thank you Tara for providing the key to unlock the grip of fear so that it could melt away, thank you God, Spirit, Universal Energy for showering me with love and thank you me for tapping into and being a part of all that!
My tears fell as rain dissolving into the vast embrace of the ocean.
Instinctively I wrote the sounds of response to soothing presence, and the acronym for those is OMA or AOM !
Ooooh.
Mommy. (I wrote Mmmm here – silly synchronous autocorrect!)
Ahhhhh.
A blend of AUM and OM, the two universally known representations of the sound of the universe, blended together as one. No right, no wrong, no separation just divine intention.
Perhaps after experiencing your meditation, and the three steps of processing emotions,, ask clients to share the sounds, sights, sensations of their soothing presence when they feel it. As expressive therapy to strengthen connection to the vast divine loving presence available to them.
My “Field”? I am in Rumi’s Field.
Your story is very helpfull !!!
When I put my hand on my hart i feld peace and could breath better.
Thank you very much for this mirracle.
Frendly greetings Elly
Fear, sadness tears, love, joy, gratitude.
Thank you Tara for providing the key to unlock the grip of fear so that it could melt away, thank you God, Spirit, Universal Energy for showering me with love and thank you me for tapping into and being a part of all that!
My tears fell as rain dissolving into the vast embrace of the ocean.
Instinctively I wrote the sounds of response to soothing presence, and the acronym for those is OMA or AOM !
Ooooh.
Mommy. (I wrote Mmmm here – silly synchronous autocorrect!)
Ahhhhh.
A blend of AUM and OM, the two universally known representations of the sound of the universe, blended together as one. No right, no wrong, no separation just divine intention.
Perhaps ask clients to
A flash of joyous feeling
A compassionate connection with oneself helps to
relate to others with empathy, understanding and ease, nurtures a willingness to not judge or punish. Instead to gently accept each ones humanity, and be kindly forgiving. Freeing each one of us in the process as we grow to trust, let-go and live anew.
When I put my hand on my heart I experience that the pain and trauma is not only mine, but is so vast and deep that it reveals aeons of impersonal unresolved pain and suffering through generations. Increasingly there is compassion for those I have ‘blamed’, and also for myself. The experience is transformative – and essential.
The force of self-hatred is deeply rooted inside myself. With help of work/tools prior to yours, I can dedect my judgemental, harsh thoughts against myself quickly. However, my heart is thighten and feeling where it hurts seems out of reach. Nevertheless, your “simply”, short exercise had an affect: a glimpse of what it feels like if i opened up and acknowledge what is. It’s a starting point. Thank you for your compassion and for beeing an inspiration
I felt peaceful, thank you
Putting the hand on my heart is like, when i was a child, putting my hand in to the palm of a my mother, when ever she had the shine and nourish to meet my needs.
It took al the trouble away then. I don`t need an external hand now, when i see and hear the voice, of who ever told me that i wasn`t good enough, clever enough or even wanted, being the fourth in the line of siblings. That hand on my heart is the key to my hurt child, it has taken over the internalized voices, that made me believe the stories i keep repeating about my self.
Sadness that it has taken so long to really support myself
Thank you for sharing.
I have experienced this in my life over a span of almost 12 years, yes it took me 12 years to be giving myself self compassion. This has really worked in my work with my clients and supervise as well as working in groups.
I’m feeling powered!
Thank you for these short clips. I am practicing!
A lot of pain came up for me, tears and crying
I feel so much sadness….can I heal from this without finding out why I feel so sad ?
I have been feeling sad for about a year and it triggers some self arming behavior and I do not know how to address this anymore.
As we are now 6 months in to some version of sequestering because of Covid, I look forward to some new ideas/ways to re-examine the ways I interact with my husband, family and friends and others I am in close relationships with during this unusual time.
The external stressors of politics, racial and social justice issues and climate issues weigh on us all heavily, often with our relationships suffering… Is it because we feel so responsible to do something helpful and yet feel so constrained? Maybe by paying attention to our relationships that positivity will radiate out in ways yet unknown? a hope, a prayer.
As we are now 6 months in to some version of sequestering because of Covid, I look forward to some new ideas/ways to re-examine the ways I interact with my husband, family and friends and others I am close relationships with during this unusual time.
Love❤️
I am practicing these steps with my cliënts and this video gives me extra input and explanation in how selfcompassion works. Thank you Tara!
I find it I am kind and compassionate with others but not as much with myself. The simple act of putting hand over the heart and giving myself words of kindness made me feel really relaxed and taking care of.
I softened
I can do that in this moment
Of course this moment is all I have.
I look forward to trying it out when I am deep in self hatred ?
Good morning,
you talk too fast.
Metta
I felt a sense of peace. I smiled and felt the muscles on my face relaxed. I felt warmth and had a smile even while typing this.
Very useful information presented in a concise, clear manner!
A sense of peace, relaxation.
I touched my heart and said to myself, half believing, “you are a precious creation” and “you are loved.”
I felt a softening. Tension I have held in my upper back throughout the week released.
I realised I was tensing my back to try to protect myself from feeling, and showing these feelings to others around me, for fear of being too vulnerable or “too negative” and judged.
Or stuck! Which I surely was whilst trying to hide and cover up these “negative” feelings. In doing so, I seem to have created a physical shelter or space for the feeling to stay within me until I could find a “private moment” to safely deal with it.
So, instead of being present; accepting; allowing it to be, I held it stuck; rigidly (fearfully) in place within me until the end of the work week. I hadn’t welcomed it and treated myself the same as I would have done for a hurting friend! Until now, when I finally released it with a kind and compassionate act toward myself with this exercise.
Thank you for making the seemingly intangible, tangible, Tara. Blessings to you and the good work you do!
Warmth, feeling of being one with my inner self. Comforting. I sighed. I send a grateful smile.
a realisation that self love is all you really have when it comes down to it
I think for me the gesture of placing my hand on my heart and feeling kindness just felt calming and brought a sense of softness to my being. I struggle with grief and pain and hating myself sometimes so anything kind and caring I can foster toward myself can only help!!!
Thank you Tara❤️
A very peaceful feeling