This exerciseis one I have been practicing for a while. I know when I do this, I can centre myself faster and make amends sooner eg apologise or simply go back to the conversation and reframe it and change the outcome of the conversation
not an easy exercise for sure.
i had to really work on giving myself permission to allow even the thought of forgiveness to come in.
i have believed for so long that everything was my fault and that if only I was more… or if only I had never….
then It hit me. YOU are scared to get well.
I have been on a healing journey for over 50 years. It is my Identity
WOW. I have seen myself as , incompetent, broken, unworthy of ACCEPTANCE never mind LOVE .
I was told at 15 by court appointed psychiatrist that I was so damaged that they didn’t know how to fix me. ( Borderline personally disorder).
back then the knowledge was what it was.
I ran with that and made sure that I lived up to that perception of me.
Although I have worked diligently over the years, that has always stuck with me and so I believe(core) that I am not supposed to be WHOLE.
perhaps with this new awareness I can finally let go and see myself in a different light.
I have healed a great many triggers and will keep working on my Vagus response.
Grateful for your insights and compassion.
namaste
I know that self compassion would significantly increase my acceptance trust and non judgement of myself and others. I would presuppose the goodness of others. I would realize they like me are trying their best too.
J R Hutchinson, Counseling, WEST MONROE, LA, USAsays
Self compassion and forgiveness might somehow release a tension, provide a release of pain at many levels to help release the person to accept and move forward with more intimacy and safety in relationships.
Loved this teaching! I was able to do the exercise Tara suggested and the end on myself. Just bringing awareness to how I have been judging myself in this relationship and bringing some compassion there was enlightening. I can see how my thoughts have been impacting this relationship and contaminating it. Wow! Please send the download for your work with Sam!
Thank you for this teaching, I have been struggling with a judgement I stated to a friend who responded in kind. Relationships seem like the ultimate testing ground for our meditation practice.
Laura Barna, Another Field, St Charles, IL, USAsays
Allowing myself compassion and forgiveness gives me space to hold others that way. It clears any negative self talk in the moment. That allows space for more positive interactions.
Amy Sadeghi, Psychotherapy, Short Hills, NJ, USAsays
I really enjoyed these videos and found them helpful, reminding me of the importance of acknowledging suffering, naming feelings and regularly practicing self-compassion. It felt great to put my hand on my heart! Thank you.
Thanks Tara, self forgiveness is such a simple concept and so difficult to practice after years of self blame. I felt a tremendous connection to the idea of me saying to myself “It’s not your fault.”
Of course we would say it to a dear friend, so why is it so hard to say to ourselves?
In my view, at any given moment, we all do the best we can – mentally, emotionally, physically, so self-forgiveness for me, is just realizing that at that given moment, we were maybe not proud of, we did the best we could. And that alone, leads us to self-forgiveness and much greater understanding.
With the relationship I think of and the pain and damage I caused, and then I try and hold myself with self-forgiveness around those few long-past painful events, I feel an expansion or opening for unknown possibility of connection with my now mature son. Thank you Tara. Robyn
My children come to mind – single mom who was never emotionally present for them. This haunts me. I cry just thinking about the impacts this has had on them. Sadness sets in and sticks. Forgiving myself – not there yet. But imagine it would open up space in the here and now emotionally for me and by extension, for us.
An important and compassionate
offering /reminder for us all
🙏 Thank you
Peace and Love
Sara
Thank you so much! Wonderful tools for dealing with painful and difficult emotions!
This is so important, and I’m happy I’ve had an opportunity to tune in.
Thank you for sharing this series.
This exerciseis one I have been practicing for a while. I know when I do this, I can centre myself faster and make amends sooner eg apologise or simply go back to the conversation and reframe it and change the outcome of the conversation
not an easy exercise for sure.
i had to really work on giving myself permission to allow even the thought of forgiveness to come in.
i have believed for so long that everything was my fault and that if only I was more… or if only I had never….
then It hit me. YOU are scared to get well.
I have been on a healing journey for over 50 years. It is my Identity
WOW. I have seen myself as , incompetent, broken, unworthy of ACCEPTANCE never mind LOVE .
I was told at 15 by court appointed psychiatrist that I was so damaged that they didn’t know how to fix me. ( Borderline personally disorder).
back then the knowledge was what it was.
I ran with that and made sure that I lived up to that perception of me.
Although I have worked diligently over the years, that has always stuck with me and so I believe(core) that I am not supposed to be WHOLE.
perhaps with this new awareness I can finally let go and see myself in a different light.
I have healed a great many triggers and will keep working on my Vagus response.
Grateful for your insights and compassion.
namaste
Thank you. I Find Touching my heart and tuning in with myself helps me cultivate compassion and awareness of the stories spinning in my head
I know that self compassion would significantly increase my acceptance trust and non judgement of myself and others. I would presuppose the goodness of others. I would realize they like me are trying their best too.
Self compassion and forgiveness might somehow release a tension, provide a release of pain at many levels to help release the person to accept and move forward with more intimacy and safety in relationships.
Such great truths. Thank you!
Loved this teaching! I was able to do the exercise Tara suggested and the end on myself. Just bringing awareness to how I have been judging myself in this relationship and bringing some compassion there was enlightening. I can see how my thoughts have been impacting this relationship and contaminating it. Wow! Please send the download for your work with Sam!
I notice a sense of wholeness and peace-very powerful
Promoting forgiveness creates space and flexibility to connect with self and others
Thank you for this teaching, I have been struggling with a judgement I stated to a friend who responded in kind. Relationships seem like the ultimate testing ground for our meditation practice.
Very powerful thankyou
This guidance can truly help ourselves as we go through all of life’s challenges.
Learning to work with shame
Really helpful as I am struggling with self judgement following my mother’s death and blaming myself for angry outbursts
Thank you
thank you for these great videos and simple explanations of very complex issues
loving and forgiving yourself is wonderfully freeing
only down loaded part of the handout
Thank you.
Mindfulness link to neuroscience makes this tangible for me
Accepting and loving ourselves is the first step to truly accepting and loving others
Thanks for your insight..
very moving and useful videos
A really thorough explanation of what happens, and how to change.
Wonderful
When I am no longer feeling self hate and ‘wrongness’, I’m not in that energy to pass it on.
Allowing myself compassion and forgiveness gives me space to hold others that way. It clears any negative self talk in the moment. That allows space for more positive interactions.
Sooo helpful
Thanks
A powerful reminder of the importance of befriending ourselves for the benefit of those close to us. Thanks
Firstly,
Thank you so much for shearing. This resonates so so much and I hope & know this will help a lot.
All blessings. Uli
This is very helpful.
I really enjoyed these videos and found them helpful, reminding me of the importance of acknowledging suffering, naming feelings and regularly practicing self-compassion. It felt great to put my hand on my heart! Thank you.
Thanks Tara, self forgiveness is such a simple concept and so difficult to practice after years of self blame. I felt a tremendous connection to the idea of me saying to myself “It’s not your fault.”
Of course we would say it to a dear friend, so why is it so hard to say to ourselves?
Again, awesomely beautiful.
Some really helpful teachings and reflections, thank you.
Forgiving myself resulted in compassionate thoughts and appreciation for my effirts
There is more peace with the gentleness of ” it is not my fault”
Thank you
Very powerful.
In my view, at any given moment, we all do the best we can – mentally, emotionally, physically, so self-forgiveness for me, is just realizing that at that given moment, we were maybe not proud of, we did the best we could. And that alone, leads us to self-forgiveness and much greater understanding.
With the relationship I think of and the pain and damage I caused, and then I try and hold myself with self-forgiveness around those few long-past painful events, I feel an expansion or opening for unknown possibility of connection with my now mature son. Thank you Tara. Robyn
This helps me look at a rough period in my life with much more understanding.
Sounds like a great course. We all can benefit from these skills ,self love and self forgiveness.
thank you so much
My children come to mind – single mom who was never emotionally present for them. This haunts me. I cry just thinking about the impacts this has had on them. Sadness sets in and sticks. Forgiving myself – not there yet. But imagine it would open up space in the here and now emotionally for me and by extension, for us.
Much needed!