My limited belief of I have to be perfect… shining the light on all the judgment from others & from my self… it feels so freeing to let this all go, bringing in compassion for my self, & then to others. Thank you!
Holding myself with kindness, love, and forgiveness gives me such a feeling of relief and softness. I am aware of my vulnerability and my ability to love. This series has been so powerful and enlightening to listen to. Thanks you!
Holding my whole being with kindness and forgiving myself makes me feel lighter and calmer which makes me act calmer and kinder in the relationship. It also makes me understand the relationship better.
I believe that when we feel bad about ourselves, when we are wallowing in guilt, it is the time we strike out at others. Our negative self talk flows into our conversations with others. I am only beginning to realize how the negativity, the putting myself down, which I confused with humility, makes it unpleasant for people to deal with. This is not bringing anyone joy.
Genuine forgiveness allows to accept that we are human, we make mistakes and we can learn from them, store them but not let them consume us. Instead, we can invite growth, acceptance for who we truly are, love and empathy into ourselves to promote learning, calmness and trust with others and ourselves. Really likes how hands on this was as well as the brilliant examples. Thank you Tara.
I feel guilt that I placed my mother in a skilled nursing home and moved out of state to be closer to my daughter’s family. I know intellectually that Mom is in the best place for her safety. I need to forgive myself so that I can focus on her current needs and enjoy my visits with her. The love is still there, I just need to focus on it more than the guilt.
I found a warm atmosphere of safety that made a sense of self-expanding. A feeling of alertness or physical tightness melted away. It felt good and nice. The other persons judgmental attitude did not affect me anymore. It was liberating.
Recognizing the underlying beliefs and hurts driving relating with others has helped create a more mindful, self-compassionate response to myself. Thank you.
Ruth Anne Phillips, Teacher, Takoma Park, MD, USAsays
I’m only really beginning to realize how deeply and profoundly my own belief that something is wrong with me has impacted my life and the way I operate in the world. Each one of these videos has opened me up to an alternative view, as well as a fair amount of grief at all the time spent believing this story. I do see that this belief does not help me be a better person. Quite the opposite – it closes me up and puts me in a pattern of blame and self-defense.
I have been struggling with accepting the mistakes I’ve made raising my dog and getting angry with him. He has been dead for over 4 years and I still get feelings of guilt. It’s incredible how much even animals can become part of our relationships.
Thank you Tara for these three videos. I appreciate the depth of your understanding of these wild and self condemning emotions and thoughts we can have about our own failings. Mindfulness is something I am seeking to cultivate on behalf of myself and my relationship to others.
By forgiving myself, I dissolve the barrier of defensiveness behind which I hide. That allows me to be in the relationship in a new, clean way. I can feel the subtlety of the love underneath my shame. Rather than trying to kick the shame out, it just sort of melts away. (I wish it would go away permanently, but it seems to have deep roots in my psyche)
Hi Tara,
Much gratitude for all that you do. Thank you for your teachings, generosity, wisdom and compassion. Your meditations have helped me through difficult times and to understand dysfunctional relationship patterns. Sending love, Zoe M
Thank you – A useful exercise: bringing up my own discomfort about male ‘entitlement’ – but also greater insight into the releasing effect of self-compassion with – ‘It’s not my fault’. I have found ‘Radical Compassion’ a helpful companion.
Thanks for another gentle and accessible teaching Tara.
Genuinely forgiving myself for the guilt and blame I carry for ways I did not protect my child from a predator we thought was a friend could free up a lot of energy in me for healing myself and supporting my child and our family’s healing process.
As always, I am so grateful for the saving grace of your teachings and for the transformative power of mindfulness meditation in my life.
So appreciate your comments about what lies underneath the pain and brokenness. Holding ourselves with love and gentleness helps to break the cycle of shame. Thank you.
Forgiving self begins to make my defence wall more porous…
And then more and more and more porous untill heres hoping that it will crumble gently away 🙏
I feel more hopeful that I actually can change long held beliefs which produced behavioral patterns that are basically habitual. Yet I am uncertain about how to effectively make such change, not having that or those patterns in my repertoire already.
Very interesting videos with practical exercises to work with clients. Thank you for sharing.
This really helped me in my life and with my clients. I taught this in a meditation session and watched it change people.
My limited belief of I have to be perfect… shining the light on all the judgment from others & from my self… it feels so freeing to let this all go, bringing in compassion for my self, & then to others. Thank you!
Holding myself with kindness, love, and forgiveness gives me such a feeling of relief and softness. I am aware of my vulnerability and my ability to love. This series has been so powerful and enlightening to listen to. Thanks you!
Thanks for this insight and wisdom.
I love these videos, they are so helpful for me in working with clients.
Holding my whole being with kindness and forgiving myself makes me feel lighter and calmer which makes me act calmer and kinder in the relationship. It also makes me understand the relationship better.
Thank you so much. I find this video totally relaxing and allowed me to take time out for “me” to reflect.
I believe that when we feel bad about ourselves, when we are wallowing in guilt, it is the time we strike out at others. Our negative self talk flows into our conversations with others. I am only beginning to realize how the negativity, the putting myself down, which I confused with humility, makes it unpleasant for people to deal with. This is not bringing anyone joy.
Thanks for for sharing your experience and wisdom.
“Vengeance is a lazy form of grief.”
Powerful.
Thank you so much. I found these videos very thought-provoking … and calming personally
Genuine forgiveness allows to accept that we are human, we make mistakes and we can learn from them, store them but not let them consume us. Instead, we can invite growth, acceptance for who we truly are, love and empathy into ourselves to promote learning, calmness and trust with others and ourselves. Really likes how hands on this was as well as the brilliant examples. Thank you Tara.
I feel guilt that I placed my mother in a skilled nursing home and moved out of state to be closer to my daughter’s family. I know intellectually that Mom is in the best place for her safety. I need to forgive myself so that I can focus on her current needs and enjoy my visits with her. The love is still there, I just need to focus on it more than the guilt.
Perhaps I could find peace and safety. I am hyper vigilant type A and find it very difficult to relax. Trusting others doesn’t come easy.
I found a warm atmosphere of safety that made a sense of self-expanding. A feeling of alertness or physical tightness melted away. It felt good and nice. The other persons judgmental attitude did not affect me anymore. It was liberating.
So seemingly simple…so profound, yet so difficult for many.
A blessed and meaningful offering, on multiple levels. Thank you 🙏
Memories of love are the after-thought of the relationship, not the frustration. Thank you!
Thanks for putting the work into such an accessible form. I found the talks very clear and encouraging as there is lots to do.
I will be using this new sentence for myself and others:” it’s not your fault”.
Thank you!
Rosa
Recognizing the underlying beliefs and hurts driving relating with others has helped create a more mindful, self-compassionate response to myself. Thank you.
I’m only really beginning to realize how deeply and profoundly my own belief that something is wrong with me has impacted my life and the way I operate in the world. Each one of these videos has opened me up to an alternative view, as well as a fair amount of grief at all the time spent believing this story. I do see that this belief does not help me be a better person. Quite the opposite – it closes me up and puts me in a pattern of blame and self-defense.
This will help clients actually believe they deserve relationships, and are inherently lovable.
I have been struggling with accepting the mistakes I’ve made raising my dog and getting angry with him. He has been dead for over 4 years and I still get feelings of guilt. It’s incredible how much even animals can become part of our relationships.
Relief. Peace. Loving oneself enables one to love others
Thank you for offering this.
Thank you Tara for these three videos. I appreciate the depth of your understanding of these wild and self condemning emotions and thoughts we can have about our own failings. Mindfulness is something I am seeking to cultivate on behalf of myself and my relationship to others.
By forgiving myself, I dissolve the barrier of defensiveness behind which I hide. That allows me to be in the relationship in a new, clean way. I can feel the subtlety of the love underneath my shame. Rather than trying to kick the shame out, it just sort of melts away. (I wish it would go away permanently, but it seems to have deep roots in my psyche)
Hi Tara,
Much gratitude for all that you do. Thank you for your teachings, generosity, wisdom and compassion. Your meditations have helped me through difficult times and to understand dysfunctional relationship patterns. Sending love, Zoe M
Thank you – A useful exercise: bringing up my own discomfort about male ‘entitlement’ – but also greater insight into the releasing effect of self-compassion with – ‘It’s not my fault’. I have found ‘Radical Compassion’ a helpful companion.
Thanks so much for sharing these videos. I appreciated reflecting on how to shift unworthiness to self-compassion
It brings relieve!
Appreciate these gentle ways of being with ourselves and others.
Thank you for your commitment to the healing of others.
Thanks for another gentle and accessible teaching Tara.
Genuinely forgiving myself for the guilt and blame I carry for ways I did not protect my child from a predator we thought was a friend could free up a lot of energy in me for healing myself and supporting my child and our family’s healing process.
As always, I am so grateful for the saving grace of your teachings and for the transformative power of mindfulness meditation in my life.
So appreciate your comments about what lies underneath the pain and brokenness. Holding ourselves with love and gentleness helps to break the cycle of shame. Thank you.
Example was great to see how to apply the principle of self forgiveness by looking at faulty beliefs or unexamined beliefs underlying the behaviors
I loved the concept that how we relate to ourselves directly impacts our relationship with others.
It has saved my life
I felt peace and gentleness.
It would bring less separation and more closeness
Forgiving self begins to make my defence wall more porous…
And then more and more and more porous untill heres hoping that it will crumble gently away 🙏
In the world as it is at present – bringing more self compassion and loving kindness to our lives is essential – thank you
God bless you for making these videos
Very helpful for supporting clients to move forward.
I got so much from these 3 short videos – deep thanks 🙏🏽
thanks great small series
Great way of sharing this valuable information
Very helpful thank you
I feel more hopeful that I actually can change long held beliefs which produced behavioral patterns that are basically habitual. Yet I am uncertain about how to effectively make such change, not having that or those patterns in my repertoire already.