I ask them,” if that thing you fear actually happened, what would it mean about you?” Usually they can find the faulty core belief that is hiding under the fear, and I guide them to say statements of truth, which begins to heal the lie in the faulty core belief.
Thank you so much Tara. First, really allowing myself to become aware and honestly admit that fear is present (and proceeding with kindness towards myself). I am so often dissociated from my own feelings that reconnecting to authenticity is key- finding my body, taking a moment to see what emotion(s) are here. Then getting curious… where does this move or sit in the body? Is it linked to anything in particular in my life circumstance? All the while just letting it BE what it is – not trying to contain it or override it. Usually that is all that is needed, this full allowing – often an insight bubbles up from this inquiry that is so useful. <3
I think what helps me the most is recently I’ve been accepting that part of myself, being compassionate to the part of me that feels fearful. I used to try to push myself to ignore the fear and get rid of it by not listening to it but that didnt really seem to heal it. Now I’m being kind and just doing small gentle steps outside my comfort zone to stretch myself. It feels much more doable and I notice myself seeing the fear and often deciding I dont need to hold back because of it.
I have been following you, Tara, for some time, so what I do usually is recognize it, and then begin to focus on my breath and where I’m feeling the fear in my body. Then I usually bring compassion to it and keep breathing. I have Meniere’s disease and sometimes the “attacks” are pretty scary because my eyes shake and I get really sick. I can’t do anything but lie very still and wait for it to pass. Last time it happened I really focused on going deep into my self like being in the ocean and waiting for the storm to pass. It really helped.
to accept the fear
I ask them,” if that thing you fear actually happened, what would it mean about you?” Usually they can find the faulty core belief that is hiding under the fear, and I guide them to say statements of truth, which begins to heal the lie in the faulty core belief.
Thank you so much Tara. First, really allowing myself to become aware and honestly admit that fear is present (and proceeding with kindness towards myself). I am so often dissociated from my own feelings that reconnecting to authenticity is key- finding my body, taking a moment to see what emotion(s) are here. Then getting curious… where does this move or sit in the body? Is it linked to anything in particular in my life circumstance? All the while just letting it BE what it is – not trying to contain it or override it. Usually that is all that is needed, this full allowing – often an insight bubbles up from this inquiry that is so useful. <3
I think what helps me the most is recently I’ve been accepting that part of myself, being compassionate to the part of me that feels fearful. I used to try to push myself to ignore the fear and get rid of it by not listening to it but that didnt really seem to heal it. Now I’m being kind and just doing small gentle steps outside my comfort zone to stretch myself. It feels much more doable and I notice myself seeing the fear and often deciding I dont need to hold back because of it.
Understanding of its origins
I have been following you, Tara, for some time, so what I do usually is recognize it, and then begin to focus on my breath and where I’m feeling the fear in my body. Then I usually bring compassion to it and keep breathing. I have Meniere’s disease and sometimes the “attacks” are pretty scary because my eyes shake and I get really sick. I can’t do anything but lie very still and wait for it to pass. Last time it happened I really focused on going deep into my self like being in the ocean and waiting for the storm to pass. It really helped.
Stopping, bringging the observer, focusing on my breathing and /or hummimg until I have been able to go slower.Over and over and over again.
Thank you for excellent reminder. I am going to listen again for 2nd time. Very useful and timing is perfect.
I don’t really know how to. My faith helps some but I have been this way for so long I can never seem to stop the cycle.