Repetitive thoughts that aren’t true are fear. Being in the future instead of the present may be fear. I look forward to the next segment. Thank you Tara.
Julie Carpenter, Another Field, BELLINGHAM, WA, USAsays
About evolution: Exponential human overpopulation and global ecosystem collapses are the most important facts affecting our lifetimes. There are too many of us and the lifestyles we’ve evolved to be successful with are largely phasing out. If we are afraid, it’s a sign that we are “tuned in,” informed and paying attention. Limiting procreation and better focusing our energies toward creating a sustainable future (for all life, but with fewer of us) is the challenge of our times. Thanks for your work.
Fear can also be triggered by us. Thoughts and thinking of a problem and situation and feeding it with negativity.
Fear can come from past trauma and visualizing it or the situation in the present causing fear and anxiety.
Fear can come from brain imbalance this cannot be controlled in my opinion except by either medication (Pharma) with side effects or by mindfulness, Meditation, Yoga, Reiki, EFT, sound healing etc.
When I realize that I am anxious or fearful, I have learned to stop and breathe and ask myself what or who is the object of my fear and why. I now realize that it has become a habit with certain issues, and is not a fear to listen to or be anxious about. There are fear issues to attend to occasionally, but breaking the habit of unimportant fear seems to improve with practice.
J Hudson, Colorado elder
As a person raisd in chaos and years of trauma i didnt realize i had been living in fear most of my life.Alcohol was my go to solution. After i got sober i started having panic attacks. Today i bring my self to right here and right now and do deep breathing and i identify and ground myself in reality.
Practicing mindful self-compassion by allowing myself to feel the pain of my emotion and calling on my “go to” ways to soothe and be kind to my tender and shaking heart. This includes imagining the faces of my “believing mirrors” to contradict the story I default to that there’s something wrong with me, that I don’t matter and that I am alone and unsupported, to feeling more loved and supported and most importantly, loved and accepted for ALL of who I am. I am fortunate to live walking distance between the Tasman ocean and a native bush reserve. So my first “go to” is to immerse myself in mother nature and the elements to quell my fear and despair.
I recognise that the fear is coming from a part of me that feels vulnerable and so I give attention to that part and ‘hold it’. I talk to it and soothe it by holding my hand on my heart area.
Having given some time to this I then consider the situation rationally to get a clearer perspective.
Tara, I look up to God for help when I get fearful. If my clients are Christian, I am able to encourage them to look up as well. Prayer is the greatest tool we have.
I completely agree, thanks for sharing.
I think thru individual as well as group prayers we gain the insight, strength and knowledge to deal with our fear.
What helps me face fear is knowing certain friends have my back. A deeper knowing that what is for me will not pass me by. A confidence that it is okay to make a mistake and that I can course correct. Thank you for all that you do 🙏🏻
I work with a patiance who has head trauma. Fell from a ladder. He has fear of dieing. I try and calma him down by stating how grateful we are for his good Health. It works but within 5 or 10 minutes he will tell out again. I am dieing. Again i reassure him of his good Health then he is peaceful for the evening. We go through this every night
Thank you Tara for you wisdom and sharing.. what helps me face fear is remembering that I separated myself from God.. As soon as connect.. I can surrender to the Consciousness which has the plan and my greatest good in mind.
Blessings,
I find if I can stay in the present moment and offer myself compassion, I begin to reduce the shame affect and open to deeper understanding of what is beneath, and it often fear of failing or disappointing, of not being enough for the other. Then part of myself beats up the vulnerable part, before that defence recedes and I can be with the fear. My own experience of this is a shift into mental images that encapsulate the worst fears – like the boggart in the wardrobe senses and shapes itself to scare and overwhelm the person opening the rattling wardrobe. My boggart is hurt and terrified of being abandoned by others, and will take any form to avoid that eventuality. And beneath that is a sense of awe and surrender to the wider field where there is no form, only flow, and this universal field of love and the Brahma viharas feels boundless.
Thank you for this free workshop. It is definitely needed at this time when there are real individual, social and environmental dangers and many are regressing.
I have been using imaginary practice of doing fearful behaviors. The child imagines the conversation between her scared part and other parts and writes it out and then acts it out with someone or in her mind before attempting the frightening activity. Watching Inside Out and Luca have helped the children and even adults to connect with the idea of parts and inner critic.
Self-talk and recognizing that the story I’m telling myself is only a story that I’ve created. I also remind myself of the saying “let your faith be bigger than your fear.”
I am a retired teacher so I don’t really have clients. However, my beautiful son took his own life on August 19 after years of struggling with schizoaffective disorder and hopelessness. Since then, I have made my FB page a place for sharing information about schizophrenia, mindfulness, and compassion. Tara is one whose videos I frequently share. I just hope that someone who really needs hope and compassion will see the posts and either just through them or in combination with responding to them, find encouragement and support.
Bruce, I’m So sorry for the loss of your precious son. I applaud and have deep respect for your commitment to shine light into the world through the darkness you have endured. You’re remarkable and will undoubtedly help others. Janet
I am so sorry for your loss and for the pain your son endured during his lifetime. My son has also struggled with mental illness and suicidal thoughts. Thank you for your efforts to help others and reduce the stigma.
To understand fear, one has to study Dependent Origination (D.O.) and practice how to meditate properly.
The Buddha taught samatha-vipassana meditation. Samatha is the stilling of formations. Without samatha, deep vipassana, insight, is clearly impossible.
Almost all averse reactions are fear based when the emotional and thinking “onion is pealed”.
“… fear is thinking …”, “Do you want to know my secret? My secret is that I don’t mind what happens,” J. Krishnamurti. Translating: Krishnamurti learned how to walk off the wheel of suffering. He also didn’t spend much time facing grizzly momma bears in the woods.
Briefly, fear rises from contact. This contact is first interpreted through the unconscious mind, formations (sankhara); a/effecting perceptions (loosely namarupa), the four feeling tones not three, (Buddhist remember? “no clingy”), clinging comes before craving, and the doorways are primarily Right View – understanding habitual tendencies, becoming, existence – in terms of the body, speech, and mind.
I cannot cure someone. They must be taught the tools to cure their-me’.
Tara, I would not be bothered if you choose to remove these Buddhist details from your list.
This was very informative. I scored six on ACES, have PTSD due to being molested, raped, abused in every way, etc. This past year I have had ongoing therapy with a Psychiatrist, and Therapist who specializes in PTSD. I have finally learned to face my fears. As my brain processed all of my past abuses, I slowly started dreaming I killed all of those who had abused me. My Therapist said that it represented my putting it in the past and moving on. I am not violent at all, but, the “killing” was extinguishing the ongoing thoughts and fears. I had had ongoing dreams I was being chased and hid by abusive men who were trying to kill me and when they found me, I woke up in a panic. Recently, I dreamt that I didn’t wake up, but, fought back and endured the abuse, but, survived and then woke up calm. I haven’t had a violent dream in months (it used to be weekly). I faced my fears in dreams after months of therapy. I am much calmer and not as fearful! I hardly ever feel “paralyzed” by fear, which led to my shutting down and disassociating on the past. Again, your video was right on! Thank you! Laurie Morrow
Diane Boehm, Another Field, Bearsville, NY, USAsays
I wake up in fear. I used to run from that feeling. The more I acknowledged the fear the more I noticed how much it is present in my life since childhood. I don’t know if this feeling will ever go away. But it is stopping me from going forward in my life with new goals. I am open to learn how to awaken my fearless heart, (which I didn’t know I have one). I believe it lives inside me after listening to this video. Having guidance from within (myself) and without through teachings, instruction and practice, is what I am seeking.
I am a client and what has helped me face fear is my wonderful therapist, my supportive friends and the spiritual literature and workshops I come across, like yours and Eckhart Tolle’s.
I put on a pot of tea, pull up a chair, and say, “Welcome fear. It’s good to see you, and it’s been at least a couple of hours since you were here, and I was starting to worry about you. I have about fifteen minutes, so let’s visit, but then I need you to leave, as I have things that require my attention and focus. But for now, let’s chat old friend.”
In welcoming the fear – gently – rather than resisting it or fighting with in or running from it – it interacts with me in a less harsh and more gentle way, and we are able to cultivate a relationship. Does that make sense?
Meditation has helped me face my fears. Watching the fear like a cloud passing by. Trying to feel it and it eventually leaves u.
Yes that makes perfect sense.
I have I’ll try this technique
In Nov 2019 I was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma…a terminal cancer. My wife died 3 years earlier…22 months after being diagnosed with the same cancer….so I was familiar with the course of this cancer.
Strangely enough I took this diagnosis rather philosophically in that”….if you get a serious disease at my age (77) you will either get better or you will die. If you get better there is nothing to worry about. If you die…there is nothing to worry about. So either way there is no point in worrying.”
After 20 months of treatments I received confirmation after a bone marrow biopsy that I am now cancer free.
Friends have said to me “ You fought cancer and won!”…but I don’t think that is true. I feel that right from the start…instead of fighting the cancer….I accepted the inevitability of death and accepted the fact that I was going to die I just didn’t know when. At that point I was able to enjoy every day as a wonderful gift!
This attitude set me free and I looked at each day when I woke up as a new adventure. Every day became a special experience of my life and I looked forward to whatever my gift was going to be.
I fully believe that the body knows how to heal itself and…as in my case…by accepting death we free ourselves from the corrosive effects of stress and depression and allow the body to get on with the job of healing.
Warmly,
Harry Cook
I found Tara very soothing…..the thought of somehow being able of learning how to get rid of fear is encouraging. As a grandmother, as a senior with growing disabilities I find much of my day sadly encompasses fear and with that also the blame mode turns up it’s volume. Shelagh
Tara’s guided meditations and talks! Relaxing and letting the feelings, thoughts, and sensations be, just as they are, has really helped me face them and let go. Being connected to God’s Loving kind presence has been my Source of strength and courage to walk this healing path. Thanks Tara for empowering me to “Trust the Gold”!
I’m 81 years old. I recently discover a trauma that happened to me when I was 6 years old. The fear and terror went on for several months. After that I grew up to live a pretty happy and productive life. I blocked out fear. When it became obvious the rational mind took over and figured a way out of the situation. Now that I’m getting to know that little girl… I feel loving , soft and gentle towards her. And I’m still afraid to let all that fear into my now old body. I am letting it in in small bits. When I do my body jerks, twitches and shudders and some internal pressure is released. I’m not as afraid of feeling fear as I used to be and I’m wondering if there is a more effective way to go about this.
exercizing early each morning helps me get motivated to move through the day and deep breathing is my life saver, like doing the dog paddle it seems to instill a sense of drownproofing
What is helpful for me is exploring new ways to feel my fear, talk about it but not get overwhelmed in the “story” so that i procrastinate important life responsibilities. Being highly emotional, I often clash with strong, resilient people in my life who are very responsible “action takers”….. they “Just do it” and dont talk about the feelings they are having. I know they make very valid points about the importance of taking care of business, but I also know that I have to be able to feel my feelings and sometimes express them. Walking that line of feeling vs getting on with it is a challenge for me…. so even talking about this challenge is helpful.
Thanks so much for being there.
I’m so 💜 very thankful for All your teachings Tara Namaste🙏
Thankyou for explaning this important subject so clearly.It will help my daughter also so immensely who has Asperger’s… Blessings !!!!!
Repetitive thoughts that aren’t true are fear. Being in the future instead of the present may be fear. I look forward to the next segment. Thank you Tara.
I take myself outside my comfort zone.
About evolution: Exponential human overpopulation and global ecosystem collapses are the most important facts affecting our lifetimes. There are too many of us and the lifestyles we’ve evolved to be successful with are largely phasing out. If we are afraid, it’s a sign that we are “tuned in,” informed and paying attention. Limiting procreation and better focusing our energies toward creating a sustainable future (for all life, but with fewer of us) is the challenge of our times. Thanks for your work.
Hello,
Thank you very interesting.
Fear can also be triggered by us. Thoughts and thinking of a problem and situation and feeding it with negativity.
Fear can come from past trauma and visualizing it or the situation in the present causing fear and anxiety.
Fear can come from brain imbalance this cannot be controlled in my opinion except by either medication (Pharma) with side effects or by mindfulness, Meditation, Yoga, Reiki, EFT, sound healing etc.
When I realize that I am anxious or fearful, I have learned to stop and breathe and ask myself what or who is the object of my fear and why. I now realize that it has become a habit with certain issues, and is not a fear to listen to or be anxious about. There are fear issues to attend to occasionally, but breaking the habit of unimportant fear seems to improve with practice.
J Hudson, Colorado elder
As a person raisd in chaos and years of trauma i didnt realize i had been living in fear most of my life.Alcohol was my go to solution. After i got sober i started having panic attacks. Today i bring my self to right here and right now and do deep breathing and i identify and ground myself in reality.
Practicing mindful self-compassion by allowing myself to feel the pain of my emotion and calling on my “go to” ways to soothe and be kind to my tender and shaking heart. This includes imagining the faces of my “believing mirrors” to contradict the story I default to that there’s something wrong with me, that I don’t matter and that I am alone and unsupported, to feeling more loved and supported and most importantly, loved and accepted for ALL of who I am. I am fortunate to live walking distance between the Tasman ocean and a native bush reserve. So my first “go to” is to immerse myself in mother nature and the elements to quell my fear and despair.
I recognise that the fear is coming from a part of me that feels vulnerable and so I give attention to that part and ‘hold it’. I talk to it and soothe it by holding my hand on my heart area.
Having given some time to this I then consider the situation rationally to get a clearer perspective.
reminder of safety in the present moment.
Tara, I look up to God for help when I get fearful. If my clients are Christian, I am able to encourage them to look up as well. Prayer is the greatest tool we have.
I completely agree, thanks for sharing.
I think thru individual as well as group prayers we gain the insight, strength and knowledge to deal with our fear.
Elizabeth Fung, Psychotherapist, Boston, MA
What helps me face fear is knowing certain friends have my back. A deeper knowing that what is for me will not pass me by. A confidence that it is okay to make a mistake and that I can course correct. Thank you for all that you do 🙏🏻
I work with a patiance who has head trauma. Fell from a ladder. He has fear of dieing. I try and calma him down by stating how grateful we are for his good Health. It works but within 5 or 10 minutes he will tell out again. I am dieing. Again i reassure him of his good Health then he is peaceful for the evening. We go through this every night
I remind myself that I am human too. And no human is perfect.
I also remind myself that most people are so worried about themselves they aren’t even paying attention to me.
Thank you Tara for you wisdom and sharing.. what helps me face fear is remembering that I separated myself from God.. As soon as connect.. I can surrender to the Consciousness which has the plan and my greatest good in mind.
Blessings,
Information on where neuroplasticity and psychotherapy and meditation and somatic work intersect
I find if I can stay in the present moment and offer myself compassion, I begin to reduce the shame affect and open to deeper understanding of what is beneath, and it often fear of failing or disappointing, of not being enough for the other. Then part of myself beats up the vulnerable part, before that defence recedes and I can be with the fear. My own experience of this is a shift into mental images that encapsulate the worst fears – like the boggart in the wardrobe senses and shapes itself to scare and overwhelm the person opening the rattling wardrobe. My boggart is hurt and terrified of being abandoned by others, and will take any form to avoid that eventuality. And beneath that is a sense of awe and surrender to the wider field where there is no form, only flow, and this universal field of love and the Brahma viharas feels boundless.
Thank you for this free workshop. It is definitely needed at this time when there are real individual, social and environmental dangers and many are regressing.
I have been using imaginary practice of doing fearful behaviors. The child imagines the conversation between her scared part and other parts and writes it out and then acts it out with someone or in her mind before attempting the frightening activity. Watching Inside Out and Luca have helped the children and even adults to connect with the idea of parts and inner critic.
Mindfulness and singing
Self-talk and recognizing that the story I’m telling myself is only a story that I’ve created. I also remind myself of the saying “let your faith be bigger than your fear.”
I am a retired teacher so I don’t really have clients. However, my beautiful son took his own life on August 19 after years of struggling with schizoaffective disorder and hopelessness. Since then, I have made my FB page a place for sharing information about schizophrenia, mindfulness, and compassion. Tara is one whose videos I frequently share. I just hope that someone who really needs hope and compassion will see the posts and either just through them or in combination with responding to them, find encouragement and support.
Bruce, I’m So sorry for the loss of your precious son. I applaud and have deep respect for your commitment to shine light into the world through the darkness you have endured. You’re remarkable and will undoubtedly help others. Janet
I am so sorry for your loss and for the pain your son endured during his lifetime. My son has also struggled with mental illness and suicidal thoughts. Thank you for your efforts to help others and reduce the stigma.
To understand fear, one has to study Dependent Origination (D.O.) and practice how to meditate properly.
The Buddha taught samatha-vipassana meditation. Samatha is the stilling of formations. Without samatha, deep vipassana, insight, is clearly impossible.
Almost all averse reactions are fear based when the emotional and thinking “onion is pealed”.
“… fear is thinking …”, “Do you want to know my secret? My secret is that I don’t mind what happens,” J. Krishnamurti. Translating: Krishnamurti learned how to walk off the wheel of suffering. He also didn’t spend much time facing grizzly momma bears in the woods.
Briefly, fear rises from contact. This contact is first interpreted through the unconscious mind, formations (sankhara); a/effecting perceptions (loosely namarupa), the four feeling tones not three, (Buddhist remember? “no clingy”), clinging comes before craving, and the doorways are primarily Right View – understanding habitual tendencies, becoming, existence – in terms of the body, speech, and mind.
I cannot cure someone. They must be taught the tools to cure their-me’.
Tara, I would not be bothered if you choose to remove these Buddhist details from your list.
This was very informative. I scored six on ACES, have PTSD due to being molested, raped, abused in every way, etc. This past year I have had ongoing therapy with a Psychiatrist, and Therapist who specializes in PTSD. I have finally learned to face my fears. As my brain processed all of my past abuses, I slowly started dreaming I killed all of those who had abused me. My Therapist said that it represented my putting it in the past and moving on. I am not violent at all, but, the “killing” was extinguishing the ongoing thoughts and fears. I had had ongoing dreams I was being chased and hid by abusive men who were trying to kill me and when they found me, I woke up in a panic. Recently, I dreamt that I didn’t wake up, but, fought back and endured the abuse, but, survived and then woke up calm. I haven’t had a violent dream in months (it used to be weekly). I faced my fears in dreams after months of therapy. I am much calmer and not as fearful! I hardly ever feel “paralyzed” by fear, which led to my shutting down and disassociating on the past. Again, your video was right on! Thank you! Laurie Morrow
an anticipated feeling of gratitude that will result through the process of facing fear and getting to know one’s growth edges
Getting to know it – as if it were an actual person.
Meditating, eft, journaling, talking to great friends
Deep breathing, meditation
I understand it is a test of sorts
facing my fears and accepting they are there
loving connection
I wake up in fear. I used to run from that feeling. The more I acknowledged the fear the more I noticed how much it is present in my life since childhood. I don’t know if this feeling will ever go away. But it is stopping me from going forward in my life with new goals. I am open to learn how to awaken my fearless heart, (which I didn’t know I have one). I believe it lives inside me after listening to this video. Having guidance from within (myself) and without through teachings, instruction and practice, is what I am seeking.
I am a client and what has helped me face fear is my wonderful therapist, my supportive friends and the spiritual literature and workshops I come across, like yours and Eckhart Tolle’s.
I put on a pot of tea, pull up a chair, and say, “Welcome fear. It’s good to see you, and it’s been at least a couple of hours since you were here, and I was starting to worry about you. I have about fifteen minutes, so let’s visit, but then I need you to leave, as I have things that require my attention and focus. But for now, let’s chat old friend.”
In welcoming the fear – gently – rather than resisting it or fighting with in or running from it – it interacts with me in a less harsh and more gentle way, and we are able to cultivate a relationship. Does that make sense?
Meditation has helped me face my fears. Watching the fear like a cloud passing by. Trying to feel it and it eventually leaves u.
Yes that makes perfect sense.
I have I’ll try this technique
Yes! Totally!
Dr. Valerie Anne Demming
“Fear knocked. Faith answered – No one was there…”
(If this were fully effective, I wouldn’t be looking forward to learning more.)
Meditation and courses like this one
I have feared other people since I was little.
What helps me face my fear is my growing curiosity toward the world.
In Nov 2019 I was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma…a terminal cancer. My wife died 3 years earlier…22 months after being diagnosed with the same cancer….so I was familiar with the course of this cancer.
Strangely enough I took this diagnosis rather philosophically in that”….if you get a serious disease at my age (77) you will either get better or you will die. If you get better there is nothing to worry about. If you die…there is nothing to worry about. So either way there is no point in worrying.”
After 20 months of treatments I received confirmation after a bone marrow biopsy that I am now cancer free.
Friends have said to me “ You fought cancer and won!”…but I don’t think that is true. I feel that right from the start…instead of fighting the cancer….I accepted the inevitability of death and accepted the fact that I was going to die I just didn’t know when. At that point I was able to enjoy every day as a wonderful gift!
This attitude set me free and I looked at each day when I woke up as a new adventure. Every day became a special experience of my life and I looked forward to whatever my gift was going to be.
I fully believe that the body knows how to heal itself and…as in my case…by accepting death we free ourselves from the corrosive effects of stress and depression and allow the body to get on with the job of healing.
Warmly,
Harry Cook
I found Tara very soothing…..the thought of somehow being able of learning how to get rid of fear is encouraging. As a grandmother, as a senior with growing disabilities I find much of my day sadly encompasses fear and with that also the blame mode turns up it’s volume. Shelagh
Writing in my journal long enough to finally get to what it is that makes me fearful and is underneath everything else.
When I had a gun pointed at my head and almost kidnapped. Jesus Christ by the Power of the Holy Spirit rewired my mind . Praise and worship
Validatipn
Tara’s guided meditations and talks! Relaxing and letting the feelings, thoughts, and sensations be, just as they are, has really helped me face them and let go. Being connected to God’s Loving kind presence has been my Source of strength and courage to walk this healing path. Thanks Tara for empowering me to “Trust the Gold”!
I’m 81 years old. I recently discover a trauma that happened to me when I was 6 years old. The fear and terror went on for several months. After that I grew up to live a pretty happy and productive life. I blocked out fear. When it became obvious the rational mind took over and figured a way out of the situation. Now that I’m getting to know that little girl… I feel loving , soft and gentle towards her. And I’m still afraid to let all that fear into my now old body. I am letting it in in small bits. When I do my body jerks, twitches and shudders and some internal pressure is released. I’m not as afraid of feeling fear as I used to be and I’m wondering if there is a more effective way to go about this.
Me – the anticipation of what’s on the other side if I can get over the fear
I’m not sure I’ve helped my clients get over their fears. 😢
exercizing early each morning helps me get motivated to move through the day and deep breathing is my life saver, like doing the dog paddle it seems to instill a sense of drownproofing
Meditating, medication.
Speaking about it out loud. It is like releasing energy into space to become more open and accept the feeling that comes with it.
Love it! Anxiety is so high these days!
What is helpful for me is exploring new ways to feel my fear, talk about it but not get overwhelmed in the “story” so that i procrastinate important life responsibilities. Being highly emotional, I often clash with strong, resilient people in my life who are very responsible “action takers”….. they “Just do it” and dont talk about the feelings they are having. I know they make very valid points about the importance of taking care of business, but I also know that I have to be able to feel my feelings and sometimes express them. Walking that line of feeling vs getting on with it is a challenge for me…. so even talking about this challenge is helpful.
Thanks so much for being there.
Extremely well put!!
What helped me to the bottom of my personhood was to join and participate in
Toastmaster.
Ralph