What helps me face fear in my life is a deep experience of what lies beyond my body and mind and is always present within me,i feel a trust in life and a knowing that i am watched over no matter what is happening on the outside of my body…i have experienced severe illness,homelessness and the mental illness of my son but that presence has been there and i access it through meditation,prayer and opening my heart to other beings.
Thank you so much for sharing Tara! What helps me is phsyical touch, naming the emotion, using some compassionate phrases, reminding myself that I’m not the only one having this experience. It also helps me to have a inner compassionate conversation with the fear, saying; It’s okay! “I’m here.” “Breathe slowly” While counting. Qi Gong also helps.
To draw it and to become acquainted with it careful.
Then you can create the fear a good place in the picture where it can be hold. Maybe there is someone (person, animal, fantasy figure) besides.
It helps become more confident and generate ideas to deal with it. Facing fear helps me to know what are my skills and abilities and which areas I need to work on.
Taking a breath, pause and awareness in addition to a good night sleep.
Thank you Tara for the good work you are doing for the world community. Deep gratitude.
Through you, I have learnt to say to myself ‘sh, sh, you’re okey, I’ve got you, I’m holding you, I won’t ever leave you’, whilst at the same time tapping my abdoman or my solar plexus. Once I’ve started to calm down, I start to focus on my senses, ‘what do I see, what do I hear’ etc, and remember a good moment, (like hugging an oak tree in the woods). All this I’ve learnt from you. Thank you so much Tara. x
Thank you Tara much appreciated! I’ve been doing meditation for decades and yoga I’m able to be with bodily feelings, at the same time the trauma ( fear ) holds on even though Iv got a willingness to let it go , please do you have any advice for this
I’m not great at dealing with the fear I have inside me. I have stage 4 cancer and live in a fluctuating state of fear and hope. I’m doing your excellent 40 day mindfulness course. It helps a lot. Tara and Jack are so helpful.
Thinking about how tiny my problems and fears are relative to the vastness of the universe sometimes helps. Experiencing nature, seeing the stars, or just getting outside for a bit often lifts weight when I’ve been spending a lot of time indoors or staring at screens.
Maria C Escalante Cortina (AKA Maria C. de Smith), Counseling, CEDAR RAPIDS, IA, USAsays
I use naturalistic hypnotic trance focusing on my physical sensations and thoughts. Afterwards, I imagine/visualize a scene where things are Ok and I have been able to overcome the problem.
Breathing into my fear using the 4-7-8 breathing method, and reminding myself that fear is an illusion. There is no fear, only love. So I focus on my fear, and extend love to it, until it feels light and manageable.
Jan Pitcher, Another Field, Los Gatos, CA, USAsays
Listening to Tara’s talks on a regular basis; such a gift – letting her wisdom, humor and kind ways wash over me and change me, especially when I’m feeling separate, worried, and down. Practicing RAIN more and more, hand on heart, hand on heart. Connecting with friends, filling up that way, laughing and crying together and sharing what’s real, reminding me I’m not alone. Purposefully focusing on the goodness everywhere, happy to find ways to spread it around every day. Cultivating hope helps, so as not to succumb to the despair of our times, our wonderful/horrible times.
I don’t think I have faced my fear of getting lost. I know it’s there and it holds me back. I am afraid of driving somewhere out of my comfort zone. This greatly limits me.
Maria Pace, Physical Therapy, Wethersfield , CT, USAsays
I see so many patients with acute and chronic pain, most with anxiety and tension. I teach as many as I can to use breathing techniques, and encourage meditation, tapping, or enjoying nature.
I work with children. I find helping them explore the basis of their fear, then possible alternative explanations, really helps. Then… practice practice practice.
Taking action step by step, doing the next best thing in the next moment. Having perspective on my fear from years of living through countless disasters, some of which have actually happened. My lineage is unbroken therefore all of my ancestors managed to survive and procreate and so may I.
My desire not to miss out on life makes me feel some courage in the face of fear. What the heck attitude or an attitude of impulsive aggression, while not particularly healthy, are sometimes used to face fear.
What has helped me so much lately is listening to Tara’s wed meditation/talks, her radical acceptance and RAIN,,,well all if it! I also stay mindful throughout the day and look forward to listening to others and how i can help others feel less stressed , even with a smile or good morning!💜
Now well into the second year of the pandemic, many of my clients are tired. My nurse clients are exhausted and burned out. They all worry about their families, the future of CoVid, the effects of climate change, and fear there is no way out. Helping them to get free of the grip of fear is the challenge and so thank you, Tara, for offering this mindful guidance.
Acupuncture has been amazing. I had become one with the anxiety that fed off my fear – what I’ve heard Taravcall “trance.” Acupuncture allowed me to separate from the fear so I could actually look at it. Now I can begin the work, I couldn’t even tell you where it came from before, I was so enmeshed.
Allowing myself to feel the fear helps, I don’t try to deny it. I sit with the feeling and notice it. And then, if safe to do so, I tackle it, sometimes boldly and head on, and sometimes in tiny steps as I feel safe and able. I also remind myself that it’s okay to be vulnerable. In fact, allowing myself to feel vulnerable also feels very brave!
Recognizing my worry brain. Pausing and breathing deeply. Challenge my thoughts. What proof do I have? Getting out in nature helps too makes me practice gratitude as I use my senses to appreciate the beauty around me…
Awareness. Acknowledging all emotions eases the sting of the uncomfortable ones. I have clients name the fear and then say out loud everything that goes with this fear. Is it happening yet? So, it’s about having anxiety about future anxiety. Can we foresee the future? So, it’s about telling ourselves stories about our discomfort. We can tell ourselves “I will be able to handle what comes up” instead of the things we end up agonizing over that haven’t happened yet. That picture of the fear and being left alone, or penniless, or whatever is running the amygdala train. Thank you for this workshop, I always enjoy your books and trainings.
Margaret Babcock, Other, Walnut Creek, CA, USAsays
Breathing with it creates space so I can include it, rather than falling into a battle of “who’s running the show here?”. When there’s space for that tightness, if I can be patient, it lessens and fades and I relax. Thanks for asking!
Talking to people who I feel safe with . About my feelings fears life , meditation, breath work , journaling, prayer . All of theses practices help me with my fear 🙏😊
What helps me face fear in my life is a deep experience of what lies beyond my body and mind and is always present within me,i feel a trust in life and a knowing that i am watched over no matter what is happening on the outside of my body…i have experienced severe illness,homelessness and the mental illness of my son but that presence has been there and i access it through meditation,prayer and opening my heart to other beings.
Thank you so much for sharing Tara! What helps me is phsyical touch, naming the emotion, using some compassionate phrases, reminding myself that I’m not the only one having this experience. It also helps me to have a inner compassionate conversation with the fear, saying; It’s okay! “I’m here.” “Breathe slowly” While counting. Qi Gong also helps.
To draw it and to become acquainted with it careful.
Then you can create the fear a good place in the picture where it can be hold. Maybe there is someone (person, animal, fantasy figure) besides.
It helps become more confident and know about my skills and abilities and which areas I need to work on.
It helps become more confident and identify what are my skills and abilities and which areas I need to work on.
It helps become more confident. Facing fear helps me to know what are my skills and abilities and which areas I need to work on.
It helps become more confident and generate ideas to deal with it. Facing fear helps me to know what are my skills and abilities and which areas I need to work on.
Talking it out. When I don’t express my fear to someone it becomes exaggerated.
Feeling supported
To remind myself this too shall pass and that at the other side of fear is love 💗
It helps me to visualize myself from the future looking at me from today. Will be everything ok
I have learnt to imagine the worst and then work backwards from there – this seems to help anxiety.
Taking a breath, pause and awareness in addition to a good night sleep.
Thank you Tara for the good work you are doing for the world community. Deep gratitude.
Thank you again Tara,
Through you, I have learnt to say to myself ‘sh, sh, you’re okey, I’ve got you, I’m holding you, I won’t ever leave you’, whilst at the same time tapping my abdoman or my solar plexus. Once I’ve started to calm down, I start to focus on my senses, ‘what do I see, what do I hear’ etc, and remember a good moment, (like hugging an oak tree in the woods). All this I’ve learnt from you. Thank you so much Tara. x
Awareness
Acknowledge
Attention
Accept
Allow
Thank you Tara much appreciated! I’ve been doing meditation for decades and yoga I’m able to be with bodily feelings, at the same time the trauma ( fear ) holds on even though Iv got a willingness to let it go , please do you have any advice for this
Daily Mindfulness practice on Acceptance and, facing my own fears.
RAIN meditation
” You are not alone ”
🙏🧡
actually i have no clue. thank you for this question. I will think about it.
I ask God to help me. I go walking outdoors or engage in other activities, eg maybe watching a
Prayer, guided meditation, the need for the company of others, the desire not to be alone all the time.
Awareness, strength, courage and trust
I’m not great at dealing with the fear I have inside me. I have stage 4 cancer and live in a fluctuating state of fear and hope. I’m doing your excellent 40 day mindfulness course. It helps a lot. Tara and Jack are so helpful.
Thinking about how tiny my problems and fears are relative to the vastness of the universe sometimes helps. Experiencing nature, seeing the stars, or just getting outside for a bit often lifts weight when I’ve been spending a lot of time indoors or staring at screens.
Love Tara’s podcasts
Thank you for your wisdom and humor.
Thank you. I needed this information right at this time, such a blessing.
I use naturalistic hypnotic trance focusing on my physical sensations and thoughts. Afterwards, I imagine/visualize a scene where things are Ok and I have been able to overcome the problem.
By first distancing myself from the source; putting myself in a safe environment; and gradually looking at the elements that scare me.
Thank you. The information is a beautiful gift.
Talking with my husband and therapists helps with fear.
Breathing into my fear using the 4-7-8 breathing method, and reminding myself that fear is an illusion. There is no fear, only love. So I focus on my fear, and extend love to it, until it feels light and manageable.
Listening to Tara’s talks on a regular basis; such a gift – letting her wisdom, humor and kind ways wash over me and change me, especially when I’m feeling separate, worried, and down. Practicing RAIN more and more, hand on heart, hand on heart. Connecting with friends, filling up that way, laughing and crying together and sharing what’s real, reminding me I’m not alone. Purposefully focusing on the goodness everywhere, happy to find ways to spread it around every day. Cultivating hope helps, so as not to succumb to the despair of our times, our wonderful/horrible times.
I don’t think I have faced my fear of getting lost. I know it’s there and it holds me back. I am afraid of driving somewhere out of my comfort zone. This greatly limits me.
The fear experienced from the pandemic is debilitating. If you are over 60 and have any underlying conditions most are afraid to do anything .
Thank you for sharing this. It’s a good reminder to help myself and well as clients to deal with and decrease fear/anxiety.
I see so many patients with acute and chronic pain, most with anxiety and tension. I teach as many as I can to use breathing techniques, and encourage meditation, tapping, or enjoying nature.
Connection with others. Having a larger perspective.(The drop of red dye in a pond v a glass of water.)
Being able to talk about it, listen to others, and have someone to listen to me.
I work with children. I find helping them explore the basis of their fear, then possible alternative explanations, really helps. Then… practice practice practice.
Taking action step by step, doing the next best thing in the next moment. Having perspective on my fear from years of living through countless disasters, some of which have actually happened. My lineage is unbroken therefore all of my ancestors managed to survive and procreate and so may I.
My desire not to miss out on life makes me feel some courage in the face of fear. What the heck attitude or an attitude of impulsive aggression, while not particularly healthy, are sometimes used to face fear.
time…. and space to reflect
and a partner who can forgive through.. its a huge ask
What has helped me so much lately is listening to Tara’s wed meditation/talks, her radical acceptance and RAIN,,,well all if it! I also stay mindful throughout the day and look forward to listening to others and how i can help others feel less stressed , even with a smile or good morning!💜
Now well into the second year of the pandemic, many of my clients are tired. My nurse clients are exhausted and burned out. They all worry about their families, the future of CoVid, the effects of climate change, and fear there is no way out. Helping them to get free of the grip of fear is the challenge and so thank you, Tara, for offering this mindful guidance.
Acupuncture has been amazing. I had become one with the anxiety that fed off my fear – what I’ve heard Taravcall “trance.” Acupuncture allowed me to separate from the fear so I could actually look at it. Now I can begin the work, I couldn’t even tell you where it came from before, I was so enmeshed.
Allowing myself to feel the fear helps, I don’t try to deny it. I sit with the feeling and notice it. And then, if safe to do so, I tackle it, sometimes boldly and head on, and sometimes in tiny steps as I feel safe and able. I also remind myself that it’s okay to be vulnerable. In fact, allowing myself to feel vulnerable also feels very brave!
Recognizing my worry brain. Pausing and breathing deeply. Challenge my thoughts. What proof do I have? Getting out in nature helps too makes me practice gratitude as I use my senses to appreciate the beauty around me…
I am able to face my fears more readily when i can see them as gifts that are an opportunity to grow.
Awareness. Acknowledging all emotions eases the sting of the uncomfortable ones. I have clients name the fear and then say out loud everything that goes with this fear. Is it happening yet? So, it’s about having anxiety about future anxiety. Can we foresee the future? So, it’s about telling ourselves stories about our discomfort. We can tell ourselves “I will be able to handle what comes up” instead of the things we end up agonizing over that haven’t happened yet. That picture of the fear and being left alone, or penniless, or whatever is running the amygdala train. Thank you for this workshop, I always enjoy your books and trainings.
Thank you for this post; I found your advice very useful.
Breathing with it creates space so I can include it, rather than falling into a battle of “who’s running the show here?”. When there’s space for that tightness, if I can be patient, it lessens and fades and I relax. Thanks for asking!
Talking to people who I feel safe with . About my feelings fears life , meditation, breath work , journaling, prayer . All of theses practices help me with my fear 🙏😊