I would be the person I dreamed to be. There is a lot I could say but there is something so simple and liberating my fear keeps away.I would dance! I want to dance again! I used to dance as a child but was picked at because I “had no rhythm. “
Tough question, because I am afraid I will not like my answer :). I will probably be a more fearless psychotherapist who could find a better way of helping more people as they become fearless themselves.
Thank you for this invaluable gift! I believe I would have the courage to have healthier relationships if I didn’t feel there is something wrong with me.
Internal Family Systems would concur with your encouraging compassion for that part that holds the fear and the question “who would you be if…
IFS would ask the part also what it would like to do if it didn’t have to do the ‘job’ of being fearful.
I like your “real but not true”!
I would be free to be the whole person I was meant to be. In doing so I would be more open to enjoy life and all it’s endless possibilities, engaging in new experiences and friendships. This is my desire. This is who I long to be.
I listened to that question and it made me so emotional.
I’ve know that part of me who is alive, fearless and being my full self. It’s the one who periodically peers out many times a day.
I often push fear aside enough to get to a particular place of my desires. However, it looms as a shadow in times of insecurity. And I’m honestly seeing it’s usually there but I pay it no attention.
I make momentum and then way too often the thoughts that something is wrong with me come in. I begin to think, how am I going to do this, How will I keep up? The thoughts are either around that I’m physically not going to be able to handle such a demanding schedule,. I put it that I don’t handle stress well – I’m sensitive, I’m different. That then goes into something’s wrong with me. Or, I begin to think that I’ve got nothing really to say, and once I think that one, my mind might freeze. I then can’t or don’t want to contribute as I feel less than.
I appreciate the phrase, real, but not true. I also am seeing these past weeks how these wrong thoughts feed on one another – loop as you say. I’ve seen this myself.
As the universe has it, I’m now being hoisted into a position of leadership and speaking in front of hundreds. It’s time I get rid of what’s holding me back. Who’d I be is exactly where I’m heading, so I need to catch up all my parts and self talk into being okay with what is in the present and not worry about the future going wrong or that I’m not right. Otherwise, it’s going to continue to feel very painful with fear and anxiety.
Thank you. It’s been very supporting for me to read so many others comments. It must be nearly everyone struggles with this in some way or another. Just knowing this makes room for compassion for others and self. You know on the outside most of us appear just fine. It’s on the inside we think, we’re not.
When I inhabit, during meditation, that place where “everything is Ok, I feel I have another identity, one I am not familiar with, and so there is an impulse to not move away from there, especially by letting myself get caught by worries or concerns about my day or my week. I am aware I need and want to remain in that safe place that tells me “everything is Ok”, yet the distractions are powerful.
“Who would I be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me?” Thats a powerful tool and question that takes who I personally and challenges it all in one in one phase. As you said it unpacks a lifetime of self doubting judgements and insecurities that have challenged me to pursue so much of my work and confronts the judgements laid upon me as a young child of being unworthy due to divorce, bad marriages, difficult challenges with my children and their own mental
Health issues and simply forced me to question why I would blindly
Accept the attitudes and believes of others when I know down deeper that none of it is actually true.
This is a powerful techniques to use with clients and help reorganize their self doubt and quickly recognize how comfiston bias as already worked negatively to sabatoge their sense of well being. It can quickly pivot to go from a victim stance to a place
Of powerlessness to empowerment for women with domestic violence experiences who need to find ways to true they are worthy of being loved again and that they can trust themselves to know the difference. Thank you for sharing this wonderful too. I would love to learn more!
Something me not afraid to be intimate with other people. Someone more successful and happy in work and life. Someone willing to move on from inadequate circumstances. Someone more willing to take chances, be more creative, and have a more fulfilling life.
“Who would I be if I didn’t believe there is something wrong with me?” That’s a very powerful question. It brought up for me how, yes, true, there was a lot wrong with my life and experiences growing up–the world around me was deeply marked by a world war, fear, addiction, mental illness, and denial. It’s taken me a long time to extract myself from all that enmeshment, but I know now I am capable of love, empathy, wisdom, truth and trust as I go on with my life. It’s even possible to have fun and playfulness, be creative, and be present for others. Thank you Tara for these wonderful reminders of what’s possible for all and anyone of us!
Without fear I would be open in front of an audience sharing about my life and what I have learned about myself in contact with other persons I have met. Without fear I will show my grace, dignity, integrity. The freedom of my heart will guide me and the will behind my heart will carry me to the future.
Thank you Tara Brach.
I surely would be less a pleaser person and this certainly would result more courage and daring behaviour that was not possible for me when I was younger.
I am looking forward to this program. Thank you Tara, for your wisdom. I’ve suffered with anxiety since I was 5 ab.nd I’m now 55,. Time to be rid of it!
Thanks for your great short video on fear and fearlessness. I always find wonderful information and techniques with nicabm that I can use right away in my clinical practice. The questions and refuting phrases are great. Thank you.
Oh, in answer to the question, I’d be exhibiting my art!
Someone who takes more risks, who takes action more often and this is a discussion point for encouraging more resourceful thinking not only for my coaching clients but also myself and anyone who experiences fear that is “real to them but not true”.
Without the belief that something was wrong with me – I’d be OK about who I am – or I could relax that I was going to be faulted for failure 🙂
Thanks for the video series.
Without fear ?? i cant even imagine . who would i be ? I consider myself already a quite happy being , but but but .. if fear left me ….. what a beautiful existence that could be ; Thank you Tara .
Real but not true …a very helpful thought for me and my patients . I sometimes make them answer very quickly a list of thoughts and they have to add quickly “Fact “.. or “Fiction” .. they love it ….and sometimes they see the struggle they have with certain of their “certainties” 😉
Thanks for this free training it was really useful. Sometimes when working with very fearful people I can feel trapped by their beliefs. You have shared some good practical ways of looking past the fear and anxiety, and getting in touch with the original feelings that hide there. I look forward to using these techniques with my clients.
If I didn’t believe something was wrong with me I would be a fun person to be around, full of sparkling humour. I would feel relaxed in large gatherings of people, sitting back and letting unfold what will. I would feel connected to my true self at all times with no need to seek acceptance from outside of myself.
This ‘real but not true” has an impact on day to day life activities, our work and our relationship.
It can change completely the way we look at ourselves and the way perceive other people.
Very helpful and concrete ideas on how to begin addressing the anxiety and fear that arises so frequently in life!
Without fear that I am inadequate, I would be much more open to my students and to new possibilities in my personal life.
The phrase “real but not true is so powerful”. I look forward to helping others use it as a tool to face and move beyond their fears
I would be the person I dreamed to be. There is a lot I could say but there is something so simple and liberating my fear keeps away.I would dance! I want to dance again! I used to dance as a child but was picked at because I “had no rhythm. “
Dental hygienist
Tough question, because I am afraid I will not like my answer :). I will probably be a more fearless psychotherapist who could find a better way of helping more people as they become fearless themselves.
Free to share thoughts & feelings with others, more confident , creative, more fulfilling life
Great question for both myself and my clients. It helps me to risk more to do what I love.
I would be me; the me that is spontaneous and funny, enjoys sharing of myself with others and engage in the things I enjoy.
Thank you for this invaluable gift! I believe I would have the courage to have healthier relationships if I didn’t feel there is something wrong with me.
I would be more me – whatever that is! I would feel lighter, freer, and I would definitely have more fun every day!
Internal Family Systems would concur with your encouraging compassion for that part that holds the fear and the question “who would you be if…
IFS would ask the part also what it would like to do if it didn’t have to do the ‘job’ of being fearful.
I like your “real but not true”!
I would be free to be the whole person I was meant to be. In doing so I would be more open to enjoy life and all it’s endless possibilities, engaging in new experiences and friendships. This is my desire. This is who I long to be.
I would be in the flow of what brings me joy. Thanks Tara.
I would be focused on what brings me joy. Immersed in flow. Just doing it. Thanks Tara for this glimpse into what life could be.
Without the fear I would be free! And more available for possibilities!
I would be myself
I listened to that question and it made me so emotional.
I’ve know that part of me who is alive, fearless and being my full self. It’s the one who periodically peers out many times a day.
I often push fear aside enough to get to a particular place of my desires. However, it looms as a shadow in times of insecurity. And I’m honestly seeing it’s usually there but I pay it no attention.
I make momentum and then way too often the thoughts that something is wrong with me come in. I begin to think, how am I going to do this, How will I keep up? The thoughts are either around that I’m physically not going to be able to handle such a demanding schedule,. I put it that I don’t handle stress well – I’m sensitive, I’m different. That then goes into something’s wrong with me. Or, I begin to think that I’ve got nothing really to say, and once I think that one, my mind might freeze. I then can’t or don’t want to contribute as I feel less than.
I appreciate the phrase, real, but not true. I also am seeing these past weeks how these wrong thoughts feed on one another – loop as you say. I’ve seen this myself.
As the universe has it, I’m now being hoisted into a position of leadership and speaking in front of hundreds. It’s time I get rid of what’s holding me back. Who’d I be is exactly where I’m heading, so I need to catch up all my parts and self talk into being okay with what is in the present and not worry about the future going wrong or that I’m not right. Otherwise, it’s going to continue to feel very painful with fear and anxiety.
Thank you. It’s been very supporting for me to read so many others comments. It must be nearly everyone struggles with this in some way or another. Just knowing this makes room for compassion for others and self. You know on the outside most of us appear just fine. It’s on the inside we think, we’re not.
Without fear I would be the person I was meant to be….brave, strong, and free.
When I inhabit, during meditation, that place where “everything is Ok, I feel I have another identity, one I am not familiar with, and so there is an impulse to not move away from there, especially by letting myself get caught by worries or concerns about my day or my week. I am aware I need and want to remain in that safe place that tells me “everything is Ok”, yet the distractions are powerful.
Ooh thank you gentle Tara. Who would I be without fear? Free, alive to possibilities.
“Who would I be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me?” Thats a powerful tool and question that takes who I personally and challenges it all in one in one phase. As you said it unpacks a lifetime of self doubting judgements and insecurities that have challenged me to pursue so much of my work and confronts the judgements laid upon me as a young child of being unworthy due to divorce, bad marriages, difficult challenges with my children and their own mental
Health issues and simply forced me to question why I would blindly
Accept the attitudes and believes of others when I know down deeper that none of it is actually true.
This is a powerful techniques to use with clients and help reorganize their self doubt and quickly recognize how comfiston bias as already worked negatively to sabatoge their sense of well being. It can quickly pivot to go from a victim stance to a place
Of powerlessness to empowerment for women with domestic violence experiences who need to find ways to true they are worthy of being loved again and that they can trust themselves to know the difference. Thank you for sharing this wonderful too. I would love to learn more!
Something me not afraid to be intimate with other people. Someone more successful and happy in work and life. Someone willing to move on from inadequate circumstances. Someone more willing to take chances, be more creative, and have a more fulfilling life.
I would have risked more generally, gone more places for work and pleasure , put myself out there ..
Thank you Tara ?
Unstoppable!
Who would I be without fear? I would be a force of healing for families In my professional work rather than tripped up in our team dynamics.
I would be one unique free spirit.
Edwina Dillon.
I would have more spaciousness and energy for life and be more open to others and to full experience
“Who would I be if I didn’t believe there is something wrong with me?” That’s a very powerful question. It brought up for me how, yes, true, there was a lot wrong with my life and experiences growing up–the world around me was deeply marked by a world war, fear, addiction, mental illness, and denial. It’s taken me a long time to extract myself from all that enmeshment, but I know now I am capable of love, empathy, wisdom, truth and trust as I go on with my life. It’s even possible to have fun and playfulness, be creative, and be present for others. Thank you Tara for these wonderful reminders of what’s possible for all and anyone of us!
Without fear I would be open in front of an audience sharing about my life and what I have learned about myself in contact with other persons I have met. Without fear I will show my grace, dignity, integrity. The freedom of my heart will guide me and the will behind my heart will carry me to the future.
Thank you Tara Brach.
I would be free to be my wholehearted self!
I surely would be less a pleaser person and this certainly would result more courage and daring behaviour that was not possible for me when I was younger.
I would have auditioned more, would audition more!
I’d suffer less and have more potential to live a fuller life!
I am looking forward to this program. Thank you Tara, for your wisdom. I’ve suffered with anxiety since I was 5 ab.nd I’m now 55,. Time to be rid of it!
Thank you Tara.
Thanks for your great short video on fear and fearlessness. I always find wonderful information and techniques with nicabm that I can use right away in my clinical practice. The questions and refuting phrases are great. Thank you.
Oh, in answer to the question, I’d be exhibiting my art!
Without fear people would be living to their full potential.
Thank You dear Tara, so inspiring, great phrase .REAL BUT NOT TRUE. Opens the mind and the heart to an infinite possibilities ??❤️
Someone who takes more risks, who takes action more often and this is a discussion point for encouraging more resourceful thinking not only for my coaching clients but also myself and anyone who experiences fear that is “real to them but not true”.
A loving caring person is who I am and would be .
Without the belief that something was wrong with me – I’d be OK about who I am – or I could relax that I was going to be faulted for failure 🙂
Thanks for the video series.
Without fear ?? i cant even imagine . who would i be ? I consider myself already a quite happy being , but but but .. if fear left me ….. what a beautiful existence that could be ; Thank you Tara .
Real but not true …a very helpful thought for me and my patients . I sometimes make them answer very quickly a list of thoughts and they have to add quickly “Fact “.. or “Fiction” .. they love it ….and sometimes they see the struggle they have with certain of their “certainties” 😉
Thanks for this free training it was really useful. Sometimes when working with very fearful people I can feel trapped by their beliefs. You have shared some good practical ways of looking past the fear and anxiety, and getting in touch with the original feelings that hide there. I look forward to using these techniques with my clients.
I’d have completed my doctorate and have a clean house and a restored relationship. Thanks for asking.
If I didn’t believe something was wrong with me I would be a fun person to be around, full of sparkling humour. I would feel relaxed in large gatherings of people, sitting back and letting unfold what will. I would feel connected to my true self at all times with no need to seek acceptance from outside of myself.
Thank you so much! It was very helpful!
This ‘real but not true” has an impact on day to day life activities, our work and our relationship.
It can change completely the way we look at ourselves and the way perceive other people.
less stressed out an overwhelmed at times
I would be free to be me.