Thank you for this inspiring video. I would be able to travel for one thing. Each time I think about going somewhere I think of all the dangers of that country. As an example, I have a friend that is Vietnamese, and she and I could go to Vietnam. Recently on the news there was a Vietnamese couple from Canada travelling in Vietnam and some people driving by their car through acid up their faces. Now I know that it’s highly unlikely that it would happen to me, but I am now not very interested in going to Vietnam.
I imagine being a much happier person who knows her worth and isn’t afraid to explore and take chances. My daily anxieties and worries about not being good enough would be gone…
I’ve been told by some that I come on too strong when presenting an idea or concept. So I play down my own strength. If I didn’t believe that a I too much of something, I would probably utilize my strength to bring about positive change transforming existing stagnant old ways of broken systems within mental health care.
I can taste the freedom of expressing myself freely without worry of judgment. Loving myself enough to speak and confident to be heard without expecting external approval.
Hi
My name is Mike and I have really enjoyed your 3 part series on fear
My big fear is that I will get a terrible disease and will die early, it is paralyzing
Every time I get a pain I think it is something bad and I get obsessed and go into the continual loop of what if. This fear becomes all consuming and I can’t think of anything else. I am a very strong person and have very little self doubt in other parts of my life except my mortality. I have been trying to understand how this fear relates to you comments but do not see a direct correlation to the examples you use in your series. Do you have any advice on what I should do. Thanks and I look forward to hearing from you
Your clear compassionate approach to healing is helping me to formulate a series of group discussion modules around Emotional Intelligence – http://www.mindfulrunes.com – with appreciation and thanks ?
Thank you, I feel some easing of tension hearing this. It rings true, especially in my body. My mind, bless her heart, has her own strategies, and says, “huh?” I think that’s a good sign! And I love being able to hold all these aspects of “me” with love and compassion. Wthout fear, I think my sense of humor would shine more.
I would be much much more than this small trapped self in this atrophied life. The scars of trauma have left me believing that I am a bird with a broken wing, never to fly. I fight and lash out when my paw is in a trap, then I withdraw in shame. I am hypervigilant, always seeking evidence of my brokenness. Fear and shame are the puppet masters of my life – ruining my relationships, quashing my dreams. “Consolidation bias,” is my normal.
So, who would I be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me?
A much greater version than my small self! I would exit the wounds of my past and walk freely with unabashed love and simple goodness as my north star.
Thank you for sharing such an important tool for continued growth. I would be the author of a book about “courage and grit through the valleys and over the mountains of my life”. The FEAR is a liar!
I’d believe my sister. She has psychology training and 20 years as a counselor and social worker and she wouldn’t want for me to hurt emotionally in any way. We trust each other.
Thanks for asking this important and touching question! I would be deeply caring and healing teacher, composer, artistic human being in many ways and areas. I would be much more courage to trust on me and other people, in family of mine nowadays, as well, and able to be that very intuitive and creative myself, finding right circumstances to co-operate with. I would be proud of my intelligence, sensitivity and creativity. I even think, that this is me now, already.
Thank you for healing and opening my mind and body to this possibility to become myself – without fear, which I’ve had so much in my life; have it also now. Without fear, marvellous!
¿quién seria si no creyera que hay algo mal en mi? viviría desde lo que verdaderamente soy, porque lo que creo que hay mal en mi, lo he estado practicando y viviendo desde mi pensamiento, pero no es lo que SOY
Without fear i would be able to enjoy the many good things in my life instead on focusing on what bad may happen in the future. Perhaps i would have been able to prevent having mini stroke about 1 year ago.
Thank you for the inspiring videos.
I’m sufferig for many many years now from chronic anxiety. Awaiting the course, i wil work with “real but not true”.
And thank you for the question. Who would I be if I didn’t have the Feeling something is wrong with me. This really moves me and i’m going to sit with it in meditation.
Very insiteful. I’m a creationist and a believer in Christ. I still struggle with these…fear that’s turned chronic along with the anxiety it brings. I understood your techniques and there is value in them. Thank you.
Listening through the mind of my struggling 18-year old. I pray he can avoid the decades of fear I’ve experienced and learn how to change his thinking to become who I know he is.
I think that in some ways I might perform less well in my life; fear drives me to always do better, be better, and try harder. Despite the fatigue associated with this effort, thoughts of taking away the fear makes me fearful.
I would be able to be in the present moment — instead of constant worries about things that haven’t even happened yet. I love the reminder of “real, but not true.”
Good Morning. Thank you for this wonderful video. I see myself entirely in this situation, but the fear came up later in my life. I always felt strong, but a number of events happened in my early 50s and it brought about this fear. I was confused as to where it was coming from, but now I know. I will work on this strategy to give me back my real self. Thank you.
Thanks Tara, all three of your videos have been helpful to me as a therapist, and as a worrier! I’m going to take the mantra of “real but not true” in to all my client work.
Free to live the way I choose without guilt for not fulfilling other people’s wishes. I would allow myself to create space for me even when it may hurt someone else unintentionally.
I’d be a more approachable and calming presence for friends, family and clients – and for myself. I feel like life would be more fluid — thank you for the video! I also really like the “real but not true” phrase.
Who would I be … a more courageous and peaceful guide. I feel like this most of the time, but I’m sure you have found this to be true: the more you stand out, the more likely you will face people in opposition to you.
Helping high-achieving, successful women through the isolation of success and the fear and loneliness that accompanies this… will this be addressed?
Thank you for this inspiring video. I would be able to travel for one thing. Each time I think about going somewhere I think of all the dangers of that country. As an example, I have a friend that is Vietnamese, and she and I could go to Vietnam. Recently on the news there was a Vietnamese couple from Canada travelling in Vietnam and some people driving by their car through acid up their faces. Now I know that it’s highly unlikely that it would happen to me, but I am now not very interested in going to Vietnam.
I imagine being a much happier person who knows her worth and isn’t afraid to explore and take chances. My daily anxieties and worries about not being good enough would be gone…
My response : feeling an accepted and loved human being
Free
I would be more open and confident about trying/doing new things. I would be fear less!
I’d be myself with all the possibilities and U’d live more at peace
I’ve been told by some that I come on too strong when presenting an idea or concept. So I play down my own strength. If I didn’t believe that a I too much of something, I would probably utilize my strength to bring about positive change transforming existing stagnant old ways of broken systems within mental health care.
I can taste the freedom of expressing myself freely without worry of judgment. Loving myself enough to speak and confident to be heard without expecting external approval.
I would be with energy and zest and look forward to new opportunities.. as opposed to fearful of not being good enough…
Hi
My name is Mike and I have really enjoyed your 3 part series on fear
My big fear is that I will get a terrible disease and will die early, it is paralyzing
Every time I get a pain I think it is something bad and I get obsessed and go into the continual loop of what if. This fear becomes all consuming and I can’t think of anything else. I am a very strong person and have very little self doubt in other parts of my life except my mortality. I have been trying to understand how this fear relates to you comments but do not see a direct correlation to the examples you use in your series. Do you have any advice on what I should do. Thanks and I look forward to hearing from you
Free!
I wouldn’t be waiting for approval from others and disappointed when I don’t receive it.
I would probably be dead
I would feel happier Inside…Less anxious, more confident in relationships and enjoying the moment in a more restless way..
Your clear compassionate approach to healing is helping me to formulate a series of group discussion modules around Emotional Intelligence – http://www.mindfulrunes.com – with appreciation and thanks ?
I would be what I was before fun loveable I would love to travel ect …
I would not have challenges pursuing endeavors despite obstacles.
I would be fully functional, fully alive and engaged in the present moment.
Strong, confident, relaxed
Thank you, I feel some easing of tension hearing this. It rings true, especially in my body. My mind, bless her heart, has her own strategies, and says, “huh?” I think that’s a good sign! And I love being able to hold all these aspects of “me” with love and compassion. Wthout fear, I think my sense of humor would shine more.
I would be much much more than this small trapped self in this atrophied life. The scars of trauma have left me believing that I am a bird with a broken wing, never to fly. I fight and lash out when my paw is in a trap, then I withdraw in shame. I am hypervigilant, always seeking evidence of my brokenness. Fear and shame are the puppet masters of my life – ruining my relationships, quashing my dreams. “Consolidation bias,” is my normal.
So, who would I be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me?
A much greater version than my small self! I would exit the wounds of my past and walk freely with unabashed love and simple goodness as my north star.
Thank you for such a wonderful insight into your video course. I am so looking forward to following you
Willing to take more risks, live more in the moment
Thank you for sharing such an important tool for continued growth. I would be the author of a book about “courage and grit through the valleys and over the mountains of my life”. The FEAR is a liar!
unstoppable, integrity, love
…allows me to appreciate the insecurities and pain of others who were critical of me, that contributed to my fear and self doubt in the first place…
I’d believe my sister. She has psychology training and 20 years as a counselor and social worker and she wouldn’t want for me to hurt emotionally in any way. We trust each other.
I would express more of creativity and spirituality in the world. Thank you Tara and NICABM. Good
Without fear I would come alive
Today, perhaps someone more productive. If I had been free of it for my whole life, perhaps someone less empathetic.
Confident, share thoughts and opinions freely, exploring & using my creativity
Thanks for asking this important and touching question! I would be deeply caring and healing teacher, composer, artistic human being in many ways and areas. I would be much more courage to trust on me and other people, in family of mine nowadays, as well, and able to be that very intuitive and creative myself, finding right circumstances to co-operate with. I would be proud of my intelligence, sensitivity and creativity. I even think, that this is me now, already.
Thank you for healing and opening my mind and body to this possibility to become myself – without fear, which I’ve had so much in my life; have it also now. Without fear, marvellous!
¿quién seria si no creyera que hay algo mal en mi? viviría desde lo que verdaderamente soy, porque lo que creo que hay mal en mi, lo he estado practicando y viviendo desde mi pensamiento, pero no es lo que SOY
Without fear i would be able to enjoy the many good things in my life instead on focusing on what bad may happen in the future. Perhaps i would have been able to prevent having mini stroke about 1 year ago.
I would stop being distracted by various tasks and interests and be at peace, wholly occupying myself.
Wonderful, vital information!! This is something that can be applied easily in session.
Thank you so much, I really appreciate “Real, but not true” and will carry it with me!
More confident in my choices and free to allow my enthusiasm to shine.
Thank you for the inspiring videos.
I’m sufferig for many many years now from chronic anxiety. Awaiting the course, i wil work with “real but not true”.
And thank you for the question. Who would I be if I didn’t have the Feeling something is wrong with me. This really moves me and i’m going to sit with it in meditation.
Very insiteful. I’m a creationist and a believer in Christ. I still struggle with these…fear that’s turned chronic along with the anxiety it brings. I understood your techniques and there is value in them. Thank you.
Listening through the mind of my struggling 18-year old. I pray he can avoid the decades of fear I’ve experienced and learn how to change his thinking to become who I know he is.
I would be free to be the best version of me, to embrace a life where I feel supported and that feels hopeful.
Amazing question! I love it. Thank you so much for your wise and thoughtful presentation. I appreciate it! Have to think on this question.
I think that in some ways I might perform less well in my life; fear drives me to always do better, be better, and try harder. Despite the fatigue associated with this effort, thoughts of taking away the fear makes me fearful.
I would be able to be in the present moment — instead of constant worries about things that haven’t even happened yet. I love the reminder of “real, but not true.”
Good Morning. Thank you for this wonderful video. I see myself entirely in this situation, but the fear came up later in my life. I always felt strong, but a number of events happened in my early 50s and it brought about this fear. I was confused as to where it was coming from, but now I know. I will work on this strategy to give me back my real self. Thank you.
Thanks Tara, all three of your videos have been helpful to me as a therapist, and as a worrier! I’m going to take the mantra of “real but not true” in to all my client work.
Free to live the way I choose without guilt for not fulfilling other people’s wishes. I would allow myself to create space for me even when it may hurt someone else unintentionally.
I’d be a more approachable and calming presence for friends, family and clients – and for myself. I feel like life would be more fluid — thank you for the video! I also really like the “real but not true” phrase.
Who would I be … a more courageous and peaceful guide. I feel like this most of the time, but I’m sure you have found this to be true: the more you stand out, the more likely you will face people in opposition to you.
Helping high-achieving, successful women through the isolation of success and the fear and loneliness that accompanies this… will this be addressed?