Who would I be without fear? I honestly related to so much of what you presented in all three videos, especially this third one, that I could not directly answer this question. Allowing the possibility of releasing deep seated fears and insecurities gives me hope and courage to move forward in asking myself this question and being open to the possibility of answering it in near future. I have work to do in stepping out of the trance of conditioned fear. Thank you Tara for providing these free videos that have inspired me to dig a little deeper and move forward in my awakening.
Jeanene
I feel many times fearless but then something negative for me or for others happens and of course I doubt about myself again. Being fear protect me from many things in life but at a certain level of it, I feel limited and the sensation is not pleasant at all. Not overreacting is the key I think, to avoid the chemistry side effects of fear, which after layers and layers of pain and suffering can create real (not truth) sickness in the body. So meditating helps me to go slowly but deepen in those layers realizing that can seem real, but are not truth, is just me breathing an overreacted experience. Thank you very much for sharing your sageness.
Who would I be w/o fear?
Probably a death person crossing the streets without fear of cars…. ??… Is a joke! That fear is OK. I really have no idea who I could be. ?
I very much relate to the woman’s experience shared in the video. I know I would be a more loving and patient mom, wife, friend, daughter, sister, and teacher if I could let go of the idea that something is wrong with me. If I can begin to soften with myself it will translate to others.
I would be able to reach far more people with my work, my message. I would feel powerful and be filled with the reward of giving the gift I believe can change the lives of many for the better.
I would be a more free and happier woman, wife and Mum
Excellent short series.
I would be relaxed, and willing to be more vulnerable. I would be softer and more open.
I would be more creative and curious. I would be wiser. I would be more compassionate to self and others.
That sounds good.
i would be more bold in being myself. probably alot less inhibited artistically, socially, and also much more open and certain of myself.
thankyou for “ real but not true” short and concise, and a great intwrvention!!
Confirmation Bias was the single most important thing that stood out to me. The theory is so profound and I see it in people that I help. “Real but not true”, was also a big help to hear about. This was a great presentation and I can use this knowledge right away!
Real but not true! real butnot true! I keep saying this and I’m surprised to admit that whilst I know not everything I or others perceive is true , I had never actually put this thought together in such s simple yet powerful way.
I use fear thoughts to distinguish the subtle emotions underneath and then tend to them. My phrase has always been to take the thoughts “seriously but not literally.”
Most of time I feel like I am fearless. Sometimes I feel like I do fear intimacy with the opposite sex because of the trauma of rape and abuse. Who would I be without fear? I still believe I would be who I am today because I am living the life I prepared for all my life, but maybe on a larger more expansive scale. I do feel like if I had mentors and supporters, I would be able to grow and expand to a greater degree.
People might call it the weather but I change like it. There is always that doubt or could it be faith that something is right… maybe mixed emotions. There is impermanence and the fact that everything, even feelings and thoughts will change. Then there is “…after changes upon changes, we are more or less the same…” This is a way of saying I don’t know who I would be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me. Now I see: the sun shining through white nimbus clouds; maybe , faith that something is right; and, yes, my returning to, “Everything is O.K.” It takes time and sometimes help to realize this. The past cannot be undone and the future presents worry; I have the present which I can’t pin down because it is constantly changing so from moment to moment I do the best I can. It always helps when I get a pleasant unexpected surprise.”Practice random acts of kindness.” 😉
What goes around comes around!!
This is such a fascinating question! I believe that I would be more courageous in my work and more colourful in my art. I would not worry so much about what others think, but I would express myself authentically and in ways that are vibrant and joyful. I would laugh more, speak more freely and probably write a lot more too!
I would become the person I so want for myself to be. Less stressed, more in control of my thoughts and actions, less judgemental and open to more positive experiences. ?
It is a startling, effective question that I’ve asked my clients and friends and they look at me as if I spoke in a delightful foreign language. It’s a testament to how ingrained fear and self-doubt are for most of us. I came from the generation of Be Here Now and the message (of staying present to what is going on in the moment) was a guidepost to live by. Unfortunately it didn’t have the looping cycle of fear explanation, the invitation to challenge our beliefs and the phrase RBNT, which is what makes what you are teaching now so much more effective for myself and my clients. My mother repeated negative phrases to me every day and that pattern was integral to my unconscious way of thinking for years. Sad to have lost so much time to self doubt.
I would be a more relaxed person, not a worrier, who finds it difficult to sleep at night. I worry about things l cannot control. Now l know to be mindful of my negative thoughts.
I would be who I am. Vulnerable and strong, curious, open, accepting, whilst also believing in growth. A part of all and just me…loving, open, and free of expectations of others, free to believe in the best and accept less than the best.
Hi Tara, thank you for your teachings. I am in my mid-forties and have been experiencing anxiety since childhood. I have recently embarked on a new career path and find that my anxiety, not surprisingly, has followed me. It is my constant companion. I’m not sure who I would be without it , I will certainly give this much thought over the coming days. I look forward to learning more from you as I find your teachings quite valuable and comforting.
I would do more things that I really want to do instead of doing the activities that my husband wants me to join him in. I would feel more real…less fake.
I would feel less stressed if I didn’t feel I had to please him.
I’d enjoy life more, achieve my true potential and save time in my life for better pursuits other than worrying, like Mark Twain, about terrible events that never happen.
Tara—thank you so much for these videos and for the hope around healing.
Without fear I would embrace the unknown without being constricted. I would listen to my heart and take the risk. I would deepen my resiliency and my vitality. I would thrive in feeling alive and awake.
Fear is crippling. I withdraw emotionally while feeling frustrated, resentful, isolated and helpless. Without fear I would have joy, freedom and confidence.
Who would I be without fear? I honestly related to so much of what you presented in all three videos, especially this third one, that I could not directly answer this question. Allowing the possibility of releasing deep seated fears and insecurities gives me hope and courage to move forward in asking myself this question and being open to the possibility of answering it in near future. I have work to do in stepping out of the trance of conditioned fear. Thank you Tara for providing these free videos that have inspired me to dig a little deeper and move forward in my awakening.
Jeanene
Nobody…there is no self
I feel many times fearless but then something negative for me or for others happens and of course I doubt about myself again. Being fear protect me from many things in life but at a certain level of it, I feel limited and the sensation is not pleasant at all. Not overreacting is the key I think, to avoid the chemistry side effects of fear, which after layers and layers of pain and suffering can create real (not truth) sickness in the body. So meditating helps me to go slowly but deepen in those layers realizing that can seem real, but are not truth, is just me breathing an overreacted experience. Thank you very much for sharing your sageness.
Who would I be w/o fear?
Probably a death person crossing the streets without fear of cars…. ??… Is a joke! That fear is OK. I really have no idea who I could be. ?
Peaceful.
I very much relate to the woman’s experience shared in the video. I know I would be a more loving and patient mom, wife, friend, daughter, sister, and teacher if I could let go of the idea that something is wrong with me. If I can begin to soften with myself it will translate to others.
I would be more productive, more creative, more carefree and able to accomplish my dreams.
I guess I would simply have the courage to be me…
Love Tara, I listen to her each day on a podcast..from New Zealand …I think neuroscience is starting to catch up on Buddhism. Be kind to our selves
I would fly!
Thank you Tara
I would dissolve the veil of separation among all beings and experience oneness in diversity more consistently.
Very interesting. I suffer with GAD. Would like to know more.
I would be able to reach far more people with my work, my message. I would feel powerful and be filled with the reward of giving the gift I believe can change the lives of many for the better.
I would be a more free and happier woman, wife and Mum
I would be free, to reach my personal potential and I would have peace that seems impossible, unless your dead!
Excellent short series.
I would be relaxed, and willing to be more vulnerable. I would be softer and more open.
I would be more creative and curious. I would be wiser. I would be more compassionate to self and others.
That sounds good.
i would be more bold in being myself. probably alot less inhibited artistically, socially, and also much more open and certain of myself.
thankyou for “ real but not true” short and concise, and a great intwrvention!!
I am looking forward to the complete program. This is clear and simple in the explanation. Most of all it was hopeful.
I would unafraid to share my thoughts and beliefs as well as my art without fear of judgement.
Confirmation Bias was the single most important thing that stood out to me. The theory is so profound and I see it in people that I help. “Real but not true”, was also a big help to hear about. This was a great presentation and I can use this knowledge right away!
Real but not true! real butnot true! I keep saying this and I’m surprised to admit that whilst I know not everything I or others perceive is true , I had never actually put this thought together in such s simple yet powerful way.
I use fear thoughts to distinguish the subtle emotions underneath and then tend to them. My phrase has always been to take the thoughts “seriously but not literally.”
Most of time I feel like I am fearless. Sometimes I feel like I do fear intimacy with the opposite sex because of the trauma of rape and abuse. Who would I be without fear? I still believe I would be who I am today because I am living the life I prepared for all my life, but maybe on a larger more expansive scale. I do feel like if I had mentors and supporters, I would be able to grow and expand to a greater degree.
I would be more in the flow of my core, authentic self.
People might call it the weather but I change like it. There is always that doubt or could it be faith that something is right… maybe mixed emotions. There is impermanence and the fact that everything, even feelings and thoughts will change. Then there is “…after changes upon changes, we are more or less the same…” This is a way of saying I don’t know who I would be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me. Now I see: the sun shining through white nimbus clouds; maybe , faith that something is right; and, yes, my returning to, “Everything is O.K.” It takes time and sometimes help to realize this. The past cannot be undone and the future presents worry; I have the present which I can’t pin down because it is constantly changing so from moment to moment I do the best I can. It always helps when I get a pleasant unexpected surprise.”Practice random acts of kindness.” 😉
What goes around comes around!!
This is such a fascinating question! I believe that I would be more courageous in my work and more colourful in my art. I would not worry so much about what others think, but I would express myself authentically and in ways that are vibrant and joyful. I would laugh more, speak more freely and probably write a lot more too!
I would be free. I would be me. I would express love more.
I would be strong. I would be decisive. I would be more carefree. I would be able to step into my power.
Wonderful! Thank you so much for sharing
Real, but not true
Love it!
Less anxious
I would a confident person who did not judge and compare herself to others.
I would be free from anxiety and worry and focus on the present
I would have a more open and less fearful heart, I would realise that whatever is happening now is ok.
I would bravely live with the possibility that I could have colorectal cancer and may have to live with a colostomy bag.
I would become the person I so want for myself to be. Less stressed, more in control of my thoughts and actions, less judgemental and open to more positive experiences. ?
I would be happy….worry free. Have joy and more confidence….
I would be a new person with a real sense of optimism
It is a startling, effective question that I’ve asked my clients and friends and they look at me as if I spoke in a delightful foreign language. It’s a testament to how ingrained fear and self-doubt are for most of us. I came from the generation of Be Here Now and the message (of staying present to what is going on in the moment) was a guidepost to live by. Unfortunately it didn’t have the looping cycle of fear explanation, the invitation to challenge our beliefs and the phrase RBNT, which is what makes what you are teaching now so much more effective for myself and my clients. My mother repeated negative phrases to me every day and that pattern was integral to my unconscious way of thinking for years. Sad to have lost so much time to self doubt.
Empowered to pursue my purpose with much more ease, energy and trust.
I use to be fearless but as I am aging fears are invading my life more and more. Thank you for the reminder and the simple practice!
I would be a more relaxed person, not a worrier, who finds it difficult to sleep at night. I worry about things l cannot control. Now l know to be mindful of my negative thoughts.
I would be who I am. Vulnerable and strong, curious, open, accepting, whilst also believing in growth. A part of all and just me…loving, open, and free of expectations of others, free to believe in the best and accept less than the best.
Hi Tara, thank you for your teachings. I am in my mid-forties and have been experiencing anxiety since childhood. I have recently embarked on a new career path and find that my anxiety, not surprisingly, has followed me. It is my constant companion. I’m not sure who I would be without it , I will certainly give this much thought over the coming days. I look forward to learning more from you as I find your teachings quite valuable and comforting.
I would do more things that I really want to do instead of doing the activities that my husband wants me to join him in. I would feel more real…less fake.
I would feel less stressed if I didn’t feel I had to please him.
Thankyou for sharing that information. It has inspired me to resolve this issue. I will practise your suggestion & look forward to a new me. ?
I’d enjoy life more, achieve my true potential and save time in my life for better pursuits other than worrying, like Mark Twain, about terrible events that never happen.
Tara—thank you so much for these videos and for the hope around healing.
Without fear I would embrace the unknown without being constricted. I would listen to my heart and take the risk. I would deepen my resiliency and my vitality. I would thrive in feeling alive and awake.
I would take greater risks in developing closeness with others. I imagine I would be more content, peaceful.
Fear is crippling. I withdraw emotionally while feeling frustrated, resentful, isolated and helpless. Without fear I would have joy, freedom and confidence.
I would be light, spontaneous, playful and more able to access self love.
I would be unstoppable. My life would be more than just a dream. I could manifest my dreams into reality and be free.
My life would be more than just a dream. I could manifest my dreams into reality and I would be unstoppable.
I’d be loving to myself and loving to others with unconditional compassion and open to possibilities with much courage.