Without fear& chronic anxiety I could go out the door with confidence, join activities, travel& meet new people& be happy& relaxed.. Real but not true. How can I believe this ? For 30 percent of the time I experience panic attacks and am like a deer caught in a headlight.Im not able to control my body. I have improved considerably with counselling, mindful practice,exercise& breathing. I’m never confident. It is real & true. Very good program giving me clear insight. Overcoming & being free is a difficulty.
Thanks Tara – suffering from chronic anxiety which is rooted from the fear. Without fear I would feel confident and be able to face the challenges in better ways.
I love everything Tara has to say, and have read the book Radical Acceptance several times. And I love the phrase “REAL BUT NOT TRUE”. It seems to work well on all of my lesser fears, but not so much on my main underlying fear….the fear of death. I have an illness that presents symptoms that bring my mortality close. I can “feel death on my lip”, so to speak. I know I am going to die. So, the feelings are real, and it is true that I am going to die. Exactly when is the question. Maybe I have to adapt the phrase to “REAL BUT NOT TRUE RIGHT AT THIS SECOND”. For a few minutes this week, I was able to remember that “I am not my body” and that who I really am is whole and complete……that I am OK even if my body isn’t. It was a spontaneous experience of joy and wonder, a feeling of wellness that transcended the physical, and I realized as I listened to Tara tonight in this 3rd session, that I was practicing the question “Who would I be if nothing was wrong with me?” without ever having heard that question at that particular point in time. However, I wasn’t able to sustain the experience of feeling that nothing was wrong with me physically for longer than a few hours, because the physical symptoms and sensations resumed at a level that made it difficult not to identify with the body…but I am working on it. Basically, I am interested in transforming my internal conversation about death from one of fear to one of friendliness, and Tara’s work is one of the most powerful supports in doing that. Very grateful for this free video offering.
I believe that I may be more loving and open towards my dear ones and not constantly doubting their love for me and not constantly questioning our bond.
If I was less anxious about my link to the ones I love I could free up time to create: to write the book I have started years ago.
Instead I spend so much time reassuring myself that the people love have not disappeared and that I have not disappeared from their hearts.
It’s is exhausting.
Thank you ??
Wow so many question I had you just answered. Caught me totally off guard to issues I work so hard to mask. I would love to know more about your 6 week online course. Thank you for the wake up call.
Someone who is a whole more productive and happy I expect. Probably not feeling as numb and constrained as I do a lot of the time. Exercise is the best respite I have found to date but it is generally somewhat short lived. Thank you for your kind guidance.
I can’t believe how deeply this video touched me. It felt as it was created specifically for me. I guess so many people are struggling with the same issues and we are not that different at all.
I can’t believe how deeply this video touched me. It felt as it was created specifically for me. I guess so many people are struggling with the same issues and we are not that different at all.
These video’s have been so helpful, as a counsellor listening to the video’s have given a refresher course in how to work with my clients. thank you for sharing
After watching this video I realized much of the anxiety I have been feeling lately was deeply rooted in a fear of failure (and the resulting domino effect). Allowing myself to admit that I had a fear of failure was freeing in and of itself. I had been living with this fear for so long it had become my ‘normal’. Imagining who I would be without fear was really hard to articulate at first. The only word that really fit was the word ‘free.’ I have found it to be true that “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” I am ready to discover who I am without fear.
I’ve had glimpses of that person ?.
She dreams…hopes…gives joyfully…She is strong emotionally and physically, able to follow through and lead, not just keep up!
She notices…observes…and is curious. She shows thoughtful kindness and compassion to herself and others….
Love the 3 steps Tara. Noticing the worry, noticing the thoughts, then saying “fear thinking” as we notice our body sensations and how the worry lives in us, and then compassionately being with our anxious, vulnerable part. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Thanks for these. I’ve followed your work for some time, but it’s been years since I read “Radical Acceptance”. I think it’s time for another read! I’ve become stuck in fear and anxiety since my mother passed a couple years ago; this practice takes on a new, more personal learning for me now.
Thank you Tara you have helped me through my darkest moments of crippling anxiaty . By listing to your talks on YouTube and this link I found on face book !!!! You are the best
I have a teen client who would run from her fears in her dream and would wake with her heart racing. I can respect having her turn around and face her fear as it is real to her but not true.
Thank you so much Tara, self doubt has dominated my life for far too long and just love how far i have come listening to your teachings for the past seven years. Radical Acceptance was a huge breakthrough for me and now ‘real but not true’ will become a daily practice. So grateful to you for sharing your inspirational wisdom you have not only helped me face my fears but believing i can de-condition is so wonderful and your RAIN meditation initiated this process of self-acceptance and loving kindness and truly working towards more love, light and joy
I would be the girl I was raised to be. I listened to boyfriends and believed them when they projected their insecurities into me. I am free. Thank you Tara
Such an enormous question for me right now – who would I be indeed ? I feel like I’ve already been and now am morphing into something else – pretty scary because I’m not sure who I am anymore ;(
If I truly believed that nothing was wrong with me, I would be more playful, creative, confident and relaxed. I would be more engaged with those around me and more engaged in activities I love.
As someone who faced many emergencies and stress in my job and also in my personal life, I used to deal much better with fear and stress. I now seem to have an exaggerated fear response. I would like to be someone who can again be more courageous and have more peace at this stage of my life. Arleen
I would be “lighter” and more willing to take chances/risk in my life. Where as now…I need to have a set schedule and outlook in order to function, anything that goes on outside of that or unexpected…brings worry and fear.
Thank you Tara for sharing your gifts with us. I asked a client the question “who would you be if You did not believe that something was wrong with me you?” and the response was : A more confident and successful business woman who has written a number of published journal articles and perhaps a book.
I am a Psycotherpist and one of the themes that often come out in my practise is fear…fear from being left, fear from not been accepted, fear of failure…I liked very much your video and I look forward to your six week training.
Thank you
Best regards
Teresa
Without fear& chronic anxiety I could go out the door with confidence, join activities, travel& meet new people& be happy& relaxed.. Real but not true. How can I believe this ? For 30 percent of the time I experience panic attacks and am like a deer caught in a headlight.Im not able to control my body. I have improved considerably with counselling, mindful practice,exercise& breathing. I’m never confident. It is real & true. Very good program giving me clear insight. Overcoming & being free is a difficulty.
Thanks Tara – suffering from chronic anxiety which is rooted from the fear. Without fear I would feel confident and be able to face the challenges in better ways.
I love everything Tara has to say, and have read the book Radical Acceptance several times. And I love the phrase “REAL BUT NOT TRUE”. It seems to work well on all of my lesser fears, but not so much on my main underlying fear….the fear of death. I have an illness that presents symptoms that bring my mortality close. I can “feel death on my lip”, so to speak. I know I am going to die. So, the feelings are real, and it is true that I am going to die. Exactly when is the question. Maybe I have to adapt the phrase to “REAL BUT NOT TRUE RIGHT AT THIS SECOND”. For a few minutes this week, I was able to remember that “I am not my body” and that who I really am is whole and complete……that I am OK even if my body isn’t. It was a spontaneous experience of joy and wonder, a feeling of wellness that transcended the physical, and I realized as I listened to Tara tonight in this 3rd session, that I was practicing the question “Who would I be if nothing was wrong with me?” without ever having heard that question at that particular point in time. However, I wasn’t able to sustain the experience of feeling that nothing was wrong with me physically for longer than a few hours, because the physical symptoms and sensations resumed at a level that made it difficult not to identify with the body…but I am working on it. Basically, I am interested in transforming my internal conversation about death from one of fear to one of friendliness, and Tara’s work is one of the most powerful supports in doing that. Very grateful for this free video offering.
thank toy Tara and all ,was very helpful.I wish I could manage the financial part to join your group
I think without fear I would feel like I’m actually living.
I believe that I may be more loving and open towards my dear ones and not constantly doubting their love for me and not constantly questioning our bond.
If I was less anxious about my link to the ones I love I could free up time to create: to write the book I have started years ago.
Instead I spend so much time reassuring myself that the people love have not disappeared and that I have not disappeared from their hearts.
It’s is exhausting.
Thank you ??
I would be very relaxed. My body would soften I think.
Wow so many question I had you just answered. Caught me totally off guard to issues I work so hard to mask. I would love to know more about your 6 week online course. Thank you for the wake up call.
Someone who is a whole more productive and happy I expect. Probably not feeling as numb and constrained as I do a lot of the time. Exercise is the best respite I have found to date but it is generally somewhat short lived. Thank you for your kind guidance.
I can’t believe how deeply this video touched me. It felt as it was created specifically for me. I guess so many people are struggling with the same issues and we are not that different at all.
I can’t believe how deeply this video touched me. It felt as it was created specifically for me. I guess so many people are struggling with the same issues and we are not that different at all.
I really enjoyed your video information.
thank you! Beautiful offering
Thanks for sharing this valuable information.
Pauli Richards
South-Africa
These video’s have been so helpful, as a counsellor listening to the video’s have given a refresher course in how to work with my clients. thank you for sharing
After watching this video I realized much of the anxiety I have been feeling lately was deeply rooted in a fear of failure (and the resulting domino effect). Allowing myself to admit that I had a fear of failure was freeing in and of itself. I had been living with this fear for so long it had become my ‘normal’. Imagining who I would be without fear was really hard to articulate at first. The only word that really fit was the word ‘free.’ I have found it to be true that “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” I am ready to discover who I am without fear.
I’ve had glimpses of that person ?.
She dreams…hopes…gives joyfully…She is strong emotionally and physically, able to follow through and lead, not just keep up!
She notices…observes…and is curious. She shows thoughtful kindness and compassion to herself and others….
Love the 3 steps Tara. Noticing the worry, noticing the thoughts, then saying “fear thinking” as we notice our body sensations and how the worry lives in us, and then compassionately being with our anxious, vulnerable part. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Thanks for these. I’ve followed your work for some time, but it’s been years since I read “Radical Acceptance”. I think it’s time for another read! I’ve become stuck in fear and anxiety since my mother passed a couple years ago; this practice takes on a new, more personal learning for me now.
Thank you Tara you have helped me through my darkest moments of crippling anxiaty . By listing to your talks on YouTube and this link I found on face book !!!! You are the best
I would have the confidence to live more to my potential – not worrying about other’s criticism
I have a teen client who would run from her fears in her dream and would wake with her heart racing. I can respect having her turn around and face her fear as it is real to her but not true.
Thank you Tara, a wonderfully doable practice which worked for me when I tried it during the video.
Much appreciated.
Thank you for sharing your gifts Tara.
I would be a beautiful, confident, open-hearted being; a being who could finally undress the armor she had to put on as a child.
I would be like Jane Eyre…
Thank you so much Tara, self doubt has dominated my life for far too long and just love how far i have come listening to your teachings for the past seven years. Radical Acceptance was a huge breakthrough for me and now ‘real but not true’ will become a daily practice. So grateful to you for sharing your inspirational wisdom you have not only helped me face my fears but believing i can de-condition is so wonderful and your RAIN meditation initiated this process of self-acceptance and loving kindness and truly working towards more love, light and joy
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?
I would be an inspirational speaker to help others through their own struggles with fear, anxiety, and chronic pain
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?
I would be an inspirational speaker to help others through their own struggles with fear, anxiety, and chronic pain
Real but not true… that is a game changer. Many thanks ?
I would be a Giant of Life…. Using all of my best qualities to help people and guide my family to peace and happiness
Real but not true is validating yet challenging. Thanks!
I would be the girl I was raised to be. I listened to boyfriends and believed them when they projected their insecurities into me. I am free. Thank you Tara
I would be healthy and joyful!
I think i would feel more joy ?
A whole person.
Such an enormous question for me right now – who would I be indeed ? I feel like I’ve already been and now am morphing into something else – pretty scary because I’m not sure who I am anymore ;(
Ruth
This is such great information for me to share with my teachers and students at school.
Thank you,
Lori
A good question for my clients and myself.
I would be the creative potential of my true, compassionate, wise self.
Thank you for your wisdom Tara
Thank you Dr. Brach for these lovely and helpful instructions.
a woman at peace
I would hope to be a less anxious person, with less fear that stops me from moving forward.
The thought of moving forward without fear scares me, where will I go and how will I manage. I have been afraid for so long.
If I truly believed that nothing was wrong with me, I would be more playful, creative, confident and relaxed. I would be more engaged with those around me and more engaged in activities I love.
As someone who faced many emergencies and stress in my job and also in my personal life, I used to deal much better with fear and stress. I now seem to have an exaggerated fear response. I would like to be someone who can again be more courageous and have more peace at this stage of my life. Arleen
This is the question I have asked myself my all life!. Would love to hear more!
Thank you,
Anne
I would be “lighter” and more willing to take chances/risk in my life. Where as now…I need to have a set schedule and outlook in order to function, anything that goes on outside of that or unexpected…brings worry and fear.
I would be more fully present in the moment, and more tuned in to what I feel drawn to do.
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I would be some one who belives a 100% that the sky is the limit !!!!!!
Thank you Tara for sharing your gifts with us. I asked a client the question “who would you be if You did not believe that something was wrong with me you?” and the response was : A more confident and successful business woman who has written a number of published journal articles and perhaps a book.
I am a Psycotherpist and one of the themes that often come out in my practise is fear…fear from being left, fear from not been accepted, fear of failure…I liked very much your video and I look forward to your six week training.
Thank you
Best regards
Teresa