Perhaps “What you would be if you were not fearful?” is another question to ask. Confident and peaceful would be my answer because despite my success in all other arenas, fear in relationships can be the most disheartening.
I’ve loved this ❤️. It’s been helping me challenge & transform my beliefs, thoughts & behaviours. A level of fear, anxiety & tension has already left my body. Thank you ??.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? Who would I be without fear?
I would be someone who didn’t hide. I would be someone who isn’t afraid to commit because he’s afraid he’ll fail to live up to the commitment. I would be someone who would know that there is a point to the struggle. I would be someone who would know that he can succeed. I would be someone who can accept his past mistakes for just what they are: past mistakes. I would be someone who could decline to identify with failure and only see it as information about my current performance and where I should focus my effort. I would be someone who wouldn’t assume that others see me as inferior, or wouldn’t care if they do. I would be someone who could make the life I want to live.
I love the question “who would I be if…”. I was once asked that question regarding my bipolar diagnosis and my response did not set well with the person who asked. She was obviously looking for the answer she thought was correct. You have presented it in a way that is not threatening to me. Thank you.
I never thought about that. I would be probably be a risk taker without fear. The videos were great. I was able to take notes and apply some of the points to my oersonal life.
I will be so relieved if I didn’t believe that something was wrong with, I can see myself enjoying life in a relaxed way and be able to work in my profession without fear and self-doubt, the best thing that may happen to me and people I work with
Thank you for offering hope and tools for healing life long beliefs. I valued the client stories that demonstrated this thinking in real terms as opposed to text book understanding.
Looking forward to continued learning.
I would be more intune with myself and with others. I would have greater confidence and a willingness to try new things. Id be free to become a better mother, partner, daughter and sister. Thanks Tara for your teachings. I like the ‘real but not true’ teaching and will endeavour to apply it within my everyday.
15 years ago, I was divorced, unemployed, and overweight. I was grieving the loss of my marriage and dealing with infertility. I didn’t know what would become of me. Over the past 15 years I faced my fears. I finished a masters degree and moved into a satisfying careers . I lost weight. I met my current husband. So in a real sense, I am becoming the person I would be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me. I have found Tara Brach and mindful be extremely helpful. Thank you for these videos. The program you are developing sounds fascinating!
I would be a successful published author who is not afraid to be the person God created me to be thank you for these invaluable tools and information I am hopeful that they will help me become the person God intended me to be I cannot thank you enough for these priceless gifts I am hopeful that if I use them consistently I can leave fear and self doubt behind and replace them with confidence who knew I could learn all this in less than an hour
I would be looking at my impending divorce as an OPPORTUNITY rather than an ending. I’m 56-years old, have been married to my (soon to be ex-)wife for 22-years – and I’ve known her for 34-years of my life. I have a wonderful 26-year old stepdaughter, a 21-year old daughter and a 17-year old son. Without fear, I’d believe that I’m worthy of love – and be “fearless” about the divorce and going out and finding love again!
Thank you for these beautiful, hopeful, potentially healing videos. I mourn each day what I could be with less fear, but have never been asked “who would I be without fear?” Thank you for the gentle nudge.
I’d be a blithe spirit. I’d be loving and lovable. I’d be fierce. I’d live comfortably with my ongoing and more serious Disabilty—and the id help others, fiercely.
I would be who i am afraid of being…everything i dont dare to be because of who i am afraid of being. Being is a fearful state i run away from. My work is to journey to the state of being despite the fear, and be exactly who i want to be-the fearless, loving, gentle soul i am anyway. Dont be afraid to be who i am, is what i need to hear from myself.
“Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?”
I’d know what I want and, trusting that I can pursue what I want, I would be more confident and persistent.
This topic is quite timely for me, I’ve been hitting a wall of fear over and over and resorting to the same responses I’ve known and used to divert and distract myself from facing those fears.
Those responses aren’t cutting it anymore in my life and it’s time to face those fears once and for all. Thank you Tara, love your work!
Thanks Tara
I would be/am ‘the peace that passeth all understanding’
I would be/am satcitananda
I would be/am my true Self
I would be/am in my Buddha-nature
I would be/am the meaning of the word ‘silence’
I would be/am the meaning of the word ‘love’
Thank you for these important messages. I will adopt “real but not true” going forward. Thank you for reminding use of mindfulness, breathing into emotional pain. Who would I be without fear? The question alone is therapeutic!
Last week life roller coastered from thrilling highs to gut tugging lows. Listening to this series offered a reminder of why I practice. Practice is the gift that gives back when we need it the most. Life gets easier because I understand the nature of resilience. Thank you again and again for providing this resource.
I wrestle with this- who would you be if you knew there was nothing wrong with you? One problem is that many survivors live with intense denial that there is anything wrong with them. It takes a lot of work for them to realize their “isolating” or self- harm or self-loathing, does in fact come from abuse and neglect and it is more than a “quirk” they can fix if they just had more willpower. The second thing is many therapists encourage abuse survivors to “go into the body” and listen to the cues, sensations, interceptions, and if the message is “there is nothing wrong with you”, couldn’t it reinforce denial instead of acceptance there is, in fact, injury to the soul/psyche? Many survivors have heard for years there is nothing wrong with you- you’re just over/reacting, seeking attention, etc.
Love to do this course but currently committed to another six month programme which is quite intensive. Maybe next time. Thank you very much for helpful introduction. I’ve come a long way but these issues sometimes resurface so still work to do. Hopefully another time. Many blessings
I appreciate your wisdom and your sharing. I appreciate your tips for working with our clients. Indeed, facing our fears in a mindful compassionate way is so helpful.
Thank you!
Perhaps “What you would be if you were not fearful?” is another question to ask. Confident and peaceful would be my answer because despite my success in all other arenas, fear in relationships can be the most disheartening.
A simple but profound question. Potential consequences of looking in this area of the mind are vast. Thank you
A simple but profound question. Potential consequences of looking in this of the mind are vast. Thank you
I would be free
Without fear, I would be more relaxed which helps my creative side flourish. Thank you for sharing this with all of your followers!
I’ve loved this ❤️. It’s been helping me challenge & transform my beliefs, thoughts & behaviours. A level of fear, anxiety & tension has already left my body. Thank you ??.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? Who would I be without fear?
I would be someone who didn’t hide. I would be someone who isn’t afraid to commit because he’s afraid he’ll fail to live up to the commitment. I would be someone who would know that there is a point to the struggle. I would be someone who would know that he can succeed. I would be someone who can accept his past mistakes for just what they are: past mistakes. I would be someone who could decline to identify with failure and only see it as information about my current performance and where I should focus my effort. I would be someone who wouldn’t assume that others see me as inferior, or wouldn’t care if they do. I would be someone who could make the life I want to live.
Thank you for these very informative and helpful videos.
I would be calm, joyful, open, feel good in my skin. Pursuing my artistic dreams. I would walk tall and have the freedom to be what I desire.
Very good! Really enjoyed the break-down of the deconditioning steps.
I would be a confident business woman who didn’t shrink from having money and ‘hard’ (but necessary) conversations.
I love the question “who would I be if…”. I was once asked that question regarding my bipolar diagnosis and my response did not set well with the person who asked. She was obviously looking for the answer she thought was correct. You have presented it in a way that is not threatening to me. Thank you.
Luminous
I never thought about that. I would be probably be a risk taker without fear. The videos were great. I was able to take notes and apply some of the points to my oersonal life.
I would be a kinder, stronger, more open and compassionate version of myself. Unstoppable, valiant, courageous, FREE, in the best possible way!
I would be present in my life and for others around me. I would give energy instead of waiting it in the vortex of fear
I think would be kinder. And more free.
I will be so relieved if I didn’t believe that something was wrong with, I can see myself enjoying life in a relaxed way and be able to work in my profession without fear and self-doubt, the best thing that may happen to me and people I work with
I would be free.
Thank you for offering hope and tools for healing life long beliefs. I valued the client stories that demonstrated this thinking in real terms as opposed to text book understanding.
Looking forward to continued learning.
I would be more intune with myself and with others. I would have greater confidence and a willingness to try new things. Id be free to become a better mother, partner, daughter and sister. Thanks Tara for your teachings. I like the ‘real but not true’ teaching and will endeavour to apply it within my everyday.
15 years ago, I was divorced, unemployed, and overweight. I was grieving the loss of my marriage and dealing with infertility. I didn’t know what would become of me. Over the past 15 years I faced my fears. I finished a masters degree and moved into a satisfying careers . I lost weight. I met my current husband. So in a real sense, I am becoming the person I would be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me. I have found Tara Brach and mindful be extremely helpful. Thank you for these videos. The program you are developing sounds fascinating!
More contend with myself in my practice professionally and personally
I would be a successful published author who is not afraid to be the person God created me to be thank you for these invaluable tools and information I am hopeful that they will help me become the person God intended me to be I cannot thank you enough for these priceless gifts I am hopeful that if I use them consistently I can leave fear and self doubt behind and replace them with confidence who knew I could learn all this in less than an hour
Cassandra Jones
Winnipeg Manitoba Canada
I would be looking at my impending divorce as an OPPORTUNITY rather than an ending. I’m 56-years old, have been married to my (soon to be ex-)wife for 22-years – and I’ve known her for 34-years of my life. I have a wonderful 26-year old stepdaughter, a 21-year old daughter and a 17-year old son. Without fear, I’d believe that I’m worthy of love – and be “fearless” about the divorce and going out and finding love again!
Thanks Tara for your videos.
Hopefully, I would worry less and ultimately find greater happiness and contentment
Thank you for these beautiful, hopeful, potentially healing videos. I mourn each day what I could be with less fear, but have never been asked “who would I be without fear?” Thank you for the gentle nudge.
I think that the question “who would I be without fear?” is going to be immensely useful and freeing. Thanks so much for it.
I’d be a blithe spirit. I’d be loving and lovable. I’d be fierce. I’d live comfortably with my ongoing and more serious Disabilty—and the id help others, fiercely.
I would be a leader who has passion and compassion, that most would look up too!
I would be who i am afraid of being…everything i dont dare to be because of who i am afraid of being. Being is a fearful state i run away from. My work is to journey to the state of being despite the fear, and be exactly who i want to be-the fearless, loving, gentle soul i am anyway. Dont be afraid to be who i am, is what i need to hear from myself.
“Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?”
I’d know what I want and, trusting that I can pursue what I want, I would be more confident and persistent.
I would be a more relaxed, happier self. I would feel more assured in following my own heart, with less worry about what others might want from me.
Thank you for these useful videos.
Thank you for this series. It helps to remember to go back to the body. You can’t simply think yourself out of anxiety.
This topic is quite timely for me, I’ve been hitting a wall of fear over and over and resorting to the same responses I’ve known and used to divert and distract myself from facing those fears.
Those responses aren’t cutting it anymore in my life and it’s time to face those fears once and for all. Thank you Tara, love your work!
Thanks Tara
I would be/am ‘the peace that passeth all understanding’
I would be/am satcitananda
I would be/am my true Self
I would be/am in my Buddha-nature
I would be/am the meaning of the word ‘silence’
I would be/am the meaning of the word ‘love’
Thank you for these important messages. I will adopt “real but not true” going forward. Thank you for reminding use of mindfulness, breathing into emotional pain. Who would I be without fear? The question alone is therapeutic!
Enjoyed watching all three parts. Good information here!
Last week life roller coastered from thrilling highs to gut tugging lows. Listening to this series offered a reminder of why I practice. Practice is the gift that gives back when we need it the most. Life gets easier because I understand the nature of resilience. Thank you again and again for providing this resource.
I wrestle with this- who would you be if you knew there was nothing wrong with you? One problem is that many survivors live with intense denial that there is anything wrong with them. It takes a lot of work for them to realize their “isolating” or self- harm or self-loathing, does in fact come from abuse and neglect and it is more than a “quirk” they can fix if they just had more willpower. The second thing is many therapists encourage abuse survivors to “go into the body” and listen to the cues, sensations, interceptions, and if the message is “there is nothing wrong with you”, couldn’t it reinforce denial instead of acceptance there is, in fact, injury to the soul/psyche? Many survivors have heard for years there is nothing wrong with you- you’re just over/reacting, seeking attention, etc.
I really like the phrase “Real, but not true,” I will have to remember to use it when/if self doubt creeps up. Thanks for these teachings.
A more energetic and confident therapist is how I visualize myself without fear.
I need to ruminate for a bit on this very important question.
Real but not true. Gives the possibility of moving forward.
Thank you Tara for this introduction. Love Tara’s work.
Thank you for your presence. It is like a warm blanket that would take away all my fears.
Thanks! Great resources to share with our clients
A strong, glowing, happy, helpful heart
Love to do this course but currently committed to another six month programme which is quite intensive. Maybe next time. Thank you very much for helpful introduction. I’ve come a long way but these issues sometimes resurface so still work to do. Hopefully another time. Many blessings
I appreciate your wisdom and your sharing. I appreciate your tips for working with our clients. Indeed, facing our fears in a mindful compassionate way is so helpful.
Thank you!