I would be confident in my creativity and I would travel a lot more. I would feel less guilt that I wasn’t living my life right and letting people down.
Love your overview and tips especially the question about who you would be if you didn’t think something was wrong with you. It leads into Solution focused positive thinking work with the client. I look forward to utilizing it. Thanks!
I always find Tara Brach able to connect with my heart.
Who would I be if I did not believe there was something wrong with me?–Nobody!
I guess as I have gotten older, my general fears about life have grown. So it was interesting to put my fears and my fear of failure together in my thoughts. Very very interesting talks that Tara Brach has given us to ‘chew’ on instead of plain worry.
I would be successful in starting my own business, believing in myself, believing that people would want what I have to offer.
I would be in a relationship, having someone to share my joys and sorrows.
I always struggle with conditional questions about myself; the question “who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?” has me stumped. The only thing I can think of is that I would be a lighter version of myself, with greater access to my narrative/story .
I often think about confidence, as this is something people desire. I wonder to myself, ‘but what is confidence?, is it a thing, or is it just an absence of fear?
Without fear? I would have the courage to live and love, despite chronic pain and fears of intimacy. I would not give 65 any significance other than saving $ through Medicare. I would sleep at night, not awaken at 3 am to start the anxiety loop. And I would be exploring ways to give back that resonate with my true self and purpose.
Pema Chodron, a buddhist nun has the same story about facing the demon in the nightmare. It’s true!Takes courage!! When you have the support of others anything is possible.
Without fear there would be pure, unconditional Love without any ego attachments. Freedom from fear would release any clinging and a deeper realization that letting go is where freedom lies.
I would be an artist and a voice to encourage others. Demonstrating that regardless and maybe even in spite of what we encountered and endured in our life, incredible outcomes are still possible. Thank you for this educational and uplifting video series.
Your description of the young boy turning to face his fear in his dream was very helpful and powerful. It allowed me to remember ways in which I have actually already faced some deep fears. This is empowering, and I hope to do more of it. Thank you very much.
I would be free to do what I am meant to do without being bogged down with self doubt and almost always second guessing myself and thinking “What do have I to give to offer anyone?” when I know full well that I am here for the purpose of uplifting and encouraging others. Without fear I would not be shutting myself down.
I would feel fully confident in my endeavors and go
forth with my ideas and interests and make connections to interesting people and ideas – w/o doubt or self sabotage – freedom from self.
I would be my true self that I sometimes feel and see in my dreams…someone who is not afraid to fail! I would be free to be more open and creative to explore new things. I would be at peace with myself and experience joy!
Without fear I would be kinder and more generous. I would give more to the world and I would bet, get more warmth in return. It is a lovely thought. Thanks for loaning it to me.
I have lived in fear my entire life. My biggest fear, by far, is failure. If I am imperfect, then no one will love me. I use to think I had fear confidence, but it was just a mask. My self worth is very little. I am working on this through mindfulness. I live with tracheal stenosis, so I literally already struggle to breath, then to have tension make it worse, it is sometimes totally unbearable. I love the loop you talk about. It totally makes sense. Thank you for these videos.
I would be Amazing Amy if I didn’t have fear and could literally breathe better.
I would be more confident and more open as as a friend, partner and colleague. I’d take chances that would otherwise be too intimidating. Thank you for these videos!
I would be more relaxed and enjoying the present moment, as I’d be spending less energy ruminating and being hypervigilent about possible danger in the future.
The instruction to become mindful of anxious thoughts, their impact in the body, mind-body looping, a very helpful teaching for me. And the third step of self-care in response to anxiety is so important. Also the question: “Who would I be if I didn’t think there is something wrong with me?” A powerful healing question. All of this, as Tara notes, requiring practice as anxious thoughts reoccur. Very effective in reducing anxiety and enjoying the present.
Without fear, I would be stronger, more creative, and bolder; I would take more chances, laugh more, love more, and savor more. I would find and learn to use my own “superpowers.” Thank you for the question and the ways it challenges us.
I would fly! I would live and enjoy and make mistakes but without the drama, layers and torture of doubting myself and my decisions, wasting precious energy.
Without fear, I would be stronger, more creative, more fully awake, and bolder; I would feel freer, laugh more, love more, and savor more. I would find and learn to use my “superpowers.” Thank you for the question and the ways it challenges us.
I would be someone joyful and full of peace! I would be unstoppable pursuing what’s important to me. I would be a person satisfied and confident with who I am!
I just got this video today thru my ACA leader. WOW! Where have you been all my life! I’m in my mid 60’s (actually I turn 64 this week) and living on disability. I have a talent I could use to support myself a bit better but fear and doubt hold me back. I am so messed up. I have been hating my life but am trying to make the effort to get help. I was so blessed and floored at the same time when I viewed these videos. Please keep them coming.
Thank you for this three part introduction Tara. “Real but not true” really stood out of me; it is similar to the statement I learned in a MBRS class that has stayed with me: “Don’t believe everything you think.”
I would be more alive more of the time. The energy used in creating stories and underlying anger would be available to life. My nervous system would be more rested and able to access more peaceful states of Being. I would connect with joy and Lightness. I would have clarity of thought/insight to guide my Life. I would have more capacity to walk through the darker/heavier times of the journey.
Thank you Tara for this significant work of supporting the health of the collective mind. 🙂
I would be confident in my creativity and I would travel a lot more. I would feel less guilt that I wasn’t living my life right and letting people down.
I would be myself without ever hiding parts of it.
Thank you Tara Brach and NICABM for this helpful series. I have enjoyed Tara’s meditations elsewhere, and it’s wonderful to see her here!
I would be able to enjoy life and be fully present in each moment.
Love your overview and tips especially the question about who you would be if you didn’t think something was wrong with you. It leads into Solution focused positive thinking work with the client. I look forward to utilizing it. Thanks!
I would be happy to live a fulfilled life
I would be more asertive, both at work and in relationships. I would stablish healthy boundaries. I would be more creative.
Thank you Tara 🙂
I always find Tara Brach able to connect with my heart.
Who would I be if I did not believe there was something wrong with me?–Nobody!
I guess as I have gotten older, my general fears about life have grown. So it was interesting to put my fears and my fear of failure together in my thoughts. Very very interesting talks that Tara Brach has given us to ‘chew’ on instead of plain worry.
Don’t think I can fully answer that question – need to go deeper and work do more work
I would be successful in starting my own business, believing in myself, believing that people would want what I have to offer.
I would be in a relationship, having someone to share my joys and sorrows.
I would be self compassionate with all parts of me & see the perfection in my humanness. “There’s nothing with me. I’m perfectly imperfect, even now.”
I always struggle with conditional questions about myself; the question “who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?” has me stumped. The only thing I can think of is that I would be a lighter version of myself, with greater access to my narrative/story .
I’d be a more compassionate friend to myself and others, parent and therapist.
I often think about confidence, as this is something people desire. I wonder to myself, ‘but what is confidence?, is it a thing, or is it just an absence of fear?
Without fear? I would have the courage to live and love, despite chronic pain and fears of intimacy. I would not give 65 any significance other than saving $ through Medicare. I would sleep at night, not awaken at 3 am to start the anxiety loop. And I would be exploring ways to give back that resonate with my true self and purpose.
I’d be a more sociable person, a better therapist, and a better father.
Very relatable. Looking forward to the 6 week course!
Very relatable. Looking forward to the 6 week program
Pema Chodron, a buddhist nun has the same story about facing the demon in the nightmare. It’s true!Takes courage!! When you have the support of others anything is possible.
I would probably be a therapist with a successful private practice
Without fear there would be pure, unconditional Love without any ego attachments. Freedom from fear would release any clinging and a deeper realization that letting go is where freedom lies.
I would be an artist and a voice to encourage others. Demonstrating that regardless and maybe even in spite of what we encountered and endured in our life, incredible outcomes are still possible. Thank you for this educational and uplifting video series.
Your description of the young boy turning to face his fear in his dream was very helpful and powerful. It allowed me to remember ways in which I have actually already faced some deep fears. This is empowering, and I hope to do more of it. Thank you very much.
Real, but not true. A helpful thought to be more open to considering a different perspective.
If fear was gone, I would laugh more. I would contribute or be more active. I would be lighter.
I would be free to do what I am meant to do without being bogged down with self doubt and almost always second guessing myself and thinking “What do have I to give to offer anyone?” when I know full well that I am here for the purpose of uplifting and encouraging others. Without fear I would not be shutting myself down.
Without fear I would be confident, have courage and come to know my true self. Thank you for presenting this with simplicity.
i’d be a better friend to my loved ones.
Very nice stories that are all so important in the persuasion to meet challenges and fears
Very nice series of valuable information
I would feel fully confident in my endeavors and go
forth with my ideas and interests and make connections to interesting people and ideas – w/o doubt or self sabotage – freedom from self.
I would be my true self that I sometimes feel and see in my dreams…someone who is not afraid to fail! I would be free to be more open and creative to explore new things. I would be at peace with myself and experience joy!
Without fear I would be kinder and more generous. I would give more to the world and I would bet, get more warmth in return. It is a lovely thought. Thanks for loaning it to me.
“Real but not true” powerful words to help me change.
My fears aren’t based on anything concrete, except for 1 and that is that my friends might dump me when I haven’t seen them in a long time.
I have lived in fear my entire life. My biggest fear, by far, is failure. If I am imperfect, then no one will love me. I use to think I had fear confidence, but it was just a mask. My self worth is very little. I am working on this through mindfulness. I live with tracheal stenosis, so I literally already struggle to breath, then to have tension make it worse, it is sometimes totally unbearable. I love the loop you talk about. It totally makes sense. Thank you for these videos.
I would be Amazing Amy if I didn’t have fear and could literally breathe better.
“Real but not true” — that’s a good one. Thank you.
Tara Brach is the best! I would be relaxed and open to life.
I would be more confident and more open as as a friend, partner and colleague. I’d take chances that would otherwise be too intimidating. Thank you for these videos!
I would be more relaxed and enjoying the present moment, as I’d be spending less energy ruminating and being hypervigilent about possible danger in the future.
Thanks for these three videos!
The instruction to become mindful of anxious thoughts, their impact in the body, mind-body looping, a very helpful teaching for me. And the third step of self-care in response to anxiety is so important. Also the question: “Who would I be if I didn’t think there is something wrong with me?” A powerful healing question. All of this, as Tara notes, requiring practice as anxious thoughts reoccur. Very effective in reducing anxiety and enjoying the present.
Without fear, I would be stronger, more creative, and bolder; I would take more chances, laugh more, love more, and savor more. I would find and learn to use my own “superpowers.” Thank you for the question and the ways it challenges us.
I would fly! I would live and enjoy and make mistakes but without the drama, layers and torture of doubting myself and my decisions, wasting precious energy.
Without fear, I would be stronger, more creative, more fully awake, and bolder; I would feel freer, laugh more, love more, and savor more. I would find and learn to use my “superpowers.” Thank you for the question and the ways it challenges us.
I would be someone joyful and full of peace! I would be unstoppable pursuing what’s important to me. I would be a person satisfied and confident with who I am!
I’d be free. Open. Love. Probably would have tried lots more things and know lots more other free hearts.
I just got this video today thru my ACA leader. WOW! Where have you been all my life! I’m in my mid 60’s (actually I turn 64 this week) and living on disability. I have a talent I could use to support myself a bit better but fear and doubt hold me back. I am so messed up. I have been hating my life but am trying to make the effort to get help. I was so blessed and floored at the same time when I viewed these videos. Please keep them coming.
Thank you for this three part introduction Tara. “Real but not true” really stood out of me; it is similar to the statement I learned in a MBRS class that has stayed with me: “Don’t believe everything you think.”
I would be more alive more of the time. The energy used in creating stories and underlying anger would be available to life. My nervous system would be more rested and able to access more peaceful states of Being. I would connect with joy and Lightness. I would have clarity of thought/insight to guide my Life. I would have more capacity to walk through the darker/heavier times of the journey.
Thank you Tara for this significant work of supporting the health of the collective mind. 🙂
Thank you, Tara, for the opportunity and the training.
I would live my life fearlessly! Thank you for sharing these videos