Without fear I would be free to enjoy my life fully. I would embark on new adventures without those nagging thoughts that hold me back and know deep into my heart and body that what I am called to do is right for me.
At nearly 70 years of age I have admitted that I am clearly addicted to this “fear of inadequacy loop” and have been so since a very early age; possibly linked to a surgery that I was forced to undergo at the age of four months and a long post surgical recovery. I survived the early years of my life with this fear loop in a dysfunctional family setting that eventually led to my treating this fear loop through alcohol use and eventually addiction. The long and short of this is I find myself at a stage of life where I deeply want to overcome this entrapment and the considerable damage it has done to me and, most significantly, to my relationships. But this situation has proven intractable despite years of recovery and counseling. I am deeply depressed and trapped in a debilitating existence in anxiety that has cut off almost all joy and desire to go further in my life. I feel walled in with no means of escape. No matter what I undertake it predictably leads to failure further entrenching this loop of fear and dysfunction. My only relieve is a lifelong relationship with my wife and the daily meditation that I have forced myself to do, somewhat sparodically, but with extended periods of daily meditation. Without those two load stars I would be completely lost in the universe. Thank you for the opportunity to finally put this down in words.
Without fear, I am more able to be fully present in every moment. Experiencing and offering more compassion, love, kindness, balance – towards my self or others – in whatever situation I find myself in.
Without fear, I would be free to be more fully present in every moment. Showing up with love, compassion, kindness towards myself and others in whatever situation I find myself in.
I feel I would be a more decisive person. I find that fear of possible outcomes often paralyses me. It is often difficult to shake off this fear even when I occasionally challenge the fear and find the outcome of my actions to be nowhere as scary as I thought.
Your videos have made me realise that maybe I CAN still change, even at the age of 68. I feel the deep inner fear and grief inside me still even after years of excellent counselling and therapy. I have been trying alone to embrace it, to accept this is who I am. You have given me renewed hope that I can change and move out of my ‘stuck’ place. But how felixible is the brain? Can 68 years of wiring be unravelled and repaired? I’m tired of being lonely, of only have one on one social relations with a handful of people (albeit I’m very thankful for these friendships). I would like to be free of the fear and to be part of a group – if only for a while.
I’m not sure WHO I would be without fear because I feel incapable of imagining that person at the moment, but I’m sure about WHAT I would be… which is so so much lighter!
This was a tough question since fear seems so tangled up in my life that the boundaries between fear and being are blurred. Without fear I guess I would be more content with myself and therefore better able to focus on what’s right instead of what’s wrong.
Thank you so much for this video Tara.
Fear is such a major cause for so many problems a person may experience! or rather a major block in preventing one from living life to its fullest.
Looking forward to learning more of practical tools to dissipate that fear and shift to a brighter and braver attitude to life.
Thank you for sharing your insight, Tara. To answer your question, I would be the better version of myself: more open, compassionate, and less judgemental.
Hi:
Your video and explanation was fantastic, I will get back to believe in myself, integrated, happier and ready to overcome obstacles, I will believe in my own strength.
It would still be me but I would be a better version of myself free of worry and anxious thoughts and able to put 100% into the things I am doing right now. I can feel the energy now. It feels good!
What is interesting to me is that much of this is traceable to painful childhoods in which you were not loved and welcomed to be be yourself. It carries through life.
Who would I Be without fear?
I’d be a shooting star, an illuminating presence, an inspiring light, an infinite success, a safe haven, a calm sincerity, a connected conduit, a giving container of gratitude, a peaceful expression, a magnetic human, a unique part of the expansive whole.
Mostly though, I’d be thoroughly and completely, ME.
Thank you so much, Tara! I just had my whole family sit and listen to this – we all need it! This is such a thought provoking question. I think we would all be magnificent (or more so) if we could shed our self doubt.<3
I would be able to live my life and not be afraid to leave my home or get on a plane to go see my family, all because of the trama of dealing or not dealing with death. I just want to live without being afraid of dying now.
I’m not sure ‘who’ I would be without fear, not sure what that means, really.
As for ‘how’ I would be, I think that would include frequent periods of peace, and therefore more space to be generous, loving, attentive, and resourceful in my thinking. There would simply be more space for love and all its expressions.
I believe I would have led a very different life. at 58 I am trying to change my course!
Wonderful!!
Without fear I would be free to enjoy my life fully. I would embark on new adventures without those nagging thoughts that hold me back and know deep into my heart and body that what I am called to do is right for me.
Without fear, I would be active in more areas of my life (creative pursuits, relationships, discovery) and therefore more joyful.
At nearly 70 years of age I have admitted that I am clearly addicted to this “fear of inadequacy loop” and have been so since a very early age; possibly linked to a surgery that I was forced to undergo at the age of four months and a long post surgical recovery. I survived the early years of my life with this fear loop in a dysfunctional family setting that eventually led to my treating this fear loop through alcohol use and eventually addiction. The long and short of this is I find myself at a stage of life where I deeply want to overcome this entrapment and the considerable damage it has done to me and, most significantly, to my relationships. But this situation has proven intractable despite years of recovery and counseling. I am deeply depressed and trapped in a debilitating existence in anxiety that has cut off almost all joy and desire to go further in my life. I feel walled in with no means of escape. No matter what I undertake it predictably leads to failure further entrenching this loop of fear and dysfunction. My only relieve is a lifelong relationship with my wife and the daily meditation that I have forced myself to do, somewhat sparodically, but with extended periods of daily meditation. Without those two load stars I would be completely lost in the universe. Thank you for the opportunity to finally put this down in words.
Without fear, I would be able to achieve my personal goals.
Without fear, I would be able to achieve my personal goals..
Without fear I would certainly be more effective in my work, and would surely find more joy in my personal life
Thank you, Tara. Your course sounds intriguing. You’ve created a path to healing that’s truthful and effective.
Whitout fear I would be able to feel the love from my family and friends that I so deeply need
I would complete things that I’ve started but never finished because fear of failure would not hamper my destiny.
Without fear, I am more able to be fully present in every moment. Experiencing and offering more compassion, love, kindness, balance – towards my self or others – in whatever situation I find myself in.
Without fear, I would be free to be more fully present in every moment. Showing up with love, compassion, kindness towards myself and others in whatever situation I find myself in.
I feel I would be a more decisive person. I find that fear of possible outcomes often paralyses me. It is often difficult to shake off this fear even when I occasionally challenge the fear and find the outcome of my actions to be nowhere as scary as I thought.
Your videos have made me realise that maybe I CAN still change, even at the age of 68. I feel the deep inner fear and grief inside me still even after years of excellent counselling and therapy. I have been trying alone to embrace it, to accept this is who I am. You have given me renewed hope that I can change and move out of my ‘stuck’ place. But how felixible is the brain? Can 68 years of wiring be unravelled and repaired? I’m tired of being lonely, of only have one on one social relations with a handful of people (albeit I’m very thankful for these friendships). I would like to be free of the fear and to be part of a group – if only for a while.
I’m not sure WHO I would be without fear because I feel incapable of imagining that person at the moment, but I’m sure about WHAT I would be… which is so so much lighter!
This was a tough question since fear seems so tangled up in my life that the boundaries between fear and being are blurred. Without fear I guess I would be more content with myself and therefore better able to focus on what’s right instead of what’s wrong.
Thank you for sharing! Without fear I would be more rested.
Thank you! Without fear I would be more daring and live my life to its fullest potential.
I would be free and filled with energy to follow my dreams
Thank you so much for this video Tara.
Fear is such a major cause for so many problems a person may experience! or rather a major block in preventing one from living life to its fullest.
Looking forward to learning more of practical tools to dissipate that fear and shift to a brighter and braver attitude to life.
Thank you Tara. Without fear I would be more successful and able to enjoy my life.
Thank you Tara so much, this video helped me a lot. Without fear I would be more successful and able to enjoy my life.
I think I would be happier, free to express positive emotions without feeling like I’m not allowed to be happy or too vulnerable when I’m joyful.
A person that could communicate with others more openly and honestly
Thank you for sharing your insight, Tara. To answer your question, I would be the better version of myself: more open, compassionate, and less judgemental.
Without fear, worry and anxiety, I would have more moments of happiness and have a lot more energy to do those things I really love.
Hi:
Your video and explanation was fantastic, I will get back to believe in myself, integrated, happier and ready to overcome obstacles, I will believe in my own strength.
I agree with you, Karen.
thank you for sharing your wisdom Tara it speaks to my soul
It would still be me but I would be a better version of myself free of worry and anxious thoughts and able to put 100% into the things I am doing right now. I can feel the energy now. It feels good!
I would feel more alive and take the risks in all areas of my life that will enhance that aliveness.
a reasonably good jazz piano improviser
a better doctor, wife, mother, daughter, etc.
an activist rather than a complainer
i would be focused and free of worry that every step I took, or decision I made, or outreach I initiated, would be rejected.
Honestly its hard for me to even imagine who I would be…someone who can love …I will have to think more about this question….
I would be my own boss
Without fear I would be opposite of me right now and for the most part of my life this far… I would be more open to things outside the box so to speak
Without fear?
I’d be bigger. More open. More loving. More alive.
Thank you!
What is interesting to me is that much of this is traceable to painful childhoods in which you were not loved and welcomed to be be yourself. It carries through life.
Wow!!! How incredibly rich and insightful material!!!
Who would I Be without fear?
I’d be a shooting star, an illuminating presence, an inspiring light, an infinite success, a safe haven, a calm sincerity, a connected conduit, a giving container of gratitude, a peaceful expression, a magnetic human, a unique part of the expansive whole.
Mostly though, I’d be thoroughly and completely, ME.
Without fear I will laugh frequently, have a light hearted presence and feel grounded within my soul trust my intuition and resiliency.
Thank you for the helpful suggestions. I will keep in mind “real but not true”.
Thank you! I the phrase: “Let’s unpack that,” really resonated with me. Unpacking towards a fearless heart… less baggage… less weight to carry.
I think I would be happier and more loving towards others and more present…I would complain much less as well.
Thank you so much, Tara! I just had my whole family sit and listen to this – we all need it! This is such a thought provoking question. I think we would all be magnificent (or more so) if we could shed our self doubt.<3
Thank you Tara for sharing these wonderful video parts with us. For me the most striking sentence was „Real but not reality“.
I would be able to live my life and not be afraid to leave my home or get on a plane to go see my family, all because of the trama of dealing or not dealing with death. I just want to live without being afraid of dying now.
I’m not sure ‘who’ I would be without fear, not sure what that means, really.
As for ‘how’ I would be, I think that would include frequent periods of peace, and therefore more space to be generous, loving, attentive, and resourceful in my thinking. There would simply be more space for love and all its expressions.
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