It is empowering and motivating to consider your comments, “Real but not True” and “Who would you be if you didn’t think something was wrong with you”! Thank you.
Very wise advice. One difficulty may be that fear, anxiety and looping thoughts often arrive at an unconscious level and surreptitiously, and so the strategy to turn and face it is not as clear cut as simply relearning a new response.
I have clients who are very fearful and resistant, thank you for giving me thoughts and suggestions to try. I look forward to using the 3 Step method.
I am who I imagined myself to be, thank you
These three mini-training sessions have been awesome – a very clear summary of the neurological and physiological effects of fearful thoughts, together with simple, effective ways of dealing with them! It’s totally consistent with other learning I’ve had in this area, but presented so concisely!! Thank you!
Thank you, I have had patterns of betrayl and bullying. The fear of the next time it will show up takes so much energy and happiness away, from fulfilling that all I want is to be loved
Thought provoking – I would be a very different person, embracing life and all the opportunities and experiences it offers instead of always finding reasons to hold back.
When I realise who I MIGHT have been if I hadn’t feared there was something wrong with me, I feel melancholy and rather hopeless since I am nearing the end of my life. On the other hand, whilst there is life there is hope 🙂
As a mother of a teen with a chronic Autonomic Dysfunction illness, as an RN who works with those who have developmental and emotional difficulties and as someone living with PTSD due to sexual, physical and emotional abuse, I found these videos very inspiring and motivating. So much of trauma, especially that which is inflicted by another person, cuts us at a very deep and raw place-where fear is lurking. I wish that this content was made mandatory for all healthcare providers. We really learn so little in our education and Psych 101 didn’t really delve into strategies or self help :)!
I wanted to thank you for providing them for free. Cost is almost always prohibitive for me as our medical expenses are high.
My intention was to follow your videos to help deepen my work with clients. While I have learned much through your clarity of teaching that I can share, I am also learning a lot about myself. “Real but not true” is such a key wisdom! Thanks!
Who would I be if I didn’t think something was wrong with me? What a powerful question that totally connects with the issue of self-doubt. For me, I think I would be more successful in my business (not suffer from the imposter syndrome) and would definitely be working on the book I want to write (and will this year!). Thank you for these two powerful tools/questions.
Fear and Anxiety have ruled my life for a very long time, if not my entire life. F&A emotions have kept me working for people that I don’t share values with causing an erosion of my self confidence and sole. F&A paralyzed my decision making and capacity to enjoy fully what was a beautiful family. I only recently began to seek help (44). I have been so “stuck” that it took my wife leaving me to finally pry open my eyes and unclasp my ears to the reality of my fear and anxiety. I am so grateful that somehow I found your podcasts and meditations and I’m sincerely thankful for your help on my journey to healing. Without my fear and anxiety I will be able to be the person that I and others know I am but have been unable to express fully.
Dear Tara, you have a wonderful, warm way to speak clearly and to show what it is about.
What you said about fear and its conditioning touched me as deeply as the solutions you have presented.
I thank you from the bottom of my heart
Anne.
It’s great that you’re there.
What would I be if I was not only willing but eager to escape the prison of fear? I would have more fun, feel less physical pain, have better and closer relationships and would possibly on my way to finding a rewarding career. I feel I am missing out on a lot of life by carrying all my fear with me everywhere I go and letting if affect every decision I make.
What would I be if I was not only willing but eager to escape the prison of fear? I would be curious to see if the consequences of facing my fear would NOT materialize. I imagine being on a roller coaster and throwing my hands up in the air, yelling “yeah, I can take this”.
Tara, I like your three videos because they give clients ways of responding, “in the moment” to those situations or thoughts which spark fear and anxiety.
I liked this program! Particularly part 3. A lot of the three parts I already knew, nevertheless it was helpful to be reminded. You have distilled essential elements of your teachings on fear, and presented them with a clarity that helps them sink in.
Dick Merrick
I have believed I was “less than” for so long that when I try to imagine who I would be without the self-doubt and fear of not being good enough, I see nothing. Nothing but blackness. But I decided after listening to these messages, that I’m going turn around and confront the monster that is eating my light. And then, maybe then, i’ll actually be brave enough to open my eyes and see what’s there. Thank you.
Thank you for reminding me I’m okay. And giving me questions to work with and recognize where my fear is coming from and our why
With deep gratitude and appreciation,
Elaine
I love the idea of imagining who I would be without the belief that something was wrong with me and the way this gives me a glimpse of “the freedom of a fearless heart.” I can sense that freedom feeling in my body for a moment, and it is really helpful.
Without fear I would be the best person I could be! I would be confident enough to trust and follow my intuition. I would be able to get back on track when I became misguided. I would be able to more fully accept myself and others. I would be less reactive and better able to control my response to life as it unfolds. I would truly feel and display grace and balance in the face of adversity. The good thing is as I type this I realize I once was this way and I can be this way again. Thank you for your insight and wisdom!?
My response to What would I be without being down on myself is another downer. If I wasn’t shy but social I’d turn into a sexaholic!
But I found the second video helpful in relating to my coffee/chocolate addiction. So I’m entering this comment to get the guided meditation!
I thought I already put in a post and got a message here to that effect when I tried to post again because I wasn’t sure it posted. That said, I don’t see it here. And, how do I get info on the recording Tara offered?
Firstly, thank you again for a neat, packed, 3 part program.
The bite size teachings were well measured and easily placed within a working day.
I found each part’s content, provided very useful mindful phrases, to apply to thoughts of anxiety.
I would be at ease with myself and not constantly doubt my abilities.
Creating a vision of who you could be without fear is a powerful entry into self empowerment.
I found the phrase “who would you be if you didn’t believe something was wrong with you?” especially powerful! I am going to use this in my own life.
It is empowering and motivating to consider your comments, “Real but not True” and “Who would you be if you didn’t think something was wrong with you”! Thank you.
Very wise advice. One difficulty may be that fear, anxiety and looping thoughts often arrive at an unconscious level and surreptitiously, and so the strategy to turn and face it is not as clear cut as simply relearning a new response.
I have clients who are very fearful and resistant, thank you for giving me thoughts and suggestions to try. I look forward to using the 3 Step method.
I am who I imagined myself to be, thank you
I’d be successful.
These three mini-training sessions have been awesome – a very clear summary of the neurological and physiological effects of fearful thoughts, together with simple, effective ways of dealing with them! It’s totally consistent with other learning I’ve had in this area, but presented so concisely!! Thank you!
Louise
Thank you, I have had patterns of betrayl and bullying. The fear of the next time it will show up takes so much energy and happiness away, from fulfilling that all I want is to be loved
Thought provoking – I would be a very different person, embracing life and all the opportunities and experiences it offers instead of always finding reasons to hold back.
Real But Not True ~ I have shared this perspective with many who are feeling caught up. And now I need to remember it myself. Thank you.
Questions that encourage the client to consider the possibility of a future without the fear are very helpful.
Thank you, Tara. So engaging.
When I realise who I MIGHT have been if I hadn’t feared there was something wrong with me, I feel melancholy and rather hopeless since I am nearing the end of my life. On the other hand, whilst there is life there is hope 🙂
wow. this question gives me so much space and freedom – the mind quiets, its like its lost its purpose
As a mother of a teen with a chronic Autonomic Dysfunction illness, as an RN who works with those who have developmental and emotional difficulties and as someone living with PTSD due to sexual, physical and emotional abuse, I found these videos very inspiring and motivating. So much of trauma, especially that which is inflicted by another person, cuts us at a very deep and raw place-where fear is lurking. I wish that this content was made mandatory for all healthcare providers. We really learn so little in our education and Psych 101 didn’t really delve into strategies or self help :)!
I wanted to thank you for providing them for free. Cost is almost always prohibitive for me as our medical expenses are high.
Deep gratitude for your generous offering of information and tools~
Powerful questions and useful tools.
My intention was to follow your videos to help deepen my work with clients. While I have learned much through your clarity of teaching that I can share, I am also learning a lot about myself. “Real but not true” is such a key wisdom! Thanks!
Who would I be if I didn’t think something was wrong with me? What a powerful question that totally connects with the issue of self-doubt. For me, I think I would be more successful in my business (not suffer from the imposter syndrome) and would definitely be working on the book I want to write (and will this year!). Thank you for these two powerful tools/questions.
Fear and Anxiety have ruled my life for a very long time, if not my entire life. F&A emotions have kept me working for people that I don’t share values with causing an erosion of my self confidence and sole. F&A paralyzed my decision making and capacity to enjoy fully what was a beautiful family. I only recently began to seek help (44). I have been so “stuck” that it took my wife leaving me to finally pry open my eyes and unclasp my ears to the reality of my fear and anxiety. I am so grateful that somehow I found your podcasts and meditations and I’m sincerely thankful for your help on my journey to healing. Without my fear and anxiety I will be able to be the person that I and others know I am but have been unable to express fully.
Thank you!! Grate videos
I like the phrase ¨Real but not true¨
. I will practice
Thank you. I appreciate the clarity of your model and your exercises. I will use them.
Dear Tara, you have a wonderful, warm way to speak clearly and to show what it is about.
What you said about fear and its conditioning touched me as deeply as the solutions you have presented.
I thank you from the bottom of my heart
Anne.
It’s great that you’re there.
I would be living a life that enriches me rather than feeling stuck and hopeless
I would be the rockstar that I used to be confident assured knowledgeable the person I believe I still amI just need to work through all this fear
What would I be if I was not only willing but eager to escape the prison of fear? I would have more fun, feel less physical pain, have better and closer relationships and would possibly on my way to finding a rewarding career. I feel I am missing out on a lot of life by carrying all my fear with me everywhere I go and letting if affect every decision I make.
Real but not true is a wonder way to validate experience, without feeding the belief or
Feeling.
What would I be if I was not only willing but eager to escape the prison of fear? I would be curious to see if the consequences of facing my fear would NOT materialize. I imagine being on a roller coaster and throwing my hands up in the air, yelling “yeah, I can take this”.
Tara, I like your three videos because they give clients ways of responding, “in the moment” to those situations or thoughts which spark fear and anxiety.
“Real but not true” is an excellent tool for disconnecting from our unhelpful beliefs.
“Real but not true” is such a powerful and liberating message. I’m looking forward to sharing with patients (and myself). Thank you for that gem ?.
I liked this program! Particularly part 3. A lot of the three parts I already knew, nevertheless it was helpful to be reminded. You have distilled essential elements of your teachings on fear, and presented them with a clarity that helps them sink in.
Dick Merrick
Thanks for the information. I can see where it would be empowering if practiced!
I have believed I was “less than” for so long that when I try to imagine who I would be without the self-doubt and fear of not being good enough, I see nothing. Nothing but blackness. But I decided after listening to these messages, that I’m going turn around and confront the monster that is eating my light. And then, maybe then, i’ll actually be brave enough to open my eyes and see what’s there. Thank you.
Thank you for reminding me I’m okay. And giving me questions to work with and recognize where my fear is coming from and our why
With deep gratitude and appreciation,
Elaine
I love the idea of imagining who I would be without the belief that something was wrong with me and the way this gives me a glimpse of “the freedom of a fearless heart.” I can sense that freedom feeling in my body for a moment, and it is really helpful.
I can’t ever be 5 years old again, so I really don’t know.
Without fear I would be the best person I could be! I would be confident enough to trust and follow my intuition. I would be able to get back on track when I became misguided. I would be able to more fully accept myself and others. I would be less reactive and better able to control my response to life as it unfolds. I would truly feel and display grace and balance in the face of adversity. The good thing is as I type this I realize I once was this way and I can be this way again. Thank you for your insight and wisdom!?
Thank you for the interesting information and the practical possibilities. Hazel
My response to What would I be without being down on myself is another downer. If I wasn’t shy but social I’d turn into a sexaholic!
But I found the second video helpful in relating to my coffee/chocolate addiction. So I’m entering this comment to get the guided meditation!
Truly inspiring content-thank you for sharing this generously with us
“Real but not true”: this phrase helps so much when my emotions overwhelm me, both before the death of my husband, and now afterwards.
My therapist forwarded your video? I have suffered for years with anxiety
I am ready to ivecome and live again with a fearless heart
I thought I already put in a post and got a message here to that effect when I tried to post again because I wasn’t sure it posted. That said, I don’t see it here. And, how do I get info on the recording Tara offered?
I would travel more as well as have more meaningful relationships.
I would travel more as well as have more meaningful relationships.
Thanks for the teaching about fear. It gave me a lot to think about in my life and I hope I’ll have the opportunity to share it with others.
Thank you!
Without fear I would be free to be more and more my true self, at home in the present.
I would be confident, energetic and focused.
Firstly, thank you again for a neat, packed, 3 part program.
The bite size teachings were well measured and easily placed within a working day.
I found each part’s content, provided very useful mindful phrases, to apply to thoughts of anxiety.