I would be able to trust others more. I would be less physically ill, I would be able to focus and be more productive instead of constantly listening to podcasts and help videos to find out what is wrong with my marriage. I would have time to develop my talents.
I found nicabm on instagram. I am in private practice – solo practitioner. I miss being able to talk with other clinicians to staff cases when I could use another’s expertise – angle. I would love to see more of these mini-clinics. I think this is a very valuable service for all clinicians. Thank you
I would be a more curious participant in life. I would be ‘child like’ in my amazement of life and nature. I would breathe so much more freely. I’ve just taken a free breath and had a glimpse of that ‘me’. that feels good.
If I lived without fear–the real, but not true sort–I would feel less alone, I would not feel like crying when I take the time to feel what is going on in my body and I would have WAY MORE ENERGY!
Cyndi Ralston, Social Work, Kaysville, UT, USAsays
I really loved these videos. When I heard the example of the woman who was stuck in her old worries of fear and grief and how it was affecting her relationship, I called my daughter right away to explain the “real, but not true” phrase. I’m pretty sure my daughter thinks I am crazy, and I may be, but I found it helpful. I have also been stuck in some long standing fears about myself, and find self compassion very difficult. Real, but not true may be a first step for me. Thanks.
A free, boundless soul full of energy. free of paranoia, mistrust and doubt open to all possibilities to persue any thing my heart desires. – Storm Carlson-
Diane Wesman, Another Field, White Bear Lake, MN, USAsays
These short videos were very helpful. I faced a huge fear in a nightmare years ago. The nightmare disappeared! Interesting to think that just facing the various fears I have in my awake hours could do the same.
Daniel Winslow, Another Field, Wichita Falls, TX, USAsays
Always loved Tara Brach’s approach. Who would I be if I didn’t feel that something was wrong with me? I would be someone who responds to life with equanimity, kindness, wisdom and ultimately peace.
Thank you for the engaging and challenging thoughts. Who would I be? I would be more trusting in abilities and confident in my capabilities. I would also know I do deserve to be loved and to love.
I would be a free spirit that is capable of doing most things. There would be no constriction, no re restriction, there would be joy and a sense of anything being possible. There would be peace and creativity will shine through and there would be an expanded heart and self that is full of love and gratitude.
I’ve found with one client that when I introduced the idea of talking to that fearful little girl with tenderness, my client could only feel anger and impatience with for the little girl. We looked at that need to bully, where it came from, why it hung on. But she felt stuck there.
My client spent seven years in the highly competitive and pressured world of professional sports.Despite sacrificing everything his dream of succès was destroyed and he was left shattered. He now lives frozen in fear of moving on. These messages about helping a client deal with fear and anxiety are very practical. Thank you.
Chantal Leven, Social Work, West Stockbridge , MA, USAsays
Real but not true
What is my fear is related to something true?
Everything you said so far I would have agreed a year ago then got diagnosed again with “incurable” breast cancer.
Everything I strived for- facing my fears, overcoming self-doubt, unworthiness, etc. Came to a halt! My anxiety feels real. Fear of the future feels real! Fear of death feels real. Fear of suffering and being powerless feels real!
Who would I be if I did not have that?
Free-healed- empowered to create the life I want- believe that everything is possible!
Be surrounded with people that I love and who love me back. share my gifts and talents without constraints of how far or how big I manifest my destiny!
Thank you for asking!
My grandfather told me my whole childhood and most teenage years that I was only lovable if I let him sexually abuse me. I have no idea who I would be without thinking that this is true.
Karen K, Other, San Francisco, CA, USA says
I would be more adventurous. I would be more at ease. I would be less afraid to get out of my comfort zone
Randie Morillo, Counseling, USA says
I would be someone more like you!
Diane Myers, Other, Wayne, PA, USA says
Spot on Tara. Thank you so much.
Beth Glover, Clergy, New York City, NY, USA says
I appreciated seeing the three videos and am looking forward to trying out the practices you described. Thanks so much!
L M, Another Field, 64507, CO, USA says
I would be able to trust others more. I would be less physically ill, I would be able to focus and be more productive instead of constantly listening to podcasts and help videos to find out what is wrong with my marriage. I would have time to develop my talents.
Atanaska Ivanova-Massart, Another Field, LU says
I’d be fully alive
Denice Pacheco says
I found nicabm on instagram. I am in private practice – solo practitioner. I miss being able to talk with other clinicians to staff cases when I could use another’s expertise – angle. I would love to see more of these mini-clinics. I think this is a very valuable service for all clinicians. Thank you
J V, Other, san francisco, CA, USA says
Unstoppable.
Barbara Anderson, Nursing, St. Paul, MN, USA says
I would be set free.
Lindita Vani, Counseling, IE says
This resonated so much with me! It reminded me that when I stopped, (like the boy in the dream) turned around and faced fear, it evaporated!
Skylar Lark, USA says
I would love to become a world traveling storyteller.
Liz J, Marriage/Family Therapy, CA says
I would be much more in the present moment and feel more fully alive.
Lynda Anozie, Another Field, Baltimore , MD, USA says
I would accept death as part of life, and not be afraid.
R B, Other, Houston, TX, USA says
I would be fearless!
Maria Callahan, Teacher, WA, USA says
I would feel a lightness and a freedom I have not felt before.
Djurdjica Ognjenovic, Other, HR says
Exactly the same with me
Eva Molin, Teacher, ES says
Eva
Alison Brooks, Counseling, GB says
I would feel loved and cherished
Janet Anthony-Buck, Teacher, GB says
I would be a more curious participant in life. I would be ‘child like’ in my amazement of life and nature. I would breathe so much more freely. I’ve just taken a free breath and had a glimpse of that ‘me’. that feels good.
Judy Charanduk says
Amazing and wise approaches
Cc Grady, CO, USA says
I’d be vibrant, alive, at ease and balanced
Susannah Braff, Other, Portland, OR, USA says
If I lived without fear–the real, but not true sort–I would feel less alone, I would not feel like crying when I take the time to feel what is going on in my body and I would have WAY MORE ENERGY!
Cyndi Ralston, Social Work, Kaysville, UT, USA says
I really loved these videos. When I heard the example of the woman who was stuck in her old worries of fear and grief and how it was affecting her relationship, I called my daughter right away to explain the “real, but not true” phrase. I’m pretty sure my daughter thinks I am crazy, and I may be, but I found it helpful. I have also been stuck in some long standing fears about myself, and find self compassion very difficult. Real, but not true may be a first step for me. Thanks.
Fiona Campbell, Medicine, GB says
I would be the doctor I trained to be but had to give up due to chronic self doubts.
Kelly Field, Psychotherapy, GB says
Who do I believe I would be if I didn’t believe something is wrong with me? Put simply, I believe I would be happy.
storm carlson, Coach, shrewsbury, MA, USA says
A free, boundless soul full of energy. free of paranoia, mistrust and doubt open to all possibilities to persue any thing my heart desires. – Storm Carlson-
Bindalli Erkorol, TR says
I would be someone who feels and acknowledges that I am enough just as I am…
Marcie Polie, Other, Los Angeles , CA, USA says
Who would I be? Happier. Less regretful of missed opportunities. More confident. I’m going to share this series with my family. Thank you.
Christina Clark, Psychology says
I would allow myself to relax and share my creativty with others.
Diane Wesman, Another Field, White Bear Lake, MN, USA says
These short videos were very helpful. I faced a huge fear in a nightmare years ago. The nightmare disappeared! Interesting to think that just facing the various fears I have in my awake hours could do the same.
Daniel Winslow, Another Field, Wichita Falls, TX, USA says
Always loved Tara Brach’s approach. Who would I be if I didn’t feel that something was wrong with me? I would be someone who responds to life with equanimity, kindness, wisdom and ultimately peace.
Jill Willard, Another Field, CA says
Who would l be? More open with others believing my life was worth sharing with others…
Kathy Boaz-Chavez, Counseling, Whitesboro, TX, USA says
Thank you for the engaging and challenging thoughts. Who would I be? I would be more trusting in abilities and confident in my capabilities. I would also know I do deserve to be loved and to love.
Diane Morrone, Supervisor, Amsterdam, NY, USA says
I would be more socially interactive. I would pursue more of my interests like art, volunteering. I would be present to my family.
Mamie As, Other, Madeira Beach , FL, USA says
I would be a senator fighting for the will of the people.
Nedialka, Psychotherapy, AU says
I would be a free spirit that is capable of doing most things. There would be no constriction, no re restriction, there would be joy and a sense of anything being possible. There would be peace and creativity will shine through and there would be an expanded heart and self that is full of love and gratitude.
Jane Fredlund, Teacher, USA says
Thank you. Such good reminders on how to manage anxiety. Your courses and meditations have served me well. Jane
Angela Rudden, Psychotherapy, CA says
I’ve found with one client that when I introduced the idea of talking to that fearful little girl with tenderness, my client could only feel anger and impatience with for the little girl. We looked at that need to bully, where it came from, why it hung on. But she felt stuck there.
Anonymous says
My client spent seven years in the highly competitive and pressured world of professional sports.Despite sacrificing everything his dream of succès was destroyed and he was left shattered. He now lives frozen in fear of moving on. These messages about helping a client deal with fear and anxiety are very practical. Thank you.
Lisa Burchartz, Coach, CA says
Calm, patient and kind. Able to be in presence with others in their difficulty versus wanting to turn away.
Karey Pohn, Coach, USA says
A better coach and able to unleash my creativity
Rodolfo Cruz, Teacher, San Juan, PR, USA says
Very good…
Nichola DiBattista, Another Field, Narberth, PA, USA says
Thank you, Tara, your talks and meditations have been a lifesaver to me🙏🏼
Monica Broome, Health Education, Coral Gables, FL, USA says
Thank you for sharing this important information
Chantal Leven, Social Work, West Stockbridge , MA, USA says
Real but not true
What is my fear is related to something true?
Everything you said so far I would have agreed a year ago then got diagnosed again with “incurable” breast cancer.
Everything I strived for- facing my fears, overcoming self-doubt, unworthiness, etc. Came to a halt! My anxiety feels real. Fear of the future feels real! Fear of death feels real. Fear of suffering and being powerless feels real!
Who would I be if I did not have that?
Free-healed- empowered to create the life I want- believe that everything is possible!
Be surrounded with people that I love and who love me back. share my gifts and talents without constraints of how far or how big I manifest my destiny!
Thank you for asking!
Mary McGinnity, Social Work, Rockville, MD, USA says
A true healer
Annie Berreman, Other, Nevada City, CA, USA says
I would take more risks, trusting the universe has my back, and I will be ok, and the better for it.❤️
Astrid Brandt, Medicine, ZA says
My grandfather told me my whole childhood and most teenage years that I was only lovable if I let him sexually abuse me. I have no idea who I would be without thinking that this is true.
Sue Holcombe, Teacher, USA says
Open to the interconnectedness of everything and its impermanence
Chris Kor says
A more relaxed version of myself, enjoining the present moment.
Anastasia Bondarchuk says
A confident, successful woman
Pam Lampe, Another Field, Loveland, CO, USA says
I would be more confident, able to make decisions easily, set healthy boundaries, ask for what I want/need without fear of rejection and so much more.