I would be free to try introducing innovative approaches to patient care including mindfulness-based practices without fear of criticism from the medical community and to strive toward leadership positions in my community and healthcare organization.
Thank you, a mixture of mindfulness, questioning thoughts, breathing into the area/pain….it brings to mind elements of Byron Katie’s’ ‘who would you be without the thought…’
so gently and beautifully presented.
Very valuable information.
Jacqueline Jones, Another Field, St Augustine, FL, USAsays
Through this short talk I discovered a moment as a child when my body and mind learned patterns of fear and self doubt. I’ve been practicing mindfulness on and off for years and I learned today that I have potential to become my best self (unfrozen and expansive) if I tend to these patterns and live in a real and true sense of self.
I’d feel giant in stature, with an unlimited capacity for caring for others and myself, with a huge available heart and big arms ready for comforting hugs.
Who would I be without fear/ anxiety?
I would be free to be more loving & spontaneous. I would be free from fear of betrayal and abandonment. I would be free ti bring more of myself to my significant relationsho
I would be free to thrive and fully give myself to my family, work, and life in general. I would break free to produce beautiful work and contribute in meaningful ways. I would love deeply and freely with a full expansive open heart.
I would actually live. I would accomplish every project I dream up. I would show the world my real face riddled with pigmentation. My marriage would be better (I am exactly like the case example provided). I would be at peace. I would not be so lonely. I would stop stuttering and suffering. I would be free of the need for acceptance. I would not be sad and anxious and feel like a fraud. I would not be so confused and paranoid all the time. I would live a better quality life.
I would be a beautiful and fearless woman able to overcome anxieties and problems that have been with me for years. I would be able to fly! To live again in freedom with myself and love my whole self for who I am.
Do I feel something is wrong with me? Not any more, but I’m still aware (still sensitive to) judgements from others, judgements of not performing well enough, not meeting expectations, not being creative or dynamic enough in my role – while I don’t worry about it anymore, it can still sometimes feel noisy in a meeting. Am I projecting my fear of failure, of not being good enough? Yes, but it’s not overwhelming or even stressful anymore – I can function easily. But I guess I still don’t feel free, truly unconcerned, truly present and anchored in the moment. If I did I’m not sure I would be in that role or in that meeting!
Like many others, I would feel the weight of the past fly away like the clouds, rather than staying stuck, and give myself permission to feel happier, believe in myself and stop comparing myself to someone else, I’d be more confident and less guarded from those I feel are trying to hurt me or bring me down.
“Who would I be if I didn’t think something was wrong with me” brings up so much fear and anxiety, I’m having difficulty coming up with an answer, so it seems I need more work in this area.
Thank you, TB, for bringing this to light.
I would be a person who is more confident and brave in every step of my day. I would do more things and go more places. I would not limit myself and I would very likely share more of myself with others. Thank you for this Tara!
I would be more present in my everyday life, more loving and supportive to myself and others, more productive in my job, more creative, more adventurous, living a more fulfilling life.
Without fears and doubts my creative potential would be more vivid and I would dare to publish my first story for school beginners, which is about the letter “I” in booklet or audio form ☆☆
Carmen Bender, Supervisor, Lathrup Village, MI, USAsays
This question awakens my interest and leaves me completely blank on an answer. I don’t have a vision beyond what I currently experience. I look forward to meditating and journaling on this to move forward and see a new perspective.
Thank you so much!
Without the fear of failure, of not being good enough, I would be open and accepting, warm and loving, and curious, also to others
and I would dare to do things I now only dream about
Excelent. Thank you! I have worked along these lines for 40 years, with my paitients and myself . The Main ideas are beautifully put togrther here. I am sharing it with all my pupila. Thank you again
Understanding the loop that is created and challenging thoughts with the phrase “real but not true” is a tangible strategy for clients. Thanks for this.
Thank you so much for this enlightening encouragement. Your words reminded me of the continued need for compassion… for myself and when supporting clients … Turning and facing a fear relieves the pressure of the unknown. Many times F.E.A.R. is simply… False Evidence that Appears Real. Thoughts are not real, but may be about something real… face it, dissect it, address it… continue.
Kollin Webster, Other, Saint George, UT, USA says
My true self
Kristin Roberts, Psychology, Grand Rapids, MI, USA says
I would be able to be fully present in the moment with my loved ones
Tal Gazitt, Medicine, IL says
I would be free to try introducing innovative approaches to patient care including mindfulness-based practices without fear of criticism from the medical community and to strive toward leadership positions in my community and healthcare organization.
Claudia Burns, Counseling, Richmond, TX, USA says
I love the idea of real, but not true!
G, Another Field, GB says
Thank you, a mixture of mindfulness, questioning thoughts, breathing into the area/pain….it brings to mind elements of Byron Katie’s’ ‘who would you be without the thought…’
so gently and beautifully presented.
Very valuable information.
Jacqueline Jones, Another Field, St Augustine, FL, USA says
Through this short talk I discovered a moment as a child when my body and mind learned patterns of fear and self doubt. I’ve been practicing mindfulness on and off for years and I learned today that I have potential to become my best self (unfrozen and expansive) if I tend to these patterns and live in a real and true sense of self.
Winona Curfman, Counseling, DALLAS, TX, USA says
Great question! Liberating!
Linda Thomas, Other, GB says
Now….. THERE’S a question!!!!!!! Thank you, Tara – you inspire me.
Jen Lovett, Another Field, CA says
I’d feel giant in stature, with an unlimited capacity for caring for others and myself, with a huge available heart and big arms ready for comforting hugs.
Mary McLaughlin, Macungie, PA, USA says
Who would I be without fear/ anxiety?
I would be free to be more loving & spontaneous. I would be free from fear of betrayal and abandonment. I would be free ti bring more of myself to my significant relationsho
Damian Wyard, Physical Therapy, CA says
Free and light and smiles
Lesley Rink, Nursing, Raleigh, NC, USA says
I would be free to thrive and fully give myself to my family, work, and life in general. I would break free to produce beautiful work and contribute in meaningful ways. I would love deeply and freely with a full expansive open heart.
Cathy B, Nursing, CA says
I would feel calm and not be a worrywart.
Zee Diergaardt, Other, CA says
I would actually live. I would accomplish every project I dream up. I would show the world my real face riddled with pigmentation. My marriage would be better (I am exactly like the case example provided). I would be at peace. I would not be so lonely. I would stop stuttering and suffering. I would be free of the need for acceptance. I would not be sad and anxious and feel like a fraud. I would not be so confused and paranoid all the time. I would live a better quality life.
C Jones, Other, GB says
I’d be less judgemental and more playful!
Ans Biachloo, Other, NL says
I would feel free, light, joyful and have an open heart and a wide view on life
Erica Hardy, Other, GB says
I would be a beautiful and fearless woman able to overcome anxieties and problems that have been with me for years. I would be able to fly! To live again in freedom with myself and love my whole self for who I am.
Lailey Jenkins, Counseling says
I would know freedom
Mel Briggs, Other, GB says
Do I feel something is wrong with me? Not any more, but I’m still aware (still sensitive to) judgements from others, judgements of not performing well enough, not meeting expectations, not being creative or dynamic enough in my role – while I don’t worry about it anymore, it can still sometimes feel noisy in a meeting. Am I projecting my fear of failure, of not being good enough? Yes, but it’s not overwhelming or even stressful anymore – I can function easily. But I guess I still don’t feel free, truly unconcerned, truly present and anchored in the moment. If I did I’m not sure I would be in that role or in that meeting!
S Patel, Other, New York, NY, USA says
Very helpful and to the point!
Julia Calife, Psychology, GB says
I’d be lighter.
Susan P, Another Field, St Petersburg , FL, USA says
I’d be brave, courageous, adventurous, free.
Elora Kalish, Psychotherapy, Goshen , NY, USA says
I would be a more peaceful version of myself, taking more risks and spending less time deciding to take them.
Anne Lyngholm, Psychotherapy, DK says
I would be a risk taker; exploring new fields outside myself and new areas within myself, open and receptive to others.
Annette Jae, Psychotherapy, KW says
A happy bunny. Running around like a fearless child.
Diane Lemire, Teacher, CA says
I would see life more as a fun challenge then a place of judgment.
Roshani Engineer, Another Field, IN says
Highest self
Susan Gallant, Other, CA says
If I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, I would be more courageous, vulnerable and loving.
Thank you so much Tara! I am a huge fan of your work! <3
Mary Gleason, Another Field, Rochester, NY, USA says
I would be free! Free to realize my true potential, free to have deeper intimacy, free to open my heart.
Michelle L, Other, CA says
Like many others, I would feel the weight of the past fly away like the clouds, rather than staying stuck, and give myself permission to feel happier, believe in myself and stop comparing myself to someone else, I’d be more confident and less guarded from those I feel are trying to hurt me or bring me down.
Bernice Parent, Health Education, CA says
I would have more self-confidence and be more adventurous and dare to listen to my heart more often instead of my thoughts and fears.
Wanda Osburn, Counseling, VA, USA says
I’d be free of worry and reacting to it. I’d be my best self.
Raquel Wigginton, Teacher, St Johnsbury, VT, USA says
I think I would be more present and have more energy for the things And people I love!
D Marie, Another Field, OBX, NC, USA says
“Who would I be if I didn’t think something was wrong with me” brings up so much fear and anxiety, I’m having difficulty coming up with an answer, so it seems I need more work in this area.
Thank you, TB, for bringing this to light.
Lorelei Walsh Park, Psychology, CA says
I would be a person who is more confident and brave in every step of my day. I would do more things and go more places. I would not limit myself and I would very likely share more of myself with others. Thank you for this Tara!
Sarah James, Supervisor, CA says
I’d be free of panic and generalized anxiety based physical illness that I’ve had on and off since early childhood.
Kathi, Coach, USA says
I would be more present in my everyday life, more loving and supportive to myself and others, more productive in my job, more creative, more adventurous, living a more fulfilling life.
Jutta Bongartz, Social Work, DE says
Without fears and doubts my creative potential would be more vivid and I would dare to publish my first story for school beginners, which is about the letter “I” in booklet or audio form ☆☆
Carmen Bender, Supervisor, Lathrup Village, MI, USA says
This question awakens my interest and leaves me completely blank on an answer. I don’t have a vision beyond what I currently experience. I look forward to meditating and journaling on this to move forward and see a new perspective.
Gobi Stromberg, Psychotherapy, new york, NY, USA says
thanks for sharing this
insightful approach to fear.
barbara shulman-kirwin, Coach, Guilford, CT, USA says
At peace
Gareth Conlon, IE says
Really good stuff thank you Tara
clair lalor, Psychotherapy, IE says
i don’t know who i would be without my worries. they are so engrained. i see them, but cannot meet or touch them
Jessica Bongenhielm, Psychology, SE says
Thank you so much!
Without the fear of failure, of not being good enough, I would be open and accepting, warm and loving, and curious, also to others
and I would dare to do things I now only dream about
Cristina Bluthgen, Psychotherapy, AR says
Excelent. Thank you! I have worked along these lines for 40 years, with my paitients and myself . The Main ideas are beautifully put togrther here. I am sharing it with all my pupila. Thank you again
Maysoon Rassam, Counseling, NZ says
Amazing: Face it: acknowledge, sense it in the body and attend to it tenderly and compassionately.
Thank you Tara
Christine Mazurkiewicz, Marriage/Family Therapy, Annville, PA, USA says
Understanding the loop that is created and challenging thoughts with the phrase “real but not true” is a tangible strategy for clients. Thanks for this.
c, Social Work, Tionesta, PA, USA says
Thank you for sharing this information. For me it is just another way of looking at fear. I love the statement real but not true.
Shirley Francois, Psychotherapy, Dallas, GA, USA says
Thank you so much for this enlightening encouragement. Your words reminded me of the continued need for compassion… for myself and when supporting clients … Turning and facing a fear relieves the pressure of the unknown. Many times F.E.A.R. is simply… False Evidence that Appears Real. Thoughts are not real, but may be about something real… face it, dissect it, address it… continue.
April Cloutier, Social Work, Warren, ME, USA says
A relaxed, confident, and invigorated human fluidly open to life’s experiences.
Mary Dempsey, Counseling, IE says
Learned so much from your teachings here, Its so clear,. Who would I be…a clear guided teacher of this…like you 🙂
Galia Arnon, Student, IL says
Without fear I would be a happier person 🙂