Amy Axelbank, Another Field, Fairfield, CT, USAsays
I would be comfortable in my own body. The grip of fear holds me back from enjoying my life. I feel a pit in my stomach, sometimes a racing heart or worried mind. I miss out enjoying being with friends and family because I am trapped in the grip of fear. Fear about being unlovable and being alone. I want to break free of these habitual reactions that consume me throughout my day. I want to enjoy life and be happy.
I would be free to be myself – more compassionate and mindful in my everyday interactions. Thank you Tara for all you share, it has made such a large impact on my life.
I would be a less doubtful me and be less inhibited and more responsive. I would slow down without fear that life or events are going to leave me behind and breath into the present moment and feel it with sensitivity to myself and others.
who would I be without fear? I’d like to say I’d be an opera star, but I don’t have the voice for that. the point is, I’d be more confident to engage with others, which is thankfully, the direction I’m moving in. I’m not so afraid of rejection any more, and by letting go of that fear, I find it’s easy to approach others, since it feels easy, it is easy, and the anticipated rejection was all in my head. Leftover fears from childhood.
Thanks so much for sharing this wisdom Tara. As a therapist I have been working with clients to move towards their fears and bring kindness to themselves, it has been inspiring to see their transformation as they change their relationship with their fears and with themselves. Grateful for your teachings and your wise and gentle spirit.
To live so much more to my true potential. To ĺearn new things more easily and joyfully. To relax into relationships and be able to give more compassion.
I would be strong and present with a clearer sense of direction…not muddied by self doubt and second guessing! That’s not to say i would be perfect however, that isn’t the case!…but more accepting of my flaws and mistakes.
There’s no telling since I learned to deal with my fears later in life. I’ve accomplished much with my fears present holding me back from goals I never realized. Needed to rid myself of useless guilt.
I would be unafraid of some made up consequence if I was to be truly seen. This would make me more open to speak up and be more social and helpful to people. I’m working on it, so I can give the love I am here to share. Thank you for these simple steps on my journey.
i would be a calmer person, one who takes more time before speaking, one who takes more time for everything, one who does less because less is more done well.
I would be more free to appreciate life in the here and now. I’d be lighter and have more room to receive and give love. I’d be more accepting and non-judgemental of what is and how other people are.My perfectionism ideals wouldn’t keep cropping up!
I would feel light as a bird’s feather. Overflowing with love for everything and everybody. Inside me there would be just peace, kindness and connection to all there is.
I would be wild and free, loving everyone and everything, compassionate and caring, successful and abundant. I have to break through this self doubt once and for all.
I would be self-confident, at ease with myself and with my body, free to express myself. I would be able to know more about myself and reach my true potential
I wouldn’t be such an isolated, damaged person. I would not be afraid of everything new, different that went into my body. I would be engaged with others in more meaningful life affirming ways
I have defined myself in my adult life as executive, strong, wife, and loving grandmother. I am actually no longer any of those things because of retirement and divorce.
Who would I be without the self doubt?
Accepting, kind, open and non-assessing and vulnerable to love in all forms – family, relationships- all these things come to mind. Free of status and looking at myself through the eyes of others, and my assessment of my performance.
I would be bright, bold, free, grounded and centered. I would know unconditional trust in my unfolding. I would relate to all parts of my being in tender and fierce compassion. I would be resiliently connected to my self. I would know connections with others grounded in trust, compassion and love.
Wow, this is such a tough question. I’ve been deep in this fear of socializing and working in groups for my whole life. Who would I be if I didn’t have that fear? I might be on a team brainstorming ideas to improve social justice. Or I would be a corporate analyst who figures out how to solve operational problems, streamline processes, identify personnel issues and optimize peoples’ roles to fit their personalities. I would have a community support group that made people feel loved, included and accepted. I would organize environmental cleanup projects. And then with my leftover time, I would volunteer for Habitat for Humanity… LOL! It would be awesome =:D
Thank for the informative videos regarding fear. I agree as a practitioner and part of the human collective in general that fear is a predominant emotion at this time. Any tools to help other identify and address it are always helfpul.
Tara,
Thank you for caring about people you do not even know; who struggle with anxiety. Your program insights and strategies are filled with optimism and hope. I can do this.
M
I would be calmer, less anxious, more open-hearted, kind, and compassionate to myself and others. I would believe in wellness, kindness, and love through and with a fearless heart. I would notice that if something is “wrong” with me, I would listen to this belief and whisper “real but not true;” I would have much more time to listen to my loved ones and extend care with an expansive heart (and not a constricting and fearful one).
Thank you so much Tara, your words of wisdom are deeply nurturing and inspiring. The question of “Who would I be if I didn’t believe something is wrong with me?” is powerful and one I will consider often xx
Isab, Another Field, AU says
I would breathe with more ease and experience less physical pain
Marlies Grindlay, Student, CA says
still me, only a bigger version
Mary McCall, Teacher, CA, USA says
I would feel stronger and more confident.
Amy Axelbank, Another Field, Fairfield, CT, USA says
I would be comfortable in my own body. The grip of fear holds me back from enjoying my life. I feel a pit in my stomach, sometimes a racing heart or worried mind. I miss out enjoying being with friends and family because I am trapped in the grip of fear. Fear about being unlovable and being alone. I want to break free of these habitual reactions that consume me throughout my day. I want to enjoy life and be happy.
Maru Antu, Another Field, Miami , FL, USA says
I would be free to create, to write again, to love.
Elyse Shafarman, Other, CA, USA says
Peaceful
Stuart Bul, Student, LAKE WORTH, FL, USA says
I would be free to be myself – more compassionate and mindful in my everyday interactions. Thank you Tara for all you share, it has made such a large impact on my life.
Michael Dunne, Health Education, IE says
I would be a less doubtful me and be less inhibited and more responsive. I would slow down without fear that life or events are going to leave me behind and breath into the present moment and feel it with sensitivity to myself and others.
Barbara McKenzie-Green, Health Education, NZ says
I would be free
Jeana Holme, Nursing, Port Townsend, WA, USA says
who would I be without fear? I’d like to say I’d be an opera star, but I don’t have the voice for that. the point is, I’d be more confident to engage with others, which is thankfully, the direction I’m moving in. I’m not so afraid of rejection any more, and by letting go of that fear, I find it’s easy to approach others, since it feels easy, it is easy, and the anticipated rejection was all in my head. Leftover fears from childhood.
Mary Marsella, Coach, Richmond, CA, USA says
Very helpful, real, practical.Without Tara, I don’t know how I’d have gotten through the last 5 years. Much gratitude.🙏
Jen T, Psychotherapy, AU says
Thanks so much for sharing this wisdom Tara. As a therapist I have been working with clients to move towards their fears and bring kindness to themselves, it has been inspiring to see their transformation as they change their relationship with their fears and with themselves. Grateful for your teachings and your wise and gentle spirit.
Cathy Lynn, CA says
Ide be more present and would enjoy life more
Helen Purdam, Another Field, AU says
To live so much more to my true potential. To ĺearn new things more easily and joyfully. To relax into relationships and be able to give more compassion.
Julia says, AU says
I would be strong and present with a clearer sense of direction…not muddied by self doubt and second guessing! That’s not to say i would be perfect however, that isn’t the case!…but more accepting of my flaws and mistakes.
joseph, Social Work, Las Vegas, NM, USA says
There’s no telling since I learned to deal with my fears later in life. I’ve accomplished much with my fears present holding me back from goals I never realized. Needed to rid myself of useless guilt.
Lavina Singh, Another Field, Phoenix, AZ, USA says
I would be unafraid of some made up consequence if I was to be truly seen. This would make me more open to speak up and be more social and helpful to people. I’m working on it, so I can give the love I am here to share. Thank you for these simple steps on my journey.
marie boileau, El Cerrito, CA, USA says
i would be a calmer person, one who takes more time before speaking, one who takes more time for everything, one who does less because less is more done well.
Carole Licht, Other, AU says
Without fear I would be able to feel and relish every single moment of this beautiful life and the joys of who I am.
Karen Bergman, Other, CA says
I would be more free to appreciate life in the here and now. I’d be lighter and have more room to receive and give love. I’d be more accepting and non-judgemental of what is and how other people are.My perfectionism ideals wouldn’t keep cropping up!
Elena Deppe, Stress Management, DE says
I would feel light as a bird’s feather. Overflowing with love for everything and everybody. Inside me there would be just peace, kindness and connection to all there is.
patrice buee, Counseling, GB says
I will be able to leave a fulfil live with anbondance peace and love
Marian Dolan, Another Field, IE says
I would be wild and free, loving everyone and everything, compassionate and caring, successful and abundant. I have to break through this self doubt once and for all.
Kate Berridge, Nursing, NZ says
Tara I appreciate your generosity and compassion. You have helped me and many of my clients 🙏🏼.
I will contemplate your question thank you 💗.
Emily Prince, Other, GB says
I wouldn’t be so reluctant to face change, to try new things. I wouldn’t waste so much energy trying to ‘outthink’ the future
Faith Burch, Exercise Physiology, GB says
I would enjoy my life more.
C C-H, Psychotherapy, WESTON, CT, USA says
I would be able to connect with others in a more authentic way.
Rose Farren, Nutrition, San Antonio, TX, USA says
a welcome gracious presence
Ana, Teacher, AR says
I would be ME
Sofia Keane, Menlo Park, CA, USA says
I would be self-confident, at ease with myself and with my body, free to express myself. I would be able to know more about myself and reach my true potential
Birgitta Ahlsell, Psychotherapy, SE says
I would be more relaxed and available for myself and others.
Kimberly Whitney, Counseling, Dallas, TX, USA says
I would feel more confident, almost like I was flying through life a lighter version of myself. Thank you for the videos!
Caroline Morgan, Another Field, Royal Oak, MI, USA says
I would be happier and more at ease with myself, and able to be more open, loving, and accepting with others.
Sarah Murray, Ithaca, NY, USA says
I wouldn’t be such an isolated, damaged person. I would not be afraid of everything new, different that went into my body. I would be engaged with others in more meaningful life affirming ways
Kim says
I have defined myself in my adult life as executive, strong, wife, and loving grandmother. I am actually no longer any of those things because of retirement and divorce.
Who would I be without the self doubt?
Accepting, kind, open and non-assessing and vulnerable to love in all forms – family, relationships- all these things come to mind. Free of status and looking at myself through the eyes of others, and my assessment of my performance.
Dale Anania, Other, Berkeley, CA, USA says
Real, but not true. From now on, best advice I will ever give
Hana Olds, Another Field, NZ says
I would be bright, bold, free, grounded and centered. I would know unconditional trust in my unfolding. I would relate to all parts of my being in tender and fierce compassion. I would be resiliently connected to my self. I would know connections with others grounded in trust, compassion and love.
Neti Ranjan, Counseling, IN says
I’d be kind to myself more often and without thinking
Deb Straub, Other, Concord, CA, USA says
Wow, this is such a tough question. I’ve been deep in this fear of socializing and working in groups for my whole life. Who would I be if I didn’t have that fear? I might be on a team brainstorming ideas to improve social justice. Or I would be a corporate analyst who figures out how to solve operational problems, streamline processes, identify personnel issues and optimize peoples’ roles to fit their personalities. I would have a community support group that made people feel loved, included and accepted. I would organize environmental cleanup projects. And then with my leftover time, I would volunteer for Habitat for Humanity… LOL! It would be awesome =:D
Chrissy Davis-Allen, Naturopathic Physician, HIGHLANDS RANCH, CO, USA says
Thank for the informative videos regarding fear. I agree as a practitioner and part of the human collective in general that fear is a predominant emotion at this time. Any tools to help other identify and address it are always helfpul.
Pamela Gale, WA, USA says
Confident, relaxed, inquisitive and creative!
Anonymous says
Tara,
Thank you for caring about people you do not even know; who struggle with anxiety. Your program insights and strategies are filled with optimism and hope. I can do this.
M
Shannon Romano, Social Work, CA says
Thank you. I love the question, “who would you be if you didn’t believe something was wrong with you”?
L H, Student, Union Pier, MI, USA says
I’d be more creative, more productive, more loving and open. I’d be free and at ease.
Lau Malaver, Student, Boulder, CO, USA says
I would be calmer, less anxious, more open-hearted, kind, and compassionate to myself and others. I would believe in wellness, kindness, and love through and with a fearless heart. I would notice that if something is “wrong” with me, I would listen to this belief and whisper “real but not true;” I would have much more time to listen to my loved ones and extend care with an expansive heart (and not a constricting and fearful one).
Kathryn Constantin, Nursing, GB says
Free, with limitless possibilities
Jo B, Another Field, AT says
Free and without doubt
Lindsey Foley, Coach, GB says
Thank you so much Tara, your words of wisdom are deeply nurturing and inspiring. The question of “Who would I be if I didn’t believe something is wrong with me?” is powerful and one I will consider often xx
praveen k, Other, IN says
Creative confident and passionate
Leigh Cummings, Counseling, NZ says
Who would I be without fear…I would be my true self and free to express myself openly and allow myself to be vulnerable…