anonymous anonymous, Another Field, Atascadero, CA, USAsays
I would be taking action more confidently and more often without having to spend so much time and emotional energy with “real but not true” convincing and processing before I am able to take action and believe in myself. And not be afraid or attached to outcome.
Thank you Tara. Love your teachings that are so wise and the real life examples you provide + the catch phrase “Real but not True”. From a Grateful Heart, Paola
It’s always encouraging to hear Tara’a tips. For me, they provide hope, a willingness to try one more time, and further insight into my own heart, if not a total resolution to my doubts and fears.
Without my fear, I would be willing to take the leap to leave a job that no longer fulfills me and be the type of partner in my relationship that allows for the deep, soulful, loving, intimate connection I long for.
This is a very useful and clear tool “Real but not true” and “who would i be if I thought nothing was wrong with me”. I guess I would have a fearless heart and i as I imagine, be someone with much less worry. Thanks!
Nicole Schad, Another Field, Stillwater, MN, USAsays
I would love all of me with ese. I would trust myself to be able and deserving to have what my heart yearns for. I would allow myself to be who I truly am.
I could be a person who is truly present to the many blessings in my life instead of being a prisoner to my thoughts of what might go wrong for myself and my loved ones.
I would give myself permission to put my own self
care at the top of the list. I would trust the wisdom of my own inner voice. I would say no to anything that didn’t give me a good feeling in my heart. I would honour my heart.
Thank you for this. I find most of my own and my client’s similar beliefs originated in the womb or even on the way to it. I now can welcome myself in a way I didn’t feel welcomed back then and I can be whom I didn’t used to believe I could be.
Real, but not true. This segment provided helpful language, phrases and steps to use when experiencing the looping cycle of fear. Very informative and helpful.
I would trust life more, let go of believing that I need to be in control of certain aspects of my life, I would relax more in my body, soften the perceived need to grip on tightly.
Fully present and able to participate freely. Able to move into private practice rather than working in the statutory / charitable sector. Be more secure in couple relationships.
I would be a more authentic self, freer and more spontaneous. I might laugh more. My body would feel looser, softer, easier to be in. I would sleep better and be less avoiding of others, kinder. A better version of me.
Gratitude and appreciation for sharing your experience in helping others face fear with a courageous compassionate heart and at the same time creating community connection. Without fear it is easier for me to cultivate equanimity – actually fear is my gift to practice equanimity and mindfulness. Love your phase “real but not true” and often use it.
If I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me? I would offer my gifts to the world just as they are, just as I am. I would polish and improve out of a sense of curiosity and being drawn out as well as maintaining a sense of stable self care.
Big and powerful question.. I would be able to find that inner grounding, able to sit by the calm waters within.. therefore able to give out more rather than being muted and crippled by fear time and time again. I think I would be able to recognise who i am more clearly.
I would be more ‘me’.
real but not true, great line. less self doubt, fear of rejection of not being lovable, of not belonging. I would stand tall in the glory of me and embrace the world, live with love and adventure.
If I wasn’t fearful I would be able to think more quickly in difficult situations to make them humorous. I would laugh more at myself and my reactions to help myself see the anticipation of illusions that make up in my mind. I am most fearful about ailing health and possible complications with that so I need to learn humor as medicine for real and imagined anomalies.
Sabrina O'Hanleigh, Another Field, Davis, CA, USAsays
Tara, thank you for your continued work with transforming fear and creating community.
Without fear I would be confident, self assured, and content. I would engage with the world more and allow my curiosity to lead my journey.
I would be taking action more confidently and more often without having to spend so much time and emotional energy with “real but not true” convincing and processing before I am able to take action and believe in myself. And not be afraid or attached to outcome.
Eternally happy, almost perfection
I would no longer be a survivor but a living and breathing soul experiencing life on Earth.
I would be a brilliant compelling speaker with many opportunities to share my gifts.
Without fear I wouldn’t worry so much and instead I would be more decisive and take action.
Happy me
Thank you Tara. Love your teachings that are so wise and the real life examples you provide + the catch phrase “Real but not True”. From a Grateful Heart, Paola
I would be a confident speaker and author, but that’s what not who. I don’t know who. Maybe a person willing to reach out.
I would be open to life’s possibilities
Thank you for the free workshop series! I really appreciate the 3 step process to break chronic anxiety and it is truly a life long practice!
real but not true…..
“Real, but not true…” What a great phrase to carry in my pocket!
It’s always encouraging to hear Tara’a tips. For me, they provide hope, a willingness to try one more time, and further insight into my own heart, if not a total resolution to my doubts and fears.
I REALLY ENJOY YOUR WEBINARS. VERY CALMING AND CONTAINING
Thank you very much!
Without my fear, I would be willing to take the leap to leave a job that no longer fulfills me and be the type of partner in my relationship that allows for the deep, soulful, loving, intimate connection I long for.
I would be a free spirit. I would be able to accept love without defensiveness and give love without fear of rejection.
I would be able to accept the good in my life with gratitude without the questioning of whether I truly deserved it
Free to be truly present with greater love and compassion.
This is a very useful and clear tool “Real but not true” and “who would i be if I thought nothing was wrong with me”. I guess I would have a fearless heart and i as I imagine, be someone with much less worry. Thanks!
I would be free to be open to other people. My relationships with others would be more authentic.
I would be more my true self…and like a child who is eager to explore and not afraid to fall while learning to walk.
I would love all of me with ese. I would trust myself to be able and deserving to have what my heart yearns for. I would allow myself to be who I truly am.
Thank you,Tara.
Your words are always helpful.
Fear,the root of all suffering.
I would be able to see and interact with the world fully without putting up blinders to protect myself.
I could be a person who is truly present to the many blessings in my life instead of being a prisoner to my thoughts of what might go wrong for myself and my loved ones.
I would give myself permission to put my own self
care at the top of the list. I would trust the wisdom of my own inner voice. I would say no to anything that didn’t give me a good feeling in my heart. I would honour my heart.
A writer., i think i amfearful of my own thoughts that if i dont control them they will harm others (crazy from panama)
Thank you for this. I find most of my own and my client’s similar beliefs originated in the womb or even on the way to it. I now can welcome myself in a way I didn’t feel welcomed back then and I can be whom I didn’t used to believe I could be.
Real, but not true. This segment provided helpful language, phrases and steps to use when experiencing the looping cycle of fear. Very informative and helpful.
I would be free to be myself
Without pervasive fear and ruminating thoughts, I would be much more aware of my present moment choices, creative, open , loving and balanced.
I would be just me. Without me judging every thought, emotion and feeling.
I would be aware and comfortable
I would trust life more, let go of believing that I need to be in control of certain aspects of my life, I would relax more in my body, soften the perceived need to grip on tightly.
Strong, bold, discerning, safe, content.
I would be everything I had planned before depression and panic attack hit my life years ago.
Fully present and able to participate freely. Able to move into private practice rather than working in the statutory / charitable sector. Be more secure in couple relationships.
I would be a free person with an enlightened heart, feeling peace and living each moment fully
Without fear I am unstoppable, lovable and in a joyous heart. Free to do and be.
I would be relaxed and able to accept myself as an imperfect, but really neat and creative human.
I would be a more authentic self, freer and more spontaneous. I might laugh more. My body would feel looser, softer, easier to be in. I would sleep better and be less avoiding of others, kinder. A better version of me.
Gratitude and appreciation for sharing your experience in helping others face fear with a courageous compassionate heart and at the same time creating community connection. Without fear it is easier for me to cultivate equanimity – actually fear is my gift to practice equanimity and mindfulness. Love your phase “real but not true” and often use it.
If I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me? I would offer my gifts to the world just as they are, just as I am. I would polish and improve out of a sense of curiosity and being drawn out as well as maintaining a sense of stable self care.
Ah, I would feel free to paint! No need to get it perfect.
Big and powerful question.. I would be able to find that inner grounding, able to sit by the calm waters within.. therefore able to give out more rather than being muted and crippled by fear time and time again. I think I would be able to recognise who i am more clearly.
I would be more ‘me’.
Thank you for the question Tara.
I would feel save in the world and with others.
I would be a top rock climber who knows that she is strong both physically and mentally
real but not true, great line. less self doubt, fear of rejection of not being lovable, of not belonging. I would stand tall in the glory of me and embrace the world, live with love and adventure.
If I wasn’t fearful I would be able to think more quickly in difficult situations to make them humorous. I would laugh more at myself and my reactions to help myself see the anticipation of illusions that make up in my mind. I am most fearful about ailing health and possible complications with that so I need to learn humor as medicine for real and imagined anomalies.
Tara, thank you for your continued work with transforming fear and creating community.
Without fear I would be confident, self assured, and content. I would engage with the world more and allow my curiosity to lead my journey.