I believe I could be a more free and happy individual who may not have placed so many blocks in front of work, relationships and general life progression! Anxiety and fear have ruined many of my relationships and even ideas of who I am and even how much I could earn at work. Thank you so much for these free and enlightening tools!
I would step fully into my power as a healer and a teacher,as a Priestess,and a OneSpirit Interfaith Minister.
Thank you for sharing this question, and for your deep insightful and compassionate work.
Without fear, I would dare more, to do the creative things I love, without feeling not good enough or deserving of the pleasure they give me. And I would have resilience, good boundaries in face of anticipated criticism. I would be free of the concern about what others think of me.
thanks for the reminder – i have a tatoo on my right wrist writing no fear no limit – it was 2017 when i clearly realized through an ilness of mine that it was nonsense – there is fear – there can be fear – the wise and calming behaviour is to learn how to pass through it with grace i say – every time i listen to you there comes a reminder in a different fhrase – thank you
Jennifer Cutshall, Coach, Delray Beach, FL, USAsays
I would be freer to be more creative. I would have more energy and focus enabling me to love and serve to a greater capacity. I would be more physically active because I would be moving through my feelings more completely and releasing the stress and tension that is keeping me stuck. I could breathe easier.
Hi, Nice to hear your ideas. At work we have practice groups for people with sosial anxity. And we call the group be free to be yourself, and that’s what I practice for myself too.
Without fear, I would spend more time pursuing what really brings me joy, instead of constantly working toward achieving something. I would take more risks and accept the outcome, instead of feeling like I constantly have to prove my worth through my accomplishments.
I love this Tara thank you, Ive done a lot of healing and therapy over the years and I still tap into my inner child’s treasure chest of what she so bravely endured. It still unfolds just shedding a little more light every time, your video clip showed the angel of how she so desperately wanted to be excepted for the free spirit she was and how she was so rejected by so many and yet accepted and embraced when others needed me. My Kind fun spirit is often too much for others and creates a threat due to their own childhood experiences. Often if someone is kind they will want something or do something bad. In my adult life now having faced trauma I give focus to cultivating inner peace and joy and acceptance of my self softening the heart and loving me in the knowing of who I am. This is beautiful. Thank you for all the incredible work you do i’m very grateful to have you and your work to hand on my journey. So back to your question who would i be if nothing was wrong i would be that free spirit, fun, loving, forgiving, nurturing soul who loves to connect and live life to the fullest without fear of judgement or limits. This is a beautiful exercise where i get to see how closely i am connected with me and my heart. I practice compassion and understanding every day and I aim to share all with the world just like you do. To contribute in showing how we can live our best lives. Life will always be happening for us, once we are continuously getting to know and understand ourselves first and then others it is possible to live life as if nothing is wrong. Lots of love and gratitude to you for this lovely powerful connection today.
Thank you beautiful Tara…another inspiring message…
.I have a client who is crippled by fear of failure at the moment and your two simple suggested statements/question “Real but not true” and “Who would you be if you didn’t believe something was wrong with you?” are so powerful.He will love them!
I am a coaching psychologist who uses ACT and integrating somatic therapy and neurocoaching nto my work…and am so often inspired by you, your wisdom, profound insight and practice
With an ever grateful heart❤️
Sally
I look at my brain playing tricks with me. And name the emotion. That’s anxiety. Then I say hello and goodbye to it. Also I like the idea of . There’s is a problem then say there isn’t a problem. This also helps dissipate it.
Where I do have a real problem is when a a fear is so threatening that none of the above works because my body is taken over with chemicals releasing, pulse rate soaring. Here I have no control at all. Nothing works except perhaps by nurturing myself, hand on heart I recover more quickly.
beautifully presented video and so true from a past of dysfunction fear is always kept somewhere in the body and needs releasing from that part thank you so much.
I have clients who are really afraid of who they could be if they are not afraid. I can think of a particular client who is so afraid of success that she keeps sabotaging herself in ways that you cannot imagine- strong sense that she doesn’t deserve and a lot of limitations she imposed in herself
No doubt there is a lot of inner healing that needs to happen before she can free herself. Thanks for sharing your teachings shows me a path a way to help-“Real but not true” opens the way of a new positive path!
I found this question an eye-opener when used in a positive way. I unfortunately used it in a negative way until now as I will try to use it as you suggested.
Thank you Tara. You are amazing… So loving and clear. I have a lot of fears to turn and face. Self doubt and lack of self worth need TLC.
The question who wd I be without fear opens up a space to inquire and hopefully not become self judgmental because I’m not what I could be
Hello Tara. You are amazing. So loving, clear and real. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I’m 69 and have had an eating disorder since I was 15-16. Anorexia and bulimia though I have not been bulimic for 10 years. Hooray! But anorexia loved starving me so that I didn’t become bulimic again. However, that’s how things manifested. I’m afraid to be me and shine my light. I have felt misunderstood. I’m frightened to live, I approval seek and worry about what other people think of me. I’m very blessed to have had interesting experiences and lived in different parts of the world. My 93 Yr old mother is still alive and in care. At present I can still talk to her. I’m so blessed. We love each other very much. (we don’t live close to each other). I often wonder if my family of brothers and sisters really love or if I have let them down. I’m getting help with my eating disorder for which I’m grateful. I wonder if I can truly recover and whether I can discover my underlying fears and why I don’t have the courage to turn and FACE them. And face the fear/reasons of eating disorders. I’m frightened to live and I don’t know what I really want in life…. EXCEPT peace of heart and mind. Is there any hope? What steps, or small steps will help me out of my own jail (which I feel is all my fault and don’t deserve good) . Self doubt as you mentioned is rampant. I guess the techniques you have explained in the three videos of the four would apply. I pray there is hope for me to heal and to be of loving use to humanity. Thank you for listening/reading. Love and blessings from Fran in New Zealand xxxx
The short video was helpful for me in being able to help clients reframe their thoughts and look beyond what they are afraid of. Thank you for sharing the short videos.
“Who would I be without fear” is a question that disrupts the loop of fear I get caught up in. It connects me with curiosity and self compassion. It is a question which energises me.
I’ve lived with chronic fear for most of my life n shut out that part off myself, devoting my entire energy to work. Until the fear creeped into work n I went into fight or flight mode n exited my job. And then I froze. Faced with the mountain of dealing with my inner demons that were stopping my evolution in life. I can now see where this is coming from (an incident in childhood) but the awareness alone is not sufficient to release the fear from my physiology n autonomous reactions that are driving my existence.
Thanks for your soothing talks, they are an oasis of green in sometimes very arid times
Thanks! I suspected there was an addictive quality to my tendency to become worried often and continue to seek out more news/info that ultimately would add to my ‘distress’. There’s an excitement provided in this self-destructive behavior. Maybe this is my key .. more excitement in my life.
Without fear I think I’d be a full-time coach and mental health facilitator, without combining it with an office job that pays bills but no longer brings me any joy. I’d be able to express the truth of who I am in a more authentic way.
You ask, who would I be…? I would be a greater help to myself and others in overcoming challenges. Fear strikes us all; and is ever present… learning to surpass the thinking and emotions of fear is a constant struggle for me. I succeed, I fail… and the loop continues. I endeavor to spiral up, but with humility, I try to accept when I spiral down. Fear block us; blocks me.
Thank you again, Tara
I create posters for my wall to remind me “ to remove the fluff”
May I Be here. Hold it with interest, humor, forgiveness
Fear to me means face experience and accept responsibility
I listen to your sleep mediations when need to relax again
I am learning to “be happy for no reason at all” . I love all your stories.
Especially the child who said: “I was God!”
I share your website with many and they are now joining the ‘hundreds’ to awaken and be free and be at peace again.
I am learning to “ride the waves on my raft” with Kuan Yin.
I am grateful for your courage to awaken this world again.
Love and Gratitude,
Elenora
Thank you again, Tara
I create posters for my wall to remind me “ to remove the fluff”
May I Be here. Hold it with interest, humor, forgiveness
Fear to me means face experience and accept responsibility
I listen to your sleep mediations when need to relax again
I am learning to “be happy for no reason at all” . I love all your stories.
Especially the child who said: “I was God!”
I share your website with many and they are now joining the ‘hundreds’ to awaken and be free and be at peace again.
I am learning to “ride the waves on my raft” with Kuan Yin.
I am grateful for your courage to awaken this world again.
Love and Gratitude,
Elenor
I believe I could be a more free and happy individual who may not have placed so many blocks in front of work, relationships and general life progression! Anxiety and fear have ruined many of my relationships and even ideas of who I am and even how much I could earn at work. Thank you so much for these free and enlightening tools!
I would be free.
I would step fully into my power as a healer and a teacher,as a Priestess,and a OneSpirit Interfaith Minister.
Thank you for sharing this question, and for your deep insightful and compassionate work.
Real but not true – thats a powerful key -many thanks!!
Without fear, I would dare more, to do the creative things I love, without feeling not good enough or deserving of the pleasure they give me. And I would have resilience, good boundaries in face of anticipated criticism. I would be free of the concern about what others think of me.
thanks for the reminder – i have a tatoo on my right wrist writing no fear no limit – it was 2017 when i clearly realized through an ilness of mine that it was nonsense – there is fear – there can be fear – the wise and calming behaviour is to learn how to pass through it with grace i say – every time i listen to you there comes a reminder in a different fhrase – thank you
I would be freer to be more creative. I would have more energy and focus enabling me to love and serve to a greater capacity. I would be more physically active because I would be moving through my feelings more completely and releasing the stress and tension that is keeping me stuck. I could breathe easier.
Less concerned about other’s opinions of me.
Hi, Nice to hear your ideas. At work we have practice groups for people with sosial anxity. And we call the group be free to be yourself, and that’s what I practice for myself too.
I would be retaking my coaching evaluation and enjoy using my skills to impact my clients.
Very helpful experiential work, phrases and questions to move out of fear conditioning. Thank you.
So helpful, but so hard to implement after years of conditioning
If I didn’t think something was wrong with me I would be me – my authentic self expressing the wisdom and truth of my awakened wise heart
I would be able to live with and express compassion for others and myself.
Without fear, I would spend more time pursuing what really brings me joy, instead of constantly working toward achieving something. I would take more risks and accept the outcome, instead of feeling like I constantly have to prove my worth through my accomplishments.
I love this Tara thank you, Ive done a lot of healing and therapy over the years and I still tap into my inner child’s treasure chest of what she so bravely endured. It still unfolds just shedding a little more light every time, your video clip showed the angel of how she so desperately wanted to be excepted for the free spirit she was and how she was so rejected by so many and yet accepted and embraced when others needed me. My Kind fun spirit is often too much for others and creates a threat due to their own childhood experiences. Often if someone is kind they will want something or do something bad. In my adult life now having faced trauma I give focus to cultivating inner peace and joy and acceptance of my self softening the heart and loving me in the knowing of who I am. This is beautiful. Thank you for all the incredible work you do i’m very grateful to have you and your work to hand on my journey. So back to your question who would i be if nothing was wrong i would be that free spirit, fun, loving, forgiving, nurturing soul who loves to connect and live life to the fullest without fear of judgement or limits. This is a beautiful exercise where i get to see how closely i am connected with me and my heart. I practice compassion and understanding every day and I aim to share all with the world just like you do. To contribute in showing how we can live our best lives. Life will always be happening for us, once we are continuously getting to know and understand ourselves first and then others it is possible to live life as if nothing is wrong. Lots of love and gratitude to you for this lovely powerful connection today.
I would be living my true nature, who I truly am.
Thank you beautiful Tara…another inspiring message…
.I have a client who is crippled by fear of failure at the moment and your two simple suggested statements/question “Real but not true” and “Who would you be if you didn’t believe something was wrong with you?” are so powerful.He will love them!
I am a coaching psychologist who uses ACT and integrating somatic therapy and neurocoaching nto my work…and am so often inspired by you, your wisdom, profound insight and practice
With an ever grateful heart❤️
Sally
I look at my brain playing tricks with me. And name the emotion. That’s anxiety. Then I say hello and goodbye to it. Also I like the idea of . There’s is a problem then say there isn’t a problem. This also helps dissipate it.
Where I do have a real problem is when a a fear is so threatening that none of the above works because my body is taken over with chemicals releasing, pulse rate soaring. Here I have no control at all. Nothing works except perhaps by nurturing myself, hand on heart I recover more quickly.
tricks with me
I would be pain free, enjoying life and inspiring others to dance in the pool melting their pains away.
Amazing talk. Hit home. I am enough! Thanks Robin
Is there a transcript version of this series. I tend to retain what I can go over at my leisure
The best version of me
I would have trust that no matter what happens in my life I can be calm and loving.
Unstoppable!
beautifully presented video and so true from a past of dysfunction fear is always kept somewhere in the body and needs releasing from that part thank you so much.
I would be a champion sleeper ! I would be a far more connected and be willing to take greater leadership roles
I have clients who are really afraid of who they could be if they are not afraid. I can think of a particular client who is so afraid of success that she keeps sabotaging herself in ways that you cannot imagine- strong sense that she doesn’t deserve and a lot of limitations she imposed in herself
No doubt there is a lot of inner healing that needs to happen before she can free herself. Thanks for sharing your teachings shows me a path a way to help-“Real but not true” opens the way of a new positive path!
This is great and something to work on, thank you for your insight .
Without fear, I would be the me I am supposed to be.
Id be happier and feel I could do anything. Even when fear / anxiety was there
I found this question an eye-opener when used in a positive way. I unfortunately used it in a negative way until now as I will try to use it as you suggested.
Ein freies wunderbares leuchtendes Wesen…
Thank you Tara. You are amazing… So loving and clear. I have a lot of fears to turn and face. Self doubt and lack of self worth need TLC.
The question who wd I be without fear opens up a space to inquire and hopefully not become self judgmental because I’m not what I could be
Hello Tara. You are amazing. So loving, clear and real. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I’m 69 and have had an eating disorder since I was 15-16. Anorexia and bulimia though I have not been bulimic for 10 years. Hooray! But anorexia loved starving me so that I didn’t become bulimic again. However, that’s how things manifested. I’m afraid to be me and shine my light. I have felt misunderstood. I’m frightened to live, I approval seek and worry about what other people think of me. I’m very blessed to have had interesting experiences and lived in different parts of the world. My 93 Yr old mother is still alive and in care. At present I can still talk to her. I’m so blessed. We love each other very much. (we don’t live close to each other). I often wonder if my family of brothers and sisters really love or if I have let them down. I’m getting help with my eating disorder for which I’m grateful. I wonder if I can truly recover and whether I can discover my underlying fears and why I don’t have the courage to turn and FACE them. And face the fear/reasons of eating disorders. I’m frightened to live and I don’t know what I really want in life…. EXCEPT peace of heart and mind. Is there any hope? What steps, or small steps will help me out of my own jail (which I feel is all my fault and don’t deserve good) . Self doubt as you mentioned is rampant. I guess the techniques you have explained in the three videos of the four would apply. I pray there is hope for me to heal and to be of loving use to humanity. Thank you for listening/reading. Love and blessings from Fran in New Zealand xxxx
I’d be more outward looking, a better Mum, friend, sister, daughter. I’d also be able to achieve more, be happier and more fulfilled.
I’d be a freer, less frightened me without self doubt.
The short video was helpful for me in being able to help clients reframe their thoughts and look beyond what they are afraid of. Thank you for sharing the short videos.
“Who would I be without fear” is a question that disrupts the loop of fear I get caught up in. It connects me with curiosity and self compassion. It is a question which energises me.
Without fear I would be free to create more, teach more and share myself more fully in the world. Free to love my self & life more
Kind with the ability to be able to set boundaries with myself and with others.
I’ve lived with chronic fear for most of my life n shut out that part off myself, devoting my entire energy to work. Until the fear creeped into work n I went into fight or flight mode n exited my job. And then I froze. Faced with the mountain of dealing with my inner demons that were stopping my evolution in life. I can now see where this is coming from (an incident in childhood) but the awareness alone is not sufficient to release the fear from my physiology n autonomous reactions that are driving my existence.
Thanks for your soothing talks, they are an oasis of green in sometimes very arid times
Thanks! I suspected there was an addictive quality to my tendency to become worried often and continue to seek out more news/info that ultimately would add to my ‘distress’. There’s an excitement provided in this self-destructive behavior. Maybe this is my key .. more excitement in my life.
Without fear I think I’d be a full-time coach and mental health facilitator, without combining it with an office job that pays bills but no longer brings me any joy. I’d be able to express the truth of who I am in a more authentic way.
I’d be a leader in my profession, instead of being afraid that I never know enough to be competent.
I would be a private practice therapist.
I’d be a recognized international visual artist
You ask, who would I be…? I would be a greater help to myself and others in overcoming challenges. Fear strikes us all; and is ever present… learning to surpass the thinking and emotions of fear is a constant struggle for me. I succeed, I fail… and the loop continues. I endeavor to spiral up, but with humility, I try to accept when I spiral down. Fear block us; blocks me.