anonymous anonymous, Social Work, Middlesex, VT, USAsays
Who would I be without my fearful heart? I would be a self-confident, self assured woman who is honest and direct in her communication while maintaining a compassionate stance. At 72 years old I still have nagging doubts about my being loveable, capable, and worry about being rejected. “Real but not true” does feel like an effective mantra though I must admit it is so entrenched that it’s hard to imagine ever really being free from self-doubt.
Only aware of experiencing fear after breakdown last year after being threatened and bullied by two senior managers in my disabled daughters service after making a complaint when she had been victimised.
Thank you
Linda
Rochelle Hogge, Counseling, Oklahoma City , OK, USAsays
I would be happy.
Thank you for this short video.
Its powerful.
The proven theory of…
“True, but not real”
Gives the answer.
What your feeling is true, but it’s not real in this moment and time.
As a survivor of childhood trauma, if I didn’t believe there was something seriously wrong with me, I suppose I could begin to believe that I was actually part of the human race as an equal
I would feel free to fly and be my best version of myself. I would take emotional risks and go fearlessly into new situations and relationships and feel free to express my views and opinions without fear of judgment.
This was powerful. I have to rewatch and reflect even more. Who would I be? I would be a stronger, more care-free woman and mother. I would travel easily and take more risks. Instead of always over-thinking, anticipating, and planning for what ifs and how I can manage, I would feel more peace. I would trust myself.
Helen Kilbane, Other, Bainbridge Island , WA, USAsays
After years of chronic illness I became fearful that any outing would result in illness. Finally diagnosed with immune deficiency and need infusion at home weekly to live. Trying to break the cycle of anxiety about getting out and about. Now I’m better protected but still in fear loop over it all.
I would be an addiction counsellor and psychotherapist about 10 years sooner. My chronic anxiety has kept me paralysed. I am working towards both today but it has raised its ugly head again.
Without fear, I think I would be in full time overseas mission work in my younger days. Thankfully now I am a counsellor which in some way a kind of mission work in supporting the emotional health and physical wellbeing of my clients. Thank you Tara for your insights.
Michele Gonzalez, Stress Management, SAN DIEGO, CA, USAsays
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? I would have the confidence that comes from trusting my innate wisdom, and loving heart, no matter what life brings.
So much of what we do (or not), is triggered by fear. This fear creates a feeling of not good enough, separate, defended, helpless, distracted, and avoiding.
Without fear I would be a more compassionate, loving, and fulfilled person.
I am so grateful for this video chat.
I would allow myself to be loved and appreciated, because if I feel I am appreciated I sometimes think I’m not worth it. I think being fearless brings way more humbleness, as well. I would live my beauty, my greatness, my skills without falling into the ego trap. I would stop feeling a big weight on my shoulders and let my body’s energy flow freely and in harmony. I would be able to open myself more towards other people and be more authentic. Real friendship could finally happen.
Dana Bianchi, Dentistry, Indianapolis, IN, USAsays
I would be exploding with life. I’d embrace every experience I could with joy and see. I would care fir others bringing them laughter and happiness. I wold be whole.
I love these short videos. It’s such a great learning and reminding tool. It increases my awareness and is a great way to start my day. Thank you for doing these. I’ve spent years on self-growth, and I’m so much close to living without fear than I used to be. I’m so grateful to be able to say that I am almost who I would be if I didn’t believe there was anything wrong with me.
I would more freely trust in whatever unfolds in life.
Thank you for all the wisdom you offer!
I would be more at peace with myself.
I’m still not clear about the difference between fear and anxiety. I am much more aware of anxiety than I am of fear.
I would become whole and accepting of myself. Integrated as opposed to disintegrated.
I would become more trusting and loving
Who would I be without my fearful heart? I would be a self-confident, self assured woman who is honest and direct in her communication while maintaining a compassionate stance. At 72 years old I still have nagging doubts about my being loveable, capable, and worry about being rejected. “Real but not true” does feel like an effective mantra though I must admit it is so entrenched that it’s hard to imagine ever really being free from self-doubt.
Another individual.
I would be happier.
Tara
Excellent video about fear. Thank you.
Only aware of experiencing fear after breakdown last year after being threatened and bullied by two senior managers in my disabled daughters service after making a complaint when she had been victimised.
Thank you
Linda
I would be calm and at peace, not needing to stay so busy in order to “prove myself” worthy/good/enough.
I would be happy.
Thank you for this short video.
Its powerful.
The proven theory of…
“True, but not real”
Gives the answer.
What your feeling is true, but it’s not real in this moment and time.
More content with my fear of dying.
Without fear, I would feel more that there was time to be able to do everything as it should be – without fear, I would stop panicking.
I would be free,
thank you Tara.
All the best
I would feel : I am enough
Powerful question for all of us.
An excellent question, reminds me of the Miracle Question (Steve de Shazer/Insoo Kim Berg) – thanks a lot!!
I would be strong and self confident; I would be who I know deep inside U an, and must be to be content.
As a survivor of childhood trauma, if I didn’t believe there was something seriously wrong with me, I suppose I could begin to believe that I was actually part of the human race as an equal
I would more of a doer and less of a thinker, I’d be engaged and spiritually free.
This aligns very nicely with the archetypal approach of Jung and Hillman: there is always something possible in us that were have not yet realized.
Real but not true! Wonderful mindfulness tool!
Starting with the least intense . Another great tool
I would joyfully be myself!
I would be the warm . compassionate and community active elder I imagine..
M.A.R.
I would be the real me!
The loving, caring, wise person that I am meant to be!
A happier person
I would feel free to fly and be my best version of myself. I would take emotional risks and go fearlessly into new situations and relationships and feel free to express my views and opinions without fear of judgment.
I would not been so controlling to myself and other people. I would feel free and more generous because I had less doubts in other people.
Free to just be….
This was powerful. I have to rewatch and reflect even more. Who would I be? I would be a stronger, more care-free woman and mother. I would travel easily and take more risks. Instead of always over-thinking, anticipating, and planning for what ifs and how I can manage, I would feel more peace. I would trust myself.
I would be more outgoing, more confident, & less fearful of being rejected. Thanks.
After years of chronic illness I became fearful that any outing would result in illness. Finally diagnosed with immune deficiency and need infusion at home weekly to live. Trying to break the cycle of anxiety about getting out and about. Now I’m better protected but still in fear loop over it all.
I would feel full of love, peace and joy. Every moment would be a wonderful adventure.
I would be an addiction counsellor and psychotherapist about 10 years sooner. My chronic anxiety has kept me paralysed. I am working towards both today but it has raised its ugly head again.
Very nice clear presentation sharing wisdom & experience. Thank you. Community Trust Services
Without fear, I think I would be in full time overseas mission work in my younger days. Thankfully now I am a counsellor which in some way a kind of mission work in supporting the emotional health and physical wellbeing of my clients. Thank you Tara for your insights.
myself
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? I would have the confidence that comes from trusting my innate wisdom, and loving heart, no matter what life brings.
I would take a deep breath and be my loved myself.
I will jump into my next IVF believing that age is not everything when it comes to fertility.
So much of what we do (or not), is triggered by fear. This fear creates a feeling of not good enough, separate, defended, helpless, distracted, and avoiding.
Without fear I would be a more compassionate, loving, and fulfilled person.
I am so grateful for this video chat.
With love & blessings…
I would allow myself to be loved and appreciated, because if I feel I am appreciated I sometimes think I’m not worth it. I think being fearless brings way more humbleness, as well. I would live my beauty, my greatness, my skills without falling into the ego trap. I would stop feeling a big weight on my shoulders and let my body’s energy flow freely and in harmony. I would be able to open myself more towards other people and be more authentic. Real friendship could finally happen.
Thank you so much for this informative video. Without fear, I would be more able to express my thoughts and share my views with others.
A will be free person!
I would be exploding with life. I’d embrace every experience I could with joy and see. I would care fir others bringing them laughter and happiness. I wold be whole.
Tara Brach always has so many amazing insights – a forerunner in the field. Thank you!!
I would say the same because I had the Courage to step into my fear but it will have been much easier without this often false fear in the way
I would be open harted. i would sing and dance more.
I love these short videos. It’s such a great learning and reminding tool. It increases my awareness and is a great way to start my day. Thank you for doing these. I’ve spent years on self-growth, and I’m so much close to living without fear than I used to be. I’m so grateful to be able to say that I am almost who I would be if I didn’t believe there was anything wrong with me.
I would trust my intelligence and start to share my knowledge