Not so cautious or for lack of a better word “superstitious”. For example, there have been times where I would delay or not go to the store or an event thinking something bad was going to happen. I’ve always attributed this to a car accident I had in the winter. I was almost paralyzed after that every time there would be snow or freezing temps forecast. I would actually go way out of my way to work by taking side streets where few cars traveled.
Yes, I’m one of those long time sufferers of fear. Being alone, not good enough, loss of family, feeling like my only friend is grief. I’ve been listening to your talks and meditations daily for about 2.5 months now…I can’t seem to stop crying every time I listen.
Tara, as you ask this question/ who would I be without thinking there is something wrong with me/ First I felt I must know right away and that I already felt like a failure since I did not have a specific answer. In the next second I gave that up and felt a sense of ease and freedom in my heart chakra. And a taste of excitement to feel energy available to do and be whatever/whoever emerges.
With
Deep appreciation to you for all you give.
Thankyou again Tara, I wrote a poem in reaction to a few recent triggers, in answer to ‘Who would I be…’ is in the first part of the poem, living, sharing & flourishing that authentic radiant self confidently & courageously 🐸
Hope no one minds the poem.
Inverse ‘Life Lessons’
Soul, Spirit : Fragmented, Undermined, a journey to destruction,
Sadly, too often for too many it happens this way –
“…..life WITH a sense of Purpose, Trust, Vitality, Direction and Meaning so perversely interwoven with relentless losses;
Including my own motivation and resilience, my proficiency and versatility, my creativity and connectivity, my clarity and identity, my niche.
And then, ability to make good on even minor life decisions – let alone the big ones, became tenuous, thwarted.
Not even Need, Responsibility, Desperation and Fear are a sufficient force to carry and sustain momentum.
No longer is there pause for rest, that separation enabling rejuvenation, detached reflection and appraisal, refreshed perspective.
No longer exists that vital injection of infectious pride and pleasure, that soul filled breath with heartfelt smile and enthusiastic motion.
I am that I am, yet I so much miss me!
I am 62, a life spent striving to get beyond the avalanches, sinkholes, backhanders, betrayals and brick walls. Is it fear or overwhelm or surrender that has in this past decade finally floored me?
Thankyou Wanda Australia
‘Lived Experience’
Gabriela Fimbres, Another Field, Savannah , GA, USAsays
I would be a happier woman who would not answer to anybody else’s expectations, needs, or wishes but herself. I would be a woman who would enjoy life, follow her heart and feel free of making decisions, regardless of the outcome.
I would in a place where I would feel and experience freedom and peace in a way I have never done in my life!
A person with more confidence to see others and life with more love and compassion. Someone with a lighter heart, joyfullness and happy with all that exists around life.
Paulette Glassman, Another Field, NEW YORK, NY, USAsays
I am so used to believing that something is wrong with me that I have no idea who or what I’d be without this belief – which is frightening in itself – but I think I would have at least some hope that in my remaining years I can find at least some happiness, which is a far cry from what I feel now.
I lost my beloved Mom 2 1/2 years ago, and have felt completely lost since then. She was my best friend, my only resmaining family and truly the love of my life and I never had to face being on my own, without support until now, and I am terrified. I fear that I am unlovable and unworthy of any happiness or success or achievement but if I could lose my fear I think I might be able to take a step, one day at a time, to a better more joyful life. I hope that somehow I can learn to face and prevail over my fears. I need to do that in order to survive.
I would be more outward focused instead of self focused all the time. My long time desire has been to tuck myself doubt and fear away enabling me to more genuinely reach out to others in love and compassion.
A joyful person who does not think about sickness or death always. My husband is not well. I used to be free of worry and had fun, not fear, but at the age of 74 it is not easy to be a caregiver and have lightheartedness at the same time.
Patricia Miller, Another Field, Newington , CT, USAsays
I will remember to use this lesson when I find myself insecure about myself. I have always struggled with insecurity and have probably suffered needlessly. Hoping to get back to life again after much tragedy and loss. I also feel a loss of my identity as my life has changed so much. Getting older and the changes it naturally brings is not easy and then covid came into the picture and brought so much isolation.
I would trust in myself much more, be more resilient. I would be much more ‘rationally’/ truly compassionate – with myself as well as others – (rather than my long-standing compulsive need to relieve others’ pains)…and generally Listen & Perceive with a more receptive & centred mind and heart.
As always, thank you – for so generously sharing your wisdom and insights.
I think that it is not possible to be without fear because it allows us to protect ourselves from dangers that may be real, however, learn to go through it and manage it without freezing and being able to go to life, control fear and not that it controls us
Real but not true is such a freeing thought
The sensations are real but not true and I will mediate upon this during my quiet times
Thank you so very much
I would be more willing to trust in the flow of life and better able to let go of feeling responsible for outcomes which are beyond my control with the people I care about. I would be more trusting in others’ abilities to take care of themselves regardless of whether I believe it’s the right approach or the wrong approach—just like me, they’re entitled to their mistakes and learning through pain. With that more relaxed stance, I would free myself up for creative ventures, better sleep and a more curious approach to life and new experiences. I would feel lighter and more free.
I know deep inside me that there is nothing wrong with me but my fear is that I don’t fit into the world view of what I ought to be. I will never be able to please ‘the world’ so invite myself to quit fearing it’s judgement. I invite myself to focus more on pleasing myself first.
A creative artist working and being able to live in abundance .
Be more outward focused than self focused … more genuine in reaching others than keeping to myself. More loving and compassionate.
A happier ME
Not so cautious or for lack of a better word “superstitious”. For example, there have been times where I would delay or not go to the store or an event thinking something bad was going to happen. I’ve always attributed this to a car accident I had in the winter. I was almost paralyzed after that every time there would be snow or freezing temps forecast. I would actually go way out of my way to work by taking side streets where few cars traveled.
Free
Braver and more free to explore and take risks
Yes, I’m one of those long time sufferers of fear. Being alone, not good enough, loss of family, feeling like my only friend is grief. I’ve been listening to your talks and meditations daily for about 2.5 months now…I can’t seem to stop crying every time I listen.
Lost in a fear spiral,
Thank you,
Joanne
Tara, as you ask this question/ who would I be without thinking there is something wrong with me/ First I felt I must know right away and that I already felt like a failure since I did not have a specific answer. In the next second I gave that up and felt a sense of ease and freedom in my heart chakra. And a taste of excitement to feel energy available to do and be whatever/whoever emerges.
With
Deep appreciation to you for all you give.
Thankyou again Tara, I wrote a poem in reaction to a few recent triggers, in answer to ‘Who would I be…’ is in the first part of the poem, living, sharing & flourishing that authentic radiant self confidently & courageously 🐸
Hope no one minds the poem.
Inverse ‘Life Lessons’
Soul, Spirit : Fragmented, Undermined, a journey to destruction,
Sadly, too often for too many it happens this way –
“…..life WITH a sense of Purpose, Trust, Vitality, Direction and Meaning so perversely interwoven with relentless losses;
Including my own motivation and resilience, my proficiency and versatility, my creativity and connectivity, my clarity and identity, my niche.
And then, ability to make good on even minor life decisions – let alone the big ones, became tenuous, thwarted.
Not even Need, Responsibility, Desperation and Fear are a sufficient force to carry and sustain momentum.
No longer is there pause for rest, that separation enabling rejuvenation, detached reflection and appraisal, refreshed perspective.
No longer exists that vital injection of infectious pride and pleasure, that soul filled breath with heartfelt smile and enthusiastic motion.
I am that I am, yet I so much miss me!
I am 62, a life spent striving to get beyond the avalanches, sinkholes, backhanders, betrayals and brick walls. Is it fear or overwhelm or surrender that has in this past decade finally floored me?
Thankyou Wanda Australia
‘Lived Experience’
I would be a happier woman who would not answer to anybody else’s expectations, needs, or wishes but herself. I would be a woman who would enjoy life, follow her heart and feel free of making decisions, regardless of the outcome.
I would in a place where I would feel and experience freedom and peace in a way I have never done in my life!
A person with more confidence to see others and life with more love and compassion. Someone with a lighter heart, joyfullness and happy with all that exists around life.
I am so used to believing that something is wrong with me that I have no idea who or what I’d be without this belief – which is frightening in itself – but I think I would have at least some hope that in my remaining years I can find at least some happiness, which is a far cry from what I feel now.
I lost my beloved Mom 2 1/2 years ago, and have felt completely lost since then. She was my best friend, my only resmaining family and truly the love of my life and I never had to face being on my own, without support until now, and I am terrified. I fear that I am unlovable and unworthy of any happiness or success or achievement but if I could lose my fear I think I might be able to take a step, one day at a time, to a better more joyful life. I hope that somehow I can learn to face and prevail over my fears. I need to do that in order to survive.
I would be a confident & an empowered human in pursuit of all that brings me joy. I would be thriving in my life’s purpose.
More in the moment and, consequently, feeling more joy and fulfillment.
I would be more outward focused instead of self focused all the time. My long time desire has been to tuck myself doubt and fear away enabling me to more genuinely reach out to others in love and compassion.
I would be my joyful, authentic self
A joyful person who does not think about sickness or death always. My husband is not well. I used to be free of worry and had fun, not fear, but at the age of 74 it is not easy to be a caregiver and have lightheartedness at the same time.
I will be happy and at peace with everything around me.
I will remember to use this lesson when I find myself insecure about myself. I have always struggled with insecurity and have probably suffered needlessly. Hoping to get back to life again after much tragedy and loss. I also feel a loss of my identity as my life has changed so much. Getting older and the changes it naturally brings is not easy and then covid came into the picture and brought so much isolation.
I would be less concerned about how others viewed my actions and more concerned about living my truth.
I would be fearless. I would not hesitate to do what I wanted to do without weighing my options and fearing the consequences.
I would be free off the weight i am pulling
I would trust in myself much more, be more resilient. I would be much more ‘rationally’/ truly compassionate – with myself as well as others – (rather than my long-standing compulsive need to relieve others’ pains)…and generally Listen & Perceive with a more receptive & centred mind and heart.
As always, thank you – for so generously sharing your wisdom and insights.
I think that it is not possible to be without fear because it allows us to protect ourselves from dangers that may be real, however, learn to go through it and manage it without freezing and being able to go to life, control fear and not that it controls us
Myself.
More comfortable more adventurous
I’d be authentic and unapologetically bold in pursuing my life’s purpose.
Real but not true is such a freeing thought
The sensations are real but not true and I will mediate upon this during my quiet times
Thank you so very much
I would follow my purpose unreservedly and be more at peace.
Without fear I would be even more loving, kind, and compassionate to self and others.
Free to live as I want( without fear) <3
I would be free and more present than ever. Marine
A full time writer
I would be more spontaneous, living in the moment with deeper focus.
I ll drive more often in the highway…free of that bélier that i can t drive in the traffic
I’d be a kinder and more loving person!
I would be energetic, curious, secure, comunicative and sharp.
I would have the courage of my convictions. I would be more of a risk taker and would not worry about what other people think.
Existence-conscious-bliss
I would be more willing to trust in the flow of life and better able to let go of feeling responsible for outcomes which are beyond my control with the people I care about. I would be more trusting in others’ abilities to take care of themselves regardless of whether I believe it’s the right approach or the wrong approach—just like me, they’re entitled to their mistakes and learning through pain. With that more relaxed stance, I would free myself up for creative ventures, better sleep and a more curious approach to life and new experiences. I would feel lighter and more free.
More present and fully engaged in experiencing the reality in each previous moment.
I know deep inside me that there is nothing wrong with me but my fear is that I don’t fit into the world view of what I ought to be. I will never be able to please ‘the world’ so invite myself to quit fearing it’s judgement. I invite myself to focus more on pleasing myself first.
I would be at peace with myself.
Myself . Truly myself
Fear plays an important role in keeping us safe.
Peaceful and able to help others around me simply by being. I would have a life I could enjoy more instead of surviving.free to be who I really am
Free. Freely living fully.
*Free
*Powerful strong advocate for myself and others
*more authentic
*more peaceful
Were I to be without fear I imagine I could be just about anything I set my mind to.
I would be more optimistic, less fatalistic, and open to trying new things or giving something I gave up on another try.