I would be an outstanding musician, not held back by the belief that because I didn’t have teachers who drilled skills mercilessly I am not a good enough technical player.
Without fear I would be able to come in to my full potential and explore possibilities that I have long believed were unavailable for me or that I am not worthy of. If I could just get out of my own way and fearful thinking I think my life would have limitless possibilities!
Bern Parisi, Another Field, Maple Shade, NJ, USAsays
Without my fears, I’d be free to fully participate in the fullness of the present where I can access new creative thoughts and ways of responding to life.
Janis Hochman, Another Field, Silver Spring, MD, USAsays
Thank you. If I was a person who DID NOT believe there was something wrong with me? I would find fewer people to have something wrong with them! I am hard on me, I am told. But I am hard on the world also – people, situations, things. I would have another degree – or two! I would blow off others ideas that I am difficult. And I am at times. I look forward to the audio recording.
Anonymous: I am dealing with serious health issues and decisions, that relate to life and death. I can see how I can use some of these methods to free myself, some it’s not so clear as to how to use them in my particular situation. I am not sure about the use of the word addiction. That word triggers a lot of things for a lot of people. Looping feels less blaming and a softer and gentler approach.
I would be more creative more assertive more content with not just who I am but who I should have been all these years. Can’t go back and change things in the past but thankfully I can change for the better going forward. Thank you again for offering this free mini series. I got a lot out of it.
BRIAN STEPPACHER, Another Field, South Portland, ME, USAsays
WHO WOULD I BE IF I WAS NOT FILLED WITH FEAR?
Actually, I have gotten to a point where I function well in my life. I am retired and enjoy a life of photography, music, journal writing, “sedentation meditation,” the great out-of doors, as well as the basic domestic chores of survival. These are the happiest years of my life, yes, my golden years. It wasn’t always this way.
Most of my life I have lived with mental illness that has precluded me from working in and/or enjoying social situations. I have been lived with depression, fear, paranoia, anger, anxiety, schizophrenia and mood swings, all of which have made me very self-conscious, afraid of putting myself out there to be a part and unable to function in health. I felt isolated and alienated by others and myself. At the same time I believe others were afraid to approach me because of the mixed signals I gave, like come a little closer…no stay away, or a love / hate relationship. Stigma plays a part also. I have felt self-conscious of the way I look; I am obese. I have been silent and afraid to speak up. Others often spoke for me which I found very irritating and frustrating.
I don’t know what it is that has initiated this transforming energy, but I am realizing a new found courage, confidence, voice, personal presence and self-worth. I dance the dance of life. At least my personal polka. I laugh along and can laugh at myself instead of being laughed at and embarrassed. I am suspended without attachment. I let go. I am free. And another thing… I do it with the people who come into my life and I go into theirs. I am not the BIGGA SHOTT. I am happy to be me and maybe that makes me big enough. There is not the hero watching or social piggy-backing of a forced relationship. I have found that being alone is like being in bad company. I have found that we all are unique; we each have our own story. On the other hand we are human, living in the 21st century and we share alot of the same fears, desires and joys. We are all in the same simmering stew.
I do not believe there will be a time when I will be free of all fear. It is human. It is animal. All I am able to hope for is the ability to enjoy myself, find happiness in life and to gratefully accept where I have come from and the path before me.
Without fear I would be a more confident employee, wife, mother and grandmother. I would navigate the world with ease and flow and feel light and energetic. I would not be afraid to fail, and would release my need for control over situations where I have no control. I would be free.
I would affirm that I am a soul having a human experience and I AM loved and there is nothing to fear. That my natural state is to be peaceful and present and that it’s only my thinking that changes that… always.
I do not want to be without fear because fear is a protective feeling in my life. However I would like to be able to do things despite or with fear. Facing fear saying “No, you do not make me not do the thing I want to do”. I believe that is strength.
I would be a better mother and wife. I would be happy and free to be myself.
In some ways I’m not sure because I’ve felt this way my whole life, as far back as I can remember a sense of myself as a child.
Helen Richfield, Stress Management, San Geronimo, CA, USAsays
Without fear I imagine I would be a calmer, more patient, less reactive, more curious and playful friend, wife, parent, grandparent and practitioner.
Perhaps without fear I would be more of the person I like to be.
A person that didn’t doubt herself
I would feel i had stepped into the sunlight and let go of the prison of my own making.
I would be happy and calm
Freedom
I would feel more free to be true authentic self with others.
I would be an outstanding musician, not held back by the belief that because I didn’t have teachers who drilled skills mercilessly I am not a good enough technical player.
Without fear I would be able to come in to my full potential and explore possibilities that I have long believed were unavailable for me or that I am not worthy of. If I could just get out of my own way and fearful thinking I think my life would have limitless possibilities!
Thank you for sharing these insights. It’s so practical and immediately useful!
More generous and loving and kind – to others and to myself.
I think I would be a happier person, and be able to focus on others more. And help people, including myself.
I would like a free audio of the 3 step program. Thank you.
Thank you Tara. Wonderful, insightful.
Someone living life with peace and joy, and experiencing deeper more connected relationships.
I would connect more deeply with others and be more in the moment!
I would be out more in nature, feeling joy and happiness.
follow my heart and live from freedom
Without my fears, I’d be free to fully participate in the fullness of the present where I can access new creative thoughts and ways of responding to life.
Braver and more engaged.
Easier on myself and everyone around me. Able to relax.
Thank you. If I was a person who DID NOT believe there was something wrong with me? I would find fewer people to have something wrong with them! I am hard on me, I am told. But I am hard on the world also – people, situations, things. I would have another degree – or two! I would blow off others ideas that I am difficult. And I am at times. I look forward to the audio recording.
Without fear I would be my authentic self.
Anonymous: I am dealing with serious health issues and decisions, that relate to life and death. I can see how I can use some of these methods to free myself, some it’s not so clear as to how to use them in my particular situation. I am not sure about the use of the word addiction. That word triggers a lot of things for a lot of people. Looping feels less blaming and a softer and gentler approach.
Interestingly, I would be me and I like me.
I would be more creative more assertive more content with not just who I am but who I should have been all these years. Can’t go back and change things in the past but thankfully I can change for the better going forward. Thank you again for offering this free mini series. I got a lot out of it.
One who would not miss out on joy in life 💕
Without fear, the world would be filled with more possibilities.
A dynamic courageous individual embracing all that is available
Beautifully explained! And wonderful question.
free and at ease.
WHO WOULD I BE IF I WAS NOT FILLED WITH FEAR?
Actually, I have gotten to a point where I function well in my life. I am retired and enjoy a life of photography, music, journal writing, “sedentation meditation,” the great out-of doors, as well as the basic domestic chores of survival. These are the happiest years of my life, yes, my golden years. It wasn’t always this way.
Most of my life I have lived with mental illness that has precluded me from working in and/or enjoying social situations. I have been lived with depression, fear, paranoia, anger, anxiety, schizophrenia and mood swings, all of which have made me very self-conscious, afraid of putting myself out there to be a part and unable to function in health. I felt isolated and alienated by others and myself. At the same time I believe others were afraid to approach me because of the mixed signals I gave, like come a little closer…no stay away, or a love / hate relationship. Stigma plays a part also. I have felt self-conscious of the way I look; I am obese. I have been silent and afraid to speak up. Others often spoke for me which I found very irritating and frustrating.
I don’t know what it is that has initiated this transforming energy, but I am realizing a new found courage, confidence, voice, personal presence and self-worth. I dance the dance of life. At least my personal polka. I laugh along and can laugh at myself instead of being laughed at and embarrassed. I am suspended without attachment. I let go. I am free. And another thing… I do it with the people who come into my life and I go into theirs. I am not the BIGGA SHOTT. I am happy to be me and maybe that makes me big enough. There is not the hero watching or social piggy-backing of a forced relationship. I have found that being alone is like being in bad company. I have found that we all are unique; we each have our own story. On the other hand we are human, living in the 21st century and we share alot of the same fears, desires and joys. We are all in the same simmering stew.
I do not believe there will be a time when I will be free of all fear. It is human. It is animal. All I am able to hope for is the ability to enjoy myself, find happiness in life and to gratefully accept where I have come from and the path before me.
I would be joyful
In the flow of creative life!
I would be someone who loves and gives fully from greatness, instead of managing relationships and self protection
Confident and bold. Authentic and happy.
Without fear I would be a more confident employee, wife, mother and grandmother. I would navigate the world with ease and flow and feel light and energetic. I would not be afraid to fail, and would release my need for control over situations where I have no control. I would be free.
Who would I be without fear? I wud be unlimited and FREE
I would be free.
I would enjoy my life so much more with freedom from anxiety & self doubt- free to relax and truly appreciate living at peace with myself
I’m now waiting for the pitch.
I d be free, sociable, bolder, more successful
I would be free!
I would affirm that I am a soul having a human experience and I AM loved and there is nothing to fear. That my natural state is to be peaceful and present and that it’s only my thinking that changes that… always.
I do not want to be without fear because fear is a protective feeling in my life. However I would like to be able to do things despite or with fear. Facing fear saying “No, you do not make me not do the thing I want to do”. I believe that is strength.
I would be a better mother and wife. I would be happy and free to be myself.
In some ways I’m not sure because I’ve felt this way my whole life, as far back as I can remember a sense of myself as a child.
Without fear I imagine I would be a calmer, more patient, less reactive, more curious and playful friend, wife, parent, grandparent and practitioner.
Perhaps without fear I would be more of the person I like to be.
I’d be lighter and able to connect with others in a generous spirit
I would walk stronger … and more softly.
I allow and trust myself to be myself, as I continue to learn who I would be when I don’t believe something is wrong with me.
I would step into my power and allow my creative thoughts to manifest rather than keeping them hidden and unrealised.
I would be free to be me without judgement, with total acceptance which would ultimately create courage to BE…
I’d feel free and light, and able to fully engage with the adventure and gift of being fully alive!