Thank you for sharing this wisdom and your compassion. I love this exercise, playful and powerful!
I would be the someone who I deeply desire myself to be, fully self expressed, free from my fears and worries, embracing my purpose with unshakable confidence, clarity, ease and delight in mind, body and spirit, creating healing shifts, enjoying juicy & graceful embodiment for myself and joyfully offering these gifts of healing Presence with our world.
Many blessings to you?
Thank you Tara, for the question. Anxiety over years often become so subtle that one is almost not aware that it sits with you and in you. Without fear my wrinkles soften, my heart slows down, I listen and hear, I stand tall and firm. I like myself.
Without fear, I would be able to be completely present to others and attentive to them rather than being constantly refocused towards my own self-doubt.
This really hits home. I have been working self-talk for awhile now and a saying that helped me is, ‘ you don’t have to believe everything you think’ It’s amazing how over time you have to say it less and less. ‘Real but not true’ is one I will add to my toolbelt. Thank you for your work!
That’s a tricky one because my own self-doubt has to some extent inhibited my choices, my ambition & drive. I guess I would be comfortable in my skin and inside my head and unconditionally accepting of myself not needing validation from anyone….
I would be very light as fear and anxiety make me feel very tight, small and heavy, it’s like wearing a heavy spacesuit.
Without fear I would be able to experience the natural joy of being alive-a great gift-more often than now.
Thank you for those powerful tools. I would be free to be. I have always , tried to fully let go but felt at times the weight.
The load will be lighter,so I can feel less restricted and allow myself to be the person I should be.
I’d stop being the world’s best kept secret! With my clients constantly saying “You’ve changed my life, I don’t understand why you aren’t better known.”
Thankyou for those powerful statements. I will find ways to use them with my family..without fear, I would feel lightness , I would be the younger version of my true self.. and a lot more fun!
Asking myself what am I afraid of in the moment when I’m in a fear state and turning and facing it. I fear so much on a regular basis, from failure to not being able to care for myself or my responsibilities, to people, places, things, situations, life, death, unfinished business, suffering of self and others, illness,
I can not at this point get to a place of imagining something’s not wrong with me.
I like the idea of using the “real but not true” my limiting beliefs seem so very real and true. I believe possibly illness, depression, anxiety and fear and more are my addiction, for some reason I feel it serves me or protects me, to keep me safe from loss and the feeling of hope and hope lost.
I dont know. How do you discern fear? Fear of consequences that might happen, fear of protecting other people if you felt a pulling to do what your gut tells you. At the same time you fear of what might happen. I dont know. I would trust myself.
I will be courageously facing the day to day events, accepting them as they are., without running away from them. Irrespective of whether they give negative emotions or not, I have to encounter them with an accepting mind.
Confident in knowing when others tell me I am below expectations, or a problem for them, it’s not true. I would know I am good person, and good at my work, and they have a problem, not me. I would proceed in life confident that I am not the problem. They lack ability to see the good in life, or good in me. I am not horrible. It’s ok to protect myself from their negative comments and refuse to participate anymore.
When I would not beleive something was wrong with me, I would use less energy being vigilant and trying to be in controll. I would be more relaxed and communicative and therefor more open to energizing relations. My body would breath more freely, digest beter, feel less tense and recover easier. (An cfs-patient)
Without fear I would be my most creative and resilient self – my true limitless self that observes the fear is not real and knows i’m enough just as I am.
I would be a better, more confident me, with the ability to pursue the things I’ve been dreaming of for years. I would also be someone who has the ability to help others through difficult times.
Thank your for your sharing the phrase “real but not true”. By acknowledging the reality of my clients’ experience, it may help him to be open to the possibility that it might not be the truth. Also, I would like to try the question “Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?” with some of my clients who are struggling with the fear of failure. Appreciate it.
I would be far more able to cope with the challenges at work. Those threatening emails from my boss saying you must achieve this target or else…. If I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me I would be more likely to rise above what are largely empty threats and perform at a consistently higher level. More importantly I wouldn’t then bring that stress home and it wouldn’t then have an impact on family life.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?
I’d be delighted with life again, and boy would my ex-husband be ticked off about that. I’m afraid to try because I think I’ll be a target for his seemingly endless appetite and energy to engage in smear campaigns and narcissistic manipulations. I used to be so fearless with my heart. I want that again but I’m exhausted.
I got a glimpse there of being able to love deeply and of being able to try things I long to do.
I would be freer. I would be less anxious. I would be more open. I would take more risks. I would be healthier.
Thank you for sharing this wisdom and your compassion. I love this exercise, playful and powerful!
I would be the someone who I deeply desire myself to be, fully self expressed, free from my fears and worries, embracing my purpose with unshakable confidence, clarity, ease and delight in mind, body and spirit, creating healing shifts, enjoying juicy & graceful embodiment for myself and joyfully offering these gifts of healing Presence with our world.
Many blessings to you?
I would be stepping into my day with a joyous heart.
I would be a living my life with more ease and joy. Earning more financially and having the ability to express and experience a loving relationship.
i would be am entrepreneur and publish My wititings.
Thank you Tara, for the question. Anxiety over years often become so subtle that one is almost not aware that it sits with you and in you. Without fear my wrinkles soften, my heart slows down, I listen and hear, I stand tall and firm. I like myself.
Without fear, I would be able to be completely present to others and attentive to them rather than being constantly refocused towards my own self-doubt.
I wouldn’t feel so alone. I’d be able to be myself.
Lots of very helpful ideas and tools
I look forward to adding these tools to my work with clients whose quality of life is crippled by fear-based schema.
Thanks
Thank you most enlightening… completely free.
This really hits home. I have been working self-talk for awhile now and a saying that helped me is, ‘ you don’t have to believe everything you think’ It’s amazing how over time you have to say it less and less. ‘Real but not true’ is one I will add to my toolbelt. Thank you for your work!
I would be a senior Occupation Therapist, a confidant team member and a leader in mentoring new graduates.
Thanks,
Lesley Silberstein
I would breathe easier.
I would be a better professional as I would overcome my own chronic fear.
That’s a tricky one because my own self-doubt has to some extent inhibited my choices, my ambition & drive. I guess I would be comfortable in my skin and inside my head and unconditionally accepting of myself not needing validation from anyone….
A happier, more carefree person! Thank you for your advice.
I would free myself up from conditioned living and some relationships. I would be a free bird:)
I would be very light as fear and anxiety make me feel very tight, small and heavy, it’s like wearing a heavy spacesuit.
Without fear I would be able to experience the natural joy of being alive-a great gift-more often than now.
Someone I would have the courage to like and accept
Thank you for those powerful tools. I would be free to be. I have always , tried to fully let go but felt at times the weight.
The load will be lighter,so I can feel less restricted and allow myself to be the person I should be.
I would be light hearted, free, and have a spring in my step
I’d stop being the world’s best kept secret! With my clients constantly saying “You’ve changed my life, I don’t understand why you aren’t better known.”
Thankyou for those powerful statements. I will find ways to use them with my family..without fear, I would feel lightness , I would be the younger version of my true self.. and a lot more fun!
I would be joyful , creative ,free , self confident , i could be me
CLAUDY
New caledonia psychology
A much more fullfiled person and alive with more passiin.
Really helpful, as a menopausal counsellor suffering with anxiety, this is helpful for myself as well as my clients. Thank you.
I would be a public speaker.
Asking myself what am I afraid of in the moment when I’m in a fear state and turning and facing it. I fear so much on a regular basis, from failure to not being able to care for myself or my responsibilities, to people, places, things, situations, life, death, unfinished business, suffering of self and others, illness,
I can not at this point get to a place of imagining something’s not wrong with me.
I like the idea of using the “real but not true” my limiting beliefs seem so very real and true. I believe possibly illness, depression, anxiety and fear and more are my addiction, for some reason I feel it serves me or protects me, to keep me safe from loss and the feeling of hope and hope lost.
Free to live
I would be incredibly powerful, creative and radiant and that power would empower others.
Thank you Tara, you are truely magnificent. The calmness in your voice is very soothing and the knowledge you share is exactly what I need to hear.
I dont know. How do you discern fear? Fear of consequences that might happen, fear of protecting other people if you felt a pulling to do what your gut tells you. At the same time you fear of what might happen. I dont know. I would trust myself.
I will be courageously facing the day to day events, accepting them as they are., without running away from them. Irrespective of whether they give negative emotions or not, I have to encounter them with an accepting mind.
I would be solidly rooted in the truth of being me. And with that a sense of infinite possibility:)
Confident in knowing when others tell me I am below expectations, or a problem for them, it’s not true. I would know I am good person, and good at my work, and they have a problem, not me. I would proceed in life confident that I am not the problem. They lack ability to see the good in life, or good in me. I am not horrible. It’s ok to protect myself from their negative comments and refuse to participate anymore.
Free to be me, living life, accepting it’s challenges, able to evolve.
When I would not beleive something was wrong with me, I would use less energy being vigilant and trying to be in controll. I would be more relaxed and communicative and therefor more open to energizing relations. My body would breath more freely, digest beter, feel less tense and recover easier. (An cfs-patient)
Without fear I would be my most creative and resilient self – my true limitless self that observes the fear is not real and knows i’m enough just as I am.
I would be a better, more confident me, with the ability to pursue the things I’ve been dreaming of for years. I would also be someone who has the ability to help others through difficult times.
I would always feel like I’m enough and be satisfied with myself.
I would be a world renown healer. I would always feel like I’mim I’m enough.
I would be a world renown healer. I would always feel like enough.
Thank your for your sharing the phrase “real but not true”. By acknowledging the reality of my clients’ experience, it may help him to be open to the possibility that it might not be the truth. Also, I would like to try the question “Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?” with some of my clients who are struggling with the fear of failure. Appreciate it.
Very helpful
Thanks Tara
I would be Me. I would be sincere and authentic, and aligned within.
I would be far more able to cope with the challenges at work. Those threatening emails from my boss saying you must achieve this target or else…. If I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me I would be more likely to rise above what are largely empty threats and perform at a consistently higher level. More importantly I wouldn’t then bring that stress home and it wouldn’t then have an impact on family life.
Real but not true can be honoring a belief respecting the belief but the not true statemtcan be reassuring.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?
I’d be delighted with life again, and boy would my ex-husband be ticked off about that. I’m afraid to try because I think I’ll be a target for his seemingly endless appetite and energy to engage in smear campaigns and narcissistic manipulations. I used to be so fearless with my heart. I want that again but I’m exhausted.