Making myself face the fear, no matter what, has worked the best for me so far. I have a really valid fear of walking and coming upon a bear. I live in a part of the country where this is real. So on one hand, this is a very valid fear but its keeping me from walking outside which is my favorite form of exercise.
When I tune in to my fear, for example while working with EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques and let my judgements go about what needs to be done to fix something, and completely embrace and accept someting I want to change, then there is space to let go old habits, negative and disruptive thoughts, unhealthy behaviour, etc.
Working with clients I also feel that acceptance of who I am, with alle my flaws creates a ventral vagal reaction. When I’m in this state, I’m a save haven for my clients. I feel open en soft. My mind is open en flexible. I can more easily pick up what they need.
For myself, I find that using RAIN helps me to dig into what is behind the fear. Usually it is rooted in something going back to my childhood, which reminds me that my innocent inner child needs to be reassured and loved. When working with clients, i see my work as helping people find their way to the root of the fear, and just as I do, embrace it and themselves with loving kindness.
when I feel fear, I accept that in that moment there is fear. I take in 2 or 3 big breaths. and each out breath I do a quick body scan noticing where my body is supported. for instance if I am standing I bring the focus of my attention to the feel of my feet being supported in my shoes and the ground beneath. if after doing that if fear is still whizzing about me. I will put the palm of my hand onto my heart and connect to the feeling of self compassion resting on each breath in and out. this I find really soothing especially in the wee small hours in the night and I cannot relax and go to sleep.
I’m old. I’m disabled with arthritis. Pain rules my days. I’m afraid of getting older, but also afraid of dying. I’m afraid of getting more disabled, more helpless. I’m afraid the pain will get worse and worse.
My house is warm, surrounded by green. My children are well and strong. Practicing mindfulness, focusing on all that is good in my life, these things help to clear the fear from my head. Sometimes.
Reading the thoughts of Pema Chodron is the morning when I wake up in the morning. I highlight a few key phrases and move them to a sticky note to carry or post on my computer for the day. This little practice provides me enough strength to face the day and stay above the line of my fear thinking
Meg Skipper, Physical Therapy, Eugene , OR, USAsays
Going back to mindfulness practices several times throughout my day. Using my breath to reset in between my patients. Maintaining boundaries with my patients, being aware of my tendency to want to rescue them from all their pain and suffering.
Practicing yoga on a daily basis. With a deep and tender heart, comes such compassion that can make it hard to maintain my own self when I show up for my patients.
Realizing I have nothing to lose. Trying to remember people will still accept me. They are not as judgmental as I’m of myself. For all the poor choices I have made, and hurt I have caused to those I love. I have also brought a lot of joy and happiness to their lives.
My pets help me to face my fears. The responsibility of caring for other living beings push me to face my fears and keep going during really difficult times.
Resonated with the need of connection and intimacy when in fear, the pure and profound need of care and protection. What I find helpful to me and others is giving myself and the emotion a dignified place, seeing how is trying to protect me and with different resources regulate, heal or integrate what is trying to show me deep down.
Breathing into it and observing the fear as I breathe, then, using tools to get into the next moment WITH the fear, instead of expecting it to vanish. Slowly. One step at a time, one moment at a time.
Best to all.
what helps me face fear is to acknowledge to myself what I fear and choose to explore that fear or fears in ways that can soften or let that fear go especially when I am thinking about something in the future , then I can shift my thinking to current real time , affirming to myself to not project and to be in the moment.
What helps me is listening to your talks on facing fear. Over and over again aa long as fear keeps coming up. Daily if necessary – and each time it helps for the fear to subside. Each time I winded if it will help and thankfully, it does help.! Despite my fear that it won’t!!!
Diana Duhaime, Another Field, Bradford, VT, USAsays
In my 40yr practice as Master Integrative Bodyworker and WATSU Practitioner…I find that my own authenticity is vital to curating a container of trust…where I may enter the field of the client’s breath and heart spaces.
Working within the breath rhythms and accessing imbalances provides the openings for all transformations to occur.
Identifying where the tightness is and sending Light “love” energy through the Central Channel is helpful. Remembering self-compassion and that it’s ok to love those parts within that are hiding in fear.
I don’t understand why I don’t show up for myself. I can complete training programs but fall short of implementing them. ? fear of success? fear of not being good enough. I truly feel I was put on this earth to help others. I’m 62 and time is running short. This is a much needed skill and training. This is important and young and old.
Lately I have found that breathing and releasing by abdomen always helps. I found out that my belly is always tight, releasing that tightness and breathing has been helping me a lot
Mariana Huffine, Teacher, Atascadero , CA, USAsays
Fear lifts for me when I meditate on my safe place, a sacred place where I am loved unconditionally…an image from my past. And when I remember that I am a part of the universal flow of energy.
Mindfulness practice of questioning thoughts, (if they are true-in that moment), and noticing where the person feels the fearful thought, physically in their body.
Then breathing into the tension and softening with deep relaxing breaths .
Also helpful is the Whispered Ahhhhhh breath, soft smile☺️
CST.
Restorative Yoga.
Essential oils like lavender.
Being in nature, present time.
For myself, remembering one of the hardest times I’ve experienced, and realizing that I made it through that, and I will make it through what ever comes, with guidance from my higher self.
Joy H, Occupational Therapy, Atascadero, CA, USAsays
For the past 10 years, I subconsciously loved a man who did not have my best interests as a priority when we originally dated. After many years of “no contact”, I recently reached out via phone to tell him that I still loved him but we could never be together or see each other because I did not feel safe with him. He holds narcissistic traits and our connection triggered my past childhood trauma.
At first, I felt confused as to why I desired this communication, but I realize now that I was facing my fear and announcing openly that I honor myself by putting my well-being first regardless of romantic love. My neurological responce was intense and confusing but I went on nature walks, completed self care tasks and spoke my truth with him to the full extent without self-judgement.
In the end, I consciously resumed “no contact” moving forward but not before we both verbally acknowledged the hurt we caused one another and offered forgiveness. I don’t know if I needed this practice but I feel accomplished in my ability to work through a fear that I had been harboring deep inside my soul for so long. I no longer feel as if I cannot trust myself to make the best decision for my health. I know I can because I just did.
Understanding that the worse either won’t be as bad as expected or that I can power through. I do spend some time pondering exactly what it is I fear- poverty, death, pain- what? Sometimes we don’t even know. I do believe there are entities that will help and that is comforting. It’s not the best because it places the resolution of my fears beyond my control, but these days, so much really is beyond our control.
Chrissie Brown, Another Field, Elk Grove, CA, USAsays
Your practices has helped me a lot to face fear, anxiety, anger,,,,,I could go on and on, Meditation on a daily basis has helped me to strengthen and face a lot of things I never could before. I just feel if I keep a daily practice going, exploring the various teachings and practices, that I will be able to ride the waves without the fear of drowning,,,,,,
I think it always starts with a pause, a waiting and I make sure I’m breathing. I can then uncover what’s real, what’s true, and what’s needed. I give myself grace to screw up, be wrong, be different.
I think it’s when I think I’m being brave for someone else. As though I’m pretending to be a brave person.
I also become defensive or aggressive if I feel threatened in relationships, pretend not to need others or believe they don’t really care for me anyway.
Im not really aware of being mindful or able to recognise a time when I am actually present when calling upon inner resources.
Seeing that I have it … noticing its corrosive energy
Understanding it’s real .. validating it .
Being present with it.
And then opening to a bigger picture… not negating the fear… but allowing it to be in a bigger view of life…. and accepting that I shall die someday .
Annella Dalrymple, Psychotherapy, Sebastopol, CA, USAsays
Getting in touch with the older, wiser me. I talk to the scared self with reassurance that I can face whatever it is, as I’ve faced many, many unpleasant and scary things, i.e. being alone and in charge of my own well being or even my survival. Memory of past challenges which I’ve met and conquered.
The urge of completing the purpose……for example when i feel anxious to addrress in front of a gathering, but the moment i recall the urge which i need to present is going to benefit people , i feel fearless and i think my authentic self starts working
Making myself face the fear, no matter what, has worked the best for me so far. I have a really valid fear of walking and coming upon a bear. I live in a part of the country where this is real. So on one hand, this is a very valid fear but its keeping me from walking outside which is my favorite form of exercise.
Connecting with the body.
When I tune in to my fear, for example while working with EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques and let my judgements go about what needs to be done to fix something, and completely embrace and accept someting I want to change, then there is space to let go old habits, negative and disruptive thoughts, unhealthy behaviour, etc.
Working with clients I also feel that acceptance of who I am, with alle my flaws creates a ventral vagal reaction. When I’m in this state, I’m a save haven for my clients. I feel open en soft. My mind is open en flexible. I can more easily pick up what they need.
Reeling myself back into the moment
I believe that when I take time to meditate and go inwards , I can better manage my fears.
For myself, I find that using RAIN helps me to dig into what is behind the fear. Usually it is rooted in something going back to my childhood, which reminds me that my innocent inner child needs to be reassured and loved. When working with clients, i see my work as helping people find their way to the root of the fear, and just as I do, embrace it and themselves with loving kindness.
The RAIN meditation has been very helpful and released my fear and anxiety and false core beliefs every time I practise it.
when I feel fear, I accept that in that moment there is fear. I take in 2 or 3 big breaths. and each out breath I do a quick body scan noticing where my body is supported. for instance if I am standing I bring the focus of my attention to the feel of my feet being supported in my shoes and the ground beneath. if after doing that if fear is still whizzing about me. I will put the palm of my hand onto my heart and connect to the feeling of self compassion resting on each breath in and out. this I find really soothing especially in the wee small hours in the night and I cannot relax and go to sleep.
I’m old. I’m disabled with arthritis. Pain rules my days. I’m afraid of getting older, but also afraid of dying. I’m afraid of getting more disabled, more helpless. I’m afraid the pain will get worse and worse.
My house is warm, surrounded by green. My children are well and strong. Practicing mindfulness, focusing on all that is good in my life, these things help to clear the fear from my head. Sometimes.
Reading the thoughts of Pema Chodron is the morning when I wake up in the morning. I highlight a few key phrases and move them to a sticky note to carry or post on my computer for the day. This little practice provides me enough strength to face the day and stay above the line of my fear thinking
Going back to mindfulness practices several times throughout my day. Using my breath to reset in between my patients. Maintaining boundaries with my patients, being aware of my tendency to want to rescue them from all their pain and suffering.
Practicing yoga on a daily basis. With a deep and tender heart, comes such compassion that can make it hard to maintain my own self when I show up for my patients.
Realizing I have nothing to lose. Trying to remember people will still accept me. They are not as judgmental as I’m of myself. For all the poor choices I have made, and hurt I have caused to those I love. I have also brought a lot of joy and happiness to their lives.
My pets help me to face my fears. The responsibility of caring for other living beings push me to face my fears and keep going during really difficult times.
Nature.. loud ahhhh sound.. relaxing music.
Being in the groups of likeminded people and practicing yoga and meditation.
Thanks for being here 🙏
Resonated with the need of connection and intimacy when in fear, the pure and profound need of care and protection. What I find helpful to me and others is giving myself and the emotion a dignified place, seeing how is trying to protect me and with different resources regulate, heal or integrate what is trying to show me deep down.
That’s beautiful!
I think about my goal that I want to achieve beyond the fear.
Silence , connection with my breath and my body breathing , get grounded through my music and some NATURE around. these all are my anchors
Breathing into it and observing the fear as I breathe, then, using tools to get into the next moment WITH the fear, instead of expecting it to vanish. Slowly. One step at a time, one moment at a time.
Best to all.
what helps me face fear is to acknowledge to myself what I fear and choose to explore that fear or fears in ways that can soften or let that fear go especially when I am thinking about something in the future , then I can shift my thinking to current real time , affirming to myself to not project and to be in the moment.
What helps me is listening to your talks on facing fear. Over and over again aa long as fear keeps coming up. Daily if necessary – and each time it helps for the fear to subside. Each time I winded if it will help and thankfully, it does help.! Despite my fear that it won’t!!!
In my 40yr practice as Master Integrative Bodyworker and WATSU Practitioner…I find that my own authenticity is vital to curating a container of trust…where I may enter the field of the client’s breath and heart spaces.
Working within the breath rhythms and accessing imbalances provides the openings for all transformations to occur.
Identifying where the tightness is and sending Light “love” energy through the Central Channel is helpful. Remembering self-compassion and that it’s ok to love those parts within that are hiding in fear.
I don’t understand why I don’t show up for myself. I can complete training programs but fall short of implementing them. ? fear of success? fear of not being good enough. I truly feel I was put on this earth to help others. I’m 62 and time is running short. This is a much needed skill and training. This is important and young and old.
Incredible skills fear is my underlying motivation .
Lately I have found that breathing and releasing by abdomen always helps. I found out that my belly is always tight, releasing that tightness and breathing has been helping me a lot
thank you so much, very helpful🙏
Fear lifts for me when I meditate on my safe place, a sacred place where I am loved unconditionally…an image from my past. And when I remember that I am a part of the universal flow of energy.
Mindfulness practice of questioning thoughts, (if they are true-in that moment), and noticing where the person feels the fearful thought, physically in their body.
Then breathing into the tension and softening with deep relaxing breaths .
Also helpful is the Whispered Ahhhhhh breath, soft smile☺️
CST.
Restorative Yoga.
Essential oils like lavender.
Being in nature, present time.
For myself, remembering one of the hardest times I’ve experienced, and realizing that I made it through that, and I will make it through what ever comes, with guidance from my higher self.
Full body breath work. Shaking. Tapping. Meditation. Yoga. Nature. Sharing with like minded individuals. Trusting guides and goddesses.
What worse can happen? and even if .. what would happen?
these two helped me to preserve self with daily walk in nature.
For the past 10 years, I subconsciously loved a man who did not have my best interests as a priority when we originally dated. After many years of “no contact”, I recently reached out via phone to tell him that I still loved him but we could never be together or see each other because I did not feel safe with him. He holds narcissistic traits and our connection triggered my past childhood trauma.
At first, I felt confused as to why I desired this communication, but I realize now that I was facing my fear and announcing openly that I honor myself by putting my well-being first regardless of romantic love. My neurological responce was intense and confusing but I went on nature walks, completed self care tasks and spoke my truth with him to the full extent without self-judgement.
In the end, I consciously resumed “no contact” moving forward but not before we both verbally acknowledged the hurt we caused one another and offered forgiveness. I don’t know if I needed this practice but I feel accomplished in my ability to work through a fear that I had been harboring deep inside my soul for so long. I no longer feel as if I cannot trust myself to make the best decision for my health. I know I can because I just did.
Meditation. Prayer. Staying in the present moment.
AA meetings:)
Understanding that the worse either won’t be as bad as expected or that I can power through. I do spend some time pondering exactly what it is I fear- poverty, death, pain- what? Sometimes we don’t even know. I do believe there are entities that will help and that is comforting. It’s not the best because it places the resolution of my fears beyond my control, but these days, so much really is beyond our control.
Choosing courage
RAIN…listening to meditations
Your practices has helped me a lot to face fear, anxiety, anger,,,,,I could go on and on, Meditation on a daily basis has helped me to strengthen and face a lot of things I never could before. I just feel if I keep a daily practice going, exploring the various teachings and practices, that I will be able to ride the waves without the fear of drowning,,,,,,
Breath works
affirming “I believe in myself” helps me to have more peace and grounds me. thanks
I think it always starts with a pause, a waiting and I make sure I’m breathing. I can then uncover what’s real, what’s true, and what’s needed. I give myself grace to screw up, be wrong, be different.
Hummingbird exercise and 4-7-8 breathing
So far it’s mostly breathwork.
I think it’s when I think I’m being brave for someone else. As though I’m pretending to be a brave person.
I also become defensive or aggressive if I feel threatened in relationships, pretend not to need others or believe they don’t really care for me anyway.
Im not really aware of being mindful or able to recognise a time when I am actually present when calling upon inner resources.
commitment to values, connecting to love
Asking if what I’m
Thinking is real or imagined.
Breathing mindfully
Going outside
Tapping meditations
Stop.. Getting aware of it and Inhale deeply and exhale deeply. Cali down and Check the reality- what is really here?
Grounding, remembering ‘This too shall pass’, work on vagal nerve.
Seeing that I have it … noticing its corrosive energy
Understanding it’s real .. validating it .
Being present with it.
And then opening to a bigger picture… not negating the fear… but allowing it to be in a bigger view of life…. and accepting that I shall die someday .
remembering that I value courage
Lately what helps the most in face fear is the hope that everything will get better
Getting in touch with the older, wiser me. I talk to the scared self with reassurance that I can face whatever it is, as I’ve faced many, many unpleasant and scary things, i.e. being alone and in charge of my own well being or even my survival. Memory of past challenges which I’ve met and conquered.
The urge of completing the purpose……for example when i feel anxious to addrress in front of a gathering, but the moment i recall the urge which i need to present is going to benefit people , i feel fearless and i think my authentic self starts working