Thank you for bringing this new thouht to my attention. I am addicted to worry, and anxious about failing.
I will now start to be aware of my worry-thoughts and where in my body I feel the preassure. Then I can and will calmly breath into the place in my body and comfort myself: “I am with you and you are brave and you can trust your process.”
Everything is going to be okei. I will do what I can and I will have the inner support working for me. I can trust what I do.
hello thanks for sharing these ideas with us.. I am in constant worry and fear.. with a son bipolar far from us , encountering all sorts of unlucky situations arrests …etc… i fear the phone ring as much as its silence…I will try your exercises
but i must say that i know i am in a crazy unhealthy cycle … but i am a mother first and then this …in places where the police has no understanding nor training about mental health issues,,,
but thank you i am hoping to get a better hold of myself ..i ‘ll listen to your tape over and over
thank you
claudy
Thank you so much for putting it simply and clearly – it does take work to break the default setting of anxiety that can be so embedded and familiar it is almost un-noticed, but its well worth it!
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?
I would be a lot calmer, more grounded and have more self confidence in my contacts with other people. I would be less afraid to share my thoughts and feelings, no longer ashamed. I would be more ‘me’. Free, and at the same time more connected with the other person.
Thank you Tara, you are always a great inspiration.
Your video is very helpful in dealing with anxiety. What you say is very true. Practicing this helps tremendously in dealing with anxiety. Thank you your small tips reinforced what I am doing. Today internet has made the world flat line. I am from Mumbai India. The more we share the more we benefit.
The day I realized I was addicted to worry was turning point in my life. Here is article which helped me control my anxiety anger and frustration.
I thank the author of: The power of your subconscious mind by Joseph Murphy
Harnessing the power of thoughts
1. Your subconscious controls all the vital processes of your body& knows the answer to all the problems.
2. Prior to sleep turn over a specific request to the subconscious mind & prove its miracle its working power to yourself.
3. Whatever you impress on your subconscious is expressed on the screen of space as conditions experiences, &events. Therefore carefully watch ideas & thoughts entertained in your mind.
4. Your thought is action & the reaction is automatic response of your subconscious mind to your thought. Watch your thoughts!
5. All frustration is due to the unfulfilled desires. If you dwell on the obstacles, delays, &difficulties your subconscious mind will respond accordingly & you are blocking your own good.
6. The life principle will flow through you rhythmically & harmoniously if you consciously affirm: “I believe that the subconscious power which gave me this desire is now fulfilling it through me”. This dissolves all conflicts.
7. You can interfere with normal rhythm of your heart, lungs, & other organs by worry anxiety & fear. Feed your subconscious with thoughts of harmony, health, & peace, & all the functions of your body will become normal again.
8. Keep your conscious mind busy with expectations of the best, & your subconscious will faithfully reproduce your habitual thinking.
9. Imagine a happy ending or solution to your problem, feel the thrill of accomplishment & what you imagine & feel will be accepted by your subconscious mind & bring it to pass.
10 Don’t allow thoughts to take instructions from outside rather take it from inside.
11. Explore what is it that I want? Once this is clear and you are committed to creating it, you generate a continuous process of thoughts without changing direction. When you maintain steady stream of thought without changing direction, it will manifest as reality in life.
The power of your subconscious mind by Joseph Murphy
I’ve been coming out of lifetime chronic anxiety little by little, using meditation to see my thought grooves. I’ve come to realise that it’s an addiction, a habit of mind which is not necessary or helpful. This explanation of looping is so true for me, thank you. It helps to have a clear and simple model.
I am afraid of old age, of harm coming to my child, of regret, of lack of fulfillment – and that I am too sensitive for life as it is, so often cruel to the vulnerable. Which overwhelms me. And that I will not learn to live well and love myself before my life is over. So I worry.
I try to be happy and upbeat. Pretending nothing gets me down though there’s always niggling thoughts playing around in my head.u can be a very negative person always thinking bad things are going to happen
I have to admit that fear has gotten a hold of me as a first reaction. At times I cannot queit the mind a it becomes more and more extreme. I have become so fearful at times that even when driving I have been worried about what could happen while driving on the road, The what if’s can get to be extreme. The only thing that seems to settle me down is when I catch this pattern and tell myself to stop it. That the story I am telling myself is not my realty at this moment and that I am taking the necessary actions to prevent an accident. The same happens when I get a pain in my body or I find my heart racing out of control. I will begin to exaggerate the experience and make it worse. I find that I don’t trust my body. Then I try to start looking for what is true. I take into consideration why this was happening, and then begin to realize that what the worry did will take some time to settle back down. That usually it takes about 20 to 30 mins for this to happen. I noticed that with being mindful and facing the fear that the fear wasn’t so fearful and my body could settle down again,. It still takes the same amount of time but the key is that the fear itself didn’t get magnified into a spiral and I am able to take the courage to explore it rather than escalate the worrisome thoughts. You re very wise in recommending to communicate with the fear rather than trying to ignore or add worrisome thoughts into the mix. I am looking forward to the next talk.
I have suffered with GAD for my whole life.. it has been mild at times and severe at times. I recently started meditation to help balance my thinking.. I really want to get control if the worry, which is everyday. It has given me some very unwanted emotional and physical sensations. I really want to try your technique and find peace ✌?
Since I was a child I have experienced anxiety and it has often paralysed me so that I am unable to talk to people or think ‘straight’! It has led often to periods of depression which are difficult to shift. Medication which I have had at times in the past has not helped me overcome this problem. I stopped taking antidepressants quite a number of years ago concerned about the likelihood of addiction to them. Now for a long time, I have just struggled to carry on during these periods feeling largely as if I am not really living but not knowing what to do to begin to effect a change in how I am feeling. I also have periods when this depression disappears and I am not really sure what causes it to do so but can enjoy life and living again, feeling positive and able to think ‘straight’ and talk without fear and anxiety. I hope very much that the video and it’s suggestions on how to deal with anxiety will help me when I next become depressed.
During ur talk u said to drop below our neck to search for where the anxiety resides. In past experiences, I’ve always been able to locate stored anxiety in my heart, and most frequently, in the stomach area. However, on this occasion, the anxiety/fear was experienced both behind, and in both of my eyes, as a deep unexpressed sadness. As if my eyes need to weep it out… I realize that in my life I hardly ever cry…I figure I associate that with weakness and failure. So, there’s a blockage there…and something that truly needs expression and release. Thank u for enabling me to find this…
I’ve noticed that the lens of chronic worry colors EVERYTHING that is heard and and then every response. In fact, addictive worry interferes with someone knowing one’s own thoughts apart from worry. Worry guides a person’s response and gets in the way of connecting with others based upon what is actually happening in this actual moment. Worry is exhausting.
Thank you. This was particularly helpful. I have struggled with fear loops/anxiety for much of my life and watched my mother and older sister struggle even more. As I age, I see more clearly how this robs the quality of our limited time here. Thanks, again.
Addiction to worry, following a series of family crises, has left me depleted. It has disturbed my sleep, leaving me with low resilience, poor motivation to start the day, and fatigue that has robbed me of the energy to engage in the uplifting social and recreational pursuits that underpin my wellbeing. It has become a downward spiral that has sucked in all the good stuff. Keen now to start on the recommended course of action. Of course, habitual anxiety wants to sabotage this process too, so a dose of old-fashioned commitment is probably called for to kick off.
Anxiety and depression h a ‘ve taken the last three years from my life through big life changes. I look forward to the program.. I am working with a psychiatrist and therapist taking medications I don’t want to be on. I have taken a mindfulness course and am currently taking a course on emotion regulation. These videos. Really are me
I recently became aware of worry as an addiction. I think I remember when it – overthinking- started in a very stressful period of my life and it seemed a useful thing to do then. Now years later I am still doing it and have not faced the issues from years ago. Now seems to be the right time. I am learning so much & seeing what resources there are & that I have. The 3 step exercise is a lovely simple way to be with how you are now.
For me the addiction is to feeling in control. I don’t feel comfortable with vulnerability and uncertainty. Like most addictions, being addicted to worry is a way to distance myself from the reality of life which includes impermanence, old age, sickness and death.
I worry constantly about being liked by my coworkers. This leads to feelings of vulnerability and anxiety when they express no interest in me or when they disagree with me. I feel like a failure at connection to the people I spend most of my waking hours with.
I was deeply hurt by my partner and told I was worthless. This episode triggered many things but most especially the fear that I was worthless. I was so convinced of this that I spent two years in a constant circle conversation in my head, over and over. I destroyed my physical health. I had a hard time finding the energy to do my work with others. I feel as though those two years were swallowed up by a sink hole of worry and fear and selfrecrimination.
I believe my anxiety increases my worrying. It tends to keep me thinking negatively and I end up catastrophizing my thoughts because I am stuck in fear.
Hi, I am having connection difficulties at my end. I can see you and hear you ansd then disconnect happens, consistently. I have come back later to see if things are better, but something is cadywompas in the Universe today. I am wondering if these videos will be available, all 3 for another day? Thank you, Liza
I used to be a worrier, I worried about everything. I was driven by fear of making a mistake and fear of loss. After therapy, I am happy to say I am not longer addicted to worry. I practice gratefulness and mindfulness most days.
Anxiety was a status quo in our family, with both parents’ anxiety permeating our daily life growing up. Therapy has helped a lot, as has helping others who struggle with this.
I spent a lot of time with a therapist who was with me as I worked with my fears which had become crippling. Understanding, internally, that I could actually let go of those fears with great relief saved my life.
I believe I grew up with some experiences that led to,.. created some remembrance ofChild trauma, Not unlike many friends ., people I know … I am prior addict to possibly Alcolhol, muscle relaxers, insomnia, OCD, manic episodes And Bouts off & on w/ depression & anxiety and some A.D.D.
About 3 years ago I sustained a thirdw Concussions _( mild traumatic Brain injury, TBI & have been recovering , Albeit slowly. Tara Beach, who my cousin Laurie Ann introduced me too Has been a great help to me
Thank u TARA!
Yes I worry too much. I actually relaxed as I followed your instructions.I was abused as a child so my tendency is to stay alert to danger.
I agree that there is a negative feedback cycle and habitual tendencies to worry, fear and anxiety but addiction to something is to end the pain whereas this habitual pattern is the pain without end. Addiction is useful to point to the uncontrollable habituation but even junkies get relief of the withdrawal but there is no withdrawal from anxiety
I’m in recovery for substance use disorder. After numbing myself for so long, facing life sober daily leads to an almost continuous state of worry and anxiety.
The snowball effect, the compounding sense of how a sort of permanent PTSD “PPTSD” can set into our neural circuits from the barrage of past traumas or vulnerability sensitivities, negativity biases, and the inner A**hole crushing our spirits…? Yep, interesting to put this in the addiction framework – I just looked up those 12 steps again and could easily put worry in there in place of a substance. And then after admitting my powerlessness to this overworrying and giving it up to the Goddess or Lovingkindness or God etc in the first steps then getting to the last few steps of then seeking through meditation or prayer to improve my conscious contact with lovingkindness, the Great Mother, God etc and helping other worry warts- actually kind of works to see the overanxiety as a way I have used to try to protect myself to stave off the terrible things just as someone might use alcohol to push away their terrible things. Interesting way to get some insight (more consciousness) about my unconscious “overuse” of anxiety to protect myself. And then yes I can focus some real attention and action towards actual threats that I see like climate change, nuclear proliferation, war, homelessness, social injustice, wealth distribution disparity, all discrimination ,sapien economic exploitation, automation causing sapien irrelevance, extinction.. yikes.. ok breathe, breathe..
I am not a worrier. My husband has extreme anxiety, one son has addiction problems, and one daughter struggles with fear and over control. Their challenges are in my space so it is a challenge sometimes to be patient with them.
I grew up with a mother who worried constantly and it has spilled over to me. I’d like to find ways to stop this useless behavior.
Myself. My aunt, and some clients.
Thank you for bringing this new thouht to my attention. I am addicted to worry, and anxious about failing.
I will now start to be aware of my worry-thoughts and where in my body I feel the preassure. Then I can and will calmly breath into the place in my body and comfort myself: “I am with you and you are brave and you can trust your process.”
Everything is going to be okei. I will do what I can and I will have the inner support working for me. I can trust what I do.
hello thanks for sharing these ideas with us.. I am in constant worry and fear.. with a son bipolar far from us , encountering all sorts of unlucky situations arrests …etc… i fear the phone ring as much as its silence…I will try your exercises
but i must say that i know i am in a crazy unhealthy cycle … but i am a mother first and then this …in places where the police has no understanding nor training about mental health issues,,,
but thank you i am hoping to get a better hold of myself ..i ‘ll listen to your tape over and over
thank you
claudy
Really enjoyed the video and look forward to having a different way to open up clients awareness of this process.
Thank you, useful for alternative ways Of explaining the cycle of worry and the corresponding maintenance of anxiety symptoms to clients
I really love your short videos with practical exercises for clients and ourselves as human beings – great mix between theory and practice! 🙂
Thank you so much for putting it simply and clearly – it does take work to break the default setting of anxiety that can be so embedded and familiar it is almost un-noticed, but its well worth it!
Thanks you
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?
I would be a lot calmer, more grounded and have more self confidence in my contacts with other people. I would be less afraid to share my thoughts and feelings, no longer ashamed. I would be more ‘me’. Free, and at the same time more connected with the other person.
Thank you Tara, you are always a great inspiration.
Your video is very helpful in dealing with anxiety. What you say is very true. Practicing this helps tremendously in dealing with anxiety. Thank you your small tips reinforced what I am doing. Today internet has made the world flat line. I am from Mumbai India. The more we share the more we benefit.
The day I realized I was addicted to worry was turning point in my life. Here is article which helped me control my anxiety anger and frustration.
I thank the author of: The power of your subconscious mind by Joseph Murphy
Harnessing the power of thoughts
1. Your subconscious controls all the vital processes of your body& knows the answer to all the problems.
2. Prior to sleep turn over a specific request to the subconscious mind & prove its miracle its working power to yourself.
3. Whatever you impress on your subconscious is expressed on the screen of space as conditions experiences, &events. Therefore carefully watch ideas & thoughts entertained in your mind.
4. Your thought is action & the reaction is automatic response of your subconscious mind to your thought. Watch your thoughts!
5. All frustration is due to the unfulfilled desires. If you dwell on the obstacles, delays, &difficulties your subconscious mind will respond accordingly & you are blocking your own good.
6. The life principle will flow through you rhythmically & harmoniously if you consciously affirm: “I believe that the subconscious power which gave me this desire is now fulfilling it through me”. This dissolves all conflicts.
7. You can interfere with normal rhythm of your heart, lungs, & other organs by worry anxiety & fear. Feed your subconscious with thoughts of harmony, health, & peace, & all the functions of your body will become normal again.
8. Keep your conscious mind busy with expectations of the best, & your subconscious will faithfully reproduce your habitual thinking.
9. Imagine a happy ending or solution to your problem, feel the thrill of accomplishment & what you imagine & feel will be accepted by your subconscious mind & bring it to pass.
10 Don’t allow thoughts to take instructions from outside rather take it from inside.
11. Explore what is it that I want? Once this is clear and you are committed to creating it, you generate a continuous process of thoughts without changing direction. When you maintain steady stream of thought without changing direction, it will manifest as reality in life.
The power of your subconscious mind by Joseph Murphy
Thank you again Tara, you’ve given me courage to move into a more mindful approach to my worry thoughts and be kind and gentle with myself. Xx
I’ve been coming out of lifetime chronic anxiety little by little, using meditation to see my thought grooves. I’ve come to realise that it’s an addiction, a habit of mind which is not necessary or helpful. This explanation of looping is so true for me, thank you. It helps to have a clear and simple model.
I am afraid of old age, of harm coming to my child, of regret, of lack of fulfillment – and that I am too sensitive for life as it is, so often cruel to the vulnerable. Which overwhelms me. And that I will not learn to live well and love myself before my life is over. So I worry.
I try to be happy and upbeat. Pretending nothing gets me down though there’s always niggling thoughts playing around in my head.u can be a very negative person always thinking bad things are going to happen
I have to admit that fear has gotten a hold of me as a first reaction. At times I cannot queit the mind a it becomes more and more extreme. I have become so fearful at times that even when driving I have been worried about what could happen while driving on the road, The what if’s can get to be extreme. The only thing that seems to settle me down is when I catch this pattern and tell myself to stop it. That the story I am telling myself is not my realty at this moment and that I am taking the necessary actions to prevent an accident. The same happens when I get a pain in my body or I find my heart racing out of control. I will begin to exaggerate the experience and make it worse. I find that I don’t trust my body. Then I try to start looking for what is true. I take into consideration why this was happening, and then begin to realize that what the worry did will take some time to settle back down. That usually it takes about 20 to 30 mins for this to happen. I noticed that with being mindful and facing the fear that the fear wasn’t so fearful and my body could settle down again,. It still takes the same amount of time but the key is that the fear itself didn’t get magnified into a spiral and I am able to take the courage to explore it rather than escalate the worrisome thoughts. You re very wise in recommending to communicate with the fear rather than trying to ignore or add worrisome thoughts into the mix. I am looking forward to the next talk.
I have suffered with GAD for my whole life.. it has been mild at times and severe at times. I recently started meditation to help balance my thinking.. I really want to get control if the worry, which is everyday. It has given me some very unwanted emotional and physical sensations. I really want to try your technique and find peace ✌?
Since I was a child I have experienced anxiety and it has often paralysed me so that I am unable to talk to people or think ‘straight’! It has led often to periods of depression which are difficult to shift. Medication which I have had at times in the past has not helped me overcome this problem. I stopped taking antidepressants quite a number of years ago concerned about the likelihood of addiction to them. Now for a long time, I have just struggled to carry on during these periods feeling largely as if I am not really living but not knowing what to do to begin to effect a change in how I am feeling. I also have periods when this depression disappears and I am not really sure what causes it to do so but can enjoy life and living again, feeling positive and able to think ‘straight’ and talk without fear and anxiety. I hope very much that the video and it’s suggestions on how to deal with anxiety will help me when I next become depressed.
Hi Tara,
Love ur work…
During ur talk u said to drop below our neck to search for where the anxiety resides. In past experiences, I’ve always been able to locate stored anxiety in my heart, and most frequently, in the stomach area. However, on this occasion, the anxiety/fear was experienced both behind, and in both of my eyes, as a deep unexpressed sadness. As if my eyes need to weep it out… I realize that in my life I hardly ever cry…I figure I associate that with weakness and failure. So, there’s a blockage there…and something that truly needs expression and release. Thank u for enabling me to find this…
Thank u Tara,
Helena
I’ve noticed that the lens of chronic worry colors EVERYTHING that is heard and and then every response. In fact, addictive worry interferes with someone knowing one’s own thoughts apart from worry. Worry guides a person’s response and gets in the way of connecting with others based upon what is actually happening in this actual moment. Worry is exhausting.
It definitely affects me physically.
Thank you. This was particularly helpful. I have struggled with fear loops/anxiety for much of my life and watched my mother and older sister struggle even more. As I age, I see more clearly how this robs the quality of our limited time here. Thanks, again.
Addiction to worry, following a series of family crises, has left me depleted. It has disturbed my sleep, leaving me with low resilience, poor motivation to start the day, and fatigue that has robbed me of the energy to engage in the uplifting social and recreational pursuits that underpin my wellbeing. It has become a downward spiral that has sucked in all the good stuff. Keen now to start on the recommended course of action. Of course, habitual anxiety wants to sabotage this process too, so a dose of old-fashioned commitment is probably called for to kick off.
Anxiety and depression h a ‘ve taken the last three years from my life through big life changes. I look forward to the program.. I am working with a psychiatrist and therapist taking medications I don’t want to be on. I have taken a mindfulness course and am currently taking a course on emotion regulation. These videos. Really are me
It takes over lives. Prevents personal growth and stalls maturity in thought and action.
I recently became aware of worry as an addiction. I think I remember when it – overthinking- started in a very stressful period of my life and it seemed a useful thing to do then. Now years later I am still doing it and have not faced the issues from years ago. Now seems to be the right time. I am learning so much & seeing what resources there are & that I have. The 3 step exercise is a lovely simple way to be with how you are now.
is there a way I can get a printout of your video?
I am constantly looking for tools that I might become useful to those with whom I am assisting to over come barriers within their lives.
For me the addiction is to feeling in control. I don’t feel comfortable with vulnerability and uncertainty. Like most addictions, being addicted to worry is a way to distance myself from the reality of life which includes impermanence, old age, sickness and death.
I worry constantly about being liked by my coworkers. This leads to feelings of vulnerability and anxiety when they express no interest in me or when they disagree with me. I feel like a failure at connection to the people I spend most of my waking hours with.
I was deeply hurt by my partner and told I was worthless. This episode triggered many things but most especially the fear that I was worthless. I was so convinced of this that I spent two years in a constant circle conversation in my head, over and over. I destroyed my physical health. I had a hard time finding the energy to do my work with others. I feel as though those two years were swallowed up by a sink hole of worry and fear and selfrecrimination.
It’s second nature. I didn’t even know it was pathological till I was 50!
I suffers bipolar disorder and severe mood swings.
I believe my anxiety increases my worrying. It tends to keep me thinking negatively and I end up catastrophizing my thoughts because I am stuck in fear.
I feel anxious often. A bit like hamster on a wheel worry churns through my brain. Mindfulness as I lay ready to sleep eases my mind.
Hi, I am having connection difficulties at my end. I can see you and hear you ansd then disconnect happens, consistently. I have come back later to see if things are better, but something is cadywompas in the Universe today. I am wondering if these videos will be available, all 3 for another day? Thank you, Liza
I used to be a worrier, I worried about everything. I was driven by fear of making a mistake and fear of loss. After therapy, I am happy to say I am not longer addicted to worry. I practice gratefulness and mindfulness most days.
Anxiety was a status quo in our family, with both parents’ anxiety permeating our daily life growing up. Therapy has helped a lot, as has helping others who struggle with this.
Thank you for your sharing these short easy to grasp clips, are there any handouts with this content?
I spent a lot of time with a therapist who was with me as I worked with my fears which had become crippling. Understanding, internally, that I could actually let go of those fears with great relief saved my life.
I’m constantly anxious and fearful about my adult daughter’s wellbeing. I’m a perfect example of this addiction.
I believe I grew up with some experiences that led to,.. created some remembrance ofChild trauma, Not unlike many friends ., people I know … I am prior addict to possibly Alcolhol, muscle relaxers, insomnia, OCD, manic episodes And Bouts off & on w/ depression & anxiety and some A.D.D.
About 3 years ago I sustained a thirdw Concussions _( mild traumatic Brain injury, TBI & have been recovering , Albeit slowly. Tara Beach, who my cousin Laurie Ann introduced me too Has been a great help to me
Thank u TARA!
Yes I worry too much. I actually relaxed as I followed your instructions.I was abused as a child so my tendency is to stay alert to danger.
Great thanks
I agree that there is a negative feedback cycle and habitual tendencies to worry, fear and anxiety but addiction to something is to end the pain whereas this habitual pattern is the pain without end. Addiction is useful to point to the uncontrollable habituation but even junkies get relief of the withdrawal but there is no withdrawal from anxiety
I’m in recovery for substance use disorder. After numbing myself for so long, facing life sober daily leads to an almost continuous state of worry and anxiety.
PTSD
The snowball effect, the compounding sense of how a sort of permanent PTSD “PPTSD” can set into our neural circuits from the barrage of past traumas or vulnerability sensitivities, negativity biases, and the inner A**hole crushing our spirits…? Yep, interesting to put this in the addiction framework – I just looked up those 12 steps again and could easily put worry in there in place of a substance. And then after admitting my powerlessness to this overworrying and giving it up to the Goddess or Lovingkindness or God etc in the first steps then getting to the last few steps of then seeking through meditation or prayer to improve my conscious contact with lovingkindness, the Great Mother, God etc and helping other worry warts- actually kind of works to see the overanxiety as a way I have used to try to protect myself to stave off the terrible things just as someone might use alcohol to push away their terrible things. Interesting way to get some insight (more consciousness) about my unconscious “overuse” of anxiety to protect myself. And then yes I can focus some real attention and action towards actual threats that I see like climate change, nuclear proliferation, war, homelessness, social injustice, wealth distribution disparity, all discrimination ,sapien economic exploitation, automation causing sapien irrelevance, extinction.. yikes.. ok breathe, breathe..
This video keeps freezing.
I am not a worrier. My husband has extreme anxiety, one son has addiction problems, and one daughter struggles with fear and over control. Their challenges are in my space so it is a challenge sometimes to be patient with them.