Honestly, I can’t imagine who I would be without fear. That’s just how much I rely on fear for decision making. Fear is a primary driver of my behavior and moreover the major reason behind my inaction and lack of
Initiative.
If I had a fearless heart, I would be filled with joy and compassion. I would be spending time expressing my creativity. I would know how to maintain healthy boundaries so I can protect my inner child. And I’d be connecting with people whom I love and support and they would be doing the same.
Lisa Branson, Marriage/Family Therapy, Palo alto, CA, USAsays
Real and not true. This is a gentle and concise way of challenging beliefs that I imagine will find a place in my work with patients. Thank you Tara. I’d like to know more about the program.
“Real but not true,” was perplexing at first, but I understand it now. At least, I can adopt a different belief as a result of the recognition that I can define my own truth based on my perception of the facts. Who I would be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me was a real simple, effective, and eye-opening challenge: I would be free; free to assume I am in charge of my life and like I tell my students, I can “fail forward and make mistakes,” and get along on my path of learning and growing; and my wealth in love, friendship, courage, creativity, and resources confirms what you have again helped me to grasp: I am open to change and I define myself! Thanks!
I believe I would be freer from the unknown, the barrier of feeling stuck. More confidence and cleare in moving forward. Thanks Tara, for your loving support. Ellen Crenson
Nicole Ogrin, Physical Therapy, Palatine, IL, USAsays
I would be free and confident. I would not be distracted internally and continue missing out on the beauty of every moment with everyone I love. I could relax instead of white knuckle my way through every single day. I would sleep through the night instead of waking up with fear and anxiety and a racing heart and doubtful mind.
Thanks so much Tara, for such great tools and reflections. When I think “Who would I be if I didn’t thing something was wrong with me” I see myself in full expansion. Then I think some fear is useful and has been useful in allowing me to stop and take care of myself.
Jo Ke, Coach, AU says
Love it 🥰
Patricia Bowman, Nursing, Beaufort, SC, USA says
How do you bring this up with a client?
Jill Kamenetz, Social Work, Columbia, MD, USA says
Real but not true is so powerful. Maybe we all need to pause instead of being reactive.
Paula S, Another Field, PL says
thank you, but i cant watch it, when i start it brings me to page to sign on wishing list. please.help me. thank you!
Margaret Lo, Other, FR says
Honestly, I can’t imagine who I would be without fear. That’s just how much I rely on fear for decision making. Fear is a primary driver of my behavior and moreover the major reason behind my inaction and lack of
Initiative.
Lora, Other, 01944, MA, USA says
If I had a fearless heart, I would be filled with joy and compassion. I would be spending time expressing my creativity. I would know how to maintain healthy boundaries so I can protect my inner child. And I’d be connecting with people whom I love and support and they would be doing the same.
Lisa Branson, Marriage/Family Therapy, Palo alto, CA, USA says
Real and not true. This is a gentle and concise way of challenging beliefs that I imagine will find a place in my work with patients. Thank you Tara. I’d like to know more about the program.
Nicholas Wilde, Teacher, Media, PA, USA says
“Real but not true,” was perplexing at first, but I understand it now. At least, I can adopt a different belief as a result of the recognition that I can define my own truth based on my perception of the facts. Who I would be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me was a real simple, effective, and eye-opening challenge: I would be free; free to assume I am in charge of my life and like I tell my students, I can “fail forward and make mistakes,” and get along on my path of learning and growing; and my wealth in love, friendship, courage, creativity, and resources confirms what you have again helped me to grasp: I am open to change and I define myself! Thanks!
Kay Barlow, Nutrition, GB says
A powerful and exciting question to open up to, thank you
Ellen Cre, Nursing, White Hall, MD, USA says
I believe I would be freer from the unknown, the barrier of feeling stuck. More confidence and cleare in moving forward. Thanks Tara, for your loving support. Ellen Crenson
Brent Seusy, Clergy, Chesapeake, VA, USA says
Tara is an amazing teacher
Fi Morrion, Health Education, AG says
Cannot imagine as do much of me is driven
Hilary Gow, Counseling, GB says
Tara’s presence is so calming and her practice offers hope to hurt parts. Thank you for this.
Debbie Hunter, Teacher, GB says
I’d be more confident in my abilities and able to be my authentic self, without worrying what others might think of me.
Nicole Ogrin, Physical Therapy, Palatine, IL, USA says
I would be free and confident. I would not be distracted internally and continue missing out on the beauty of every moment with everyone I love. I could relax instead of white knuckle my way through every single day. I would sleep through the night instead of waking up with fear and anxiety and a racing heart and doubtful mind.
Cynthia Lombardo, Psychotherapy, MX says
Thanks so much Tara, for such great tools and reflections. When I think “Who would I be if I didn’t thing something was wrong with me” I see myself in full expansion. Then I think some fear is useful and has been useful in allowing me to stop and take care of myself.
Tara Gilmore, Coach, Wilmington, NC, USA says
I would be free to be my list authentic self. I would be free from anxiety of what others thought and free of judgment
Jessie Kirchberg, Counseling, Denver, CO, USA says
I’d be confident. I’d be trusting. I’d be free.
Jaye Zia, Other, CA says
What a powerful method that will help anyone, thank you!
Dennis Allen, Psychotherapy, La fontaine, IN, USA says
I like this question. I intend to use it with a client tomorrow.
I believe that love is the opposite of fear. As such, compassion, and self-compassion in particular, are tools of love.
Shu Wen Su, Psychology, TW says
Thank you for your sharing, it’s very helpful.
susie bor, Another Field, chico, CA, USA says
Without fear I would be much more physically healthy.
Andrew, Other, AU says
Without fear, I am more likely to embrace opportunities with enthusiasm and joy. I would be me, living with childlike wonder.