Excellent question. Who or what would would I be if I thought nothing was wrong with me? I would indeed be free. I would express my creativity and let my light shine into the world. I would have peace and ease in my heart. I would easily love and embrace those around me. I would be grateful for the extraordinary blessings my life offers me.
Thank you Tara,
your warmth and humanity give me hope that in a world where governments rule by fear and competition that there are other people who seek a cooperative and compassionate alternative.
Bless you,
Ian (greetings from a very lost country, England. Where fear seems to have taken an unhealthy grip).
Fear, anxiety- without these I guess I’d be more daring in my actions and with people – make different choices. But I’ve been cautious all my life- I don’t know if I can loosen that
I would be better person – more open to others, less defensive, more relaxed–less tense, more “in-the-moment” instead of always worrying about some future appointment, meeting, problem, etc.
I would have a more expansive heart, I would hold less tightly to the people I love, because I would have less fear about losing them. I would feel more confident that my life would still be good even if I did lose them.
I truly believe there is not one thing wrong with me. Divine only creates perfection. I have not always believed this as learned fear has driven most of my life. It took 68 years to find my Soul and the purity of it.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe that something is wrong with me?
I’ve done much emotional work to unearth that same question. After months, I don’t have a clear answer–it’s more that I sit with the question as it offers a possibility of lightness and freedom. I know the ‘wrong’ me feels a tug of gravity; identity inside the orbit of family roots and legacy. It is heavy, psychically and physically. I manage anxiety with food, creating an outer persona that reflects the inner. I think a malady of spirit has been with my family for generations and has altered DNA. Maybe I’ll stop pondering the question and claim my right to have a life that knows/expresses/creates lightness and freedom; just make a commitment and go for it. Enough ruminating. I’ll start digesting my light and free self as food.
Over the years I was always anxious that somehow I wasn’t good enough or acceptable. This is no longer true (most of the time!) and it changed gradually over the years because God kept pulling me out of my comfort zones and putting me in places to accomplish tasks I had no idea I could do. This is what you were talking about with gradually facing the fears. I will tell you I went through times of gut-wrenching, anxiety, and kept remembering that courage was not about going ahead without fear but going ahead even though. Knowing who God is, and that He loves me, and only wants good for me, gave me a constant companion. I also think when people can realize that God created them, and knit into them talents and skills He wants to use, it reminds them they are of infinite value.
I am a 70-year old Irish woman living in South Africa. I love writing and following a career as a photographer I became a relatively successful journalist and columnist. I have over the years written four books and am currently crafting a screenplay. Fear of failure (which was born of my painful experiences at an Irish Catholic school) ) has sabotaged any efforts I might have made to publish any of my work. But this last creative effort of mine, is exciting, new and colourful. It’s like nothing I have ever done before and it fills me with joy (pun intended!) I feel I am being driven to put this work out into the world and once that happens the rest will follow. In truth there is nothing to fear – what I learned when I was child was not the truth at all. So, finally I wave it goodbye – I am worthy. Thank you Tara for your beautiful insights.
Joanne Sunshower, Another Field, Overland Park, KS, USAsays
OK, but more helpful would be simply investigating with a supportive person–friend, trained peer counselor or therapist to unpack past incidents: What happened–circumstances, other people involved & consequences (e.g. loss, isolation, punishment, etc.)? Take time to feel involving body, emotions, mind, spirit. What would you have wanted to happen? Become your own ally–realize you did what you could at the time, give yourself credit & comfort, as if you were soothing a child or friend. Recognize that you survived, that now is different from then: You are not the same person–you have more experience, successes & supportive people to draw upon, and these are not the same circumstances. Then use your interior resources & your allies to reset your mastery baseline involving body, emotions, mind, spirit.
Heather Herriage, Another Field, Benbrook, TX, USAsays
I have no idea who I would be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me. The mere thought brought tears to my eyes. Definitely something to delve into.
Id be free to live more fully in each moment. Id be lighter, less anxious and depressed. I believe I could be free of medication. I’d be open and have cleared space for the True Self.
I would be free to live fully and without fear that I have something wrong with me. I would be more accepting of myself and others, and thereby more compassionate.
I particularly liked the 2nd video where Tara taught the actual steps to deal with anxiety. She mentioned that she may send a video of the steps. I am particularly interested in the video. I found the steps very helpful
wow, still considering this one! the possibilities are endless. Lighter in my heart, for one. Less worried and closed in. More joyful, as I might notice more what all goes well in my life! and more filled with real, concrete moments of gratitude, realizing how much we all owe to each other in our lives in communities. and sooo much more!!
powerful question indeed about who ll i be if did not believe smth was wrong wiht me
have a client who s facing this issue …did not get the whole practice when last day we met but as mindfulness coach , we went through the voice , recognized the phisicality and offer self compassion
when ask client what she want to say to that voice , the result was that she could stand on that voice fearless ..
that was amazing
her voice tone was clear, determined …the face was more relaxed
We were in nature ’cause i coach in and with nature and that enviroment helped client a lot to be more present and calm
i personally ll be wiser if without fear but at the same time thanks to fear i got some more wisdom too
as said , all emotion comes for a reason
thank a lot Tara for guiding us in exploring more and more
powerful question indeed about who ll i be if did not believe smth was wrong wiht me
have a client who s facing this issue …did not get the whole practice when last day we met but as mindfulness coach , we went through the voice , recognized the phisicality and offer self compassion
when ask client what she want to say to that voice , the result was that she could stand on that voice fearless ..
that was amazing
her voice tone was clear, determined …the face was more relaxed
We were in nature ’cause i coach in and with nature and that enviroment helped client a lot to be more present and calm
i personally ll be wiser if without fear but at the same time thanks to fear i got some more wisdom too
as said , all emotion comes for a reason
thank a lot Tara for guiding us in exploring more and more
Thank you so much for this helpful support.
I forget how to come out of my self doubt and self criticism having suffered from depression and anxiety from trauma in infancy through the present age of 77. It’s necessary to hear words of loving kindness daily to soothe my constant tendency to looping thoughts and fear of sliding down to depression I feel I can never escape, especially the sense of loneliness and isolation
Thanks Tara. Without fear/anxiety, I would be able to face the challenges of aging with a fuller awareness of my capabilities and resources.
Blessings-
from my lived experience, i found myself to be calm in living everyday in this connectedness that is larger than me. though at that time mostly through virtually, it reminded me that all i truly needed, is my breath. Tho the problem i was facing had no clear solution yet, I was in a discovered mental breathing space i have not felt for such a long time. With this, i continue day by day, grounding my daily (mostly) practices to face my fears. i am free to Live my One precious Life, without fear. 🪷🕊
Wonderful teaching Tara! Loved the story of your son’s nightmares until he faced the monster. That story reminded me I haven’t fully identifies or understood my own monster, subtly lurking, and always ready to strike me down. Certainly it was some form of anxiety, but I couldn’t put my finger on it. . . until I read the last ten workbook lessin A Course in Moiracles that gave me a perspective of the three-video process you just covered. My problem wasn’t something outside me, but like the example of the woman who felt unlovable all her life, until she began unraveling the fear-based mind messages (and looping) that kep her in a trance, I felt the same was true for me.
Having attended one a specific teaching and meditatin experience in Bethesda when you had a Tibetan monk tell us of his difficulty crossing a glass bridge between tall buildings and summarizing the experience of it feeling real but not true, that I tucked that away in my tool box to use when fear arose. Yet, it never fully handled the “problem” until I read today that we only have one problem: we believe we are sepatate from the loving force that created us. And further, what keeps ys separate is our habit of subtly attacking what the ego/false self fear – something outside ourselves that we think of as a “grievance.” ACIM (A Course In Miracles), goes on to say that our function is to forgive whatever we think is real that we react to by using a profound tool of “forgiveness” to relieve us from the burden of believing the false self and re-emerging into the Source energy of Love that we already are.
In a progound teaching, the Course not only says our real problem is “separation,” but the the problem is already solved as we are imbued with Love as our true nature. And that love already within us, eternally. I also liked your question “who would you be without the fear (separation) thought” (as Byron Katie teaches) with the answer being some form of what Love holds within it as our identity, such as strength, certakinty, light, peace, and unlimited in our nature as we come to recognize our oneness with the Sourcwe of love already within us.
Excellent question. Who or what would would I be if I thought nothing was wrong with me? I would indeed be free. I would express my creativity and let my light shine into the world. I would have peace and ease in my heart. I would easily love and embrace those around me. I would be grateful for the extraordinary blessings my life offers me.
Thank you Tara,
your warmth and humanity give me hope that in a world where governments rule by fear and competition that there are other people who seek a cooperative and compassionate alternative.
Bless you,
Ian (greetings from a very lost country, England. Where fear seems to have taken an unhealthy grip).
I would be more joyful
I would be more calm and happy.
Fear, anxiety- without these I guess I’d be more daring in my actions and with people – make different choices. But I’ve been cautious all my life- I don’t know if I can loosen that
I would be better person – more open to others, less defensive, more relaxed–less tense, more “in-the-moment” instead of always worrying about some future appointment, meeting, problem, etc.
I would be the fullest expression of my soul…without fear all that I’m here to bring to the world in this lifetime would flow through.
I would have a more expansive heart, I would hold less tightly to the people I love, because I would have less fear about losing them. I would feel more confident that my life would still be good even if I did lose them.
I would be more creative and take more risks, not needing anyone else to love me. Thank you Tara.
I truly believe there is not one thing wrong with me. Divine only creates perfection. I have not always believed this as learned fear has driven most of my life. It took 68 years to find my Soul and the purity of it.
Without fear, I won’t have any self doubts. And I’ll be free to follow my passions, unleash my voice
I appreciate the question of who would I be if I did not believe these things about myself. Thanks.
Hard to imagine but not impossible. Changing habits takes consistent practise
Who would I be if I didn’t believe that something is wrong with me?
I’ve done much emotional work to unearth that same question. After months, I don’t have a clear answer–it’s more that I sit with the question as it offers a possibility of lightness and freedom. I know the ‘wrong’ me feels a tug of gravity; identity inside the orbit of family roots and legacy. It is heavy, psychically and physically. I manage anxiety with food, creating an outer persona that reflects the inner. I think a malady of spirit has been with my family for generations and has altered DNA. Maybe I’ll stop pondering the question and claim my right to have a life that knows/expresses/creates lightness and freedom; just make a commitment and go for it. Enough ruminating. I’ll start digesting my light and free self as food.
I would be forthright, curious, powerful and my own best friend.
Over the years I was always anxious that somehow I wasn’t good enough or acceptable. This is no longer true (most of the time!) and it changed gradually over the years because God kept pulling me out of my comfort zones and putting me in places to accomplish tasks I had no idea I could do. This is what you were talking about with gradually facing the fears. I will tell you I went through times of gut-wrenching, anxiety, and kept remembering that courage was not about going ahead without fear but going ahead even though. Knowing who God is, and that He loves me, and only wants good for me, gave me a constant companion. I also think when people can realize that God created them, and knit into them talents and skills He wants to use, it reminds them they are of infinite value.
I am a 70-year old Irish woman living in South Africa. I love writing and following a career as a photographer I became a relatively successful journalist and columnist. I have over the years written four books and am currently crafting a screenplay. Fear of failure (which was born of my painful experiences at an Irish Catholic school) ) has sabotaged any efforts I might have made to publish any of my work. But this last creative effort of mine, is exciting, new and colourful. It’s like nothing I have ever done before and it fills me with joy (pun intended!) I feel I am being driven to put this work out into the world and once that happens the rest will follow. In truth there is nothing to fear – what I learned when I was child was not the truth at all. So, finally I wave it goodbye – I am worthy. Thank you Tara for your beautiful insights.
who would I be?… a narcissist? 🙂
I would be the leader I started out as before self doubt, worry and anxiety hijacked my journey.
I hope these videos can come up again. or that there are more
OK, but more helpful would be simply investigating with a supportive person–friend, trained peer counselor or therapist to unpack past incidents: What happened–circumstances, other people involved & consequences (e.g. loss, isolation, punishment, etc.)? Take time to feel involving body, emotions, mind, spirit. What would you have wanted to happen? Become your own ally–realize you did what you could at the time, give yourself credit & comfort, as if you were soothing a child or friend. Recognize that you survived, that now is different from then: You are not the same person–you have more experience, successes & supportive people to draw upon, and these are not the same circumstances. Then use your interior resources & your allies to reset your mastery baseline involving body, emotions, mind, spirit.
I would be trusting myself and my capacities and would be daring to trustfully share and connect with others. I would be as worthy as any one else.
Thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing this.
Without fear of being rejected I would be more free.
I have no idea who I would be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me. The mere thought brought tears to my eyes. Definitely something to delve into.
Divorced 🙂
Without fear, I would be more creative and authentic. I would be more effective in my work. I would be more accepting of myself.
Real but not true. Definitely going to use that. Thank you.
Id be free to live more fully in each moment. Id be lighter, less anxious and depressed. I believe I could be free of medication. I’d be open and have cleared space for the True Self.
I would be free to live fully and without fear that I have something wrong with me. I would be more accepting of myself and others, and thereby more compassionate.
I would be more present, joyful, and stable.
And…Who would I be if I didn’t think I wasn’t worthy? That I didn’t think I wasn’t good enough? Excellent questions…
I particularly liked the 2nd video where Tara taught the actual steps to deal with anxiety. She mentioned that she may send a video of the steps. I am particularly interested in the video. I found the steps very helpful
Life changing! Thank you so much
wow, still considering this one! the possibilities are endless. Lighter in my heart, for one. Less worried and closed in. More joyful, as I might notice more what all goes well in my life! and more filled with real, concrete moments of gratitude, realizing how much we all owe to each other in our lives in communities. and sooo much more!!
helpful and adventurous
powerful question indeed about who ll i be if did not believe smth was wrong wiht me
have a client who s facing this issue …did not get the whole practice when last day we met but as mindfulness coach , we went through the voice , recognized the phisicality and offer self compassion
when ask client what she want to say to that voice , the result was that she could stand on that voice fearless ..
that was amazing
her voice tone was clear, determined …the face was more relaxed
We were in nature ’cause i coach in and with nature and that enviroment helped client a lot to be more present and calm
i personally ll be wiser if without fear but at the same time thanks to fear i got some more wisdom too
as said , all emotion comes for a reason
thank a lot Tara for guiding us in exploring more and more
powerful question indeed about who ll i be if did not believe smth was wrong wiht me
have a client who s facing this issue …did not get the whole practice when last day we met but as mindfulness coach , we went through the voice , recognized the phisicality and offer self compassion
when ask client what she want to say to that voice , the result was that she could stand on that voice fearless ..
that was amazing
her voice tone was clear, determined …the face was more relaxed
We were in nature ’cause i coach in and with nature and that enviroment helped client a lot to be more present and calm
i personally ll be wiser if without fear but at the same time thanks to fear i got some more wisdom too
as said , all emotion comes for a reason
thank a lot Tara for guiding us in exploring more and more
Real but not true
Who would I be if I didn¨t beleive that something is wrong with me
Chalenging the false beliefs with a rain approche is very helpful to me.
THANKS AGAIN SO MUCH TARA !
The answer would be; FREE
Good information and you have such a graceful and loving way of communicating.
I would be able to appreciate more spaciousness and quiet joy in this precious moment
I love that question: who would you be …?
Thank you for your wisdom and kindness.
Thank you so much for this helpful support.
I forget how to come out of my self doubt and self criticism having suffered from depression and anxiety from trauma in infancy through the present age of 77. It’s necessary to hear words of loving kindness daily to soothe my constant tendency to looping thoughts and fear of sliding down to depression I feel I can never escape, especially the sense of loneliness and isolation
I would be confident. I would be secure in my decisions. I would be accepting of myself.
Thanks Tara. Without fear/anxiety, I would be able to face the challenges of aging with a fuller awareness of my capabilities and resources.
Blessings-
I am unable to find answer. I am unaware of who i am presently
I would be happy
from my lived experience, i found myself to be calm in living everyday in this connectedness that is larger than me. though at that time mostly through virtually, it reminded me that all i truly needed, is my breath. Tho the problem i was facing had no clear solution yet, I was in a discovered mental breathing space i have not felt for such a long time. With this, i continue day by day, grounding my daily (mostly) practices to face my fears. i am free to Live my One precious Life, without fear. 🪷🕊
Even more joyful and free. Free to be in tune with myself, the world around me, and more able to connect and lift others in a healthier way.
Wonderful teaching Tara! Loved the story of your son’s nightmares until he faced the monster. That story reminded me I haven’t fully identifies or understood my own monster, subtly lurking, and always ready to strike me down. Certainly it was some form of anxiety, but I couldn’t put my finger on it. . . until I read the last ten workbook lessin A Course in Moiracles that gave me a perspective of the three-video process you just covered. My problem wasn’t something outside me, but like the example of the woman who felt unlovable all her life, until she began unraveling the fear-based mind messages (and looping) that kep her in a trance, I felt the same was true for me.
Having attended one a specific teaching and meditatin experience in Bethesda when you had a Tibetan monk tell us of his difficulty crossing a glass bridge between tall buildings and summarizing the experience of it feeling real but not true, that I tucked that away in my tool box to use when fear arose. Yet, it never fully handled the “problem” until I read today that we only have one problem: we believe we are sepatate from the loving force that created us. And further, what keeps ys separate is our habit of subtly attacking what the ego/false self fear – something outside ourselves that we think of as a “grievance.” ACIM (A Course In Miracles), goes on to say that our function is to forgive whatever we think is real that we react to by using a profound tool of “forgiveness” to relieve us from the burden of believing the false self and re-emerging into the Source energy of Love that we already are.
In a progound teaching, the Course not only says our real problem is “separation,” but the the problem is already solved as we are imbued with Love as our true nature. And that love already within us, eternally. I also liked your question “who would you be without the fear (separation) thought” (as Byron Katie teaches) with the answer being some form of what Love holds within it as our identity, such as strength, certakinty, light, peace, and unlimited in our nature as we come to recognize our oneness with the Sourcwe of love already within us.
Peace and Love,
Jim