If I was more confident I would be a Pastor/Counsellor or coach
I have experienced a great deal of fear of failure even though I have much training and I will be contnuing my education and I think this course would be a great help thank you so much for all your instruction and making this available
Elaine
Who I am. I’m wired for resilience. I have sustained losses: a daughter’s suicide, my husband’s death from cancer, and my son’s chronic depression complicated by post-traumatic stress. I wake at night with rational fear related to losing my son. He’s at high risk for suicide if he is unable to complete his degree as an Occupational Therapist with 70 thousand in debt. I face uncertainty as we all do. Lots of energy spent on my family as a mother but no one to care for me when I become less able. I could find a partner but I’m picky. I’m grateful I have a financial cushion and the skillfulness to continue working at my age in pursuit of purpose. I will use Tara’s talk with my patients once I am able to work as a locum tenens again.
Thank you for these very beneficial podcasts. I have always turned to Jon Kabat Zinn’s book, FullCatastrophe Living when I am in fear mode. These three steps that are offered are simple to remember. I agree that fear-based thoughts are habitual and can be diffused.
Lorna Nathan, Another Field, Redmond , WA, USAsays
I would be a positive and happy balanced person.
A person ready to experience life and to reach out and help others and make an impact in others lives.
I wouldn’t have stage 4 cancer. I’m having trouble with these teachings. I’ve already outlived my life expectancy, am deteriorating physically (for example 5 fractured bones in the last 3 years due to cancer in bones). These lessons don’t seem to apply here. My fears are uncontrolled physical pain, not being able to breathe, and leaving my family upon my early death. These are real. I’m an oncology RN professionally. I will look for other content… does Tara have anything about preparing to die?
Tara’s teachings and the Buddhist teaching they are based in have been a refuge for me, especially the teachings on radical self-acceptance and radical self-compassion. I don’t doubt my intrinsic self-worth. Beyond that, I could be less afraid of saying the wrong thing, too much, or too little in conversations around race and justice that implicate me and people whose support I think I need. Without the fear and anxiety, I could be braver and clearer in naming racism when I see it.
I watched this presentation just after a session where a 57yr. old client was needing permission to be set free from old patterns of devaluing himself. This one question will be powerful for him….(and me)!
Thank you Tara,
Always grateful for You!
If I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me, I wouldn’t be a pleaser.
I wouldn’t say “yes, ok” when I want to say “no, I don’t feel like it”.
I would be strong and not have my mind easily changed by others.
I wouldn’t care about what people think and if the might love me less or like me less if I disagree and say so out loud.
I would be able to be more confrontational and my voice would be louder.
I would love myself more.
I’d be enjoying live to the full, live in the moment, taking more risks, trying more new things, be more honest and authentic with people, more loving of friends, family and myself. I’d be less critical of myself and others. I’d laugh, sing and dance and would not worry about what people might think of me. I’d be my true self.
I would be a more courageous mother, and tolerate the risky behaviours of my adult children more easily. I would then be able to look after my great nephew and niece who don’t have any grandmothers. I would stay overnight on my own at friend’s houses in other parts of the country.
I would be too vulnerable without fear. I’ve learned fear is a safeguard. Without fear I would write and be paid for it. Learning to respect fear taught me a
devastating lesson.
I am not educated deeply in fear. I am in recovery of my uncensored fearlessness.
My mother was fearful and instilled that in my brothers. One took that and became a bully, the other died at a young age from a brain bleed after my mother indicated his weight improved and blood pressure improved he could stop the bp meds. I suffered with fear to launch and remained 43 years in a troubled marriage. Married to a doctor with no college degree to validate my low self-esteem, I suffered.
I divorced my husband after 43 years. I told myself I will never live in fear again. I will take risks stepping into my future. It turns out fear is an internal guard/awareness to be conscious of my surroundings and people. I’m seeking peace from mistakes made when ignoring fear. Rather I embraced fear and risk. Currently I have been forced to “turn around” and face my vulnerability in areas of fear, trust, manipulation and loss. This facing has proven fear needs to be balanced and monitored as self protection.
Tara Saia Lewis, Psychology, North Richland Hills, TX, USAsays
This was awesome! I love the statement “real but not true” and the way this information is presented so it is easily digestible and translatable to others.
At 77 we’ll lived years, I have discovered Tara Brach. I didn’t realize how fear and anxiety have prevented me from a full life. I’m working on it! It’s never too late.
This type of 3-centered consciousness practice working with the body and the emotions is most promising. I am reminded of working with some clients, however, who had difficulty actually noticing bodily sensations. It was especially difficult for them to feel, even though they were able to imagine their sensations. This practice may take quite a bit of time depending on how disinhibited they were to drop into their bodies.
Nevertheless, getting behind feelings to false beliefs, which was also difficult for some clients who seemed addicted to certain feelings and tenacious about their beliefs, is powerful for healing. Even merely considering the possibility that their underlying belief might be false could help them break free, regardless of how briefly, and encourage them to continue doing this work. Noticing and acknowledgement of what has changed is extremely important. Many clients returned to practice with me. Some actually did the work at home and made slow progress, learning to and being inspired by noticing and being grateful for the positive changes.
I am grateful for Tara Brach’s presentations and hopeful that more people will be encouraged by her work.
This is so beneficial for my self, and my clients many who are young.
To have a fearless heart.
myself if my anxiety was not there I think I would have achieved more the self doubt often stops me in my tracks.
when we were coming out of the pandemic I made a vow to myself to stop saying no to myself and yes to experiences and also if you don’t try you will never know. by doing these two things I have done so much more for myself, my life, my career, which then helps others.
After many years of being a fearless person tackling the impossible tasks in my life, upon retirement, I’ve discovered that underneath it all, I have lived a driven life—and the driver was fear based…trying to live up my perfectionistic standards. Now I address my addictions—and I’ve many. And worry was one, and fear is another. Catastrophic thinking we call in the 12 step programs..I am addressing all those and more, including learning to be present…letting go of fear.
Patricia Spring, Social Work, AMITYVILLE, NY, USAsays
I would be happy and free from catastrophic thinking…. I would be able to enjoy the life I’ve made without fear that I will have the proverbial rug pulled from beneath me
Margaret Babcock, Other, Walnut Creek, CA, USAsays
I want to be able to include the fear that I feel, rather than avoiding or dismissing it. I know that what you teach is true and that it works. I’ve learned so much from my teacher, Thomas Huebl. And what I need now is real people in my life, not more people on Zoom. Part of what sent me spiralling down the depression path was the loneliness of CoVid. Your talks are helpful reminders of the person I have been, can be, and expect to grow into again. Thank you.
Wonderful ideas working with
Fear, anxiety & trauma!
I would smile and feel lightness. I would not be so defensive.
So helpful, simple to follow and encouraging.
If I was more confident I would be a Pastor/Counsellor or coach
I have experienced a great deal of fear of failure even though I have much training and I will be contnuing my education and I think this course would be a great help thank you so much for all your instruction and making this available
Elaine
Y would be a more peaceful person and more active one and more secure Thanks
Confident.
Without fear, I would be a wise elder who can share the wisdom I have accumulated in my life experiences.
I would be unstoppable.
Who I am. I’m wired for resilience. I have sustained losses: a daughter’s suicide, my husband’s death from cancer, and my son’s chronic depression complicated by post-traumatic stress. I wake at night with rational fear related to losing my son. He’s at high risk for suicide if he is unable to complete his degree as an Occupational Therapist with 70 thousand in debt. I face uncertainty as we all do. Lots of energy spent on my family as a mother but no one to care for me when I become less able. I could find a partner but I’m picky. I’m grateful I have a financial cushion and the skillfulness to continue working at my age in pursuit of purpose. I will use Tara’s talk with my patients once I am able to work as a locum tenens again.
Thank you for these very beneficial podcasts. I have always turned to Jon Kabat Zinn’s book, FullCatastrophe Living when I am in fear mode. These three steps that are offered are simple to remember. I agree that fear-based thoughts are habitual and can be diffused.
Really inspiring😊
Thank you!
I would be a better mother.
I would be a positive and happy balanced person.
A person ready to experience life and to reach out and help others and make an impact in others lives.
I would be confident and more joyous.
I wouldn’t have stage 4 cancer. I’m having trouble with these teachings. I’ve already outlived my life expectancy, am deteriorating physically (for example 5 fractured bones in the last 3 years due to cancer in bones). These lessons don’t seem to apply here. My fears are uncontrolled physical pain, not being able to breathe, and leaving my family upon my early death. These are real. I’m an oncology RN professionally. I will look for other content… does Tara have anything about preparing to die?
My beautiful brave self with charisma and joy dripping off of me in my dream career.
I would be more present for myself and others, feel more joy and have more open hearted awareness and energy
I would take more risks.
Tara’s teachings and the Buddhist teaching they are based in have been a refuge for me, especially the teachings on radical self-acceptance and radical self-compassion. I don’t doubt my intrinsic self-worth. Beyond that, I could be less afraid of saying the wrong thing, too much, or too little in conversations around race and justice that implicate me and people whose support I think I need. Without the fear and anxiety, I could be braver and clearer in naming racism when I see it.
a thriving artist
Thanks
Very helpful tips in these trouble times
Sorry having problems in downloading.
As I said more accepting of the chronic pain and happy in this wonderfull Wonderful World of God’s Creation
I would be a shining heart.
I watched this presentation just after a session where a 57yr. old client was needing permission to be set free from old patterns of devaluing himself. This one question will be powerful for him….(and me)!
Thank you Tara,
Always grateful for You!
If I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me, I wouldn’t be a pleaser.
I wouldn’t say “yes, ok” when I want to say “no, I don’t feel like it”.
I would be strong and not have my mind easily changed by others.
I wouldn’t care about what people think and if the might love me less or like me less if I disagree and say so out loud.
I would be able to be more confrontational and my voice would be louder.
I would love myself more.
I’ll be more accepting of the chronic pain.
And truly able to live in the present – appreciating every aspect of God’s Creation!
I’d be enjoying live to the full, live in the moment, taking more risks, trying more new things, be more honest and authentic with people, more loving of friends, family and myself. I’d be less critical of myself and others. I’d laugh, sing and dance and would not worry about what people might think of me. I’d be my true self.
I would be more consistent in the level of perseverance I can maintain in bringing grace and love into my relationship without being triggered.
I found challenging my believes to be very powerful, it helps me pause and really become aware of my pattern of thinking. Thank you.
I would be a more courageous mother, and tolerate the risky behaviours of my adult children more easily. I would then be able to look after my great nephew and niece who don’t have any grandmothers. I would stay overnight on my own at friend’s houses in other parts of the country.
I would be too vulnerable without fear. I’ve learned fear is a safeguard. Without fear I would write and be paid for it. Learning to respect fear taught me a
devastating lesson.
I am not educated deeply in fear. I am in recovery of my uncensored fearlessness.
My mother was fearful and instilled that in my brothers. One took that and became a bully, the other died at a young age from a brain bleed after my mother indicated his weight improved and blood pressure improved he could stop the bp meds. I suffered with fear to launch and remained 43 years in a troubled marriage. Married to a doctor with no college degree to validate my low self-esteem, I suffered.
I divorced my husband after 43 years. I told myself I will never live in fear again. I will take risks stepping into my future. It turns out fear is an internal guard/awareness to be conscious of my surroundings and people. I’m seeking peace from mistakes made when ignoring fear. Rather I embraced fear and risk. Currently I have been forced to “turn around” and face my vulnerability in areas of fear, trust, manipulation and loss. This facing has proven fear needs to be balanced and monitored as self protection.
thank you
whats coming up for me is I hold back often. not always clear what thats about.
real but not true good question to ask self.
Does anyone have any meditations on coping with fear?
Truly happen to be alive in this wonderful world God has given us.
This was awesome! I love the statement “real but not true” and the way this information is presented so it is easily digestible and translatable to others.
I would be the mother I wish I had and the mom I try to be.
Thank you so much
‘Real but not true’ is a very powerful statement, one that can truly alter how I’m thinking. Thank you.
I would be more authentic and therefore a better wife, mom, and friend. Better at the very things I have so many doubts about.
At 77 we’ll lived years, I have discovered Tara Brach. I didn’t realize how fear and anxiety have prevented me from a full life. I’m working on it! It’s never too late.
This type of 3-centered consciousness practice working with the body and the emotions is most promising. I am reminded of working with some clients, however, who had difficulty actually noticing bodily sensations. It was especially difficult for them to feel, even though they were able to imagine their sensations. This practice may take quite a bit of time depending on how disinhibited they were to drop into their bodies.
Nevertheless, getting behind feelings to false beliefs, which was also difficult for some clients who seemed addicted to certain feelings and tenacious about their beliefs, is powerful for healing. Even merely considering the possibility that their underlying belief might be false could help them break free, regardless of how briefly, and encourage them to continue doing this work. Noticing and acknowledgement of what has changed is extremely important. Many clients returned to practice with me. Some actually did the work at home and made slow progress, learning to and being inspired by noticing and being grateful for the positive changes.
I am grateful for Tara Brach’s presentations and hopeful that more people will be encouraged by her work.
This is so beneficial for my self, and my clients many who are young.
To have a fearless heart.
myself if my anxiety was not there I think I would have achieved more the self doubt often stops me in my tracks.
when we were coming out of the pandemic I made a vow to myself to stop saying no to myself and yes to experiences and also if you don’t try you will never know. by doing these two things I have done so much more for myself, my life, my career, which then helps others.
Would like you to address the fear that is prevalent now…fear of covid, fear of getting sick. Particularly with Senior citizens.
I would be a courageous, happy, and free woman- confident in using my gifts and not held down by anything.
i would be a teacher and a coach
I would be doing the work that I imagine doing, be brave and tell my story
After many years of being a fearless person tackling the impossible tasks in my life, upon retirement, I’ve discovered that underneath it all, I have lived a driven life—and the driver was fear based…trying to live up my perfectionistic standards. Now I address my addictions—and I’ve many. And worry was one, and fear is another. Catastrophic thinking we call in the 12 step programs..I am addressing all those and more, including learning to be present…letting go of fear.
Who would I be without self-doubt? Fear of rejection? Not smart enough, not useful enough, not funny enough, not attractive enough?
I have a lot more time in my day!
…a lot of mental rehearsing would be wiped right out. I would have way more time from more interesting and fun things in my life!
Thank you for these insights. Very interesting, and I’m sure they will be very useful!
Have a good day!
The answer to who would I be came loud and clear: a strong, creative, very intelligent woman who can solve problems without worrying.
I would be happy and free from catastrophic thinking…. I would be able to enjoy the life I’ve made without fear that I will have the proverbial rug pulled from beneath me
I want to be able to include the fear that I feel, rather than avoiding or dismissing it. I know that what you teach is true and that it works. I’ve learned so much from my teacher, Thomas Huebl. And what I need now is real people in my life, not more people on Zoom. Part of what sent me spiralling down the depression path was the loneliness of CoVid. Your talks are helpful reminders of the person I have been, can be, and expect to grow into again. Thank you.