Gayle Christian, Another Field, Atlanta, GA, USAsays
If I were without this fear, I would be more relaxed and more joyfully live my life. Imagine not having that knot in my belly so often! And perhaps letting go of clutter (Thanks to someone else’s comment here on clutter, which I had not connected to this issue!). And
Thank you Tara!
Monica Garfield, Marriage/Family Therapy, Los Angeles, CA, USAsays
Thank you for these videos! I personally resonate with much of what you spoke about and am looking forward to learning more about how this can also support my clients.
My fear of becoming, was loosing my (only visual) connection with Other (mom). I couldn’t afford to risk the loss of this fragile thread, less I fragment into a million pieces flying through space. The fear was real but wasn’t based on the truth as I know it now. The truth takes the power out of the terror enough to now observe it objectively. The fear came from a human construct of my parents that I now know was a false reality.
I would be free to enjoy who I am – my opinions, my thoughts my feelings, without second guessing myself and getting stuck in self criticism instead of moving forward with confidence and joy.
That feels like a tough question. On one hand, I really can’t picture who I would be without fear. However, just imagining that this might be possible provoked a strong somatic response – tears of relief, deep breaths, a sense of ease throughout my body. That alone feels like a shift.
Haha, my fear tried to sneak in its own answer that without fear and self doubt I’d be a rich and famous narcissistic megalomaniac Machiavellian Marquis de Sade. A pompous insatiable monster. All this confirming that my fear thinks it’s a protector.
Now my turn: without fear and self doubt I’d wake up early and excited to create and share wonderful and transformative art, services, products, and events that would empower others including myself to live happier, more uninhibited, grounded, and expressive lives and relationships. I would be my essential soul self and I would serve and inspire the same in others.
The tools that neuroplasticity bring to the table are wonderful. It was great to see how you use them for anxiety and self doubt. I can definitely use your 3 steps with my clients. Thank you for the insight and direction.
I was very insecure & painfully shy when I was young, through to my twenties, & still live with a lot of anxiety & fear. I feel this is partly why I have not achieved as much as I could have though I have enjoyed work & a lot of study. I would like to have more confidence mixing with others & to be able to move out of some stuck situations. I am far more self aware now I am older so can understand the advice in these videos,
thankyou to all involved
I would be like I used to be. Outgoing, meet up with friends, travel . I wouldn’t worry about things. I would be less anxious and not have panic attacks. I would be able to enjoy my retirement. Now that I have written all this. I realize how much anxiety is impacting my life.
Thank you for helping me have more insight into this problem. I use rain to help me with anxiety.
Marilyn
Leanne Preble, Another Field, Seattle, WA, USAsays
Real but not true.. I am curious to work with this… Who would I be without fear? More adventurous, fluid, creative, easeful. Thank you for offering these talks.
A lifelong journey stalked by my own chronic anxiety and fears has led me here. I do not want to pass this on to my son. Not do I want to allow it to affect my relationship with him.
Who would I be without fear: I think I would reach out more to be available to help others, thoughts of ‘my input will probably be rejected surface too often’ yet as a chaplain I know often I am effective in my work.
I’m sure I will a better person, better partner, better friend. All the limits my head put in my life, have complicated my personal goals throughout the years.
Greetings and thank you for your kind and wise words!
Being a 65 old woman, I hope that living without fear will continue to help me live this chapter in my life with purpose, courage and love for myself and others!
I would be a woman able to acknowledge the wealth of knowledge, experience & compassion I have acquired & shared with others who was able to let go of the fear that keeps me stuck in a less than ideal situation & find the courage & energy to change what I can, accept what I cannot & wise enough to recognise the difference. There is much to let go of. To trust I will be ok.
The fear of getting diagnosed with Alzheimer’s is real, but I try to embrace my current ok health condition. There are absolutely changes going on, but while watching myself I enjoy the nature with birds and horizon at the ocean. And I love my daily meditations. Thanks for the ones I have been introduced to on my Mindfulness app. I realised I have a lot of different traumas going on in my life. My way of coping was to keep busy and not dealing with the very strong emotions in my body. Results: insomnia and headaches/migraines- even restless legs. I have experienced my body attacking itself. Now I want to learn to be gentle and loving towards myself. So here you go.
Thank you for your wonderful insights. I love the practical exampled that you have given that stick in the memory and enable me to recall the fundamentals of challenging those unnecessary fears.
I would be my authentic self, able to be present and connect with my environment and the people around me without the haze and distance created by fear.
If I were without this fear, I would be more relaxed and more joyfully live my life. Imagine not having that knot in my belly so often! And perhaps letting go of clutter (Thanks to someone else’s comment here on clutter, which I had not connected to this issue!). And
Thank you Tara!
Thank you for these videos! I personally resonate with much of what you spoke about and am looking forward to learning more about how this can also support my clients.
I would be more free, lighter, and have more energy for loving relationships, loving work, and love for myself.
I would be free to love everyone and myself.
I would hope that I would be able to have and keep an uncluttered house… and feel more free to live a normal life.
Thank you for these beautiful videos. Who would I be indeed? I so appreciate your generous gifts.
My fear of becoming, was loosing my (only visual) connection with Other (mom). I couldn’t afford to risk the loss of this fragile thread, less I fragment into a million pieces flying through space. The fear was real but wasn’t based on the truth as I know it now. The truth takes the power out of the terror enough to now observe it objectively. The fear came from a human construct of my parents that I now know was a false reality.
A better mom and friend.
Id be a lot more fun to be around!
I would be more successful, will charge what I deserve for my services and be able to help more trusting myself. Thanks
More confident less afraid of moving into new experiences.
I would be a lover of life and adventure!
I would be an artist.
I would be able to be more peaceful and have deeper connection to others
This is very helpful. I usually say “Your beliefs are real but not true’
Sounds like a great preogram
I would be a wise and ever kinder woman, a loving person, a great artist
I would be all the things I haven’t even allowed myself to imagine yet…
I would be happier, lighter, more joyful and living more profoundly.
a great friend, lover, creative artist and therapist!
I would be a confident joyful person.
I would be free to enjoy who I am – my opinions, my thoughts my feelings, without second guessing myself and getting stuck in self criticism instead of moving forward with confidence and joy.
Powerful and challenging question posed! I can see it will take some creative thought and process to find the answer.
I’d be fully alive and engaged.
That feels like a tough question. On one hand, I really can’t picture who I would be without fear. However, just imagining that this might be possible provoked a strong somatic response – tears of relief, deep breaths, a sense of ease throughout my body. That alone feels like a shift.
Haha, my fear tried to sneak in its own answer that without fear and self doubt I’d be a rich and famous narcissistic megalomaniac Machiavellian Marquis de Sade. A pompous insatiable monster. All this confirming that my fear thinks it’s a protector.
Now my turn: without fear and self doubt I’d wake up early and excited to create and share wonderful and transformative art, services, products, and events that would empower others including myself to live happier, more uninhibited, grounded, and expressive lives and relationships. I would be my essential soul self and I would serve and inspire the same in others.
GreatScottBa @ gmail . com
The tools that neuroplasticity bring to the table are wonderful. It was great to see how you use them for anxiety and self doubt. I can definitely use your 3 steps with my clients. Thank you for the insight and direction.
The person I have been striving to be for many years ❤️
I would be filled with self love, self acceptance and self compassion for the true Self that is waiting for my homecoming.
Without fear I would be a woman that had a more positive attitude, and less self-doubt.
I was very insecure & painfully shy when I was young, through to my twenties, & still live with a lot of anxiety & fear. I feel this is partly why I have not achieved as much as I could have though I have enjoyed work & a lot of study. I would like to have more confidence mixing with others & to be able to move out of some stuck situations. I am far more self aware now I am older so can understand the advice in these videos,
thankyou to all involved
The person I really know I am 💚
I would be like I used to be. Outgoing, meet up with friends, travel . I wouldn’t worry about things. I would be less anxious and not have panic attacks. I would be able to enjoy my retirement. Now that I have written all this. I realize how much anxiety is impacting my life.
Thank you for helping me have more insight into this problem. I use rain to help me with anxiety.
Marilyn
Without fear I would open the door to pure joy…I would have the unhindered strength to live life to the fullest
A happier, healthier, more joy filled person. Stepping forward to do those things that fear has held me back from.
Real but not true.. I am curious to work with this… Who would I be without fear? More adventurous, fluid, creative, easeful. Thank you for offering these talks.
A lifelong journey stalked by my own chronic anxiety and fears has led me here. I do not want to pass this on to my son. Not do I want to allow it to affect my relationship with him.
Who would I be without fear: I think I would reach out more to be available to help others, thoughts of ‘my input will probably be rejected surface too often’ yet as a chaplain I know often I am effective in my work.
I’m sure I will a better person, better partner, better friend. All the limits my head put in my life, have complicated my personal goals throughout the years.
Greetings and thank you for your kind and wise words!
Being a 65 old woman, I hope that living without fear will continue to help me live this chapter in my life with purpose, courage and love for myself and others!
Love, Joanne
I would be a woman able to acknowledge the wealth of knowledge, experience & compassion I have acquired & shared with others who was able to let go of the fear that keeps me stuck in a less than ideal situation & find the courage & energy to change what I can, accept what I cannot & wise enough to recognise the difference. There is much to let go of. To trust I will be ok.
Transformative wisdom , resources to practice compassionate curiosity and courage with .
With gratitude ,
Sallie
i’d be more pliable, dancing more with people ratyer than defending. \o/
The fear of getting diagnosed with Alzheimer’s is real, but I try to embrace my current ok health condition. There are absolutely changes going on, but while watching myself I enjoy the nature with birds and horizon at the ocean. And I love my daily meditations. Thanks for the ones I have been introduced to on my Mindfulness app. I realised I have a lot of different traumas going on in my life. My way of coping was to keep busy and not dealing with the very strong emotions in my body. Results: insomnia and headaches/migraines- even restless legs. I have experienced my body attacking itself. Now I want to learn to be gentle and loving towards myself. So here you go.
Fear stops progress, action, growth.
It becomes a resistance, slowly a cage. So difficult to break
Thank you for your wonderful insights. I love the practical exampled that you have given that stick in the memory and enable me to recall the fundamentals of challenging those unnecessary fears.
I would be my authentic self, able to be present and connect with my environment and the people around me without the haze and distance created by fear.
I cannot even imagine who I would be without fear, it has been with me all my life I think. Would love to know who I could become though
Susan
Thank you!
Tremendously incisive question. Thank you, Tara.
I would find joy in engaging with the world and believe in a future of possibilities.