I always feared that I was not loved as a child, and in fact my parents’ behavior solidified my fear. I didn’t have friends and always felt that no one cared. I was ignored and made fun of. My marriage was a failure. I was bullied and mentally and physically abused. I left. Finally, I started a new relationship with a kind person. I am so scared that it would not last. All I want is not to be fearful and to relax within myself.
When I think about that question, an immediate feeling of freedom, of unrestraint comes over me, of being able to fully express myself and say and do things that comec from the real me. Hard to explain!
I would have an open heart and be much better at giving and receiving love on A deeper more vulnerable and conscious level,not only to others but also to myself. I’m working on it and I thank you for all you have to share
Thank you so much Tara!
for your helpful reminder „it’s real but not true“ and the freedom to be my true self.
It’s one of my favourite calls to step out of a still returning Trance home into Being.
Ethel
I would be closer to my true nature – peeling back the layers of misconception I’ve constructed around myself – and hoping I recognize it when I notice it
I am fortunate to not have fear of failure. I am a 71 year old rheumatologist who loves his patients and his job. I work full time and while in private practice, I also make time to teach at our local medical school. I have learned a lot from you and others as I have practiced meditation daily for 5 years. Thanks for what you do!! Larry Broadwell.
This has been invaluable advice for myself and also for my work with clients. Is is so astonishing that our immer monsters become smaller and pityful when we are prepared to face them. Thank you, Tara
A lighthouse. Loving life. Living in the moment to the fullest. Shining the light to guide others with compassion without judgment. Oh how lovely would that life be!!!! I want it. Xoxo.
Who would I be without fear/anxiety?
I would bw free to be more spontaneous and loving. I would be free from fear of betrayal and abandonment. I would be free to bring more of myself to my relationships., especially those closest to me.
I’d be much more relaxed in my body and mind; probably, I’d be more open to others. That would create a nice approach to live my life … thank you for your thoughtful words and advice. TB
Tara,
I would be more like you. You are a full person combing love of life, sharing your intelligence and bettering other peoples’ lives. With the softness of incredible understanding , and knowing you may not always have the perfect solution for someone,
you go forward with your belief system which has made incredible positive changes in peoples’ lives.
I would be my more authentic self willing to take greater risks. This also makes me mindful of the students I work with who have learning differences and how their fear prevents them from growth. We work daily to help them face their fears and realize what can be. Thank you.
Without fear, without believing something was wrong with me, I suspect I would be comfortable in my own skin, would gain confidence, and be at greater peace.
You are an inspiration, Tara. I would be more fully present in my life.
I have been using the three step process regularly and am finding it effective and easy to use. With mediation and support from friends I am becoming more aware of my fear and anxiety. Thank you for your input.
Excellent question. I would be more myself and less my environment, less influenced and shaped by the stresses and toxic behaviours of others, and better able to separate myself from what no longer serves me.
I have been challenging this mind set and pushing myself to try new things and develop more self-compassion. This resulted in developing a niched private psychotherapy practice as well as being able to support women in a residential rehab centre.
I would be able to live more fully, such as enjoying travel. I would be able to cope better with the fears we all face, such illness and aging.
So I guess I’m saying that I would stay in the present and enjoy life
I would be able to do what I wish to do without fear or panic. I’d be able to respond orally without fearing I would be wrong. I’d be able to return love given to me without feeling inadequate to him. I’d be able to be happy, laugh and act silly without fear of being harshly judged by others. I could join those who enjoy speaking in public.
I always feared that I was not loved as a child, and in fact my parents’ behavior solidified my fear. I didn’t have friends and always felt that no one cared. I was ignored and made fun of. My marriage was a failure. I was bullied and mentally and physically abused. I left. Finally, I started a new relationship with a kind person. I am so scared that it would not last. All I want is not to be fearful and to relax within myself.
Coco de Freitas, Silver Spring, MD.
Thank you so much
When I think about that question, an immediate feeling of freedom, of unrestraint comes over me, of being able to fully express myself and say and do things that comec from the real me. Hard to explain!
I would be more joyous and have a lighter heart. I would be free from the constant worry of “but what if…”
Thank you, Tara, for these teachings.
I would be my true self. I would be more energetic, lighter, free, brave and kind ❤️
I would have an open heart and be much better at giving and receiving love on A deeper more vulnerable and conscious level,not only to others but also to myself. I’m working on it and I thank you for all you have to share
Thank you so much Tara!
for your helpful reminder „it’s real but not true“ and the freedom to be my true self.
It’s one of my favourite calls to step out of a still returning Trance home into Being.
Ethel
A much lighter in-spirit person who was not afraid to say and be who she was meant to be.
It would be wonderful to feel content without as much fear and more free from the tightness in my body, I just have not been able to achieve that yet.
I would be closer to my true nature – peeling back the layers of misconception I’ve constructed around myself – and hoping I recognize it when I notice it
I would be creative, I would live with purpose, expressing my talents in doing things that contribute to the world and other people…
I am fortunate to not have fear of failure. I am a 71 year old rheumatologist who loves his patients and his job. I work full time and while in private practice, I also make time to teach at our local medical school. I have learned a lot from you and others as I have practiced meditation daily for 5 years. Thanks for what you do!! Larry Broadwell.
I would be a compassion warrior without the self doubt and concern for what others thought of me.
This one really hit home to me.
This has been invaluable advice for myself and also for my work with clients. Is is so astonishing that our immer monsters become smaller and pityful when we are prepared to face them. Thank you, Tara
I would view myself & the world through a different lens.
It’s hard to imagine what that would be like. It’s been part of my conditioning for so long.
A lighthouse. Loving life. Living in the moment to the fullest. Shining the light to guide others with compassion without judgment. Oh how lovely would that life be!!!! I want it. Xoxo.
If fear wouldn’t be there, i would be 100% myself, a unique, creative, loving, empathetic person. If fear wouldn’t be there, i would be free!
Who would I be without fear/anxiety?
I would bw free to be more spontaneous and loving. I would be free from fear of betrayal and abandonment. I would be free to bring more of myself to my relationships., especially those closest to me.
I would be confident and free without fear . Thank you Tara <3
Without fear I would move through my days light and bubbly!
I’d be much more relaxed in my body and mind; probably, I’d be more open to others. That would create a nice approach to live my life … thank you for your thoughtful words and advice. TB
Tara,
I would be more like you. You are a full person combing love of life, sharing your intelligence and bettering other peoples’ lives. With the softness of incredible understanding , and knowing you may not always have the perfect solution for someone,
you go forward with your belief system which has made incredible positive changes in peoples’ lives.
Interesting question to answer in the days ahead! Thank you
I would be my more authentic self willing to take greater risks. This also makes me mindful of the students I work with who have learning differences and how their fear prevents them from growth. We work daily to help them face their fears and realize what can be. Thank you.
I imagine I would be a more energetic, open-minded, empathetic person. Less concerned about what others think about my behavior.
I would be just myself.
Tara helps me a lot throughout the daily struggle of life. I love to hear her and practice her advice.
Thank you so much for this gift of your wisdom ans insight…
A friend to more neighbors, acquaintances, strangers and loved ones.
A free spirited soul again.
Happy and loved. Able to feel joy and freedom. A good public speaker. A best selling author.
I would be creating opportunities for myself instead of hiding in shame.
a gypsy dancing woman
Without fear, without believing something was wrong with me, I suspect I would be comfortable in my own skin, would gain confidence, and be at greater peace.
I would be courageous, confident that I had the wisdom and discernment to make a change in my life…
You are an inspiration, Tara. I would be more fully present in my life.
I have been using the three step process regularly and am finding it effective and easy to use. With mediation and support from friends I am becoming more aware of my fear and anxiety. Thank you for your input.
I would be able to trust and love fully in the present moment.
Excellent question. I would be more myself and less my environment, less influenced and shaped by the stresses and toxic behaviours of others, and better able to separate myself from what no longer serves me.
Thank you. It’s given me food for thought in my journey to find my more authentic self.
Love this question! I would be relaxed, at ease in being with others, and sharing in open, authentic ways.
I have been challenging this mind set and pushing myself to try new things and develop more self-compassion. This resulted in developing a niched private psychotherapy practice as well as being able to support women in a residential rehab centre.
I would be more attuned to others and less judgemental. Deeper self acceptance would allow me to accept others as they are with greater compassion
Peaceful
I would be free and open to even greater challenges.
I would move through life with ease, take more risks, and be more adventurous!
I would be able to live more fully, such as enjoying travel. I would be able to cope better with the fears we all face, such illness and aging.
So I guess I’m saying that I would stay in the present and enjoy life
Without fear, I would be able to make better life decisions
It took many years to move beyond the mountains of self-doubt, but well worth the climb. I am thrilled to be supporting others on their own journeys.
I would be able to do what I wish to do without fear or panic. I’d be able to respond orally without fearing I would be wrong. I’d be able to return love given to me without feeling inadequate to him. I’d be able to be happy, laugh and act silly without fear of being harshly judged by others. I could join those who enjoy speaking in public.