I would follow my dreams and put myself out there more and I wouldn’t let myself be held back so much by my doubts. It’s not that I’m not doing anything, but I know that I could do more, in the sense that I could be truer to myself and really bring forward what is in my heart instead of playing it safe and bringing forward the parts that I think people will like (as an artist).
If I did not believe something was wrong with me I would spend less time focusing on all of the things I did wrong and stop feeling so horrible about my failings.
Very much appreciated the insights and practical suggestions for disrupting our fear and anxiety based relationship with ourselves, others, and indeed our lives. I would be endlessly available to each moment and each experience. I would be more powerful than I can imagine. I would be excited for whatever each day brought me. I would know that I am ‘enough’.
A more relaxed, confident, trusting being. Believing in myself, my abilities and resilience. Feeling safe and healthily empowered to live and enjoy my life to the full. Open to possibility.
“Real but not true”! I have known for years now that I cannot believe all my thoughts, but this one statement is truly liberating. After all, the thoughts ARE real and sometimes fearful, but whether or not the content is true is the real question. Thanks for that!
Hi Tara – this was really impactful- my intention this year is to live from my heart space and I love adding to this a fearless heart space – it is a long way coming. I’ve had miraculous experiences in the last three months already. Thank you for sharing I will work on the things you have shared.
I would be a confident and happy person, being at my best bringing out the best in me in the service of my deepest values and actualising my potential to lead a timeless mind and healthy body.
Thank you for these teachings. These mini lessons have helped me face my fears in a way I never have before. They helped dissipate my fears. I feel free and more relaxed.. I will keep practicing these mini teachings.
Diana Duhaime, Another Field, Bradford, VT, USAsays
I HAVE, indeed, offered this concept ~ this permission ~ to my clients…along with the added offering that ” the answers are not for me”.
That last pause is an extraordinary tool for shining a light on and opening new paths to freedom
Someone who does not dread going to work. Someone who looks forward to my day. I think I would make decisions more easily in the direction of what I want and not so much based on taking whatever shows up
Last year I walked away from a development opportunity because I was overwhelmed both by self doubt/fear of judgement but also it coincided with my Mum’s stage 4 diagnosis and caring for her while she was dying. A wonderful new opportunity has come up and I really wish I could apply without fear. Without it I would have appropriate confidence in my knowledge, skills and abilities and I wouldn’t be permanently on the look out for threats and be defensive. I don’t want to take these habits into this next decade of my life. I want to live not hide.
I’d be so content and sure of myself (something I have NEVER been in all my life. I’d have the courage to take the steps I’ve never been able to take. It is so hard to imagine the freedom that would bring— free to love myself, failures and all. Freedom to stop looking toward others for my sense of worth. Freedom to just be ME.
Laura Smith, Another Field, Purcellville, VA, USAsays
This is a profound teaching that laser focuses on the root of fear and really …insecurity. Harboring thoughts that are real but not true causes stress and anxiety. It also interferes with intimacy in our closest relationships. Thank you for sharing this wisdom. Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? Not sure — always have felt that my life is a work in progress…
ROBERT THOMPSON, Psychotherapy, Round Rock, TX, USAsays
I am currently preparing to take the National MFT test. I have been stuck in my own fears about not passing the test. This piece was for me, exceptionally relevant. When we look beneath the surface emotion of what we are feeling and discover the under-girding of beliefs we have long held, we open up the possibility of challenging those beliefs and in doing so, the fears that come with them.
Fear of failure is a big one for me. Working through lots of childhood criticism from caregivers that still affect me as an adult. Love the “real but not true.”
This is wonderful!
I have a sign in my office which says “Don’t believe everything you think”. This phrase really resonates with clients struggling with fear and anxiety. I have jotted down your phrases, as well. Appreciate your videos. Thank you!
I remember the first time I heard Tara say “you don’t have to believe your thoughts”. Such a foreign concept but so freeing, so comforting. And so true.
I probably would feel more free to choose activities as a retired person. I am very focused on supporting others, on giving of my resources. And on succeeding. A few weeks ago I started going to a yoga class. And I feel SO happy about giving this to myself. A job I do as avolunteer at a nursing home takes a lot of preparation, because I want it to be perfect. I am reading aloud to people with dementia. Next week I will focus on being very present and turn away thoughts about having picked the perfect story and poems!
I would be free to pursue anything I wanted to do without stress and worry. My body and mind would both be at peace.
This helped me so much. Thank you.
I am not sure. Just realized I have lived in fear all my life and didn’t know it and the toll the lifetime of stress has had on my body and mind.
Without fear, I would feel safe, and then happy.
how long does it typically take someone to feel relief from chronic fear?
I will be my own person, show my true self, happy, polite, free, and have many friends
I would follow my dreams and put myself out there more and I wouldn’t let myself be held back so much by my doubts. It’s not that I’m not doing anything, but I know that I could do more, in the sense that I could be truer to myself and really bring forward what is in my heart instead of playing it safe and bringing forward the parts that I think people will like (as an artist).
Giving me more courage to face my fear and feelings
If I did not believe something was wrong with me I would spend less time focusing on all of the things I did wrong and stop feeling so horrible about my failings.
Tara I thank you for your work and your books
I have done this program before and it truly opens doors to shift a lifetime of fear
Blessings
I would be a therapeutic artist with family and friends surrounding me. No fear of being an elder with wise leadership skills, energy and direction
I would be calm, confident, caring, and open.
I would stay here, now, and fully enjoy this day.
Great presentation. Thank you Tara. The initial thought in respomse to the question being, “I would be more confident”.
Happy and relieved!
Very much appreciated the insights and practical suggestions for disrupting our fear and anxiety based relationship with ourselves, others, and indeed our lives. I would be endlessly available to each moment and each experience. I would be more powerful than I can imagine. I would be excited for whatever each day brought me. I would know that I am ‘enough’.
I will be maybe confident, invincible, maybe arrogant
A more relaxed, confident, trusting being. Believing in myself, my abilities and resilience. Feeling safe and healthily empowered to live and enjoy my life to the full. Open to possibility.
“Real but not true”! I have known for years now that I cannot believe all my thoughts, but this one statement is truly liberating. After all, the thoughts ARE real and sometimes fearful, but whether or not the content is true is the real question. Thanks for that!
I would be open, trusting, confident and moving through my fears as they arise.
Hi Tara – this was really impactful- my intention this year is to live from my heart space and I love adding to this a fearless heart space – it is a long way coming. I’ve had miraculous experiences in the last three months already. Thank you for sharing I will work on the things you have shared.
More at ease in my mind. More able to recognize real danger.
I would be able to express more of my unlimited potential of self.
I would be a confident and happy person, being at my best bringing out the best in me in the service of my deepest values and actualising my potential to lead a timeless mind and healthy body.
My awesome wonderful self!
Love that: real but not true
Thank you for these teachings. These mini lessons have helped me face my fears in a way I never have before. They helped dissipate my fears. I feel free and more relaxed.. I will keep practicing these mini teachings.
Thank you! Much here to embrace…
I love the statement “Real but not true”. It’s compassionate and a great challenge to make that cognitive shift.
I’d live from my inner authority in relationships, in work and in following my soul’s deepest longing.
I would relax and trust that each moment was enough.
I HAVE, indeed, offered this concept ~ this permission ~ to my clients…along with the added offering that ” the answers are not for me”.
That last pause is an extraordinary tool for shining a light on and opening new paths to freedom
I grew up without having Feelings. Tara Brasch has been very helpful. I’m learning to meditate. Retired Geologist, USGS.
Someone who does not dread going to work. Someone who looks forward to my day. I think I would make decisions more easily in the direction of what I want and not so much based on taking whatever shows up
This is powerful. I’d be healthier and happier in life which has a ripple effect.
Last year I walked away from a development opportunity because I was overwhelmed both by self doubt/fear of judgement but also it coincided with my Mum’s stage 4 diagnosis and caring for her while she was dying. A wonderful new opportunity has come up and I really wish I could apply without fear. Without it I would have appropriate confidence in my knowledge, skills and abilities and I wouldn’t be permanently on the look out for threats and be defensive. I don’t want to take these habits into this next decade of my life. I want to live not hide.
I grew up without having Feelings. Tara Brasch has been very helpful. I’m learning to meditate.
This is explained in such a concise way. Thank you.
Who would I be? Someone m, who feels there is always opportunities.
I’d be so content and sure of myself (something I have NEVER been in all my life. I’d have the courage to take the steps I’ve never been able to take. It is so hard to imagine the freedom that would bring— free to love myself, failures and all. Freedom to stop looking toward others for my sense of worth. Freedom to just be ME.
I would be so much more. Fear has stopped me my entire life do to generalized anxiety and adhd and trauma.
I would be able to enjoy life more.
This is a profound teaching that laser focuses on the root of fear and really …insecurity. Harboring thoughts that are real but not true causes stress and anxiety. It also interferes with intimacy in our closest relationships. Thank you for sharing this wisdom. Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? Not sure — always have felt that my life is a work in progress…
I am currently preparing to take the National MFT test. I have been stuck in my own fears about not passing the test. This piece was for me, exceptionally relevant. When we look beneath the surface emotion of what we are feeling and discover the under-girding of beliefs we have long held, we open up the possibility of challenging those beliefs and in doing so, the fears that come with them.
Fear of failure is a big one for me. Working through lots of childhood criticism from caregivers that still affect me as an adult. Love the “real but not true.”
I cannot even imagine.
I would feel empowered to speak up and risk rejection
I’d feel happy and relaxed!
This is wonderful!
I have a sign in my office which says “Don’t believe everything you think”. This phrase really resonates with clients struggling with fear and anxiety. I have jotted down your phrases, as well. Appreciate your videos. Thank you!
I remember the first time I heard Tara say “you don’t have to believe your thoughts”. Such a foreign concept but so freeing, so comforting. And so true.
I would be brave enough to try new things; like that better paying job
I probably would feel more free to choose activities as a retired person. I am very focused on supporting others, on giving of my resources. And on succeeding. A few weeks ago I started going to a yoga class. And I feel SO happy about giving this to myself. A job I do as avolunteer at a nursing home takes a lot of preparation, because I want it to be perfect. I am reading aloud to people with dementia. Next week I will focus on being very present and turn away thoughts about having picked the perfect story and poems!