many thanks for a very easy way to understand our conscience controling us.
self reflection with wise cognitive message can go a long way.
However,my question is ,how can you work on trusting others,however much confidence you have in yourself,when in reality everyone,except your parents will have their own agenda while loving you.
Unconditional love is only for babies,if the parents are mature enough to provide it
I really appreciate your experience and wisdom.
Sonja Towner, Counseling, Cottage Grove, OR, USAsays
Without fear, i can be the light for my clients in a way most therapists cannot do. Without fear, I can guide from the soul. Without fear, I have been able to reach self actualization. Without fear, I have become who I was destined to be.
Consciousness is a wonderful place to be. It’s the ego that keeps humanity from achieving their desires and dreams.
Unconditional love is for everyone, and even parents have their own agenda.
Tara, Love this. I have several clients in mind that would benefit from the who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? as well as the real, but not true. Thank you.
More playful with a re-engaged sense of humor. I’d rest, pause, and recalibrate more efficiently. I’d be much more trusting, believing everything will quite likely be OK. I’d be a more curious traveler with friends and family.
Patricia Griffin, Social Work, Philadelphia , PA, USAsays
Without fear I’d probably be an amoeba.
You make many good points about fear. But your presentation is about Fear of the Approach. But when you tie fear to outcome you are only partially correct. Yes I will have better outcomes if I have confidence in myself. I will maximize my position and likelihood of success whatever that be and I will do that in a kinder more helpful way toward others even if I must cause them discomfort. But sometimes fear of failure has to do with the outcomes which are not know and or cannot be controlled or influenced. And which may be very bad. And that kid and of fear is hard to deal with. Those losses can only be dealt with aforehand by realizing that relinquishing all may be needed. And I have to learn to let the outcome fear play itself out. Whatever the outcome including annihilation or total loss of everything. I must know in my heart that I have done my best. I am worthy. I am kind. I am strong. So be it.
I will be free to release the emotional attachments that no longer serve me, thus connecting more authentically and deeper with my true self. I will be able to let go of my stories that have a death grip on my emotions. I will be able to connect with the path my soul is waiting ever patiently for me to embrace. I will be me, and I will be home.
I would be free. Free to be myself. Free to live in the moment. My awareness would expand and I would be at peace. Energy and creativity would flow from this state of being. It would be a much happier place from which to live life.
Explosive thought! Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, or that I am not enough? Wow! I would be bigger & better able to be a positive part of the world! I would have more to offer, I would be more compassionate towards others, and I would have much less focus on me, me, me. I would expand into my bigger self! What a gift to me & everything around me! I will daily practice this through my meditations. Heartfelt thanks Tara for offering this to me at this time. When the student is ready the teacher will come. 🙏
“Who would I be if I didn’t believe there was something was wrong with me?
My guess is that I would feel lighter and freer and more open in joy in life. But in all honesty, I don’t know who I would be or how I would feel. I can’t even imagine it right now. I will need to sit and meditate on the question (probably numerous times) to see what comes up.
I would be the innocent, open, curious child/Soul I was when I was born, imperfect, limited and still carrying the traits I inherited from my ancestors but I would be unworried, outgoing. Like another participant said, I would be happy and free, trusting and safe.
Much appreciated!
My anxiety stems from being fostered out until 7 to 4 families.
I worked a lot on this including 5 years of weekly counselling.
Tara, your videos really helped me over the last 7 years.
I find your voice soothing.
The music however is unsettling
and I find it hard to listen and relax with it.
I would be calm, content, living in the moment. I would be me, without the anxiety, free to do or not do anything, without the restraints of fear of doing something wrong.
I find the biochemistry of fear very interesting. I am finding different ways to challenge clients to challenge the false belief they have. The loop of fear can be debilitating I used to be in that space.
many thanks for a very easy way to understand our conscience controling us.
self reflection with wise cognitive message can go a long way.
However,my question is ,how can you work on trusting others,however much confidence you have in yourself,when in reality everyone,except your parents will have their own agenda while loving you.
Unconditional love is only for babies,if the parents are mature enough to provide it
I really appreciate your experience and wisdom.
Without fear, i can be the light for my clients in a way most therapists cannot do. Without fear, I can guide from the soul. Without fear, I have been able to reach self actualization. Without fear, I have become who I was destined to be.
Consciousness is a wonderful place to be. It’s the ego that keeps humanity from achieving their desires and dreams.
Unconditional love is for everyone, and even parents have their own agenda.
Thank you! Great summaries of complex issues.
I have always been an overthinker and it causes anxiety
I would be a calmer sea.
Tara, Love this. I have several clients in mind that would benefit from the who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? as well as the real, but not true. Thank you.
More loving, freer in spirit, calm and peaceful
I would feel lighter, at ease with myself, and be truly present with others.
I love the question” Who would you be if you didn’t believe something was wrong with you?”
“Real but not true.” What a liberating statement. Thank you, Tara.
More playful with a re-engaged sense of humor. I’d rest, pause, and recalibrate more efficiently. I’d be much more trusting, believing everything will quite likely be OK. I’d be a more curious traveler with friends and family.
This is so pertinent to work i am currently …the timing of seeing this couldn’t have been better.Thankyou.I look forward to more soon.🙂
Without fear I’d probably be an amoeba.
You make many good points about fear. But your presentation is about Fear of the Approach. But when you tie fear to outcome you are only partially correct. Yes I will have better outcomes if I have confidence in myself. I will maximize my position and likelihood of success whatever that be and I will do that in a kinder more helpful way toward others even if I must cause them discomfort. But sometimes fear of failure has to do with the outcomes which are not know and or cannot be controlled or influenced. And which may be very bad. And that kid and of fear is hard to deal with. Those losses can only be dealt with aforehand by realizing that relinquishing all may be needed. And I have to learn to let the outcome fear play itself out. Whatever the outcome including annihilation or total loss of everything. I must know in my heart that I have done my best. I am worthy. I am kind. I am strong. So be it.
I would be more confident in trying new things.
What do you tell yourself when fear IS real and you are at risk of harm? Specifically before major surgery.
I will be free to release the emotional attachments that no longer serve me, thus connecting more authentically and deeper with my true self. I will be able to let go of my stories that have a death grip on my emotions. I will be able to connect with the path my soul is waiting ever patiently for me to embrace. I will be me, and I will be home.
nihoj ihuji oh highly
I would feel more confident in my therapeutic abilities.
I would feel so much confidence in speaking my truth. I would be able to share my work with clarity and focus knowing that it is aligned with me
I would be free. Free to be myself. Free to live in the moment. My awareness would expand and I would be at peace. Energy and creativity would flow from this state of being. It would be a much happier place from which to live life.
Explosive thought! Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, or that I am not enough? Wow! I would be bigger & better able to be a positive part of the world! I would have more to offer, I would be more compassionate towards others, and I would have much less focus on me, me, me. I would expand into my bigger self! What a gift to me & everything around me! I will daily practice this through my meditations. Heartfelt thanks Tara for offering this to me at this time. When the student is ready the teacher will come. 🙏
fully alive
‘Real but not true’ is becoming my new mantra.
I’d be more outspoken when I probably should be.
Silent, spacious, lighter, open…
Dead bacause I would have no breaks
I’d experience more joy, feel more effective in my work, have more energy, set clearer boundaries.
I’d be more curious and willing to try things without being scared of making a mistake or looking foolish.
A beautiful child of God.
Thank you for the insight.
Nancy
That question really struck a chord. I was able to compassionately where my self doubt shows unread of my brave heart. Thank you Tara.
Thank you! I often forget who I am , by judging myself, however when I practice Mindfullness and with self compassion I know I am enough.
“Who would I be if I didn’t believe there was something was wrong with me?
My guess is that I would feel lighter and freer and more open in joy in life. But in all honesty, I don’t know who I would be or how I would feel. I can’t even imagine it right now. I will need to sit and meditate on the question (probably numerous times) to see what comes up.
To quote Mary Oliver:
I’d be “light and frolicsome”
“improbable, beautiful and afraid of nothing,
as though I had wings”.
From Starlings in Winter – Mary Oliver
I would have more energy and live a life with more pleasant experience.
I would be more fun-loving and take myself less seriously.
I’m learning to teach acting and it’s way out of my comfort zone. In this example, I would be steady and grounded even when I don’t know.
In general, I’d be freer, more present, happy and connected with others.
I would be free to enjoy life and not overlay upcoming events with dread and worry, living with fear is exhausting!
I would be self confident and joy filled.
My authentic whole self! Adventuresome and brave.
Without my fear I would be inquisitive which I believe would lead me to new adventures. This would be a positive step in my life.
I would be the innocent, open, curious child/Soul I was when I was born, imperfect, limited and still carrying the traits I inherited from my ancestors but I would be unworried, outgoing. Like another participant said, I would be happy and free, trusting and safe.
Much appreciated!
My anxiety stems from being fostered out until 7 to 4 families.
I worked a lot on this including 5 years of weekly counselling.
Tara, your videos really helped me over the last 7 years.
I find your voice soothing.
The music however is unsettling
and I find it hard to listen and relax with it.
I’d be my old self again.
Liberated and courageous!
I would be calm, content, living in the moment. I would be me, without the anxiety, free to do or not do anything, without the restraints of fear of doing something wrong.
I find the biochemistry of fear very interesting. I am finding different ways to challenge clients to challenge the false belief they have. The loop of fear can be debilitating I used to be in that space.
Who would i be without fear?
Successful.
I would be……a force to be reckoned with….
I don’t even know, I’d be able to be in the moment and enjoy life and sleep.
I would be fabulous.
I’d be less worried about the future and more focused on present.