Thanks, Tara. I think I once met you on a John F Barnes MFR course.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? I would be a confident facilitator of large groups, something I avoid right now for fear of failing. I really enjoyed your video and found the ideas and words helpful, I shall try them out!
A lightbulb moment comes from this question. I recognise my whole life has been conditioned by the deeply held “certainty” that there is some thing wrong with me …..hence the chasing after how to make the correction that will count and finally perfect me as a competent and therefore person worthy of love and respect. Love yourself honour yourself, without reservation….then, there is no problem to solve and the real possibility that life can then be lived freely and fearlessly?
Fear kept me stuck in the perceived safety of the known for so long. Unable to move forward in my professional career because I could not see the outcome of this choice. Locked in as self doubt took over, sure if I moved that I would fail.
Real but not true. Without fear having control of my choices, I would be free to listen and act on my hearts true desires.
I cannot continue to listen to this “fearless heart” video. The background “music” is terribly distracting. Its repetitive notes create tension and stress. Why anybody would add this irritating soundtrack to Tara Brach’s normally calm and thoughtful discussions (I love her lessons and meditations so very much on YouTube) is beyond my comprehension. Her voice is a higher pitch and also the speech is too fast. The entire effect is like a sales pitch intended to evoke fear.
I would be an energetic, strong, fun-loving, outward-looking, fit presence for me and my family and friends. I can see that fear is a prison and it is so helpful to think of the words ‘real but not true’ when it comes to worry thoughts.
Without fear,i would be totally liberated person,Looking at the tremendous possibilities life has to offer.
I would be filled with courage and optimism and go forth achieving my dreams and passions.
Life would then become an endless list of possibilities ,a super exciting journey of happiness and success – Unbound and free.
So powerful question, real but not true. Fear and anxiety has been robbing my joy and happiness. I would like to be free and finding more joy and happiness.
Cynthia Hanson, Another Field, Mountain View, CA, USAsays
I’ve thought I was flawed for as long as I can remember. I think I’d be lighter, brighter, more relaxed, not inclined to sleep so much, more willing to engage with other people.
I’d be willing to take risks and do things that I’ve always wanted to do. My chronic anxiety would be gone. I would not be afraid of connecting with God, myself and others, which would make my life happy, joyous and free a lot of the time. I would be given the gift of serenity.
Char Slezak, Psychology, Chicago suburbs, IL, USAsays
It is hard to imagine who I would be as I think I have lived w fear a long time but I work hard to not let it stop me from important things. I wonder if I would be more loving and take more action for social justice. Not be fearful of certain neighborhoods in Chicago. Maybe travel more?
Real but not true, learning to accept rather than evade what is difficult and challenging would enable me to invoke the valour in me, to squarely face what I need to so that I can live more fully in the present moment. Living in fear, reduces joy and creates unncessary barriers to building deeper bonds with self and others and I believe that being more present to actual experiences than imagined fears would allow me to live life more fully.
I would begin, I think, to know what living really supposed to mean….I could experience some joy or peace, and know that it is okay for me to inhabit space and breath on this earth. I think I could begin to trust people and not feel like an accident or that I am constantly in the way of everyone….
Hi Tara,
Thank you very much for these wonderfully easy but effective techniques.
I usually use EMDR to get to the root of the anxiety which as you said usually stems from childhood experiences. But for me these techniques are really useful ways of dealing with anxiety in the present, even on a daily basis for anxious people. .
Thank you very much for your generosity and kindness for sharing these free webinars with everyone. Much appreciated.
PS. Smart way of getting comments;)
Joy H, Occupational Therapy, Atascadero , CA, USAsays
I would be the person I envisioned after graduating from my masters program. I was a top performer with many career opportunities but my physical manifestation of trauma in the form of fibromyalgia has restricted my abilities. I would be a more active practitioner and I believe I would be able to engage in a fulfilling romantic relationship.
That was so interesting. 2 great tools – tell yourself “Real but not true” as you begin to challenge those deeply held beliefs, and ask yourself “Who would you be without fear?” That opens many possibilities that previously seemed impossible.
I would be more open to social situations, to meeting people & letting them into my life. I would trust without second guessing everything. I would trust.
Betsy Packard, Another Field, Silver Spring, MD, USAsays
Fear and anxiety have been with me my entire life. Tho i manage–without these I would feel limitless, have courage, seek new experiences rather than comfort, fully realize my purpose here
I wouldn’t identify with past rejections and failures – i would connect more fearlessly with others and be the creative person that people tell me I am.
I would be more secure and confident to overcome certain situations and goals that I have been putting off for decades even though a part of me knows I can do it. Fear is crippling and annoying!
Who would I be if I didn’t think anything was wrong with me? I would be so content and peaceful and probably powerful (in a good way) beyond my wildest dreams. I would be fearless.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me? I’d be someone very different. Having so many traumatic things happening to me as a kid, I’ve lived with this all my life. And I’m 65. I still keep plugging away at striving to rewire. Many thanks for your help with this.
Thanks again Tara. If you asked what I would be, I jumped at ‘happy’
But you asked ‘who’ so I thought about being a capable person, a person capable of bringing happiness to myself. And a confident person because I would know I could. I am perceived by others to be that person so now all I have to do is convince myself.
If I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, I would be who I am. Instead of constantly seeking It, & coming up against the fear that blocks me from living. I welcome this realization.
fear comes in a packaging of karma
I hear I was a sunny affectionate baby. I remember a recurring nightmare when
3 and 4 about having to go down in the subway on the tracks to get my special blanket, and the train was coming. Happy times up until I was six after that the fear warp elbowed it’s way in, til the feeling of fighting in the last ditch started circling in with various results.
I think one is meant to continue being sunny and affectionate. as to what one does with that…
Susan Price, Another Field, New Windsor, NY, USAsays
Without fear I would be less lonely and depressed and have real and deep connections with others…both friends and partners. I would improve self care… for example taking courses I signed up for but never completed… I would be worthy!
If I was without my belief that something is wrong with me who would I be. More creative, more loving, more adventurous . I would try new things , laugh more , sleep better, and overall feel better. It will be worth the work because I am worth the work.
I have heard your name mentioned on the Sounds True newsletter, and connected to the current free series you are presenting with NICABM via Joan Borysenko’s newsletter. I have appreciated the clarity, warmth and encouragement that come through your three short presentations. I believe a close though new friend is experiencing more anxiety than she or her family realize, and hope to support her while she moves through it. The big current issue is selling her home and moving to a seniors’ retirement home nearer to her grown children and “losing” friendships that are important to her in her home town. My husband experienced more anxiety than I realized throughout his life. He overcame much anxiety related to major dissociation, but when I had to go to hospital for liver cancer surgery last June, his anxiety was great. I had to stay in an extra week. As it happened, he fell the evening I got home after his regular dialysis treatment at the clinic, broke his neck and became paraplegic. We never had a chance to talk about it, as he died in hospital five days later. I am fine with his passing at 87 after several difficult years of failing health. I know he is well now, as I can communicate with him via dowsing. I know that I was on the right track on how to help him overcome anxiety from listening to your short sessions. I will recommend your approach to others who are dealing with real but not true anxious situations. Thank you!
If I didn´t believe something was wrong with me I would be an open, curious human being, ready for the next step. Whatever shows up!
Thanks, Tara. I think I once met you on a John F Barnes MFR course.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? I would be a confident facilitator of large groups, something I avoid right now for fear of failing. I really enjoyed your video and found the ideas and words helpful, I shall try them out!
A lightbulb moment comes from this question. I recognise my whole life has been conditioned by the deeply held “certainty” that there is some thing wrong with me …..hence the chasing after how to make the correction that will count and finally perfect me as a competent and therefore person worthy of love and respect. Love yourself honour yourself, without reservation….then, there is no problem to solve and the real possibility that life can then be lived freely and fearlessly?
Fear kept me stuck in the perceived safety of the known for so long. Unable to move forward in my professional career because I could not see the outcome of this choice. Locked in as self doubt took over, sure if I moved that I would fail.
Real but not true. Without fear having control of my choices, I would be free to listen and act on my hearts true desires.
I cannot continue to listen to this “fearless heart” video. The background “music” is terribly distracting. Its repetitive notes create tension and stress. Why anybody would add this irritating soundtrack to Tara Brach’s normally calm and thoughtful discussions (I love her lessons and meditations so very much on YouTube) is beyond my comprehension. Her voice is a higher pitch and also the speech is too fast. The entire effect is like a sales pitch intended to evoke fear.
I would be an energetic, strong, fun-loving, outward-looking, fit presence for me and my family and friends. I can see that fear is a prison and it is so helpful to think of the words ‘real but not true’ when it comes to worry thoughts.
Resourceful!
My heart opens immediately and I feel a sense of freedom , lightness and joy in my heart…a impulse to connect and co- create… joy of living
I would worry less about what others think and have more compassion and kindness towards myself.
Make a U turn and turn towards my fearful thoughts. We find what we look for, Confirmation bias. Real but not true.
I feel like I’d be a lot more outgoing, and have more friends. I wouldn’t try so hard to make myself small and unnoticed.
It’s so powerful yet simple, to say and believe, fear is “Real but not true.” They’re just stories I make up in my head.
free!
A more loving presence to myself and all beings in all circumstances.
Without fear,i would be totally liberated person,Looking at the tremendous possibilities life has to offer.
I would be filled with courage and optimism and go forth achieving my dreams and passions.
Life would then become an endless list of possibilities ,a super exciting journey of happiness and success – Unbound and free.
So powerful question, real but not true. Fear and anxiety has been robbing my joy and happiness. I would like to be free and finding more joy and happiness.
I’ve thought I was flawed for as long as I can remember. I think I’d be lighter, brighter, more relaxed, not inclined to sleep so much, more willing to engage with other people.
this is really helpful. it so resonates and i felt something by doing the practice –
dealing with the fear instead of pushing it away thank you
Love “real but not true”. So powerful.
What an amazing question. I’ve been on survival mode for so long, I don’t know?
I would be free and connected to my Heart.
More open to life
I’d be willing to take risks and do things that I’ve always wanted to do. My chronic anxiety would be gone. I would not be afraid of connecting with God, myself and others, which would make my life happy, joyous and free a lot of the time. I would be given the gift of serenity.
It is hard to imagine who I would be as I think I have lived w fear a long time but I work hard to not let it stop me from important things. I wonder if I would be more loving and take more action for social justice. Not be fearful of certain neighborhoods in Chicago. Maybe travel more?
Real but not true, learning to accept rather than evade what is difficult and challenging would enable me to invoke the valour in me, to squarely face what I need to so that I can live more fully in the present moment. Living in fear, reduces joy and creates unncessary barriers to building deeper bonds with self and others and I believe that being more present to actual experiences than imagined fears would allow me to live life more fully.
Myself without those « downtimes « in which I am totally loosing connection with and to myself
I would begin, I think, to know what living really supposed to mean….I could experience some joy or peace, and know that it is okay for me to inhabit space and breath on this earth. I think I could begin to trust people and not feel like an accident or that I am constantly in the way of everyone….
Hi Tara,
Thank you very much for these wonderfully easy but effective techniques.
I usually use EMDR to get to the root of the anxiety which as you said usually stems from childhood experiences. But for me these techniques are really useful ways of dealing with anxiety in the present, even on a daily basis for anxious people. .
Thank you very much for your generosity and kindness for sharing these free webinars with everyone. Much appreciated.
PS. Smart way of getting comments;)
excellent
I would be the person I envisioned after graduating from my masters program. I was a top performer with many career opportunities but my physical manifestation of trauma in the form of fibromyalgia has restricted my abilities. I would be a more active practitioner and I believe I would be able to engage in a fulfilling romantic relationship.
Thank you for the helpful insight “real but not true.”
That was so interesting. 2 great tools – tell yourself “Real but not true” as you begin to challenge those deeply held beliefs, and ask yourself “Who would you be without fear?” That opens many possibilities that previously seemed impossible.
I think i would be the same person, life would just be easier.
Thank you for the three sessions. I found them very helpful.
I would be more open to social situations, to meeting people & letting them into my life. I would trust without second guessing everything. I would trust.
I’d be more adventurous, less shut in. I would try new things with abandon.
I would be eager to learn new things and curious around new people.
Fear and anxiety have been with me my entire life. Tho i manage–without these I would feel limitless, have courage, seek new experiences rather than comfort, fully realize my purpose here
A totally different person with a different self concept.
I wouldn’t identify with past rejections and failures – i would connect more fearlessly with others and be the creative person that people tell me I am.
I would be more secure and confident to overcome certain situations and goals that I have been putting off for decades even though a part of me knows I can do it. Fear is crippling and annoying!
Who would I be if I didn’t think anything was wrong with me? I would be so content and peaceful and probably powerful (in a good way) beyond my wildest dreams. I would be fearless.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me? I’d be someone very different. Having so many traumatic things happening to me as a kid, I’ve lived with this all my life. And I’m 65. I still keep plugging away at striving to rewire. Many thanks for your help with this.
i have a deep fear that i will fail at anything i under take. All my adult life i have carried this fear.
Thanks again Tara. If you asked what I would be, I jumped at ‘happy’
But you asked ‘who’ so I thought about being a capable person, a person capable of bringing happiness to myself. And a confident person because I would know I could. I am perceived by others to be that person so now all I have to do is convince myself.
If I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, I would be who I am. Instead of constantly seeking It, & coming up against the fear that blocks me from living. I welcome this realization.
fear comes in a packaging of karma
I hear I was a sunny affectionate baby. I remember a recurring nightmare when
3 and 4 about having to go down in the subway on the tracks to get my special blanket, and the train was coming. Happy times up until I was six after that the fear warp elbowed it’s way in, til the feeling of fighting in the last ditch started circling in with various results.
I think one is meant to continue being sunny and affectionate. as to what one does with that…
Without fear I would be less lonely and depressed and have real and deep connections with others…both friends and partners. I would improve self care… for example taking courses I signed up for but never completed… I would be worthy!
If I was without my belief that something is wrong with me who would I be. More creative, more loving, more adventurous . I would try new things , laugh more , sleep better, and overall feel better. It will be worth the work because I am worth the work.
A liberated person.
I have heard your name mentioned on the Sounds True newsletter, and connected to the current free series you are presenting with NICABM via Joan Borysenko’s newsletter. I have appreciated the clarity, warmth and encouragement that come through your three short presentations. I believe a close though new friend is experiencing more anxiety than she or her family realize, and hope to support her while she moves through it. The big current issue is selling her home and moving to a seniors’ retirement home nearer to her grown children and “losing” friendships that are important to her in her home town. My husband experienced more anxiety than I realized throughout his life. He overcame much anxiety related to major dissociation, but when I had to go to hospital for liver cancer surgery last June, his anxiety was great. I had to stay in an extra week. As it happened, he fell the evening I got home after his regular dialysis treatment at the clinic, broke his neck and became paraplegic. We never had a chance to talk about it, as he died in hospital five days later. I am fine with his passing at 87 after several difficult years of failing health. I know he is well now, as I can communicate with him via dowsing. I know that I was on the right track on how to help him overcome anxiety from listening to your short sessions. I will recommend your approach to others who are dealing with real but not true anxious situations. Thank you!