When I’m in the grips of fear sliding toward a panic I attempt to self sooth by take stock of my body, my location and telling myself im ok. Also reminding myself I know what this is, what’s happening and that I have dealt with this before. The 4-7-8 breathing technique has also proved helpful.
Mindfulness and visualisation helps, also languaging that supports looking at fear as a important protective part that is trying to help. A choice that can transform the subjective meanings and releases blocked energy
Noticing when I’m afraid, calming my body, either through breathing to relax or burning off the anxious energy through physical activity helps me. Once, I’m calmer I can examine And identify the underlying feelings and thoughts behind the fear. I talk to supportive people in my life about my fear I pray, and I try not to avoid facing my fear for too long. I’m a work in progress and that’s ok.
Self talk that all is well, as God’s got this. Don’t sweat the small stuff, guess what, it’s ALL the small stuff in God’s larger frame. Take a step back to see larger picturr, knowing God’s view is superhuge and I don’t need to know all the answers, just trust God, ultimate good.
Then find my peaceful place inside and FEEL God’s presence. Know all is well.
Fortunately, I am one of the bravest people that I have ever met myself. I contracted the Polio disease by an active dose of vaccine at the age of five but never stopped living life. Today, I am 61 years old man only four feet tall and walking with canes and driving a car without any modifications. I decided to go back to school without any background or experiences in psychology, I am doing my dissertation now. Fear is what we create without any reasons of reality, sometimes. I did enjoy this video very much and thank you.
Very nicely said. I’m a psychologist facing my third ‘bout’ of agoraphobia after a third very traumatic life event. As I age, positive results are slower to achieve and the physical symptoms of facing my fears, as well as the consequences thereof, become greater. It’d be easy to just give up, but then I will only have an existence, not a life.
Looking forward to part 2 🙂
I have a deep belief that the subtle things we choose for our quiet moments of life; our rituals, our inner narratives, or spirit finders can pepper the pain with peace. The breaks of light that we can reach for can be the magic that catalyzes those dark times into powerful teachers. Poetry, art, tarot, yoga, meditation, whatever you choose should be pulled in deeply to your core. Make it part of you and what keeps your light bright. ✨
Sometimes I find my fear is based on a lie that I believe about a person or situation. I ask Jesus to help me identify the fear and then ask him what the truth is for that situation. Then I hold on to the truth.
I push myself to do things that fill me with fear. I have a lot of practice at this now. Most the times the experience has been nowhere near as bad as I had imagined it was going to be. I remind myself of this each time I have to face fear and step out of my comfort zone. Sometimes the fear is real because I tried something and failed or felt I made a fool of myself. But in spite of this, I keep trying. I refuse to give up. I refuse to let fear win.
I first breathe deep and exhale saying Jesus, then I acknowledge that I am not alone, God is with me and this moment will pass. I continue to breathe slowly and deeply knowing each breath represent an opportunity for me to gain a new perspective of the situation I’m experiencing, that it will have an ending, there will be a lesson learn and wisdom gained.
Neuroptimal.
My first memory is this: I appear to be in something called life and I am about to die. I froze and the suffocator went away and I lived. Not words, simply animalistic, sudden awareness of existence and the terror of ceasing to exist.
Second memory is: Oh, I can turn my neck to escape the suffocator. As soon as I tried to turn my head away, another hand grabbed the top of my head and kept me from turning to get air, so she continued to suffocate me. I froze, it released and I am still alive.
At age ten, I realized that she was hitting me, so at least her hate-filled (projecting) mouth wasn’t moving. Also, I noted that the repeated suffocations stopped when kindergarten started.
Yes, I have replicated this set of experiences uncannily well.
Meditation is crucial for me to face fear. Also, talking about it to others helps me discover that I’m not the only one dealing with fear. The more transparent I am with others, the more others are able to connect and go through their fear.
I have great difficulty facing fear in crrtain situations. I know at one level that fear is a constant in our lives, it keeps us alive. Talking to others helps for awhile at least. Challenging the fears.
What a wonderful thing you’re doing – thank you so very much!!! The thing that helps me with my fears, only as of recent weeks, is the newfound knowledge and the application of self compassion. I never knew what it was, but, now that I do, I am working to remain aware and be soft with my self. I am “standing up for myself” for probably the first time in my life!
It depends. Sometimes a gentle, kind, supportive response helps and other times a nurturing firmness and other times humor but regardless it makes a difference if I understand it isn’t always possible to eliminate fear and anxiety. What I need is to be able to make sure there is no pressure to prove that the effort is being made. It is also important to realize time and needs are not linear so what works sometimes might not fit when the fear rears up due to PTSD. Ideally, there is a constant that can be returned to – a trusted therapist, trusted friend, or an activity that provides serenity and hope – storytelling, painting, dance, music, a walk…
What helps my clients and me to face fear is to recognize in compassionate way the reason the fear is present and to then view it as just a feeling that creates thoughts. One does not have to believe their thoughts especially ones that are based in negative emotion. Doing behaviors like talking, mediation etc then can change our feelings creating more balanced positive thoughts feelings and behavior. Also use EMDR and parts work.
Therapy to address my anger. It took me a long time to get to the bottom of it, to go through the fearful feelings and avoidance until I reached grief for the loss of my innocence, the loss of a trustworthy family. My ambivalence and confusion all took time to sort out. Reading Daniel Siegel, practicing Feldenkrais, enjoying all the learning, and listening to my therapist, over and over again brought me to where I am now: allowing myself to feel an emotion, and to embrace whatever comes up. I always gain some insight from this exercise and then, with the young children I work with, build positive experiences based on patient caring. I’m lucky to have had the right people cross my path after deciding I wanted to get healthy. Also, to just Stop, in a tense moment, to allow myself a breath and to get centered.
The Writings of Bahá’u’lláh tell us, “Love is a light that never dwelleth in a heart possessed by fear.” Having a heart possessed by fear is like being an unlit candle. It is possible to rekindle and reignite the flame of love; awareness, observation, witnessing and choice are some of the practices that I encourage.
Knowing what i need i manifest…..if i live in fear…the universe will delivers fear…if i live in hope….i spend all my time waiting….if i live in kindness and gratatude..i attract what what i need…and living with the knowledge everyone in my universe has the gift of choice….learning not to take others choice away is a skill l am still learning.
One could well substitute the word fear with vulnerability. By facing and embracing our vulnerability we are able to rejoin the human race, end our alienation and allow intimacy. There is no shame in being vulnerable. It is part of our human condition. I sometimes suggest that one invites it in to sit with you in a room as guest and imagine introducing it …hi I am … and Id like you to meet my depression, or however else it shows up in your life. Vulnerability has many guises.
Always love Tara’s presentations. Really gets to the heart of the matter.
When patients tell me they feel fear, first I try to discern whether it´s a logic fear or not. Then I ask them where in the body they feel the fear & to describe it. Then I ask them to go as back in their lives as possible & to tell me what image comes to their mind. Most often they remember something traumatic that happened to them connected to the present fear & we work with how risky was it then & maybe not now; & everything that allows to send back to the past what belongs there, & the strengths of the present that are not used today.
Sitting with them , noticing it with them , invite them to place a soft gentle hand on that fear and really feel it and breath into it for several moments, then gently bring them back to the space and check into what’s happening, noticing, praise for facing it today!
I just tell myself that in this moment I’m OK or do a tapping on feeling safe.
Very helpful video
When I’m in the grips of fear sliding toward a panic I attempt to self sooth by take stock of my body, my location and telling myself im ok. Also reminding myself I know what this is, what’s happening and that I have dealt with this before. The 4-7-8 breathing technique has also proved helpful.
Awareness of the present moment, on purpose, and without judgement. “It will pass.”
Elsa
Mindfulness and visualisation helps, also languaging that supports looking at fear as a important protective part that is trying to help. A choice that can transform the subjective meanings and releases blocked energy
Call a friend
I’m still learning how to control my Major Depression and anxiety
Mindfulness
Music
Going to the Gym
Creating a diversion
Stay on Medication
Noticing when I’m afraid, calming my body, either through breathing to relax or burning off the anxious energy through physical activity helps me. Once, I’m calmer I can examine And identify the underlying feelings and thoughts behind the fear. I talk to supportive people in my life about my fear I pray, and I try not to avoid facing my fear for too long. I’m a work in progress and that’s ok.
A backup…
A supportive trusted person, someone to encourage me and tell me it is ok.
This is very helpful. I work with young children and would love some strategies to help them face their fears. Carien
Beautiful message.
Self talk that all is well, as God’s got this. Don’t sweat the small stuff, guess what, it’s ALL the small stuff in God’s larger frame. Take a step back to see larger picturr, knowing God’s view is superhuge and I don’t need to know all the answers, just trust God, ultimate good.
Then find my peaceful place inside and FEEL God’s presence. Know all is well.
Fortunately, I am one of the bravest people that I have ever met myself. I contracted the Polio disease by an active dose of vaccine at the age of five but never stopped living life. Today, I am 61 years old man only four feet tall and walking with canes and driving a car without any modifications. I decided to go back to school without any background or experiences in psychology, I am doing my dissertation now. Fear is what we create without any reasons of reality, sometimes. I did enjoy this video very much and thank you.
Try and get out of my head.
Put the tjoughts down
Take a walk
Bath and music
Breathe work
Evidence
Very nicely said. I’m a psychologist facing my third ‘bout’ of agoraphobia after a third very traumatic life event. As I age, positive results are slower to achieve and the physical symptoms of facing my fears, as well as the consequences thereof, become greater. It’d be easy to just give up, but then I will only have an existence, not a life.
Looking forward to part 2 🙂
I have a deep belief that the subtle things we choose for our quiet moments of life; our rituals, our inner narratives, or spirit finders can pepper the pain with peace. The breaks of light that we can reach for can be the magic that catalyzes those dark times into powerful teachers. Poetry, art, tarot, yoga, meditation, whatever you choose should be pulled in deeply to your core. Make it part of you and what keeps your light bright. ✨
Sometimes I find my fear is based on a lie that I believe about a person or situation. I ask Jesus to help me identify the fear and then ask him what the truth is for that situation. Then I hold on to the truth.
I push myself to do things that fill me with fear. I have a lot of practice at this now. Most the times the experience has been nowhere near as bad as I had imagined it was going to be. I remind myself of this each time I have to face fear and step out of my comfort zone. Sometimes the fear is real because I tried something and failed or felt I made a fool of myself. But in spite of this, I keep trying. I refuse to give up. I refuse to let fear win.
Distraction helps
I first breathe deep and exhale saying Jesus, then I acknowledge that I am not alone, God is with me and this moment will pass. I continue to breathe slowly and deeply knowing each breath represent an opportunity for me to gain a new perspective of the situation I’m experiencing, that it will have an ending, there will be a lesson learn and wisdom gained.
being able to say out loud to someone that I am scared and get an empathetic response
Neuroptimal.
My first memory is this: I appear to be in something called life and I am about to die. I froze and the suffocator went away and I lived. Not words, simply animalistic, sudden awareness of existence and the terror of ceasing to exist.
Second memory is: Oh, I can turn my neck to escape the suffocator. As soon as I tried to turn my head away, another hand grabbed the top of my head and kept me from turning to get air, so she continued to suffocate me. I froze, it released and I am still alive.
At age ten, I realized that she was hitting me, so at least her hate-filled (projecting) mouth wasn’t moving. Also, I noted that the repeated suffocations stopped when kindergarten started.
Yes, I have replicated this set of experiences uncannily well.
Meditation is crucial for me to face fear. Also, talking about it to others helps me discover that I’m not the only one dealing with fear. The more transparent I am with others, the more others are able to connect and go through their fear.
Have commented already
I have great difficulty facing fear in crrtain situations. I know at one level that fear is a constant in our lives, it keeps us alive. Talking to others helps for awhile at least. Challenging the fears.
Slowing down to really be present
I try to put positive thoughts toward what I want
Music walking great novels
Thank You
What a wonderful thing you’re doing – thank you so very much!!! The thing that helps me with my fears, only as of recent weeks, is the newfound knowledge and the application of self compassion. I never knew what it was, but, now that I do, I am working to remain aware and be soft with my self. I am “standing up for myself” for probably the first time in my life!
It depends. Sometimes a gentle, kind, supportive response helps and other times a nurturing firmness and other times humor but regardless it makes a difference if I understand it isn’t always possible to eliminate fear and anxiety. What I need is to be able to make sure there is no pressure to prove that the effort is being made. It is also important to realize time and needs are not linear so what works sometimes might not fit when the fear rears up due to PTSD. Ideally, there is a constant that can be returned to – a trusted therapist, trusted friend, or an activity that provides serenity and hope – storytelling, painting, dance, music, a walk…
What helps my clients and me to face fear is to recognize in compassionate way the reason the fear is present and to then view it as just a feeling that creates thoughts. One does not have to believe their thoughts especially ones that are based in negative emotion. Doing behaviors like talking, mediation etc then can change our feelings creating more balanced positive thoughts feelings and behavior. Also use EMDR and parts work.
Having “exit plans” and using very gradual introductions to situations/places the client desires to experience.
Therapy to address my anger. It took me a long time to get to the bottom of it, to go through the fearful feelings and avoidance until I reached grief for the loss of my innocence, the loss of a trustworthy family. My ambivalence and confusion all took time to sort out. Reading Daniel Siegel, practicing Feldenkrais, enjoying all the learning, and listening to my therapist, over and over again brought me to where I am now: allowing myself to feel an emotion, and to embrace whatever comes up. I always gain some insight from this exercise and then, with the young children I work with, build positive experiences based on patient caring. I’m lucky to have had the right people cross my path after deciding I wanted to get healthy. Also, to just Stop, in a tense moment, to allow myself a breath and to get centered.
Yeah face it. It is the way that made me not fear anymore… to slowing down the breath is another way
The Writings of Bahá’u’lláh tell us, “Love is a light that never dwelleth in a heart possessed by fear.” Having a heart possessed by fear is like being an unlit candle. It is possible to rekindle and reignite the flame of love; awareness, observation, witnessing and choice are some of the practices that I encourage.
Knowing what i need i manifest…..if i live in fear…the universe will delivers fear…if i live in hope….i spend all my time waiting….if i live in kindness and gratatude..i attract what what i need…and living with the knowledge everyone in my universe has the gift of choice….learning not to take others choice away is a skill l am still learning.
One could well substitute the word fear with vulnerability. By facing and embracing our vulnerability we are able to rejoin the human race, end our alienation and allow intimacy. There is no shame in being vulnerable. It is part of our human condition. I sometimes suggest that one invites it in to sit with you in a room as guest and imagine introducing it …hi I am … and Id like you to meet my depression, or however else it shows up in your life. Vulnerability has many guises.
Always love Tara’s presentations. Really gets to the heart of the matter.
When patients tell me they feel fear, first I try to discern whether it´s a logic fear or not. Then I ask them where in the body they feel the fear & to describe it. Then I ask them to go as back in their lives as possible & to tell me what image comes to their mind. Most often they remember something traumatic that happened to them connected to the present fear & we work with how risky was it then & maybe not now; & everything that allows to send back to the past what belongs there, & the strengths of the present that are not used today.
Talking through what they are afraid of and then what can they do the same or different than the last time they encountered the situation.
Sitting with them , noticing it with them , invite them to place a soft gentle hand on that fear and really feel it and breath into it for several moments, then gently bring them back to the space and check into what’s happening, noticing, praise for facing it today!
Support
Breathing techniques
Focusing on the present
Knowledge & Preparation
Determination to Overcome
Continued Effort
Faith/Belief
Never quit
Awareness. Honesty. Truthfulness. Witnessing.
Gathering social support but also factual information, a range of opinions & other’s experiences to help sort it out & develop coping strategies.
I use Emotional Freedom Techniques primarily and add in EMDR, Voice Dialogue or NLP in most sessions.
Remembering past successes
It depends on what the fear is , but usually a lot of encouragement from friends or approval.
My faith in God and prayer