Seeing the sorrows of others, love grows, bringing strength. Also contemplating the empty and temporary nature of phenomena and beings. Getting closer to understanding causes and conditions: cracking the code.
I like how you talked about fear compared to a wave in the ocean. I recall the fun of riding the waves at the beach. After a lull in the flow, I knew there would be a large – and scary – wave soon to approach. As the wave rose, I would self talk increasing my confidence to tackle this one properly, safely, and yes, that problem wave passed. Thank you so much for your kindness in sharing your knowledge.
I think I’ve been in fear my whole life, but I’ve suppressed it until recently and now it’s coming up. I meditate, practice mindfulness, try and accept it …. I listen to Tara’s talks and meditations.
I say, “Right here, right now, I am ok” It doesn’t help me move forward though. I stay stuck as far as making progress towards my goals. Then I feel evenmore fear of my financial future.
Being in a situation where I have no way to run from it or distract myself. Or, there are times I am able to connect with my true or heart felt desire and that enables me to to walk through it with some sense of peace and certainty.
Opting IN to the experience – currently Opting In to optimal health through releasing all that has caused me to not speak up or felt strangled or like I could not speak. What is underlying this second primary occurrence of mouth cancer (this time tonsil/throat) is what I am exploring and releasing.
I am also opting into surgery and holistic, naturopathic methods.
For me and for my clients, begin to accept feeling this way, with fear and how and where in our bodies we feel it, helps a lot. Talking about this with the therapist is necessary. Beeing heard with no judgement. Be seen by other with compassion makes us feel safe.
Connect with the present moment. Connect with our body in this moment, in this place we are right now helps us finding the way out.
First of all to admit it to myself which I think I do too seldom. Then to stay with it and try and go against it, depending on what it is I am afraid of.
I’m a Christian
I pray..but lately thru my work struggles as a social worker and Mom of 5 boys with my husband I struggle with fear ..
it’s kinda taken over my soul at night
I have ovarian cancer and am so fearful it will return. I completed six sessions of chemo and had surgery a year ago and so far, all is well. But the oncologists say it is aggressive and was caught late so it is vey likely to return. Each three months when I have a check up, I am on pins and needles anticipating a bad result. This results in fear that I will experience pain that I cannot manage and death. I have a wonderful family and very good friends to help me, but I continue to be anxious. I do meditate almost daily, do yoga, take walks, and meet with friends. I am well supported.
Coming to the realization that life is uncertain and we don’t always have control of what is going to happen.
I also find walking in the forest, talking with a friend gets me through.
“Being scared but doing it anyway”
I understood recently that I’m numb. So I’m not really facing the phycological fear.
A kind somatic denial has become a false shield between me and being fully alive. I am managing my life with routine and distractions. Food, TV, walking, judgment, routines.
I was – till a few months back, was fearful of my son drifting away from me. I was so traumatised for several years, when the person he married treated us (my husband and me) with a lot of contempt; while at the same time exerting her sense of entitlement by demanding they live with us (this is not uncommon in India)… gradually the conflicts / unspoken tensions just blew up and I was gripped with a fear of losing my son and my two grandchildren. Joint living was not working out – so my husband and I moved out of Delhi and now live in Jaipur. But the fear persisted… till I started serious mindfulness practice. I have gained a lot from Tara Brach’s talks and guided meditations. I can now articulate my fear and feel more secure within myself.
One thing that I’ve been trying to keep in mind is the serenity prayer, because when I’m anxious, worried, and fearful, I realize that I’m trying to control things that I have no control over. When I can remember this prayer, it can be a relief to know that I can let go of things that I really don’t need to worry about.
Also, I have been doing yoga Nidra guided meditations at bedtime. The more I sleep well, the lest fear I have overall.
It’s definitely an ongoing practice to keep fear in its healthy place.
Talking with a trusted friend, meditating, reminding myself that emotions come and go and that, however fearful I feel, the intensity will pass. Maybe that last one is a coping mechanism that only postpones facing my fears?
Allowing it in with curiosity – viscerally sensing it and seeing it as the pure sensation it is, and slowly, without shame, inquiring into its deeper message.
At my best, I greet fear: Hello, I see you’re here…again. Please sit next to me. It’s okay. We’ll get through this.
Half an hour ago–we’re on a brief vacation– I moved to get out of bed after having risen earlier and showered. The room spun wildly. I was able to lie back down, frightened because I knew what had just happened. My benign positional vertigo had returned when I thought it had left. So now I must brush up on the treatment I can do with spouse’s help. Looking forward to Tara’s next talk on chronic anxiety❤️🤗
I work with it somatically, through the body, as a qigong instructor and also, soon to be an IFS practitioner, I use the IFS model. Fear is a part of ourselves and we work to understand it and unburden that part.
the Deep brain reorienting approach is what helps this therapist with client’s fear. You may want to check it out – deepbrainreorienting.com. What you mentioned about breathe from the tension area is a big part of this approach. Frank Corrigan is the creator of this DBR shock releasing and processing method.
I highly recommend it! Thank you, Tara for sharing and spreading your wisdom across this planet!
I tell them that you only learn and become better by trying and going through events. If you do not live anything, you do not learn or grow. Either you succeed or you learn, you never lose.
Talking about fear definitely helps me face my fears. Bringing light to my fears is the beginning stages for me to acknowledge that they are real and a part of who I am. Talking about my fears also helps me to accept my fears and to realize that I have the same fears that most everyone has. This helps me to not feel alone. Once I feel not alone, this gives me a sense of courage to go deeper into understanding the basis of my fears and work through them. Talks like yours, are a welcome gateway and I am so appreciative.
Thank you Tara for this much-needed topic. God bless you.
Praying & surrendering my anxiety to God. Placing it at His feet. Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV) 6) Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7) And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
I ask them,” if that thing you fear actually happened, what would it mean about you?” Usually they can find the faulty core belief that is hiding under the fear, and I guide them to say statements of truth, which begins to heal the lie in the faulty core belief.
Thank you so much Tara. First, really allowing myself to become aware and honestly admit that fear is present (and proceeding with kindness towards myself). I am so often dissociated from my own feelings that reconnecting to authenticity is key- finding my body, taking a moment to see what emotion(s) are here. Then getting curious… where does this move or sit in the body? Is it linked to anything in particular in my life circumstance? All the while just letting it BE what it is – not trying to contain it or override it. Usually that is all that is needed, this full allowing – often an insight bubbles up from this inquiry that is so useful. <3
I think what helps me the most is recently I’ve been accepting that part of myself, being compassionate to the part of me that feels fearful. I used to try to push myself to ignore the fear and get rid of it by not listening to it but that didnt really seem to heal it. Now I’m being kind and just doing small gentle steps outside my comfort zone to stretch myself. It feels much more doable and I notice myself seeing the fear and often deciding I dont need to hold back because of it.
I have been following you, Tara, for some time, so what I do usually is recognize it, and then begin to focus on my breath and where I’m feeling the fear in my body. Then I usually bring compassion to it and keep breathing. I have Meniere’s disease and sometimes the “attacks” are pretty scary because my eyes shake and I get really sick. I can’t do anything but lie very still and wait for it to pass. Last time it happened I really focused on going deep into my self like being in the ocean and waiting for the storm to pass. It really helped.
Seeing the sorrows of others, love grows, bringing strength. Also contemplating the empty and temporary nature of phenomena and beings. Getting closer to understanding causes and conditions: cracking the code.
I like how you talked about fear compared to a wave in the ocean. I recall the fun of riding the waves at the beach. After a lull in the flow, I knew there would be a large – and scary – wave soon to approach. As the wave rose, I would self talk increasing my confidence to tackle this one properly, safely, and yes, that problem wave passed. Thank you so much for your kindness in sharing your knowledge.
I think I’ve been in fear my whole life, but I’ve suppressed it until recently and now it’s coming up. I meditate, practice mindfulness, try and accept it …. I listen to Tara’s talks and meditations.
Prayers and meditation.
prayers and sometimes meditation.
I say, “Right here, right now, I am ok” It doesn’t help me move forward though. I stay stuck as far as making progress towards my goals. Then I feel evenmore fear of my financial future.
Being in a situation where I have no way to run from it or distract myself. Or, there are times I am able to connect with my true or heart felt desire and that enables me to to walk through it with some sense of peace and certainty.
Exposure Therapy
A open heart acceptance of the fear without feeling less of a person because of the feeling
Opting IN to the experience – currently Opting In to optimal health through releasing all that has caused me to not speak up or felt strangled or like I could not speak. What is underlying this second primary occurrence of mouth cancer (this time tonsil/throat) is what I am exploring and releasing.
I am also opting into surgery and holistic, naturopathic methods.
Going into myself and telling myself I can do this.
Perspective
For me and for my clients, begin to accept feeling this way, with fear and how and where in our bodies we feel it, helps a lot. Talking about this with the therapist is necessary. Beeing heard with no judgement. Be seen by other with compassion makes us feel safe.
Connect with the present moment. Connect with our body in this moment, in this place we are right now helps us finding the way out.
facts, faith, or a combination
By sharing my experience, strength and hope through the recognition that we are all wounded healers……
First of all to admit it to myself which I think I do too seldom. Then to stay with it and try and go against it, depending on what it is I am afraid of.
I’m a Christian
I pray..but lately thru my work struggles as a social worker and Mom of 5 boys with my husband I struggle with fear ..
it’s kinda taken over my soul at night
I have ovarian cancer and am so fearful it will return. I completed six sessions of chemo and had surgery a year ago and so far, all is well. But the oncologists say it is aggressive and was caught late so it is vey likely to return. Each three months when I have a check up, I am on pins and needles anticipating a bad result. This results in fear that I will experience pain that I cannot manage and death. I have a wonderful family and very good friends to help me, but I continue to be anxious. I do meditate almost daily, do yoga, take walks, and meet with friends. I am well supported.
Investigating the fear instead of distracting myself from the fear really helps me.
Coming to the realization that life is uncertain and we don’t always have control of what is going to happen.
I also find walking in the forest, talking with a friend gets me through.
“Being scared but doing it anyway”
I understood recently that I’m numb. So I’m not really facing the phycological fear.
A kind somatic denial has become a false shield between me and being fully alive. I am managing my life with routine and distractions. Food, TV, walking, judgment, routines.
What helps a little is to admit to myself that I am feeling fear. I say prayers and ask God to be with me.
I was – till a few months back, was fearful of my son drifting away from me. I was so traumatised for several years, when the person he married treated us (my husband and me) with a lot of contempt; while at the same time exerting her sense of entitlement by demanding they live with us (this is not uncommon in India)… gradually the conflicts / unspoken tensions just blew up and I was gripped with a fear of losing my son and my two grandchildren. Joint living was not working out – so my husband and I moved out of Delhi and now live in Jaipur. But the fear persisted… till I started serious mindfulness practice. I have gained a lot from Tara Brach’s talks and guided meditations. I can now articulate my fear and feel more secure within myself.
Thanks so much for your talk on fear, Tara.
One thing that I’ve been trying to keep in mind is the serenity prayer, because when I’m anxious, worried, and fearful, I realize that I’m trying to control things that I have no control over. When I can remember this prayer, it can be a relief to know that I can let go of things that I really don’t need to worry about.
Also, I have been doing yoga Nidra guided meditations at bedtime. The more I sleep well, the lest fear I have overall.
It’s definitely an ongoing practice to keep fear in its healthy place.
Thanks again,
Claudia
My meditation practice
By pushing at the edges and doing what I’m afraid of. Its much more complex than that. I find it hard to do but im learning
Talking with a trusted friend, meditating, reminding myself that emotions come and go and that, however fearful I feel, the intensity will pass. Maybe that last one is a coping mechanism that only postpones facing my fears?
Allowing it in with curiosity – viscerally sensing it and seeing it as the pure sensation it is, and slowly, without shame, inquiring into its deeper message.
At my best, I greet fear: Hello, I see you’re here…again. Please sit next to me. It’s okay. We’ll get through this.
Half an hour ago–we’re on a brief vacation– I moved to get out of bed after having risen earlier and showered. The room spun wildly. I was able to lie back down, frightened because I knew what had just happened. My benign positional vertigo had returned when I thought it had left. So now I must brush up on the treatment I can do with spouse’s help. Looking forward to Tara’s next talk on chronic anxiety❤️🤗
Counting colors
Deep breathing while focusing on the present, the now.
Not wanting fear or anxiety to prevent me doing what I want to do. I also try to dismiss my thoughts about fear
deep breathing meditation and yoga
I work with it somatically, through the body, as a qigong instructor and also, soon to be an IFS practitioner, I use the IFS model. Fear is a part of ourselves and we work to understand it and unburden that part.
Feeling grounded whether through yoga or just breathing lying on the floor for a few minutes
the Deep brain reorienting approach is what helps this therapist with client’s fear. You may want to check it out – deepbrainreorienting.com. What you mentioned about breathe from the tension area is a big part of this approach. Frank Corrigan is the creator of this DBR shock releasing and processing method.
I highly recommend it! Thank you, Tara for sharing and spreading your wisdom across this planet!
I tell them that you only learn and become better by trying and going through events. If you do not live anything, you do not learn or grow. Either you succeed or you learn, you never lose.
By bearing it, facing it, embracing it, accepting it
Talking about fear definitely helps me face my fears. Bringing light to my fears is the beginning stages for me to acknowledge that they are real and a part of who I am. Talking about my fears also helps me to accept my fears and to realize that I have the same fears that most everyone has. This helps me to not feel alone. Once I feel not alone, this gives me a sense of courage to go deeper into understanding the basis of my fears and work through them. Talks like yours, are a welcome gateway and I am so appreciative.
grounding myself, noticing what’s happening in my thoughts, body and emotions, allowing the feelings, bringing self compassion and kindness to them
Thank you Tara for this much-needed topic. God bless you.
Praying & surrendering my anxiety to God. Placing it at His feet. Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV) 6) Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7) And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
to accept the fear
I ask them,” if that thing you fear actually happened, what would it mean about you?” Usually they can find the faulty core belief that is hiding under the fear, and I guide them to say statements of truth, which begins to heal the lie in the faulty core belief.
Thank you so much Tara. First, really allowing myself to become aware and honestly admit that fear is present (and proceeding with kindness towards myself). I am so often dissociated from my own feelings that reconnecting to authenticity is key- finding my body, taking a moment to see what emotion(s) are here. Then getting curious… where does this move or sit in the body? Is it linked to anything in particular in my life circumstance? All the while just letting it BE what it is – not trying to contain it or override it. Usually that is all that is needed, this full allowing – often an insight bubbles up from this inquiry that is so useful. <3
I think what helps me the most is recently I’ve been accepting that part of myself, being compassionate to the part of me that feels fearful. I used to try to push myself to ignore the fear and get rid of it by not listening to it but that didnt really seem to heal it. Now I’m being kind and just doing small gentle steps outside my comfort zone to stretch myself. It feels much more doable and I notice myself seeing the fear and often deciding I dont need to hold back because of it.
Understanding of its origins
I have been following you, Tara, for some time, so what I do usually is recognize it, and then begin to focus on my breath and where I’m feeling the fear in my body. Then I usually bring compassion to it and keep breathing. I have Meniere’s disease and sometimes the “attacks” are pretty scary because my eyes shake and I get really sick. I can’t do anything but lie very still and wait for it to pass. Last time it happened I really focused on going deep into my self like being in the ocean and waiting for the storm to pass. It really helped.
Stopping, bringging the observer, focusing on my breathing and /or hummimg until I have been able to go slower.Over and over and over again.
Thank you for excellent reminder. I am going to listen again for 2nd time. Very useful and timing is perfect.
I don’t really know how to. My faith helps some but I have been this way for so long I can never seem to stop the cycle.