I started having anxiety attacks 2 years ago. They are usually physical for me. They happen in my sleep. I practice yoga, meditation, breath work. But this doesn’t help. I had to start taking Ecitalopram now I can’t stop because when I do the panic attacks are worse than before. I wake up in the middle of the night confused, disassociated and paranoid. I don’t know how to make this better. I don’t know what my triggers are. I wouldn’t mind getting help or a referral. 💗✨
Clare Hastings, Nursing, District of Columbia, DC, USAsays
I am a volunteer health counselor within an aging community. Fear is rather an intimate topic and often does not easily come up as part of what people are facing. I would be interested in learning about cues that fear is a component of what people are experiencing and ways to move that into supportive conversation.
I’ve begun preparing first thing in the morning to have a silent, meditating time of just getting in touch with myself, grounding into myself and doing relaxing breathing for a few minutes as I focus on being alive and peaceful and present. I name many stabilizers around me and remind myself that they will still be with me all day. Then I think through how to prepare myself with my “treasure tools”, that are part of me and with me, and I imagine going into the day and having “surprises” happen and reminding myself to breathe and remember all my treasure tools are stable and that this surprise, or shock, or trauma will eventually be temporary. Then I feel safe going into my day.
mark howell, Another Field, Arlington, TX, USAsays
I don’t believe I’ve ever faced my fear. I’ve known it was here, and that fighting it was empowering it. It will be interesting to allow it and see what happens.
It is helpful for me to let the fear coexist with other emotions. To confirm and validate the fear and at the same time be able to feel joy for something else. Fear then gets freedom of movement.
Dear Tara,
I’ve discovered immense comfort and relief from anxiety through mindfulness exercises. I find your techniques to be fantastic, especially when it comes to meditation and affirmations that help me confront my fears when I recognize them. I make it a point to practice one of your specific mindfulness exercises focused on fear if I detect it, and it truly makes a difference. Thank you so much, and all the best to you!
Ilene Beninson, Social Work, ANN ARBOR, MI, USAsays
acceptance of one’s reality.working with hospice patients, I’ve encouraged them to make a choice. taking your last breath without anger, denial, fear, etc. is a choice. deciding to accept the reality that you are closer to that last breath, to the fact that we all have a ‘last day’ as part of the deal when given the gift of life, is essential. a good death is possible. a peaceful death is a choice we all have.
Honestly I have to sit with each thought and I Cypher through and ask myself if this is really a realistic idea/thought .. trauma creates more fear and I lately I often have to seek spirituality (Jesus, buddha teachings in order to get any relief) deep breathing, and diligently keep it up
C. J. Craig, Teacher, South Kingstown , RI, USAsays
I’m only recently beginning to wake in the night with fears about my future. I’ve been gone from the United States 🇺🇸 for the past 17 years, I’m overwhelmed with the decisiveness that surrounds me … I’m so glad you’re offering this course ~ I desperately need it … Namasté Tara
Using breath work, connecting with the body through touch, self compassion and giving the fear a visual expression through art. Also identifying the script decisions and beliefs around the fear, and how they manifest in the body. Processing traumatic experiences linked to the fear.
Thank you Tara, I find checking anchors and stabilisers key to saying hello to my fears. My breath, sense of me as an organism responding flexibly from Dorsal Vagal, sympathetic and held by Ventral Vagal to navigate co-regulate and continue to learn what was layered in me and notice how I respond in the present. Experiencing the joyous homeostasis when its there with glee knowing that life is tough and hard to bare experiencing the suffering and challenges we can get stuck amongst and pausing with creativity and wisdom to not get too lost.
My own way of facing fear is to step into it and try to do the things that feel frightening for me. I do not mean extreme sports like bunch jumping,I will never do that! I mean everyday fears and worries. Breathing and mindfulness help and literally stepping into and not avoiding a “fearful” everyday worry or anxiety helps me to diminish it. Starting small and testing myself has helped to allow me to see and feel the sense that the fear, as a thought, is much bigger than the reality.
I’m introducing my clients to neuro dynamic breathe work with Michael Stone. Some clients cannot stay with mindfulness long enough to find the fear and stay with it. In this work you don’t have to. It happens spontaneously in your body. It’s a bit scary at first but Michael is amazing in preparing people. I think it is next level mindfulness. Just my thoughts tho. Love Francine. Ps. Tara you have been my life saver for several years – I love you voice and your podcasts and listen virtually daily. You are an amazing spiritual leader and human being. Thank you xxx
If I or my clients are conscious about the body responses to different fearful situations or traumas then the verbal conversation can start more openly and inner transformative process could slowly release from unnecessary old reactions of fears. Such a process opens the door to feel and then comes the change. To live a fearless life when you were thought to fear is a delicate and slow process. Still the instinctual fear who keeps the life should be also differentiated from the other fear.
Paula Pam Wainwright, Other, Asheville, NC, USAsays
First of all thank you Tara for this generous offering. I imagine what helps me face fear is to imagine that my deepest heart is large enough to “hold it”, have a relationship with it.
Recognizing it, putting my hand on my heart, reminding myself it’s ok to have it and that there are reasons for it, being with it, supporting myself as close as i can.
Margaret Babcock, Another Field, Walnut Creek, CA, USAsays
I’ve heard it before, but now I feel like the victim of a cascade of issues, personal and otherwise. I don’t have clients. It’s all I can do to keep walking this path. Thank you!
I am struggling with PTSD and the fear resulting. What helps is exercise, guided meditation and the support of friends and community! I look forward to learning more tools to bring back to the Rare Mamas i work with!
Thanks Tara! What have helped me is definetly to breath and be aware of how fear feels inside my body and to watch my thoughts as clouds moving in the sky.
As you mentioned Tara, facing the fear. Letting the fear stay in the presence of a therapeutic and/or a safe environment, validating the fear and at the same time acknowledge that sometimes the fear is not as big as we think. Having some key words or a phrase that we can repeat to ourselves when we feel the fear, that help us know that although it is real that we feel the fear; we are here, well and breathing.
Alcohol helps me face fear in social situations; a silent mantra in work situations; the inhale and deep exhale of breath when faced with anxious thoughts when alone; reminding myself that I am doing everything/the best I can when facing the fear of financial difficulty/insecurity. Remembering that fear stands for false expectations appearing real and not to (excessively) worry about things that might not (and usually don’t) happen.
My mentoring work involves listening deeply to their fears and stories both personally and in their work. I find they experience a sense of safety which enables them to access their own wisdom and intuition which supports them to be gentler and more present to their fears and their insights.
I find with both my clients and myself, that when we have an understanding of our basic goodness, and can distinguish that from the shame and fears of traumatic identification, the heart can breath and open again. So by gaining a knowing of our inherent worth we can become courageous. This in turn let’s us face fear and other challenging feelings and circumstances.
I started having anxiety attacks 2 years ago. They are usually physical for me. They happen in my sleep. I practice yoga, meditation, breath work. But this doesn’t help. I had to start taking Ecitalopram now I can’t stop because when I do the panic attacks are worse than before. I wake up in the middle of the night confused, disassociated and paranoid. I don’t know how to make this better. I don’t know what my triggers are. I wouldn’t mind getting help or a referral. 💗✨
I am a volunteer health counselor within an aging community. Fear is rather an intimate topic and often does not easily come up as part of what people are facing. I would be interested in learning about cues that fear is a component of what people are experiencing and ways to move that into supportive conversation.
I’ve begun preparing first thing in the morning to have a silent, meditating time of just getting in touch with myself, grounding into myself and doing relaxing breathing for a few minutes as I focus on being alive and peaceful and present. I name many stabilizers around me and remind myself that they will still be with me all day. Then I think through how to prepare myself with my “treasure tools”, that are part of me and with me, and I imagine going into the day and having “surprises” happen and reminding myself to breathe and remember all my treasure tools are stable and that this surprise, or shock, or trauma will eventually be temporary. Then I feel safe going into my day.
I don’t believe I’ve ever faced my fear. I’ve known it was here, and that fighting it was empowering it. It will be interesting to allow it and see what happens.
Using grounding techniques to soothe oneself
Ways to more mindfully care for others & care for myself.
Recalling, as an act of mindfulness, that fear almost always derives from the past or projected future, not from here and now.
It is helpful for me to let the fear coexist with other emotions. To confirm and validate the fear and at the same time be able to feel joy for something else. Fear then gets freedom of movement.
Kind regards, Charlotta
Mindfull presence
Mindful breath
Allowing everything to be there as it is
Nurturing
Beeing aware of what happens in my body
Breathing deeply, guided meditations.
What helps face fear – connecting with others and being honest that I am afraid or unsure, knowing I don’t have to be alone with that feeling.
Dear Tara,
I’ve discovered immense comfort and relief from anxiety through mindfulness exercises. I find your techniques to be fantastic, especially when it comes to meditation and affirmations that help me confront my fears when I recognize them. I make it a point to practice one of your specific mindfulness exercises focused on fear if I detect it, and it truly makes a difference. Thank you so much, and all the best to you!
To face
Embrace.the fear arising.
Breathe , feel, relax, allow
To express in writing and drawing fear is useful
acceptance of one’s reality.working with hospice patients, I’ve encouraged them to make a choice. taking your last breath without anger, denial, fear, etc. is a choice. deciding to accept the reality that you are closer to that last breath, to the fact that we all have a ‘last day’ as part of the deal when given the gift of life, is essential. a good death is possible. a peaceful death is a choice we all have.
Honestly I have to sit with each thought and I Cypher through and ask myself if this is really a realistic idea/thought .. trauma creates more fear and I lately I often have to seek spirituality (Jesus, buddha teachings in order to get any relief) deep breathing, and diligently keep it up
Breath, body, stillness, movement
Thank you for sharing your wisdom🕉️🙏✨💫
My fear is paralyzing.
I’m only recently beginning to wake in the night with fears about my future. I’ve been gone from the United States 🇺🇸 for the past 17 years, I’m overwhelmed with the decisiveness that surrounds me … I’m so glad you’re offering this course ~ I desperately need it … Namasté Tara
Identifying where fear is present or driving my actions and reactions
Using breath work, connecting with the body through touch, self compassion and giving the fear a visual expression through art. Also identifying the script decisions and beliefs around the fear, and how they manifest in the body. Processing traumatic experiences linked to the fear.
Naming the fear in the present moment.
I am helped by my understanding from experience that I an greater than any fear I might have.
Practising living in the present moment … mindfullness, breath awareness, meditation.
Practicing mindfulness is great, doing that with a professional is even better.
To me, it’s a good strategy to regulate the fear.
Thank you Tara, I find checking anchors and stabilisers key to saying hello to my fears. My breath, sense of me as an organism responding flexibly from Dorsal Vagal, sympathetic and held by Ventral Vagal to navigate co-regulate and continue to learn what was layered in me and notice how I respond in the present. Experiencing the joyous homeostasis when its there with glee knowing that life is tough and hard to bare experiencing the suffering and challenges we can get stuck amongst and pausing with creativity and wisdom to not get too lost.
Giving myself permission to experience my feelings helps to move to a different place.
My own way of facing fear is to step into it and try to do the things that feel frightening for me. I do not mean extreme sports like bunch jumping,I will never do that! I mean everyday fears and worries. Breathing and mindfulness help and literally stepping into and not avoiding a “fearful” everyday worry or anxiety helps me to diminish it. Starting small and testing myself has helped to allow me to see and feel the sense that the fear, as a thought, is much bigger than the reality.
Staying curious is very helpful,
I love it
Breathing into the body while fear is there is a courageous wise loving gesture and transformative in complex ways
Bottom up
I’m introducing my clients to neuro dynamic breathe work with Michael Stone. Some clients cannot stay with mindfulness long enough to find the fear and stay with it. In this work you don’t have to. It happens spontaneously in your body. It’s a bit scary at first but Michael is amazing in preparing people. I think it is next level mindfulness. Just my thoughts tho. Love Francine. Ps. Tara you have been my life saver for several years – I love you voice and your podcasts and listen virtually daily. You are an amazing spiritual leader and human being. Thank you xxx
If I or my clients are conscious about the body responses to different fearful situations or traumas then the verbal conversation can start more openly and inner transformative process could slowly release from unnecessary old reactions of fears. Such a process opens the door to feel and then comes the change. To live a fearless life when you were thought to fear is a delicate and slow process. Still the instinctual fear who keeps the life should be also differentiated from the other fear.
First of all thank you Tara for this generous offering. I imagine what helps me face fear is to imagine that my deepest heart is large enough to “hold it”, have a relationship with it.
Connecting with my breath.
Being curious & self-compassion
Recognizing it, putting my hand on my heart, reminding myself it’s ok to have it and that there are reasons for it, being with it, supporting myself as close as i can.
I’ve heard it before, but now I feel like the victim of a cascade of issues, personal and otherwise. I don’t have clients. It’s all I can do to keep walking this path. Thank you!
I am struggling with PTSD and the fear resulting. What helps is exercise, guided meditation and the support of friends and community! I look forward to learning more tools to bring back to the Rare Mamas i work with!
Thanks Tara! What have helped me is definetly to breath and be aware of how fear feels inside my body and to watch my thoughts as clouds moving in the sky.
As you mentioned Tara, facing the fear. Letting the fear stay in the presence of a therapeutic and/or a safe environment, validating the fear and at the same time acknowledge that sometimes the fear is not as big as we think. Having some key words or a phrase that we can repeat to ourselves when we feel the fear, that help us know that although it is real that we feel the fear; we are here, well and breathing.
Alcohol helps me face fear in social situations; a silent mantra in work situations; the inhale and deep exhale of breath when faced with anxious thoughts when alone; reminding myself that I am doing everything/the best I can when facing the fear of financial difficulty/insecurity. Remembering that fear stands for false expectations appearing real and not to (excessively) worry about things that might not (and usually don’t) happen.
My mentoring work involves listening deeply to their fears and stories both personally and in their work. I find they experience a sense of safety which enables them to access their own wisdom and intuition which supports them to be gentler and more present to their fears and their insights.
Notice-Welcome-Feel-Love
Recognising that the fears we don’t face become our limits.
Knowing that dread often means I care about something.
My practice of breathing, recognizing that fear is present, investigating the reason why I am fearful and working to move through it.
Connecting to the breath
Breathing
Recognizing it, not reacting to it, acting while it is present
Knowing I have friends to discuss it with.
I find with both my clients and myself, that when we have an understanding of our basic goodness, and can distinguish that from the shame and fears of traumatic identification, the heart can breath and open again. So by gaining a knowing of our inherent worth we can become courageous. This in turn let’s us face fear and other challenging feelings and circumstances.