What has helped me a lot, and the people
I advise, is to think in the worst possible scenario. This helps people consider that even when things go wrong, life can go on without fatal consequences.
If it’s severe I may take a small dose of Diazepam. Then I’m able to think clearly about staying with it, concentrating upon my breathing and knowing that it will pass. Hard not to be fearful of it.
Breathe, feel my feet on the ground, put my hand on my chest
say to myself: “stay with it, stay here, so far so good.”
If it’s not too bad i might say to myself: “ this too will pass”
When I feel fear arising, especially upon waking, I’ve learned to avoid analyzing and storytelling, to approach it gently, breathe slowly and deeply, and just be with it, with curiosity. I often find that it disperses too quickly, and I feel slightly disappointed!
brenda campbell, Another Field, Mount Vernon , NY, USAsays
more than anything, I want to be able to model this behavior for my son. to teach him to liberate himself from his thoughts and fears and not be paralyzed by them. “your thoughts are not real” and they shouldn’t define you.
Pema Chödrön‘s books and teachings.
Tara‘s and Jack‘s guidance and their impressing tirelessness.
Sitting in silence without trying to get anything out of it.
Spending as much time as possible in nature.
The feeling world is in the body, and healing takes place in the awareness of the body. We are often stuck in our minds and thoughts, which increases fear and stress.
My primary practice involves bringing my awareness into the body, primarily the stomach area where I feel stress, letting the awareness be there without thoughts, and repeating this practice.
What helps me to face fear is to notice the fear(s), the habitual patterns, and then try to stay calm, by employing various “tools” … qigong, meditation, tapping, work in the garden, a visit with my cat, making a healthy juice or meal. I find that if I take good care of myself, the fear can dissipate.
I awaken with fear, and engage a morning ritual of meditation, reading practices, and journal, yoga walking in nature. Can better enjoy day until next wall of seeming insanity I cannot understand hits, and it usually does. Practice is my mantra.
I might be a practitioner one day. feeling love for my family and being in Nature and feeling close to God and Nature Spirits helps me to heal from fear. sending you much love and gratitude, Christina Bell 💕🌈
I have been working as a therapist for more than fifty years. Thank your these helpful videos. I also practice Aikido and use the energy principles I have learned over the years. Instead of running or confronting head on in conflict, we step towards, but “off the line,” pivot so we are touching our “attacker,” i.e. connect with the fear, then we bring to a peaceful resolution. I find these physical and mind practices particularly helpful for men who either escape into drugs, alcohol, or other short-term relief, or confront others with irritability and anger.
Jed Diamond
It is very difficult for me to address the fear that arises from the self-doubt of who I am, for me it is a particularly difficult fear to accept. Thinking that there is a space in me with a heart without fear will be helpful to me, very grateful Tara. It can also help me to think that there is an adult part of me caring for and embracing my most fearful and childish part, so that this gift of living is not lost.
Trying to be “in the moment” can sometimes help. Knowing I am here, now, alive with the troubled folks and situations in my life — but still here. A few deep breaths. Solitude in nature. And, yes, tuning out (which I do know is not good).
I mainly used to freeze in the face of fear…but now I try to put fear “next to me” and carry on with the task at hand anyway. I try to love myself through my fears.
I do IT myself and teach my clients to do RAIN. For me the A-Acceptance ist most crucial (not only with fear). To be with what is, helps and really makes a difference.
Or: let IT come, let IT be, let IT Go.
i always tell my clients that courage is not the absence of fear but taking the right steps ( even if baby steps ) despite the fear. doing breathing exercises and reminding yourself of why this is important to you helps both me and my clients
Donna Farmer, Counseling, Mount Pleasant , SC, USAsays
3 slow in breathe with longer out breathes. Putting myself in egg of light. Tara always has meaningful teachings. Learning to separate my body from the emotion.
I find the biggest thing that helps me with facing fear, is talking about it. I used to just push it down and try and think about something else, but of course it would come right back to the surface and face me and push me to to respond to it. What works for me is to talk to someone else, someone that I am close to so they understand the situation and don’t question me constantly. I find just to get it off my chest, it makes a huge difference to me and the way my day goes after this. Sometimes to talk about specifics and also sometimes to talk about certain ways that I can get away from the subject and the fear that has been on my mind, and knowing that it can be gone away. Freedom from fear IS possible!
I’m going through a move in less than 30 days to a new town. I must say having a daily practice and listening to so many talks from you and others, it’s become an opportunity, once I settle in, to focus even more so on my spiritual growth. I’m downsizing due to financial reasons and could look at it as a failure but instead I’m really beginning to trust myself. Am so grateful for who you are! You have helped me navigate difficult times at 64 and living on a fixed income. Yay you! I feel so blessed and nothing can take my inner peace
Josephine Navarro, Teacher, Bay Shore, NY, USAsays
Befriending fear is not something that I would have thought on my own, but it is something I am willing to explore and share with others who are open to a spiritual way of being. Thank you Tara. Your talks and books have been very inspiring for me.
What helps me face fear:
– I think about my objective to achieve. If I have to do a presentation in a meeting, I feel fear when I’m preparing it. When I have finished preparation, I think of whta will help me talk fearlessly. As I believe in God, I remind myself that I have Jesus to support me and should not be afraid of anyone except God. Before I leave home, I have already told myself I have to talk without fear because Jesus will be in help.
– Another tip that helps me face fera is that I tell myself that nobody masters the topic than me who have prepared it; so I tell myself I should not be afraid of delivering my presentation and if there are questions I’m sure I will be able to answer them because I’m well prepared.
olga more, Student, San Juan Capistrano, CA, USAsays
LOVE. a reminder that I was Created for Love, in Love and by Love, Love vaster than an emotion but Creation itself.
My faith in Love, is the source of my healing.
I remember all the difficult/ fearful things I have achieved in my life. I use my inner voice to self soothe and reassure and I take one step at a time.
Having faced the fear I acknowledge to myself what I have done and allow myself to feel joy and pride
Thank you Tara for providing these helpful and insightful videos.
When I feel fear I remind myself that I am a child of God; and as such I am eqiupped with God-qualities. There is no power greater than my God. I invite the fear to “By all means come along with me, but remember I’m in charge.”
In other words, ‘I feel the fear and do it any way.’
Namaste
Nuala
A deeper overview of my overall life and seeing how I have done so many very hard, scary, complicated and self-boundary pushing things over my 70 years. I breathe and talk with myself about stepping in and giving it a try. And a sense that I will, before long, be looking back at the thing I feared. It will now be filling me, be added to who I am. Another piece of the complex being who is me.
What has helped me a lot, and the people
I advise, is to think in the worst possible scenario. This helps people consider that even when things go wrong, life can go on without fatal consequences.
If it’s severe I may take a small dose of Diazepam. Then I’m able to think clearly about staying with it, concentrating upon my breathing and knowing that it will pass. Hard not to be fearful of it.
Breathing and using RAIN to stay present
Breathe, feel my feet on the ground, put my hand on my chest
say to myself: “stay with it, stay here, so far so good.”
If it’s not too bad i might say to myself: “ this too will pass”
I pray and rely on the power of my faith to bring clarity
Getting hold of the Mind and saying this is not now only a projection.Is it true at this moment?x
Joan
When I feel fear arising, especially upon waking, I’ve learned to avoid analyzing and storytelling, to approach it gently, breathe slowly and deeply, and just be with it, with curiosity. I often find that it disperses too quickly, and I feel slightly disappointed!
R.A.I.N has changed my life and my clients. Thank you!
EFT (Tapping) has been very helpful for many clients to help ease their discomfort sitting with fear/anxiety.
more than anything, I want to be able to model this behavior for my son. to teach him to liberate himself from his thoughts and fears and not be paralyzed by them. “your thoughts are not real” and they shouldn’t define you.
Pema Chödrön‘s books and teachings.
Tara‘s and Jack‘s guidance and their impressing tirelessness.
Sitting in silence without trying to get anything out of it.
Spending as much time as possible in nature.
The feeling world is in the body, and healing takes place in the awareness of the body. We are often stuck in our minds and thoughts, which increases fear and stress.
My primary practice involves bringing my awareness into the body, primarily the stomach area where I feel stress, letting the awareness be there without thoughts, and repeating this practice.
My daily practice of meditation and creative activities. Creativity helps me see myself in many forms and encourages me to believe I am enough.
Mornings and evenings are a great time to reflect and meditate to put everything in perspective and minimize fear.
What helps me to face fear is to notice the fear(s), the habitual patterns, and then try to stay calm, by employing various “tools” … qigong, meditation, tapping, work in the garden, a visit with my cat, making a healthy juice or meal. I find that if I take good care of myself, the fear can dissipate.
RAIN helps me a lot, Thank you 🙏🏻
-tonglen
-meditation
-Pema Chodron’s book “The Places that Scare You”
-Tara’s book “Radical Acceptance”
thanks for your generosity!
I awaken with fear, and engage a morning ritual of meditation, reading practices, and journal, yoga walking in nature. Can better enjoy day until next wall of seeming insanity I cannot understand hits, and it usually does. Practice is my mantra.
I might be a practitioner one day. feeling love for my family and being in Nature and feeling close to God and Nature Spirits helps me to heal from fear. sending you much love and gratitude, Christina Bell 💕🌈
Identifying core roots of shame
I have been working as a therapist for more than fifty years. Thank your these helpful videos. I also practice Aikido and use the energy principles I have learned over the years. Instead of running or confronting head on in conflict, we step towards, but “off the line,” pivot so we are touching our “attacker,” i.e. connect with the fear, then we bring to a peaceful resolution. I find these physical and mind practices particularly helpful for men who either escape into drugs, alcohol, or other short-term relief, or confront others with irritability and anger.
Jed Diamond
It is very difficult for me to address the fear that arises from the self-doubt of who I am, for me it is a particularly difficult fear to accept. Thinking that there is a space in me with a heart without fear will be helpful to me, very grateful Tara. It can also help me to think that there is an adult part of me caring for and embracing my most fearful and childish part, so that this gift of living is not lost.
Trying to be “in the moment” can sometimes help. Knowing I am here, now, alive with the troubled folks and situations in my life — but still here. A few deep breaths. Solitude in nature. And, yes, tuning out (which I do know is not good).
my fear is what is lying ahead
I mainly used to freeze in the face of fear…but now I try to put fear “next to me” and carry on with the task at hand anyway. I try to love myself through my fears.
I do IT myself and teach my clients to do RAIN. For me the A-Acceptance ist most crucial (not only with fear). To be with what is, helps and really makes a difference.
Or: let IT come, let IT be, let IT Go.
i always tell my clients that courage is not the absence of fear but taking the right steps ( even if baby steps ) despite the fear. doing breathing exercises and reminding yourself of why this is important to you helps both me and my clients
I try to stay present in the now and pay attention to my grounding. Conscious breathing also helps with this.
3 slow in breathe with longer out breathes. Putting myself in egg of light. Tara always has meaningful teachings. Learning to separate my body from the emotion.
When I feel fearful, I often freeze. I avoid the fear if I can. But anxiety can take hold & then I find it hard to deal with the problem.
I find the biggest thing that helps me with facing fear, is talking about it. I used to just push it down and try and think about something else, but of course it would come right back to the surface and face me and push me to to respond to it. What works for me is to talk to someone else, someone that I am close to so they understand the situation and don’t question me constantly. I find just to get it off my chest, it makes a huge difference to me and the way my day goes after this. Sometimes to talk about specifics and also sometimes to talk about certain ways that I can get away from the subject and the fear that has been on my mind, and knowing that it can be gone away. Freedom from fear IS possible!
RAIN
I’m going through a move in less than 30 days to a new town. I must say having a daily practice and listening to so many talks from you and others, it’s become an opportunity, once I settle in, to focus even more so on my spiritual growth. I’m downsizing due to financial reasons and could look at it as a failure but instead I’m really beginning to trust myself. Am so grateful for who you are! You have helped me navigate difficult times at 64 and living on a fixed income. Yay you! I feel so blessed and nothing can take my inner peace
I concentrate on the present moment.
I tell myself itll be ok in the end.
I don’t have a good way to work with fear. Mostly I shut down.
Befriending fear is not something that I would have thought on my own, but it is something I am willing to explore and share with others who are open to a spiritual way of being. Thank you Tara. Your talks and books have been very inspiring for me.
I am not sure.
Having a safe space to talk about their fears.
What helps me face fear:
– I think about my objective to achieve. If I have to do a presentation in a meeting, I feel fear when I’m preparing it. When I have finished preparation, I think of whta will help me talk fearlessly. As I believe in God, I remind myself that I have Jesus to support me and should not be afraid of anyone except God. Before I leave home, I have already told myself I have to talk without fear because Jesus will be in help.
– Another tip that helps me face fera is that I tell myself that nobody masters the topic than me who have prepared it; so I tell myself I should not be afraid of delivering my presentation and if there are questions I’m sure I will be able to answer them because I’m well prepared.
ok
For me, God has so much love, in fact, all loving, forgiving, so that I needn’t fear God because that Source of love wants all the best for me.
Having a safe relationship together based on empathy, acceptance, and validation.
Thank you so much for sharing.
I use Breathwork sessions for me and my clients in order to accept then transmute fear.
Thanks again
i take all as God’s will …Then all fears goes through the window
LOVE. a reminder that I was Created for Love, in Love and by Love, Love vaster than an emotion but Creation itself.
My faith in Love, is the source of my healing.
Trusting the inner nature that flows through and nurtures all living things.
I will use non duality .God is all….so God is doing all these crimes n we hv to accept…just trust…dont try to know why…we cant understand
I remember all the difficult/ fearful things I have achieved in my life. I use my inner voice to self soothe and reassure and I take one step at a time.
Having faced the fear I acknowledge to myself what I have done and allow myself to feel joy and pride
Breathing exercises along with positive self imagery
Examining my thoughts about the situation and arriving at a more rational alternative.
Watching others perform the same activity and imagining myself doing the same.
Thank you Tara for providing these helpful and insightful videos.
When I feel fear I remind myself that I am a child of God; and as such I am eqiupped with God-qualities. There is no power greater than my God. I invite the fear to “By all means come along with me, but remember I’m in charge.”
In other words, ‘I feel the fear and do it any way.’
Namaste
Nuala
A deeper overview of my overall life and seeing how I have done so many very hard, scary, complicated and self-boundary pushing things over my 70 years. I breathe and talk with myself about stepping in and giving it a try. And a sense that I will, before long, be looking back at the thing I feared. It will now be filling me, be added to who I am. Another piece of the complex being who is me.