Thanks Tara. I know that practicing mindfulness meditation is probably the most powerful tool for calming my mind and heart, but there are times I am so caught up in a situation that I just don’t feel able to sit still, at least for a while. It’s an old habit, I know, which comes from an extremely disrupted childhood. I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD and have worked with this a lot, but it’s still, at particularly stressful times, difficult for me. One of the other things that seems to help at times is to write. I’m writing my life-story and acknowledging those places where trauma set in. It’s not entirely gone, but I know my present situation is better than it was.
Thank you. I read recently that people live in a place of either love or fear, and their decisions and choices are directly affected by this often subconscious mode of living. Certainly, I’d like to think I’m always in a place of love. That that is what directs my life and my choices, but in truth, I realize that often my choices are from a place of fear. This is something I’m aware of and work on being more conscious of as I strive to live more authenticly, wholeheartedly and in a place of love.
Thank you again, I look forward to your next clip.
Best,
Binah Bindell
Not sure! Taking time to think about what I need to say. Mulling it around in my mind and then just going for it. This could take 10 minutes or two days. I have tried to avoid confrontation all my life. Now I need to step up and move on in my life and work place.
I try to recognize that I am not alone with fears and trying to deal with them. I am not the only person going through this.
From your talk, I wrote down “inner vulnerability needs acceptance” – this resonated with me.
I am looking forward to Part 2
Thank you
Staying present in the moment by exercises such as grounding, e.g., standing like a tree.
Box breathing helps in the short term.
Building a reservoir of peaceful, comforting mental resources to call on such as being in your memory in a calm, safe place or with a person that allows the fear to dissipate.
Using Byron Katie’s four questions about reality to test the probability of your fear materializing.
And, of course, there is the RAIN practice that you have advocated.
I try to recognize that I am not alone in my fears and in trying to deal with them.
From your talk I wrote down – inner vulnerability needs acceptance. That resonated with me.
I am looking forward to part 2
Thank you
I find that visual imagery can be very helpful in facing fears, by seeing them in a more realistic light or seeing the thing feared as shrinking in size, or any image that can help the client realize that he/she has more power to choose a response rather than an old, obsolete reaction. Thank you for reminding us of some good old tried-and-true concepts.
A pioneer in this is Dr. Claire Weekes. She describes facing your fear as the first step to recovery.,
Face, Float, Accept and Let Time Pass- a process that allows one to overcome fear.
I am working hard on this process- letting time pass is a struggle. But all we have is time!
Knowing I am not alone and that God is with me helps me to face fear.
I believe God is Omnipresent and there is no where that I can go that God is not present. Faith in this Almighty Wise Source, the Creator of All that is Living infuses me with Peace. Knowing this Creator absolutely loves me also warms my heart and relieves me of many concerns and worries. Knowing I can allow feelings to be present and I can be with them fully, helps me to also receive the wisdom that each emotion has to offer me.
Thank you Sara for this video training!
What helps me face fear, is to break down what I am experiencing or feeling.
Looking for tension in my body, by tension and relaxation and feeling the difference, verbalizing what is present, connecting to my love for all mankind, and concrete steps I can take now.
Helping others, because in others I see myself.
wonderful insight that I see in other comments about setting boundaries with others as a primary tool- by verbalizing my love and gratitude to them.
‘When life is not working, try gratitude,’ expressed to them for all they provided.
I am grateful for the other comments.
Stepping back and making room for the fear and don’t be afraid to acknowledge it. Look for the reasons for the fear and mindfully look at those reasons that aren’t built on facts and challenge them. Then breathe through them. I love these videos!
Support from people surrounding me help me face fear, i feel. Stories that tell me about people that i know who went through similar challenges and overcame them also help me to deal with fear. On the other hand, i realize that my way to deal with fear is to freeze, that is why there is a lot of inertia in my behavior, for which i blame myself, and i’d love to learn to get past it.
Transformational Breath Work, EFT, Earthing, Mindfulness, Meditation, and being in Nature, all tools I turn to when I am feeling fear.
Knowing, this too will pass and I am safe right now.
I embrace how I want my world to feel and continue to educate myself.
Lots of gratitude!!
I’ve recently been sitting with the fear instead of seeking to be rid of it or blame myself for having it in the first place. I know it’s here to teach me something.
staying with the feeling, talking to the part that’s so threatened, listening with patience and compassion and allowing it to be with me as long as needed;
the fear, like all the other unwanted feelings, just wants to be heard, not abanndoned or rejected. That’s what helps me most. It feels like I am my own loving mom. Taking time for the “child” that’s there.
I am so grateful for all the programs that are free and so compassionate and helpful. I don’t have the ressources – until now – to pay for it.
I just want to thank you all.
Christa
Thank you, it helps me to get this help. Sometimes it takes a longer time to get the physical and emotional feelings and the thoughts accepted. Good not to press it and be in a hurry.
It is strange that lately I have been bombarded with fears, like a door has been openend, because of different circumstances this last year are coming over me.
It can be helpful to look at the history of how parents and siblings dealt with fear to understand why our reaction to fear is experienced in the way it is. This is also true in terms of looking at how fear is used by societal systems/institutions to manipulate people into following the “right” course of action or course of action that supports the status quo.
I try to focus on my breathing. Sama vritti helps me to pay attention to counting each inhale and exhale. Looking forward to the next class Tara! You are my daily teacher.
Support and care during their process, information about how fear works and how redirecting its power changes every thing.
Practical examples with stories of success laced with honesty of the energy and pain that may arise helps them believe that little steps add up to a whole new level of life and personal skill development.
I always wonder how fear and setting boundaries with others is related. Perhaps it is not, though I do wonder. Any thoughts and feelings about this, Tara?
Thank you for this video.
I listen to your webcasts daily. Mindfulness practice helps a lot to identify fear and where it manifests itself in the body. Learning about the brain in relation to neuroscience and how fear impacts stress & how to distress are wonderful tools. Thank you for insight and much deserve acknowledgement for the work you do in this area. Very much appreciated!!
I often become silent in meditation, remind myself that these uncertainties which I fear have often worked themselves out in my favour. I let go and trust that a way will be provided for me to see clearly and gain peace. I begin to focus on goodness there is around me; gratitude often takes over my spirit and I rest with hope.
Talking the situation over with a trusted friend or professional. Role playing the situation. Figuringing out why I’m having such difficulties with said situation.
Jealousy reminds me that fear needs my attention. Paying attention to the space that’s here and creating space that is safe enough allows me to begin opening to the fear body. Resistance so appealing as there are many distractions shiny bright objects! Gently refocus my attention you know the deal thanks looking forward to next one!
Slowing down and deepening my breath helps. Also, trying to pinpoint what the danger really is and if it’s imminent… doesn’t always allay the fear, but helps put it in perspective.
Awareness is my tool. I use labelling around the thoughts, emotions, bodily sensations and urges to open to my fears with kindness. Its hard work especially with those habitual thought patterns. But by writing down those habitual thoughts and following with a mediation I can bring perspective to what is really happening. On really tough days I try to find pleasure using my 5 senses in the present moment.
I give my clients recognition and praise for when they have already done this. I help them be in touch with their strengths and willingness and desire to move forward.
Thank you Tara
The old adage Of getting back on the horse. A feeling of being SAFE is crucial to facing a fear.
Making my environment soft and soothing helps as well as Sharing a short NON-Threating funny “stuck in fear “ episode that turned out very benificial.
Having something to compare the feelings has been a wonderful tool for me. When the Brain has no knowledge of what it is supposed to Think, Feel, Sense it has no foundation to build on.
It can take time to develop new Skills
A visualization helped one. She described her fear as a dust ball wad of lint and strings and dust with little stickers coming out of it like weeds have in the fall which stick to your clothes. She called it the pricklies. She’d say, Oh Pricklies, there you are.Come here. Sit down. You can be here too.
Thank you so much Tara for your endless love and wisdom. I listen to you almost every day for years now on podcast. You help me to face my fear. Walking, Yoga and feeling safe help me to face my fear. Cronic anxiety is in my life since my mother died when I was 17 and my father when I was 25. Now I am 53 and finally starting to understand my fear is part of me. I only have to face it and embrace it. Sometimes I have the courage to do so. But when I am too tired it is still very difficult to embrace my fear and my habbit is to flight. Love from The Netherlands, Karin
Centering self to welcome fear as Teacher, notice where it is in my body, allow it to be there and have a conversation with it. Thank you for your work – you have been part of a big life-change for me!
I look at what the worst case scenario could be & then after realizing I still will have my health & freedoms, I confidently & energetically move forward simply because my fears have been quashed.
Thanks Tara. I know that practicing mindfulness meditation is probably the most powerful tool for calming my mind and heart, but there are times I am so caught up in a situation that I just don’t feel able to sit still, at least for a while. It’s an old habit, I know, which comes from an extremely disrupted childhood. I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD and have worked with this a lot, but it’s still, at particularly stressful times, difficult for me. One of the other things that seems to help at times is to write. I’m writing my life-story and acknowledging those places where trauma set in. It’s not entirely gone, but I know my present situation is better than it was.
Thank you. I read recently that people live in a place of either love or fear, and their decisions and choices are directly affected by this often subconscious mode of living. Certainly, I’d like to think I’m always in a place of love. That that is what directs my life and my choices, but in truth, I realize that often my choices are from a place of fear. This is something I’m aware of and work on being more conscious of as I strive to live more authenticly, wholeheartedly and in a place of love.
Thank you again, I look forward to your next clip.
Best,
Binah Bindell
Not sure! Taking time to think about what I need to say. Mulling it around in my mind and then just going for it. This could take 10 minutes or two days. I have tried to avoid confrontation all my life. Now I need to step up and move on in my life and work place.
I try to recognize that I am not alone with fears and trying to deal with them. I am not the only person going through this.
From your talk, I wrote down “inner vulnerability needs acceptance” – this resonated with me.
I am looking forward to Part 2
Thank you
Staying present in the moment by exercises such as grounding, e.g., standing like a tree.
Box breathing helps in the short term.
Building a reservoir of peaceful, comforting mental resources to call on such as being in your memory in a calm, safe place or with a person that allows the fear to dissipate.
Using Byron Katie’s four questions about reality to test the probability of your fear materializing.
And, of course, there is the RAIN practice that you have advocated.
I try to recognize that I am not alone in my fears and in trying to deal with them.
From your talk I wrote down – inner vulnerability needs acceptance. That resonated with me.
I am looking forward to part 2
Thank you
Thank you Tara.
I use Mindfulness of breathing when I feel fear/anxiety Hijaces my system. Brings me back to the present moment and to my body.
Thank you Tara.
I use Mindfulness of breathing when I feel fear/anxiety Hijaces my system. Brings me back to the present moment and to my body.
I find that visual imagery can be very helpful in facing fears, by seeing them in a more realistic light or seeing the thing feared as shrinking in size, or any image that can help the client realize that he/she has more power to choose a response rather than an old, obsolete reaction. Thank you for reminding us of some good old tried-and-true concepts.
A pioneer in this is Dr. Claire Weekes. She describes facing your fear as the first step to recovery.,
Face, Float, Accept and Let Time Pass- a process that allows one to overcome fear.
I am working hard on this process- letting time pass is a struggle. But all we have is time!
Knowing I am not alone and that God is with me helps me to face fear.
I believe God is Omnipresent and there is no where that I can go that God is not present. Faith in this Almighty Wise Source, the Creator of All that is Living infuses me with Peace. Knowing this Creator absolutely loves me also warms my heart and relieves me of many concerns and worries. Knowing I can allow feelings to be present and I can be with them fully, helps me to also receive the wisdom that each emotion has to offer me.
Thank you Sara for this video training!
What helps me face fear, is to break down what I am experiencing or feeling.
Looking for tension in my body, by tension and relaxation and feeling the difference, verbalizing what is present, connecting to my love for all mankind, and concrete steps I can take now.
Helping others, because in others I see myself.
wonderful insight that I see in other comments about setting boundaries with others as a primary tool- by verbalizing my love and gratitude to them.
‘When life is not working, try gratitude,’ expressed to them for all they provided.
I am grateful for the other comments.
Stepping back and making room for the fear and don’t be afraid to acknowledge it. Look for the reasons for the fear and mindfully look at those reasons that aren’t built on facts and challenge them. Then breathe through them. I love these videos!
Support from people surrounding me help me face fear, i feel. Stories that tell me about people that i know who went through similar challenges and overcame them also help me to deal with fear. On the other hand, i realize that my way to deal with fear is to freeze, that is why there is a lot of inertia in my behavior, for which i blame myself, and i’d love to learn to get past it.
Transformational Breath Work, EFT, Earthing, Mindfulness, Meditation, and being in Nature, all tools I turn to when I am feeling fear.
Knowing, this too will pass and I am safe right now.
I embrace how I want my world to feel and continue to educate myself.
Lots of gratitude!!
To reflect on all I’ve overcome with gratitude. Being present, in the present.
I’ve recently been sitting with the fear instead of seeking to be rid of it or blame myself for having it in the first place. I know it’s here to teach me something.
Focus on being quiet with breath.
staying with the feeling, talking to the part that’s so threatened, listening with patience and compassion and allowing it to be with me as long as needed;
the fear, like all the other unwanted feelings, just wants to be heard, not abanndoned or rejected. That’s what helps me most. It feels like I am my own loving mom. Taking time for the “child” that’s there.
I am so grateful for all the programs that are free and so compassionate and helpful. I don’t have the ressources – until now – to pay for it.
I just want to thank you all.
Christa
Being aware of fears source and remembering its just a ride…..
Thank you, it helps me to get this help. Sometimes it takes a longer time to get the physical and emotional feelings and the thoughts accepted. Good not to press it and be in a hurry.
It is strange that lately I have been bombarded with fears, like a door has been openend, because of different circumstances this last year are coming over me.
It can be helpful to look at the history of how parents and siblings dealt with fear to understand why our reaction to fear is experienced in the way it is. This is also true in terms of looking at how fear is used by societal systems/institutions to manipulate people into following the “right” course of action or course of action that supports the status quo.
Clarity that comes from wisdom. Thank you
I try to focus on my breathing. Sama vritti helps me to pay attention to counting each inhale and exhale. Looking forward to the next class Tara! You are my daily teacher.
Taking a pause, stopping, this allows me to get in touch with what is happening at the moment.
Would you kindly recommend a mindfulness psychologist, like yourself, in NYC to work with one:one?
Choosing Love over Fear. Using the formula for Choose Love. Courage + Gratitude + Forgiveness + Compassion in Action on jesselewischooselove.org
Having a support system of loving, wise, honest, and forgiving people around me in many situations.
Unconditional acceptance combined with gentle directness and confrontation. When I do not collude in their avoidance, it’s harder for them to avoid.
The knowledge that it’s unavoidable and nothing stays the same
I try to be mindful of it but am still working on it – it doesn’t always work.
Know Fear………instead of ….. “No Fear”
Embrace instead of push away or avoid……if tendency is to push away or avoid embrace that as well……
It is really okay to be as scared ,afraid ,anxious , nervous, as I am , as we are.
Open tenderly to what is present.
Support and care during their process, information about how fear works and how redirecting its power changes every thing.
Practical examples with stories of success laced with honesty of the energy and pain that may arise helps them believe that little steps add up to a whole new level of life and personal skill development.
I always wonder how fear and setting boundaries with others is related. Perhaps it is not, though I do wonder. Any thoughts and feelings about this, Tara?
Thank you for this video.
I listen to your webcasts daily. Mindfulness practice helps a lot to identify fear and where it manifests itself in the body. Learning about the brain in relation to neuroscience and how fear impacts stress & how to distress are wonderful tools. Thank you for insight and much deserve acknowledgement for the work you do in this area. Very much appreciated!!
I often become silent in meditation, remind myself that these uncertainties which I fear have often worked themselves out in my favour. I let go and trust that a way will be provided for me to see clearly and gain peace. I begin to focus on goodness there is around me; gratitude often takes over my spirit and I rest with hope.
Talking the situation over with a trusted friend or professional. Role playing the situation. Figuringing out why I’m having such difficulties with said situation.
Having a good support system behind me oftentimes helps me to face my fear.
Jealousy reminds me that fear needs my attention. Paying attention to the space that’s here and creating space that is safe enough allows me to begin opening to the fear body. Resistance so appealing as there are many distractions shiny bright objects! Gently refocus my attention you know the deal thanks looking forward to next one!
Slowing down and deepening my breath helps. Also, trying to pinpoint what the danger really is and if it’s imminent… doesn’t always allay the fear, but helps put it in perspective.
Awareness is my tool. I use labelling around the thoughts, emotions, bodily sensations and urges to open to my fears with kindness. Its hard work especially with those habitual thought patterns. But by writing down those habitual thoughts and following with a mediation I can bring perspective to what is really happening. On really tough days I try to find pleasure using my 5 senses in the present moment.
Thank you for this clear explanation.
I will practice with it.
Mindful greetings from Evelyn
I give my clients recognition and praise for when they have already done this. I help them be in touch with their strengths and willingness and desire to move forward.
Thank you Tara
The old adage Of getting back on the horse. A feeling of being SAFE is crucial to facing a fear.
Making my environment soft and soothing helps as well as Sharing a short NON-Threating funny “stuck in fear “ episode that turned out very benificial.
Having something to compare the feelings has been a wonderful tool for me. When the Brain has no knowledge of what it is supposed to Think, Feel, Sense it has no foundation to build on.
It can take time to develop new Skills
A visualization helped one. She described her fear as a dust ball wad of lint and strings and dust with little stickers coming out of it like weeds have in the fall which stick to your clothes. She called it the pricklies. She’d say, Oh Pricklies, there you are.Come here. Sit down. You can be here too.
Thank you so much Tara for your endless love and wisdom. I listen to you almost every day for years now on podcast. You help me to face my fear. Walking, Yoga and feeling safe help me to face my fear. Cronic anxiety is in my life since my mother died when I was 17 and my father when I was 25. Now I am 53 and finally starting to understand my fear is part of me. I only have to face it and embrace it. Sometimes I have the courage to do so. But when I am too tired it is still very difficult to embrace my fear and my habbit is to flight. Love from The Netherlands, Karin
My faith helps me face fear. Also trying to live one day at a time… sometimes one moment at a time is helpful.
Centering self to welcome fear as Teacher, notice where it is in my body, allow it to be there and have a conversation with it. Thank you for your work – you have been part of a big life-change for me!
I look at what the worst case scenario could be & then after realizing I still will have my health & freedoms, I confidently & energetically move forward simply because my fears have been quashed.
The ongoing practice of accepting uncertainty and using meditation to help strengthen that acceptance and be open to change.
Well said. Thank you for your wisdom and insight.