Oh my, I have had a life-long addiction to worry and anxiety, GAD for sure. I am grateful to have lived long enough to begin to enjoy some self-awareness, including how anxiety has ruled my thought patterns and behavior. A couple of years ago I began a course of study to become a sound therapist, a sound healer. I found that practicing, attending immersions, and starting a sound therapy practice all have had the effect of calming my anxiety and worry to a great extent. I have learned non-attachment in order to be truly with my clients. Without this practice of both giving and receiving in this way, I most likely would remain in a state of being ruled by anxiety and worry. Thank you for the concise 3-step practice.
Makes perfect sense to me. Although constant worry is painful and tiring, it’s familiar and works also as a protection mechanism. If something goes wrong (which it might, since it’s affected by the loop), I can always say: I saw it coming .
Thank you so much. I had never considered worrying as a possible addiction .
It makes sense and now I have some tools to begin working on it. I already have a sense of relief.
I like the way you clearly distinguished between fear and anxiety. The self help strategies are excellent for assisting with coping and learning to rise beyond fear into the realm of freedom!
I also love the fact that the video presentations are short and simple to follow.
Thank you very much for sharing. It is deeply appreciated.
Fear of leaving loved ones before traveling
Rather than being calm with loved ones now fear of leaving them takes over causing pain to self and the ones leaving behind
My own addiction to worry means I’m always looking to the future like a blinkered horse my perception of the present moment is limited and my senses are switched out of experiencing the field of ‘now’
I am not a Practitioner. I am a PTSD survivor from my family. My mother was the Worry Wart Queen. As a five year old I swore I would not grow up to be like her! However in my older age My anxiety runs my life and destroys it too! I found this free session with you an eye opener, and so insightful, and so useful for me to use on myself. I took extensive notes! I can’t wait to put your advice into practice to alleviate my anxiety which is ruining my life and my health! Thank you so much for offering this free to me! Bless you Tara! I really appreciate you and your advice!
Tricia
How can I heal from living with a hoarder narcissist and verbal abuser and having clean water to bath and drink and cook. Proper sewage, electricity, heat for the winter to stay warm and refrigerator to keep the food cold. I am losing hope ever single day and have thought about suicide. Their is no resources in the state of NJ.
These steps are really helpful and when I worked through them the awareness that I was unlovable arose. To be able to hold myself with love and affirm I was lovable quietened my anxious thoughts that are almost undetectable as they have become an undercurrent of my reality.
I find this approach very helpful with a caveat; the addiction to worry is often a developmental coping response to neglect and abuse within the family system and out toxic culture, and occurs when children are biologically incapable of processing that they are not the cause of the abuse-the self blame begins due to terror the child would feel if they realized that their parents are not able to love them and keep them safe. To realize this would be annihilation anxiety and result in dissasociation or other intolerable suffering. Children are biologically programmed to believe that cruelty from adults is due to their own badness. So worrying gets hardwired as a psychic survival. Worrying is defense against unbearable affects.
Thank you for posting this; it just blew wide open the door to my understanding of my own chronic worry and anxiety. I had never previously recognized that it was connected to the knowledge that my parents could not love and protect me, but the moment I read this that truth struck like a bolt out of the blue. And just knowing that might help to reassure me during a bad spiral, so thank you again for that.
this helped me understand how anxiety was affecting a friend to the extent she is addicted to the very problem that causes her anxiety
Now I am in a better position to help her.
I think the strangle definition is so apt and I will use this with my clients. I also so appreciate the looping. My clients have severe panic attacks that are clearly from looping. And finally, I will experiment with the three steps and see what happens!
This has landed just at the perfect time for me. I’m starting to be ensnared in fear thoughts about a big event. My daughter’s tour and album launch. it’s a huge deal for her. I don’t want anything to go wrong. And I keep anticipating just that. Just listening to Tara’s wisdom is so calming and helpful. Thank you x
I think when our situation feels out of our control, worrying makes us feel as if we are doing something about it. The truth is, we just end up creating anxiety for ourselves.
Having tools to work with our difficult experiences is the best thing we can do.
I appreciate the clarity and directness of this segment, as I adjust to my aging body, anxiety about my ability to move easily in the world becomes a frequent worry. It was offering comfort to my sore hip…that reminds me I can move as slowly as I need to and I will be ok. thank you for the opportunity to slow down and open to mindful presence. and understand the link between worry, anxiety and ability to respond.
I believe the last comment about anxiety being basically fear of failure meshes with the sense of how we “ought” to be ruling us. Often in myself and clients I find it is helpful to replace all the demands of how,or what, we feel we SHOULD be, with the less rigid and less demanding possibility of what we COULD be.
This traing video is spot on for my addiction to worry. The 3 step process to recover my power over obsessive worrying is priceless. Tara, thank you so much to being you, of service to so many of us, strangers, but sisters and brothers a children of God. May God continue to bless you with your service to all seeking a spiritual mindful program for happiness.
This video was spot on! I could already feel my anxiety just waving at me from inside as I was watching! “I’m here! Waiting for you!”
And how many times I get so tangled up in the mind-body loop that Tara described, that I end up frozen, unable to take any action at all. I’m so pleased to have these three steps to remind me of how I can undo this worry habit and feel the freedom of letting them go!
Claire Perlman, Another Field, Pittsford, NY, USAsays
Your comment is so well worded for my situation. I’m a 45+ traumatic brain injury survivor and still am anxious inside my body All the time. I’m 73 and hope to try and use the steps presented by Tara. Thank you.
I’ve been seeing a psychologist for grief & generalized anxiety for about 9 months now. These short videos offer the tools that allows one to put worry & anxious thoughts about the future into a perspective that allows us to place aside these worries and label them for what they actually are. This is a wonderful gift to apply these practices and place your life back on track to where is should be going.
Oh my, I have had a life-long addiction to worry and anxiety, GAD for sure. I am grateful to have lived long enough to begin to enjoy some self-awareness, including how anxiety has ruled my thought patterns and behavior. A couple of years ago I began a course of study to become a sound therapist, a sound healer. I found that practicing, attending immersions, and starting a sound therapy practice all have had the effect of calming my anxiety and worry to a great extent. I have learned non-attachment in order to be truly with my clients. Without this practice of both giving and receiving in this way, I most likely would remain in a state of being ruled by anxiety and worry. Thank you for the concise 3-step practice.
I keep worrying about and feeling guilty about a failed family relationship.
Thank you Tara for the clear explanation. So helpful to use the 3 steps. Thank you so much🙏🏻
Makes perfect sense to me. Although constant worry is painful and tiring, it’s familiar and works also as a protection mechanism. If something goes wrong (which it might, since it’s affected by the loop), I can always say: I saw it coming .
Thank you so much. I had never considered worrying as a possible addiction .
It makes sense and now I have some tools to begin working on it. I already have a sense of relief.
I like the way you clearly distinguished between fear and anxiety. The self help strategies are excellent for assisting with coping and learning to rise beyond fear into the realm of freedom!
I also love the fact that the video presentations are short and simple to follow.
Thank you very much for sharing. It is deeply appreciated.
Fear of leaving loved ones before traveling
Rather than being calm with loved ones now fear of leaving them takes over causing pain to self and the ones leaving behind
My own addiction to worry means I’m always looking to the future like a blinkered horse my perception of the present moment is limited and my senses are switched out of experiencing the field of ‘now’
The looping description is very useful and rings very true.
I am not a Practitioner. I am a PTSD survivor from my family. My mother was the Worry Wart Queen. As a five year old I swore I would not grow up to be like her! However in my older age My anxiety runs my life and destroys it too! I found this free session with you an eye opener, and so insightful, and so useful for me to use on myself. I took extensive notes! I can’t wait to put your advice into practice to alleviate my anxiety which is ruining my life and my health! Thank you so much for offering this free to me! Bless you Tara! I really appreciate you and your advice!
Tricia
How can I heal from living with a hoarder narcissist and verbal abuser and having clean water to bath and drink and cook. Proper sewage, electricity, heat for the winter to stay warm and refrigerator to keep the food cold. I am losing hope ever single day and have thought about suicide. Their is no resources in the state of NJ.
These steps are really helpful and when I worked through them the awareness that I was unlovable arose. To be able to hold myself with love and affirm I was lovable quietened my anxious thoughts that are almost undetectable as they have become an undercurrent of my reality.
This is really helpful. In particular the idea of identifying ‘fear thinking’ really landed with me.
Thank you.
I find this approach very helpful with a caveat; the addiction to worry is often a developmental coping response to neglect and abuse within the family system and out toxic culture, and occurs when children are biologically incapable of processing that they are not the cause of the abuse-the self blame begins due to terror the child would feel if they realized that their parents are not able to love them and keep them safe. To realize this would be annihilation anxiety and result in dissasociation or other intolerable suffering. Children are biologically programmed to believe that cruelty from adults is due to their own badness. So worrying gets hardwired as a psychic survival. Worrying is defense against unbearable affects.
Thank you for posting this; it just blew wide open the door to my understanding of my own chronic worry and anxiety. I had never previously recognized that it was connected to the knowledge that my parents could not love and protect me, but the moment I read this that truth struck like a bolt out of the blue. And just knowing that might help to reassure me during a bad spiral, so thank you again for that.
this helped me understand how anxiety was affecting a friend to the extent she is addicted to the very problem that causes her anxiety
Now I am in a better position to help her.
I think the strangle definition is so apt and I will use this with my clients. I also so appreciate the looping. My clients have severe panic attacks that are clearly from looping. And finally, I will experiment with the three steps and see what happens!
I so appreciate the demarcations between fear and anxiety. Your 3 step process has swooped into a tremendous landing place. Thank you!
This has landed just at the perfect time for me. I’m starting to be ensnared in fear thoughts about a big event. My daughter’s tour and album launch. it’s a huge deal for her. I don’t want anything to go wrong. And I keep anticipating just that. Just listening to Tara’s wisdom is so calming and helpful. Thank you x
I think when our situation feels out of our control, worrying makes us feel as if we are doing something about it. The truth is, we just end up creating anxiety for ourselves.
Having tools to work with our difficult experiences is the best thing we can do.
I had no idea that my worry was an addiction. Helpful…thank you
I appreciate the clarity and directness of this segment, as I adjust to my aging body, anxiety about my ability to move easily in the world becomes a frequent worry. It was offering comfort to my sore hip…that reminds me I can move as slowly as I need to and I will be ok. thank you for the opportunity to slow down and open to mindful presence. and understand the link between worry, anxiety and ability to respond.
I believe the last comment about anxiety being basically fear of failure meshes with the sense of how we “ought” to be ruling us. Often in myself and clients I find it is helpful to replace all the demands of how,or what, we feel we SHOULD be, with the less rigid and less demanding possibility of what we COULD be.
This traing video is spot on for my addiction to worry. The 3 step process to recover my power over obsessive worrying is priceless. Tara, thank you so much to being you, of service to so many of us, strangers, but sisters and brothers a children of God. May God continue to bless you with your service to all seeking a spiritual mindful program for happiness.
This video was spot on! I could already feel my anxiety just waving at me from inside as I was watching! “I’m here! Waiting for you!”
And how many times I get so tangled up in the mind-body loop that Tara described, that I end up frozen, unable to take any action at all. I’m so pleased to have these three steps to remind me of how I can undo this worry habit and feel the freedom of letting them go!
Your comment is so well worded for my situation. I’m a 45+ traumatic brain injury survivor and still am anxious inside my body All the time. I’m 73 and hope to try and use the steps presented by Tara. Thank you.
Thank you for a practical understanding of fear vs. anxiety and 3 ways to reduce worry.
I wish you more and more success in the good work you do personally and professionally.
I honestly thought that by obsessing (but not actually doing anything) I was actually accomplishing something.
Worry became my job and my identity
This is a quote from a client. I can’t figure out how to edit it.
This was pithy and right on! Helpful tools. And offering kindness or comfort is much more manageable than “compassion “
I’ve been seeing a psychologist for grief & generalized anxiety for about 9 months now. These short videos offer the tools that allows one to put worry & anxious thoughts about the future into a perspective that allows us to place aside these worries and label them for what they actually are. This is a wonderful gift to apply these practices and place your life back on track to where is should be going.
This was a very good presentation. Practical skills that can be learnt. Very valuable to me in my profession
Thank you Tara. I love the clear straightforward guidance of the three steps. Tara is full of compassion, I love her teachings.
Thank you this is really helpful. I am thinking more about how to break the worry addiction and the constant loop of anxiety.
thank you so much for this very usefull information. I would love to learn more. I was not aware of the worry addition, so this is very insightfull.
It has been a mode of survival and success in my life. Is also holds me back from seeing a clearer path forward.
I find calm with step 3 and is a way to stop worry thouhts.
Thank you